Trans ideology has to be a mind virus that was created by an absolute genius with the goal of destroying lives, relationships, and families, as well as to weaken society and make money. Most unfortunately for all of us, the plan is working.
After watching interviews for over a year now my current conclusion is that the trans ideology is led by very wealthy middle aged man who want to present as women in public. Some get excited when they can lure young people into castration. Young girls getting their breasts amputated and taking loads of testosterone are just collateral damage. Also, gender clinics only exist if patients get the hormones and genital mutilations. Giving patients psychological help so that they can resolve their gender dysphoria without medicalisation is not a great outcome for these clinics, business-wise. And somewhere in this mix is transhumanism. Some super wealthy molochs are supporting this. And finally, most of us are propagandized without realizing it. The experts and quality news outlets are right, the rest is misinformation, fake news. We ordinary folks have a serious battle to fight against this. This is 1984 - is how I feel it. 2+2=5 and black is white, don’t dare to deny it!
So incredibly tragic, with our vulnerable and impressionable falling prey to a cult so easily grooming unfettered online.
Tragic in that we have no support from authority.
Like criminals, we have to search in secret for those underground resistance fighters, who are the aware professionals capable of seeing this for what it is. Professionals who are being criminalised and pushed into hiding for effectively providing true care and effective outcomes. That being happy, effective and healthy functioning adults emerging from various difficulties including uncomfortable puberty, likely to succeed in society, and live fulfilling lives.
It is after 10 years I find this group. Before this, utter hell with no safe and sane place for my terrorized heart and mind. My heart and mind are broken to pieces. How to put it back together again? Don’t know about any of you, but my entire life imploded. Divorce, other daughter w other struggles, me just trying to survive the implosion.
Hope? I hope my daughter comes out of it but I also hope she finds happiness in life with whoever is in it at this point.
I’ll be here and dedicate my entire strength to her if she ever decides to “return” to herself. Right now, I’m trying to find out how to find restorative support for myself bc it hasn’t existed. Grateful I found this Substack.
I attended the Genspect conference in Albuquerque and Detrans Awareness Day in Washington D.C. There were authorities at those events who are trying to stop this devastating horror. If you attend these events, you will hear them speak and you can approach them in person.
My daughter cut us off 9 years ago this August when I refused to agree to be “on her team,” which she would not explain. Being a lawyer, I won’t agree to a contract of unknown terms. I found out later that meant supporting her hysterectomy and mastectomy, two organs that held and fed my granddaughter six years before. We have not seen our granddaughter since. We remember her with gifts that are not acknowledged on her birthday and Christmas. She will be fifteen in September. The pain of all this never ends.
We can keep hoping. This cult tears families apart. Once estranged, our children need miraculous intervention to restore in them an ability to reach out. I am still waiting, wondering if my male identifying daughter will ever find courage to make contact. Just had an amazing glimmer of hope today in the form of an email forwarded to me. It appears my 27 year old is considering moving to live in the same country as I am in now.
Heartbreaking. You are not alone in having a child who was indoctrinated into the cult cut you off. I hope that your granddaughter reaches out to you when she has become a young adult.
I am so sorry that you are going through this nightmare along with so many of us other parents desperate that one day our child will have a fully developed brain (or much sooner) and hear something that brings them to the truth, turning away from the cult and back into the arms of those who love them. I felt every word as if I wrote it myself. I pray everyday that my beautiful daughter will find her way out. And that those who have facilitated directly or been complicit in will one day get what is coming to them for using our children’s vulnerabilities and naivety against them. It seems like almost the whole world is blind to the destruction of a whole generation of kids with scars that will last generations.
“But nearly every day now, I deal with parents whose world has suddenly, irredeemably, spun out of control. The fear is palpable, because the stakes are ever so high. The What-Ifs come fast and furious.”
Over a decade of hearing of these trans tragedies, this is my world as well. So very well written!
And as you say there is also hope. I have now had opportunity to both weep and rejoice. If there is life there is hope.
This is such a wise, if heartbreaking piece. It conveys the deep truth in the Serenity Prayer for all of our trials and challenges, not only this terrible one for parents: I must accept the things I cannot change, change the things I can, with the wisdom to know the difference. I was writing about hope last night in my journal, trying to connect with the place for hope in my own life and for humanity. A friend had brought up the end of the famous Bible verse, 1st Corinthians 13: "Now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love." My friend pointed out that when this verse is quoted, either in religious contexts or generally at weddings and such, the focus is usually about love, because love truly IS the "greatest of these". It is the love in your hearts for your children that you must maintain, no matter what they do, no matter how hard it is. But my friend was pointing out to me how important and foundational faith and hope are as well. This is true for Christians, and I believe it is also true universally. We must cultivate all three.
I love your ending: "Because if there is one thing greater than powerlessness, it is hope."
"But at the core, this is our children's battle, and they are the ones who must find their way out of it. All we can do is make sure that there is a path home, however steep it might be.
Because if there is one thing greater than powerlessness, it is hope." Amen!
To this mom - I’m so sorry for what you are going through with your daughter. Your essay is beautifully and tenderly written in expressing the agony so many parents are going through. Thank you for sharing it. I’m so sorry your daughter has made this choice. 💔My heart goes out to you.
As parents here, I am certain each of us has done everything we can to reach our son or daughter and pull them out of harm’s way. I know we all second guess ourselves or wonder “what if…” for a time. But we’ve all fought hard for our son or daughter in all the ways we’ve known how to fight…the conversations, the information, the YouTube videos of the brave detransitioners, the perseverance in reaching out while never receiving a response, the expressions of love that get scrutinized and then rejected, the long nights when all we can do is pray. We do all we can and then we wait, we stand rooted in truth and reality, we stand in the love we offer, recognizing that we are powerless to change what’s happening, to change their minds, to “make” them choose life. We stand anchored to hope. We keep praying for them. We watch and wait for them. We prepare our hearts for their return as we wait in hope.
Your essay reminded me of the Serenity prayer:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
I cannot change the poor choices my son is making nor the devastation of the consequences that are the result. I can only find serenity when I accept that I am powerless in this situation. But although I am powerless, I can remain in hope, ready for even the smallest hint of his turning towards home. I can posture my heart in such a way that upon his return I am able to run towards him and throw my arms around him and welcome him home in spite of what he’s done to his body, in spite of the hurtful and hateful words once spoken to me and the rest of his family, in spite of how he has rejected us and the many ways he’s hurt me.
I echo your words, it is so true, that the hope we hold onto is greater than powerlessness. It’s never too late for them to come home. Praying for all the families represented here, that your son or daughter will come home.❤️🙏🏻
Your words are exactly how I feel. I'll be reading them over and over. Posturing my heart to be ready to run towards my daughter. I pray my hope is greater than the powerlessness I feel. I know there is nothing that God can't do. Until my daughter wakes up and sees that He is what she is searching for, that only He can fill the empty space in her, I will continue to pray and hope! ❤️
I’m glad you said what you said. Some days when I hear of others joining ‘the club’ I feel so inadequate that all I can offer even after 6 years of membership is comfort. We want solutions.
There has been a war going on and minors have been made into targets. All minors are vulnerable from their human nature and right to be forming and developing from their exposure to and experiences from their surroundings. Our surroundings have been insidiously infiltrated by people who are using their presence amongst us to bait, lure, misinform, disinform, indoctrinate and alienate minors against their parents and caretakers. Too many parents themselves have been weakly and mindlessy propagandized and pressured into becoming accomplices in this invasion of dysfunctional, hateful, attention and power hungry deviants. Human population has grown explosively for decades. Human population quantity has been prioritized over the human population qualities of intelligence paired equally and securely with common sense and wisdom. Human life in mass indolent quantity is not precious. It is a scourge. Humanity as a whole is now ravaging itself with such a scourge. Now has become a time move than ever of survival of the fittest. Parents and guardians, protect your children and minors by any and all means from becoming victims of these mentally ill and mendacious predators. They are eminently vulnerable by their nature and there is no one in our social, political and legal systems now who's got more to lose from this invasion of twisted freaks than you and all the rest of us.
Oh how I completely resonate with every word penned. I begged my son not to get top surgery and sent him many good medical articles that he said he would read. But in the end, he got the top surgery anyway.
This is such a nightmare, and I think parents like us simply don’t have a slot to process any of this because there’s not supposed to be a slot. This is a deceptive, death cult.
But here is what we anchor to:
The story is not over! And these three remain Hope, faith, and love and the greatest of these is Love!
Your story made me cry. Beautifully written in a very haunting way. Powerless is deeply connected to this trans-cult. I am so very sad for your daughter as she has no real idea of the consequences she is going to be facing the rest of her life because of her surgery. Every child who has fallen into this evil cult’s rabbit hole pays a price one way or another. Hope. You are right to hang onto it, and I hope your child will one day find the loving path home.
Trans ideology has to be a mind virus that was created by an absolute genius with the goal of destroying lives, relationships, and families, as well as to weaken society and make money. Most unfortunately for all of us, the plan is working.
After watching interviews for over a year now my current conclusion is that the trans ideology is led by very wealthy middle aged man who want to present as women in public. Some get excited when they can lure young people into castration. Young girls getting their breasts amputated and taking loads of testosterone are just collateral damage. Also, gender clinics only exist if patients get the hormones and genital mutilations. Giving patients psychological help so that they can resolve their gender dysphoria without medicalisation is not a great outcome for these clinics, business-wise. And somewhere in this mix is transhumanism. Some super wealthy molochs are supporting this. And finally, most of us are propagandized without realizing it. The experts and quality news outlets are right, the rest is misinformation, fake news. We ordinary folks have a serious battle to fight against this. This is 1984 - is how I feel it. 2+2=5 and black is white, don’t dare to deny it!
So incredibly tragic, with our vulnerable and impressionable falling prey to a cult so easily grooming unfettered online.
Tragic in that we have no support from authority.
Like criminals, we have to search in secret for those underground resistance fighters, who are the aware professionals capable of seeing this for what it is. Professionals who are being criminalised and pushed into hiding for effectively providing true care and effective outcomes. That being happy, effective and healthy functioning adults emerging from various difficulties including uncomfortable puberty, likely to succeed in society, and live fulfilling lives.
Oh
My
It is after 10 years I find this group. Before this, utter hell with no safe and sane place for my terrorized heart and mind. My heart and mind are broken to pieces. How to put it back together again? Don’t know about any of you, but my entire life imploded. Divorce, other daughter w other struggles, me just trying to survive the implosion.
Hope? I hope my daughter comes out of it but I also hope she finds happiness in life with whoever is in it at this point.
I’ll be here and dedicate my entire strength to her if she ever decides to “return” to herself. Right now, I’m trying to find out how to find restorative support for myself bc it hasn’t existed. Grateful I found this Substack.
I attended the Genspect conference in Albuquerque and Detrans Awareness Day in Washington D.C. There were authorities at those events who are trying to stop this devastating horror. If you attend these events, you will hear them speak and you can approach them in person.
U.S. Organizations That Need Volunteers
Do No Harm
-medical ethics organization focused on safeguarding minors from irreversible procedures.
They need volunteers for:
- Policy research
- Legislative tracking
- Writing and editing
- Public education campaigns
They run large-scale policy efforts across multiple states.
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Partners for Ethical Care
- Parent‑led U.S. group advocating against irreversible surgeries on minors.
They need volunteers for:
- Parent support
- Administrative help
- Story collection
- Outreach and advocacy
They operate almost entirely through volunteer labor.
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Dysphoric
Detransitioner‑led organization with a strong U.S. presence.
They need volunteers for:
- Peer support
- Resource creation
- Event organizing
- Advocacy and awareness
Detransitioners often lack institutional support, so volunteer networks are essential.
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Genspect
They need volunteers for:
- Research
- Communications
- Event coordination
- Parent support networks
They run conferences, publish reports, and support families.
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SEGM — Society for Evidence‑Based Gender Medicine
Clinician‑led, but they collaborate with volunteers.
They need volunteers for:
- Literature reviews
- Research assistance
- Data organization
- Documentation
They produce research-heavy critiques of surgical interventions.
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Women’s Liberation Front (WoLF)
U.S. feminist legal organization.
They need volunteers for:
- Legal research
- Public education
- Advocacy campaigns
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Independent Women’s Forum (IWF) — Women’s Sports & Health Initiatives
Not exclusively focused on surgeries, but active in gender‑policy debates.
They need volunteers for:
- Outreach
- Communications
- Research
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My daughter cut us off 9 years ago this August when I refused to agree to be “on her team,” which she would not explain. Being a lawyer, I won’t agree to a contract of unknown terms. I found out later that meant supporting her hysterectomy and mastectomy, two organs that held and fed my granddaughter six years before. We have not seen our granddaughter since. We remember her with gifts that are not acknowledged on her birthday and Christmas. She will be fifteen in September. The pain of all this never ends.
We can keep hoping. This cult tears families apart. Once estranged, our children need miraculous intervention to restore in them an ability to reach out. I am still waiting, wondering if my male identifying daughter will ever find courage to make contact. Just had an amazing glimmer of hope today in the form of an email forwarded to me. It appears my 27 year old is considering moving to live in the same country as I am in now.
Heartbreaking. You are not alone in having a child who was indoctrinated into the cult cut you off. I hope that your granddaughter reaches out to you when she has become a young adult.
Yes, I do hope but it may be futile. Indoctrinated since age 4, she is a fish that doesn’t know it is wet.
I am so sorry that you are going through this nightmare along with so many of us other parents desperate that one day our child will have a fully developed brain (or much sooner) and hear something that brings them to the truth, turning away from the cult and back into the arms of those who love them. I felt every word as if I wrote it myself. I pray everyday that my beautiful daughter will find her way out. And that those who have facilitated directly or been complicit in will one day get what is coming to them for using our children’s vulnerabilities and naivety against them. It seems like almost the whole world is blind to the destruction of a whole generation of kids with scars that will last generations.
“But nearly every day now, I deal with parents whose world has suddenly, irredeemably, spun out of control. The fear is palpable, because the stakes are ever so high. The What-Ifs come fast and furious.”
Over a decade of hearing of these trans tragedies, this is my world as well. So very well written!
And as you say there is also hope. I have now had opportunity to both weep and rejoice. If there is life there is hope.
This is such a wise, if heartbreaking piece. It conveys the deep truth in the Serenity Prayer for all of our trials and challenges, not only this terrible one for parents: I must accept the things I cannot change, change the things I can, with the wisdom to know the difference. I was writing about hope last night in my journal, trying to connect with the place for hope in my own life and for humanity. A friend had brought up the end of the famous Bible verse, 1st Corinthians 13: "Now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love." My friend pointed out that when this verse is quoted, either in religious contexts or generally at weddings and such, the focus is usually about love, because love truly IS the "greatest of these". It is the love in your hearts for your children that you must maintain, no matter what they do, no matter how hard it is. But my friend was pointing out to me how important and foundational faith and hope are as well. This is true for Christians, and I believe it is also true universally. We must cultivate all three.
I love your ending: "Because if there is one thing greater than powerlessness, it is hope."
I’m so tired after 5 years. Sometimes I just want to sleep and never my eyes open again
I understand the sentiment. I find if I go for a walk, yoga, bike anything physical helps me stop ruminating in the negative is helpful.
"But at the core, this is our children's battle, and they are the ones who must find their way out of it. All we can do is make sure that there is a path home, however steep it might be.
Because if there is one thing greater than powerlessness, it is hope." Amen!
To this mom - I’m so sorry for what you are going through with your daughter. Your essay is beautifully and tenderly written in expressing the agony so many parents are going through. Thank you for sharing it. I’m so sorry your daughter has made this choice. 💔My heart goes out to you.
As parents here, I am certain each of us has done everything we can to reach our son or daughter and pull them out of harm’s way. I know we all second guess ourselves or wonder “what if…” for a time. But we’ve all fought hard for our son or daughter in all the ways we’ve known how to fight…the conversations, the information, the YouTube videos of the brave detransitioners, the perseverance in reaching out while never receiving a response, the expressions of love that get scrutinized and then rejected, the long nights when all we can do is pray. We do all we can and then we wait, we stand rooted in truth and reality, we stand in the love we offer, recognizing that we are powerless to change what’s happening, to change their minds, to “make” them choose life. We stand anchored to hope. We keep praying for them. We watch and wait for them. We prepare our hearts for their return as we wait in hope.
Your essay reminded me of the Serenity prayer:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
I cannot change the poor choices my son is making nor the devastation of the consequences that are the result. I can only find serenity when I accept that I am powerless in this situation. But although I am powerless, I can remain in hope, ready for even the smallest hint of his turning towards home. I can posture my heart in such a way that upon his return I am able to run towards him and throw my arms around him and welcome him home in spite of what he’s done to his body, in spite of the hurtful and hateful words once spoken to me and the rest of his family, in spite of how he has rejected us and the many ways he’s hurt me.
I echo your words, it is so true, that the hope we hold onto is greater than powerlessness. It’s never too late for them to come home. Praying for all the families represented here, that your son or daughter will come home.❤️🙏🏻
Your words are exactly how I feel. I'll be reading them over and over. Posturing my heart to be ready to run towards my daughter. I pray my hope is greater than the powerlessness I feel. I know there is nothing that God can't do. Until my daughter wakes up and sees that He is what she is searching for, that only He can fill the empty space in her, I will continue to pray and hope! ❤️
I’m glad you said what you said. Some days when I hear of others joining ‘the club’ I feel so inadequate that all I can offer even after 6 years of membership is comfort. We want solutions.
🥲🙏
There has been a war going on and minors have been made into targets. All minors are vulnerable from their human nature and right to be forming and developing from their exposure to and experiences from their surroundings. Our surroundings have been insidiously infiltrated by people who are using their presence amongst us to bait, lure, misinform, disinform, indoctrinate and alienate minors against their parents and caretakers. Too many parents themselves have been weakly and mindlessy propagandized and pressured into becoming accomplices in this invasion of dysfunctional, hateful, attention and power hungry deviants. Human population has grown explosively for decades. Human population quantity has been prioritized over the human population qualities of intelligence paired equally and securely with common sense and wisdom. Human life in mass indolent quantity is not precious. It is a scourge. Humanity as a whole is now ravaging itself with such a scourge. Now has become a time move than ever of survival of the fittest. Parents and guardians, protect your children and minors by any and all means from becoming victims of these mentally ill and mendacious predators. They are eminently vulnerable by their nature and there is no one in our social, political and legal systems now who's got more to lose from this invasion of twisted freaks than you and all the rest of us.
Oh how I completely resonate with every word penned. I begged my son not to get top surgery and sent him many good medical articles that he said he would read. But in the end, he got the top surgery anyway.
This is such a nightmare, and I think parents like us simply don’t have a slot to process any of this because there’s not supposed to be a slot. This is a deceptive, death cult.
But here is what we anchor to:
The story is not over! And these three remain Hope, faith, and love and the greatest of these is Love!
"I think parents like us simply don’t have a slot to process any of this because there’s not supposed to be a slot." - thanks. Great observation.
Your story made me cry. Beautifully written in a very haunting way. Powerless is deeply connected to this trans-cult. I am so very sad for your daughter as she has no real idea of the consequences she is going to be facing the rest of her life because of her surgery. Every child who has fallen into this evil cult’s rabbit hole pays a price one way or another. Hope. You are right to hang onto it, and I hope your child will one day find the loving path home.