I listen to my gut alot. My first strange feeling was listening to Stella O'Malley 2-3 years ago. Something doesn't sit right when she talks. Then watching and listening to others involved. There's something that doesn't feel right and some of them are not who they say they are.
Mental health is needed for any adult or child first for at least 5 years before they even talk about trans and giving them hormones. ROGD is happening every day and we parents are loosing our children to this cult. I pray every day my adult son rethinks his decision and gets the mental help he needs.
Thank you to this parent for putting in such monumental effort to create a resource others can use. I often want to help other parents but feel I have nothing to offer.
With the changing tide around the world regarding medicalization, these types of resources can have a better effect than it would have previously, especially with lawsuits growing.
Each situation is different, but I’m sure it will help some. Thank you.
This tool is most valuable. These kids need to know that everyone is on their side. We must get them off the woke production line by giving them support and real options.
This is fantastic. Wish I had this when my daughter was a teen. A couple of things that may need to be addressed. Adding mastectomy to informed consent list. Also, I think todays kids are very socio-politically motivated to transition--to standout and be seen as unique, personally and politically radical, and "not like the other kids," especially girls.
I for one think the survey is a fabulous idea! Asking information from parents, family, and friends BEFORE a permanent decision is made can help save the lives and health of many confused and innocent kids/teens.
I can appreciate this parental effort but I have major problems with it. This parent is likely correct that his son was misdiagnosed. I believe most of today's "trans" young people are. But there is a whole other level of understanding that needs to happen. Are they deliberately misdiagnosing a generation of youth (who have been indoctrinated) to feed an industry creating a population of patients for experimentation? That is what it looks like to me.
I too did the stupid DSM parental survey, and my husband, when our daughter was sucked into the trans cult. Our other children did the, also stupid, other survey. Of course this did not come from the so-called professionals who had already prescribed her testosterone for a condition that she, both did not have but could also never be alleviated from (through today's affirming drug and surgical cocktails), if she did. Our daughter did not come close to qualifying for "gender dysphoria" by these surveys at all - by any of us.
The problem: it is a subjective survey based on sex stereotypes. Nebulous surveys can create "trans" patients via nebulous diagnoses. Objective reality is ignored altogether. Now parents must get the already indoctrinated 'experts' to see this the way you do. Good luck. The cult is swifter than a speeding train.
John Money (of John Hopkins gender clinic fame) observed that those desiring to become another gender become fixated on their desired gender role calling it "idée fixe.” He knew that by destigmatizing stereotypes the desire to transition would lessen. We should all be asking ourselves why are we focusing on gender stereotypes?
A side note: Our daughter is no longer estranged or 'trans.' She did not have "gender dysphoria" then and she does not know either. She had an indoctrination. But she is damaged thanks to an industry that used her body for experimentation.
This is a new survey. This can help document your efforts and does not have to be revealed to your child. It puts the insurance company, doctor, etc…on notice so they might be worried and stop medicalize your child or it might give you documentation that you told them and give grounds to sue later. It does not mean it will stop your kid.
Documenting efforts is good and necessary. The docs, insurance company, etc all know I called my daughters 'gender dysphoria' a misdiagnosis using those DSM questions. It is still my opinion verses hers (at the time) and those eager to treat her. You are correct in that it may not matter for your kid but it also may not matter at all until the system is dismantled from the top down. In the US insurance companies are in on the social determinants of health SDOH / SOGI model of medicine. It is where they are leading industry where children / young adult body parts are marketable. The ability to sue is precarious at present with a precarious medical and judicial system and more captured by this ideology. I hesitate to use the DSM as a jumping off point because it is hardly like the DSM has not gone off the rails before (https://margox.substack.com/p/gender-dysphoria?r=1kuq0) Plus if your kid is a 'feminine' boy or 'masculine' girl (subjective, of course) then he/she fits the DSM model of 'gender dysphoria' and is affirmed as it currently stands. Mine did not fit that model and I know many here do not, but does this mean that some kids should be affirmed and thrown into the pipeline? There are many factors in play and all is constantly changing with the political tides. The system they have created is very well thought out. just one ex:https://margox.substack.com/p/a-synthetic-sex-candidate-for-the?r=1kuq0
This is a good idea and a step in the right direction. But I’d like to share from my very own personal experience that even a child who fits every single one of the DSM5 criteria for gender dysphoria can simply outgrow this. I did, in my early 20’s. And there are studies that show about 90% of such kids simply outgrowing their gender dysphoria. More attention needs to be given to those studies.
I will review this further but my initial reaction is to dismiss it as it appears uphold gender stereotypes by asking questions such as how the child prefers to dress and which stereotypical toys associated with their sex do they prefer? Are we not done with making assumptions about children based on tired sex based stereotypes? Who says liking dolls or pink is a “girl” thing and liking sports, math and science is a “boy” thing and is any way a predictor of sexual orientation? Even more absurd to me is I’m unclear how author defines such things as music stereotypically associated with one of the two sexes. Good lord, is the appeal of certain genres of music now sex specific? And, just sayin’, if so, what of all the heterosexual men who sing along to Taylor Swift songs and dance to Abba.
I agree such evidence exists but I still find many of the questions hugely problematic as they uphold tired gender stereotypes. There is no guide, for example, to inform people completing the survey which music, toys, interests, etc are deemed stereotypically appealing to either sex so responses will be deeply skewed along personal bias.
As a homosexual, I can take the test and request others I know to take the test. Bets on how many of us come back as suffering from gender dysphoria as children and would have been transed away and irreversibly medically harmed had we grow up in today’s world? Along with every “tomboy” girl and “effeminate” boy, many of whom will grow up to be heterosexual.
To the probing questions as to the writer’s religious convictions and feelings of homophobia, I can say I have rarely known many homophobes who will admit to being homophobic and I know many LGB persons suffering from internalized homophobia who do not recognize that they’re homophobic so I doubt you’d get honest answers.
There is also much evidence that the majority of the children being falsely convinced they are born in the wrong body and can change sex are girls, autistic, on the spectrum and/or sexually abused. We have heard from enough detransitioners to know many are heterosexual so I not sure why there’s such a focus of sexual orientation other than perhaps to try to make an association that trans = gay which I strongly object to.
Too late for my fully medicalized daughter, but I am all for anything that will prevent the tragedy that occurred in my family from happening to other families. Thank you for all you do to end this bleak era of medicalizing kids (and adults) for gender identities.
I'm not sure i trust Genspect.
Say more. I’m interested.
I listen to my gut alot. My first strange feeling was listening to Stella O'Malley 2-3 years ago. Something doesn't sit right when she talks. Then watching and listening to others involved. There's something that doesn't feel right and some of them are not who they say they are.
So you are going on vibes?
Mental health is needed for any adult or child first for at least 5 years before they even talk about trans and giving them hormones. ROGD is happening every day and we parents are loosing our children to this cult. I pray every day my adult son rethinks his decision and gets the mental help he needs.
Thank you to this parent for putting in such monumental effort to create a resource others can use. I often want to help other parents but feel I have nothing to offer.
With the changing tide around the world regarding medicalization, these types of resources can have a better effect than it would have previously, especially with lawsuits growing.
Each situation is different, but I’m sure it will help some. Thank you.
This tool is most valuable. These kids need to know that everyone is on their side. We must get them off the woke production line by giving them support and real options.
This is fantastic. Wish I had this when my daughter was a teen. A couple of things that may need to be addressed. Adding mastectomy to informed consent list. Also, I think todays kids are very socio-politically motivated to transition--to standout and be seen as unique, personally and politically radical, and "not like the other kids," especially girls.
I for one think the survey is a fabulous idea! Asking information from parents, family, and friends BEFORE a permanent decision is made can help save the lives and health of many confused and innocent kids/teens.
I can appreciate this parental effort but I have major problems with it. This parent is likely correct that his son was misdiagnosed. I believe most of today's "trans" young people are. But there is a whole other level of understanding that needs to happen. Are they deliberately misdiagnosing a generation of youth (who have been indoctrinated) to feed an industry creating a population of patients for experimentation? That is what it looks like to me.
I too did the stupid DSM parental survey, and my husband, when our daughter was sucked into the trans cult. Our other children did the, also stupid, other survey. Of course this did not come from the so-called professionals who had already prescribed her testosterone for a condition that she, both did not have but could also never be alleviated from (through today's affirming drug and surgical cocktails), if she did. Our daughter did not come close to qualifying for "gender dysphoria" by these surveys at all - by any of us.
The problem: it is a subjective survey based on sex stereotypes. Nebulous surveys can create "trans" patients via nebulous diagnoses. Objective reality is ignored altogether. Now parents must get the already indoctrinated 'experts' to see this the way you do. Good luck. The cult is swifter than a speeding train.
John Money (of John Hopkins gender clinic fame) observed that those desiring to become another gender become fixated on their desired gender role calling it "idée fixe.” He knew that by destigmatizing stereotypes the desire to transition would lessen. We should all be asking ourselves why are we focusing on gender stereotypes?
A side note: Our daughter is no longer estranged or 'trans.' She did not have "gender dysphoria" then and she does not know either. She had an indoctrination. But she is damaged thanks to an industry that used her body for experimentation.
This is a new survey. This can help document your efforts and does not have to be revealed to your child. It puts the insurance company, doctor, etc…on notice so they might be worried and stop medicalize your child or it might give you documentation that you told them and give grounds to sue later. It does not mean it will stop your kid.
Documenting efforts is good and necessary. The docs, insurance company, etc all know I called my daughters 'gender dysphoria' a misdiagnosis using those DSM questions. It is still my opinion verses hers (at the time) and those eager to treat her. You are correct in that it may not matter for your kid but it also may not matter at all until the system is dismantled from the top down. In the US insurance companies are in on the social determinants of health SDOH / SOGI model of medicine. It is where they are leading industry where children / young adult body parts are marketable. The ability to sue is precarious at present with a precarious medical and judicial system and more captured by this ideology. I hesitate to use the DSM as a jumping off point because it is hardly like the DSM has not gone off the rails before (https://margox.substack.com/p/gender-dysphoria?r=1kuq0) Plus if your kid is a 'feminine' boy or 'masculine' girl (subjective, of course) then he/she fits the DSM model of 'gender dysphoria' and is affirmed as it currently stands. Mine did not fit that model and I know many here do not, but does this mean that some kids should be affirmed and thrown into the pipeline? There are many factors in play and all is constantly changing with the political tides. The system they have created is very well thought out. just one ex:https://margox.substack.com/p/a-synthetic-sex-candidate-for-the?r=1kuq0
This is a good idea and a step in the right direction. But I’d like to share from my very own personal experience that even a child who fits every single one of the DSM5 criteria for gender dysphoria can simply outgrow this. I did, in my early 20’s. And there are studies that show about 90% of such kids simply outgrowing their gender dysphoria. More attention needs to be given to those studies.
I will review this further but my initial reaction is to dismiss it as it appears uphold gender stereotypes by asking questions such as how the child prefers to dress and which stereotypical toys associated with their sex do they prefer? Are we not done with making assumptions about children based on tired sex based stereotypes? Who says liking dolls or pink is a “girl” thing and liking sports, math and science is a “boy” thing and is any way a predictor of sexual orientation? Even more absurd to me is I’m unclear how author defines such things as music stereotypically associated with one of the two sexes. Good lord, is the appeal of certain genres of music now sex specific? And, just sayin’, if so, what of all the heterosexual men who sing along to Taylor Swift songs and dance to Abba.
I agree such evidence exists but I still find many of the questions hugely problematic as they uphold tired gender stereotypes. There is no guide, for example, to inform people completing the survey which music, toys, interests, etc are deemed stereotypically appealing to either sex so responses will be deeply skewed along personal bias.
As a homosexual, I can take the test and request others I know to take the test. Bets on how many of us come back as suffering from gender dysphoria as children and would have been transed away and irreversibly medically harmed had we grow up in today’s world? Along with every “tomboy” girl and “effeminate” boy, many of whom will grow up to be heterosexual.
To the probing questions as to the writer’s religious convictions and feelings of homophobia, I can say I have rarely known many homophobes who will admit to being homophobic and I know many LGB persons suffering from internalized homophobia who do not recognize that they’re homophobic so I doubt you’d get honest answers.
There is also much evidence that the majority of the children being falsely convinced they are born in the wrong body and can change sex are girls, autistic, on the spectrum and/or sexually abused. We have heard from enough detransitioners to know many are heterosexual so I not sure why there’s such a focus of sexual orientation other than perhaps to try to make an association that trans = gay which I strongly object to.
Thank you so much for these resources, so appreciate!! This is such a an undertaking but incredibly important and worth it, so thank you!!
Too late for my fully medicalized daughter, but I am all for anything that will prevent the tragedy that occurred in my family from happening to other families. Thank you for all you do to end this bleak era of medicalizing kids (and adults) for gender identities.