If she is truly a longtime friend, like you state, have a conversation with her instead of coming online to express your assumptions. “Seek first to understand” meaning-ask her and listen to her with a truly open and genuine heart. You are reading her sign through your lens. See it through hers and open the opportunity for discussion. You may be surprised by hers and your thoughts and maybe, just maybe, the world will be just a little bit better because two people came together in open and honest conversation trying to actually understand and see the world through another’s eyes. THIS is what matters. Agreement does not matter. Understanding, love, and support of another human and respect to their thoughts is what matters and is what is missing so desperately from Americans’ lives.
It's an unfortunate fact that parents of trans identifying teens cannot just put up such a sign in our yard (as referenced in the article) because we are trying to preserve a relationship, stay connected. I appreciate the article very much and agree 100%.
Amen! Those yard signs are nothing but virtue signaling and I find them revolting. They are all over my Seattle neighborhood including in yards of people I really like.
"The gospel of “kindness” is being preached to women as they slowly see their rights erode. Be kind. Let that trans woman into your sport. Give up your chance to win a spot on the podium. Give up that scholarship."
It's true that society has been re-orientated away from meritocracy, competency and objectivity (the masculine) and in the direction of equality/ equity and pandering to feelings, vanity and identity (the feminine).
But to frame this as an attack on women (the innocent, passive, helpless victims) by men (the all powerful villains who are able to dictate public opinion and public policy) is to miss what critics of progressive / feminist ideology have been pointing out for decades: that this shift towards woke insanity is the inevitable consequence of feminism's project to 'dismantle patriarchy' and replace it with a more 'nice' and 'kind' feminine utopia.
Feminists never explained how their 'nice' and 'kind' feminist utopia would actually function in practical terms, they just assumed it would. As a rule, men are much better at 'systems thinking' than women. Men have spent thousands of years working together outside of the home organising trade, infrastructure, agriculture, negotiations between tribes etc.
Even among women, feminists tend to be the least capable of comprehending systems. Instead they think more in terms of feelings, subjectivity and fairness - a mindset perfectly suited to nurturing and providing for a family at home.
What feminists have effectively done over the past few generations to apply the organisational approach to nurturing a family to the organising of wider society. Everything from open borders, to social programs, welfare, endless spending, giant governmental departments, free everything, participation trophies and 'fairness' for all ..... this is all about maternal instincts for the nurturing of babies and children being applied to society as a whole. It is catastrophic.
The result turning wider society into a giant family home (a giant kitchen) is a mental health crisis affecting everyone (especially women and children), PC culture paralysing innovation, productivity and free speech, men now utterly demoralised and demotivated and committing suicide or just opting out to play computer games (because what's the point if they are now being usurped by government?) and genderless everything because that's the most fair and equitable and therefore correct according to feminist dogma.
Decades before female athletes were pushed off the podium by trans identified male athletes, men were being pushed out of their jobs, homes, families, society, universities by feminists.
Feminists took over academia, schools, politics and charities and NGOs. And they flipped the work ethic on its head. Instead of working hard to be of service to society, and to provide for wife and children, the feminists redefined education and careers as a kind of 'lifestyle service' available to women so that women could achieve maximum lifestyle satisfaction and then show of their new 'identity' as a fire fighter, CEO, politician, astronaut ad all round girl boss.
And while many of these professional women were competent, many were not. And the majority of successful women do not feel the same obligation as men to provide for a stay at home husband or society at large. Female doctors do not marry male nurses, they marry male consultants.
It was only after this new culture of equity, entitlement, narcissism, vanity and 'identity' was firmly in place and normalised that the trans sports thing became a thing. All they are really doing is copying feminists and their 'look at me!' mentality.
There really is no difference between lowering the requirements to allow (for example) female fire fighters to live their dream and doing the same for trans identified athletes. It's all based on being 'nice' and 'kind' and 'inclusive'. And that all comes from feminists and progressive types.
Trying to pin it on 'the patriarchy', as the TERFs always do, is just absurd. And offloading social responsibility onto men to avoid having to be held to account is YET ANOTHER classic female trait!
If we are going to get real about biology, we have to get real about ALL of it. This requires a sense of humour and self deprecation which is also at odds with natural female vanity :)
The irony of democrats talking about "women's rights" when they've been the key drivers of women's erasure from the protection of law, policy, and the charters of nonprofit orgs, is really quite something.
Have they given a damn about women's rights when women - actual females - are being assaulted and raped in prisons by male inmates? Where is this great concern for women's rights to a safe, fair playing field? Where is the concern for women's rights to comfort and dignity in the domestic violence shelter? In the locker room? In the dressing room?
The total lack of insight into their own hypocrisy and hollow virtue signaling would be laughable, if the real effects on millions of women weren't so egregious.
But you can make a lawn sign! Kindness is a "fruit of the spirit" of women AND men. I've never heard that men should be unkind. Telling the truth is the kindest thing we can do for for our confused and deceived kinfolk! Make that lawn sign to kindly help your neighbor put on her thinking cap!
Great statement. I do think however that we need to have integrity and profess what we believe. We should not be afraid to let others know how we feel, they sure don't have that issue. Our children need to see us stand up and show that integrity so that they know what it looks like. If we do not, they will never learn what it is.
Spot-on essay. However in reference to your yard sign including" Stop the sterilization of gay kids": I would revise this to "Stop the sterilization of vulnerable young people" I believe my son is actually straight, as he had crushes on girls in high school. However, at 22, after sterilization by Planned Parenthood when he was newly 19, he says he is now "asexual." He would no doubt prefer a relationship with a lesbian female to validate his fantasy of being a "woman" (which would actually be a straight couple.) But with his disturbing appearance as an over six feet tall man in stereotyped "female" clothes, his likelihood of a normal female attracted to him are close to zero. Instead he is dating another confused man also ingesting sterilizing hormones and pretending to be a woman. So now my son claims to be a "lesbian." It's all beyond bizarre and cruel what's been inflicted on him (and myself and my family) by our sick society. Indeed, if I posted your sign on my yard, I would fear for my house and myself. It's heartening, though, that the "trans" abomination is being more and more exposed as heinous, absurd, and destructive.
Our story is similar and it doesn’t get easier, even after 10 years. My heart has been broken by this insidious wave. Trans ideology is cult like and my son has been radicalized. There have been moments of hope - thinking that maybe he’d worked his way thru, that his thinking had cleared - but then he slips back and embraces it all the more. It’s just so hard bearing witness to this madness. I can’t live with it.
I'm embarrassed for the people who put those signs on their lawn or car. First, they are so impressed with their own virtuousness. And want everyone else to be as well. In addition, its just so immature. Life is way more complicated in all ways. I had those sorts of signs hanging on my bedroom wall when I was 12. But then I grew up. Apparently the sign folks didn't.
I despise the pompous nature of this sign.
If she is truly a longtime friend, like you state, have a conversation with her instead of coming online to express your assumptions. “Seek first to understand” meaning-ask her and listen to her with a truly open and genuine heart. You are reading her sign through your lens. See it through hers and open the opportunity for discussion. You may be surprised by hers and your thoughts and maybe, just maybe, the world will be just a little bit better because two people came together in open and honest conversation trying to actually understand and see the world through another’s eyes. THIS is what matters. Agreement does not matter. Understanding, love, and support of another human and respect to their thoughts is what matters and is what is missing so desperately from Americans’ lives.
Those signs are bullshit. A bunch of virtue signaling nonsense.
It's an unfortunate fact that parents of trans identifying teens cannot just put up such a sign in our yard (as referenced in the article) because we are trying to preserve a relationship, stay connected. I appreciate the article very much and agree 100%.
Amen! Those yard signs are nothing but virtue signaling and I find them revolting. They are all over my Seattle neighborhood including in yards of people I really like.
"The gospel of “kindness” is being preached to women as they slowly see their rights erode. Be kind. Let that trans woman into your sport. Give up your chance to win a spot on the podium. Give up that scholarship."
It's true that society has been re-orientated away from meritocracy, competency and objectivity (the masculine) and in the direction of equality/ equity and pandering to feelings, vanity and identity (the feminine).
But to frame this as an attack on women (the innocent, passive, helpless victims) by men (the all powerful villains who are able to dictate public opinion and public policy) is to miss what critics of progressive / feminist ideology have been pointing out for decades: that this shift towards woke insanity is the inevitable consequence of feminism's project to 'dismantle patriarchy' and replace it with a more 'nice' and 'kind' feminine utopia.
Feminists never explained how their 'nice' and 'kind' feminist utopia would actually function in practical terms, they just assumed it would. As a rule, men are much better at 'systems thinking' than women. Men have spent thousands of years working together outside of the home organising trade, infrastructure, agriculture, negotiations between tribes etc.
Even among women, feminists tend to be the least capable of comprehending systems. Instead they think more in terms of feelings, subjectivity and fairness - a mindset perfectly suited to nurturing and providing for a family at home.
What feminists have effectively done over the past few generations to apply the organisational approach to nurturing a family to the organising of wider society. Everything from open borders, to social programs, welfare, endless spending, giant governmental departments, free everything, participation trophies and 'fairness' for all ..... this is all about maternal instincts for the nurturing of babies and children being applied to society as a whole. It is catastrophic.
The result turning wider society into a giant family home (a giant kitchen) is a mental health crisis affecting everyone (especially women and children), PC culture paralysing innovation, productivity and free speech, men now utterly demoralised and demotivated and committing suicide or just opting out to play computer games (because what's the point if they are now being usurped by government?) and genderless everything because that's the most fair and equitable and therefore correct according to feminist dogma.
Decades before female athletes were pushed off the podium by trans identified male athletes, men were being pushed out of their jobs, homes, families, society, universities by feminists.
Feminists took over academia, schools, politics and charities and NGOs. And they flipped the work ethic on its head. Instead of working hard to be of service to society, and to provide for wife and children, the feminists redefined education and careers as a kind of 'lifestyle service' available to women so that women could achieve maximum lifestyle satisfaction and then show of their new 'identity' as a fire fighter, CEO, politician, astronaut ad all round girl boss.
And while many of these professional women were competent, many were not. And the majority of successful women do not feel the same obligation as men to provide for a stay at home husband or society at large. Female doctors do not marry male nurses, they marry male consultants.
It was only after this new culture of equity, entitlement, narcissism, vanity and 'identity' was firmly in place and normalised that the trans sports thing became a thing. All they are really doing is copying feminists and their 'look at me!' mentality.
There really is no difference between lowering the requirements to allow (for example) female fire fighters to live their dream and doing the same for trans identified athletes. It's all based on being 'nice' and 'kind' and 'inclusive'. And that all comes from feminists and progressive types.
Trying to pin it on 'the patriarchy', as the TERFs always do, is just absurd. And offloading social responsibility onto men to avoid having to be held to account is YET ANOTHER classic female trait!
If we are going to get real about biology, we have to get real about ALL of it. This requires a sense of humour and self deprecation which is also at odds with natural female vanity :)
I've not read such a ridiculous anti-feminist screed in a long while.
You CAN make your own sign.
Bravo!!! Lets make your sign and market them across the world!
The irony of democrats talking about "women's rights" when they've been the key drivers of women's erasure from the protection of law, policy, and the charters of nonprofit orgs, is really quite something.
Have they given a damn about women's rights when women - actual females - are being assaulted and raped in prisons by male inmates? Where is this great concern for women's rights to a safe, fair playing field? Where is the concern for women's rights to comfort and dignity in the domestic violence shelter? In the locker room? In the dressing room?
The total lack of insight into their own hypocrisy and hollow virtue signaling would be laughable, if the real effects on millions of women weren't so egregious.
When I see one of those phony virtue signaling signs make a mental note to avoid the people who put it up.
I LOVE your sign! I agree with you 100%.
But you can make a lawn sign! Kindness is a "fruit of the spirit" of women AND men. I've never heard that men should be unkind. Telling the truth is the kindest thing we can do for for our confused and deceived kinfolk! Make that lawn sign to kindly help your neighbor put on her thinking cap!
Great statement. I do think however that we need to have integrity and profess what we believe. We should not be afraid to let others know how we feel, they sure don't have that issue. Our children need to see us stand up and show that integrity so that they know what it looks like. If we do not, they will never learn what it is.
Spot-on essay. However in reference to your yard sign including" Stop the sterilization of gay kids": I would revise this to "Stop the sterilization of vulnerable young people" I believe my son is actually straight, as he had crushes on girls in high school. However, at 22, after sterilization by Planned Parenthood when he was newly 19, he says he is now "asexual." He would no doubt prefer a relationship with a lesbian female to validate his fantasy of being a "woman" (which would actually be a straight couple.) But with his disturbing appearance as an over six feet tall man in stereotyped "female" clothes, his likelihood of a normal female attracted to him are close to zero. Instead he is dating another confused man also ingesting sterilizing hormones and pretending to be a woman. So now my son claims to be a "lesbian." It's all beyond bizarre and cruel what's been inflicted on him (and myself and my family) by our sick society. Indeed, if I posted your sign on my yard, I would fear for my house and myself. It's heartening, though, that the "trans" abomination is being more and more exposed as heinous, absurd, and destructive.
Our story is similar and it doesn’t get easier, even after 10 years. My heart has been broken by this insidious wave. Trans ideology is cult like and my son has been radicalized. There have been moments of hope - thinking that maybe he’d worked his way thru, that his thinking had cleared - but then he slips back and embraces it all the more. It’s just so hard bearing witness to this madness. I can’t live with it.
I wonder if your son is dating my son. We have similar, sad stories.
Dislike one way conversations.
I'm embarrassed for the people who put those signs on their lawn or car. First, they are so impressed with their own virtuousness. And want everyone else to be as well. In addition, its just so immature. Life is way more complicated in all ways. I had those sorts of signs hanging on my bedroom wall when I was 12. But then I grew up. Apparently the sign folks didn't.
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