I am so sorry. When anyone, whether they be friends or family, facilitates or encourages a child to be estranged from a parent over this issue may they have a millstone on them and be tossed in the sea
I guess that is one good thing about already being distanced from my family...nobody knew (except maybe one of my sister-in-laws I may have mentioned only little things to...but she had lost her daughter at the age of 34 in a freak accident so had her own pain to deal with). I would not have been so nice to my family if they had played the "be kind" game. Thankfully that part of my journey is over...my son has been delivered from that cult....but as a young adult with autism symptoms.....this challenging journey is not yet over....but hopefully it will be soon!
“Be kind” means shunning or shaming your friends, family and acquaintances who dare to speak the truth on gender ideology. I had one family member tell me (prior to blocking me on social media) that she supports human rights, but “you do you.”
Like Annette Bening saying 'to have a transgender child has made me so much more interesting', these people use these confused kids to feel good about THEMSELVES. 'Be Kind', my ass! It's about feeling like celebrities in their own little worlds. They get to go around and tell everyone in their lives how great they are: 'Look at me! Look who I know! I'm boring but my association with this troubled soul makes me interesting! I encourage it because it makes ME special!' Self-important idiots, that's what they are.
They embrace his self imposed suffering & soothe his pain in their moral crusade. Only problem, it’s all based on a false reality. No one wins & it will crumble. The losses are too great for it to continue. Unfortunately, our kids have been the sacrifice
They love the inclusiveness of being with the huge majority of Americans, who are “affirming” and are all idiots. I have no more patience with them. May they all suffer painful yet purging consequences. That is as charitable as I can be.
I’ve unfriended, unfollowed or snoozed for 30 days many “kind” people and businesses.
It’s comforting reading shared feelings. But that’s it. The madness makes you go mad.
When my kids started school it was different, the teachers referred to their classmates as “friends”. No they were not all “friends”. It’s not nice to fake a friendship. And it’s okay and normal for everyone to be your friend. It’s unkind to do this to children. One of my kids looked so relieved when I told them they didn’t have to be friends with a classmate they didn’t get along with.
This kindness felt wrong then.
Kindness award for all, kind birthday invites for all classmates. Kindness bathrooms and locker rooms for all.
I’m sick of being fake. 🤢 I’m sick of others saying how wonderful they are being fake.
I feel so much for you both. I really wonder what these relatives would do or how they would feel if the trans child was their son or daughter? They must be very shallow & have little or no empathy for you as the parents. If any further harm comes to your son, the blame will not be with the loving parents but will land squarely on the individuals that have bought into the lie &/or encouraged or supported the lie. Alas, you must endure the pain of losing your son to not only to the death cult but to the worshipers with their "be kind" manifesto! Bless all the parents & those that support the parents going through this living nightmare!
One my "best friends" and also nurse was big part of my son's "transition" and her daughter who he knew since kindergarten and to who he told when they were little that they were going to get married one day🥺
Nowadays the words "Be Kind" are uttered exclusively by angry, controlling white people, mostly women, and are a manipulation intended to silence anyone who doesn't conform to woke dogma. Nothing good at all about those intentions.
Points well made. At the same time its been hard to navigate through this when you have family members on both sides, like in mine I thankfully have parents who support us and others like my older step-daughters and one of my sisters who don't. As parents we decided that we needed to protect our daughter and we decided to block them via social media, calls, text and limited it to contacting us only if they wanted to communicate w/ her and her twin sister. As hard as it is they both understand even my daughter who is confused, we come from the point of look its ok to disagree but when our family members are not willing to respect our decisions and outright defy our boundaries,expectations when it comes to "our" daughter(s) well then its a whole different ball game!
Great piece
Have cross posted
https://dustymasterson.substack.com/p/the-conversation
Dusty
SPOT ON
Yes. The de riguer Good Person™️. It’s infuriating.
I am so sorry. When anyone, whether they be friends or family, facilitates or encourages a child to be estranged from a parent over this issue may they have a millstone on them and be tossed in the sea
I guess that is one good thing about already being distanced from my family...nobody knew (except maybe one of my sister-in-laws I may have mentioned only little things to...but she had lost her daughter at the age of 34 in a freak accident so had her own pain to deal with). I would not have been so nice to my family if they had played the "be kind" game. Thankfully that part of my journey is over...my son has been delivered from that cult....but as a young adult with autism symptoms.....this challenging journey is not yet over....but hopefully it will be soon!
"Be Kind" is yet another grotesque euphemism describing the exact opposite of what it really is, just like "gender-affirming care."
Both are deliberately deceptive and flat-out false.
“Be kind” means shunning or shaming your friends, family and acquaintances who dare to speak the truth on gender ideology. I had one family member tell me (prior to blocking me on social media) that she supports human rights, but “you do you.”
Like Annette Bening saying 'to have a transgender child has made me so much more interesting', these people use these confused kids to feel good about THEMSELVES. 'Be Kind', my ass! It's about feeling like celebrities in their own little worlds. They get to go around and tell everyone in their lives how great they are: 'Look at me! Look who I know! I'm boring but my association with this troubled soul makes me interesting! I encourage it because it makes ME special!' Self-important idiots, that's what they are.
They embrace his self imposed suffering & soothe his pain in their moral crusade. Only problem, it’s all based on a false reality. No one wins & it will crumble. The losses are too great for it to continue. Unfortunately, our kids have been the sacrifice
They love the inclusiveness of being with the huge majority of Americans, who are “affirming” and are all idiots. I have no more patience with them. May they all suffer painful yet purging consequences. That is as charitable as I can be.
I love you rage. Because we all feel it in our grief and betrayal.
I’ve unfriended, unfollowed or snoozed for 30 days many “kind” people and businesses.
It’s comforting reading shared feelings. But that’s it. The madness makes you go mad.
When my kids started school it was different, the teachers referred to their classmates as “friends”. No they were not all “friends”. It’s not nice to fake a friendship. And it’s okay and normal for everyone to be your friend. It’s unkind to do this to children. One of my kids looked so relieved when I told them they didn’t have to be friends with a classmate they didn’t get along with.
This kindness felt wrong then.
Kindness award for all, kind birthday invites for all classmates. Kindness bathrooms and locker rooms for all.
I’m sick of being fake. 🤢 I’m sick of others saying how wonderful they are being fake.
I feel so much for you both. I really wonder what these relatives would do or how they would feel if the trans child was their son or daughter? They must be very shallow & have little or no empathy for you as the parents. If any further harm comes to your son, the blame will not be with the loving parents but will land squarely on the individuals that have bought into the lie &/or encouraged or supported the lie. Alas, you must endure the pain of losing your son to not only to the death cult but to the worshipers with their "be kind" manifesto! Bless all the parents & those that support the parents going through this living nightmare!
One my "best friends" and also nurse was big part of my son's "transition" and her daughter who he knew since kindergarten and to who he told when they were little that they were going to get married one day🥺
Nowadays the words "Be Kind" are uttered exclusively by angry, controlling white people, mostly women, and are a manipulation intended to silence anyone who doesn't conform to woke dogma. Nothing good at all about those intentions.
Points well made. At the same time its been hard to navigate through this when you have family members on both sides, like in mine I thankfully have parents who support us and others like my older step-daughters and one of my sisters who don't. As parents we decided that we needed to protect our daughter and we decided to block them via social media, calls, text and limited it to contacting us only if they wanted to communicate w/ her and her twin sister. As hard as it is they both understand even my daughter who is confused, we come from the point of look its ok to disagree but when our family members are not willing to respect our decisions and outright defy our boundaries,expectations when it comes to "our" daughter(s) well then its a whole different ball game!