They love the inclusiveness of being with the huge majority of Americans, who are “affirming” and are all idiots. I have no more patience with them. May they all suffer painful yet purging consequences. That is as charitable as I can be.
I’ve unfriended, unfollowed or snoozed for 30 days many “kind” people and businesses.
It’s comforting reading shared feelings. But that’s it. The madness makes you go mad.
When my kids started school it was different, the teachers referred to their classmates as “friends”. No they were not all “friends”. It’s not nice to fake a friendship. And it’s okay and normal for everyone to be your friend. It’s unkind to do this to children. One of my kids looked so relieved when I told them they didn’t have to be friends with a classmate they didn’t get along with.
This kindness felt wrong then.
Kindness award for all, kind birthday invites for all classmates. Kindness bathrooms and locker rooms for all.
I’m sick of being fake. 🤢 I’m sick of others saying how wonderful they are being fake.
I feel so much for you both. I really wonder what these relatives would do or how they would feel if the trans child was their son or daughter? They must be very shallow & have little or no empathy for you as the parents. If any further harm comes to your son, the blame will not be with the loving parents but will land squarely on the individuals that have bought into the lie &/or encouraged or supported the lie. Alas, you must endure the pain of losing your son to not only to the death cult but to the worshipers with their "be kind" manifesto! Bless all the parents & those that support the parents going through this living nightmare!
One my "best friends" and also nurse was big part of my son's "transition" and her daughter who he knew since kindergarten and to who he told when they were little that they were going to get married one day🥺
Nowadays the words "Be Kind" are uttered exclusively by angry, controlling white people, mostly women, and are a manipulation intended to silence anyone who doesn't conform to woke dogma. Nothing good at all about those intentions.
Points well made. At the same time its been hard to navigate through this when you have family members on both sides, like in mine I thankfully have parents who support us and others like my older step-daughters and one of my sisters who don't. As parents we decided that we needed to protect our daughter and we decided to block them via social media, calls, text and limited it to contacting us only if they wanted to communicate w/ her and her twin sister. As hard as it is they both understand even my daughter who is confused, we come from the point of look its ok to disagree but when our family members are not willing to respect our decisions and outright defy our boundaries,expectations when it comes to "our" daughter(s) well then its a whole different ball game!
The more I think of it, the more cruel I think those people are. Without all those “kindness”, will my kid be in the situation where she is today? They just want to be ‘kind‘ but my kid suffers so much because of those lies. 😭
My husband goes along with the lie that my son is a woman because he is an alcoholic and is desperate for anything that will make him feel like a “good guy.” My older son went along because his fiancé liked the idea. Thank goodness the rest of the family including my in-laws do not go along.
This makes my blood boil. The bitchy sense of superiority of those who say and think they are kind and caring, when everything they do is about them and it's invariably based on deeply unkind and uncaring jealousy of the stronger sibling or child. I've had my children stolen and turned against me by such 'kind' family members too, as have so many other long-estranged parents in our anti-family age. You wrote about your boy taken from you so very clearly and poignantly, showing much strength in the face of such a heartbreaking situation for a mother to have to endure. These are nasty times we are living in, particularly for the parents of sensitive, often smart children and young adults who have been preyed upon mercilessly by the most successful and cruel child-catching con and cult ever. You did the right and brave thing by standing up to it. Your wider family did the wrong thing by pandering to the cult and helping your smart, sensitive son go deeper into this cult. But I very much hope that your boy will work this out too and come home to those who actually do care about him. Much courage and respect to you.
"These are nasty times we are living in, particularly for the parents of sensitive, often smart children and young adults who have been preyed upon mercilessly by the most successful and cruel child-catching con and cult ever. "
There is absolutely no kindness in lying to children or supporting the confused and delusional belief systems of adults. Unfortunately, there are all too many "be kind-ers" and some of them are just grooming our children into further abuse. https://lucyleader.substack.com/p/the-cinderella-effect-another-way
There isn't. What would be kind would be to re-psychopathologize transgender identities. Then, everybody could get real help.
"Transgender Identification as an Extreme Overvalued Belief
...The result is chillingly predictable: exposure to extreme ideas, reinforcement by those in the culture or subculture, and then action. For some, the action is violence against others. For others, it is violence against their own bodies—castration, mastectomy, phalloplasty."
...Which is why today, Genspect is officially calling for the re-psychopathologization of transgender identities, through the lens of the extreme overvalued belief. Not to stigmatize. Not to marginalize. But to restore clarity and compassion.
Because this IS a pathological condition—an all-consuming fixation that demands careful psychiatric intervention."
From "The Battle Upstream: Challenging the false belief causing medical harm"
Mia Hughes' speech from The Bigger Picture Conference 2025
Most of my family are against the whole trans thing, but there are a few who play the game, two of which are my nephew and his child psychiatrist husband, who basically coached our daughter along behind our backs. Still, whether for or against, it will never change what our daughter’s done to herself. 🙏🙏🙏
They love the inclusiveness of being with the huge majority of Americans, who are “affirming” and are all idiots. I have no more patience with them. May they all suffer painful yet purging consequences. That is as charitable as I can be.
I love you rage. Because we all feel it in our grief and betrayal.
I’ve unfriended, unfollowed or snoozed for 30 days many “kind” people and businesses.
It’s comforting reading shared feelings. But that’s it. The madness makes you go mad.
When my kids started school it was different, the teachers referred to their classmates as “friends”. No they were not all “friends”. It’s not nice to fake a friendship. And it’s okay and normal for everyone to be your friend. It’s unkind to do this to children. One of my kids looked so relieved when I told them they didn’t have to be friends with a classmate they didn’t get along with.
This kindness felt wrong then.
Kindness award for all, kind birthday invites for all classmates. Kindness bathrooms and locker rooms for all.
I’m sick of being fake. 🤢 I’m sick of others saying how wonderful they are being fake.
I feel so much for you both. I really wonder what these relatives would do or how they would feel if the trans child was their son or daughter? They must be very shallow & have little or no empathy for you as the parents. If any further harm comes to your son, the blame will not be with the loving parents but will land squarely on the individuals that have bought into the lie &/or encouraged or supported the lie. Alas, you must endure the pain of losing your son to not only to the death cult but to the worshipers with their "be kind" manifesto! Bless all the parents & those that support the parents going through this living nightmare!
One my "best friends" and also nurse was big part of my son's "transition" and her daughter who he knew since kindergarten and to who he told when they were little that they were going to get married one day🥺
Nowadays the words "Be Kind" are uttered exclusively by angry, controlling white people, mostly women, and are a manipulation intended to silence anyone who doesn't conform to woke dogma. Nothing good at all about those intentions.
Points well made. At the same time its been hard to navigate through this when you have family members on both sides, like in mine I thankfully have parents who support us and others like my older step-daughters and one of my sisters who don't. As parents we decided that we needed to protect our daughter and we decided to block them via social media, calls, text and limited it to contacting us only if they wanted to communicate w/ her and her twin sister. As hard as it is they both understand even my daughter who is confused, we come from the point of look its ok to disagree but when our family members are not willing to respect our decisions and outright defy our boundaries,expectations when it comes to "our" daughter(s) well then its a whole different ball game!
Amen! Relatives, never there when you need them but willing to butt in when they are not.
The more I think of it, the more cruel I think those people are. Without all those “kindness”, will my kid be in the situation where she is today? They just want to be ‘kind‘ but my kid suffers so much because of those lies. 😭
I fully agree.
My husband goes along with the lie that my son is a woman because he is an alcoholic and is desperate for anything that will make him feel like a “good guy.” My older son went along because his fiancé liked the idea. Thank goodness the rest of the family including my in-laws do not go along.
This makes my blood boil. The bitchy sense of superiority of those who say and think they are kind and caring, when everything they do is about them and it's invariably based on deeply unkind and uncaring jealousy of the stronger sibling or child. I've had my children stolen and turned against me by such 'kind' family members too, as have so many other long-estranged parents in our anti-family age. You wrote about your boy taken from you so very clearly and poignantly, showing much strength in the face of such a heartbreaking situation for a mother to have to endure. These are nasty times we are living in, particularly for the parents of sensitive, often smart children and young adults who have been preyed upon mercilessly by the most successful and cruel child-catching con and cult ever. You did the right and brave thing by standing up to it. Your wider family did the wrong thing by pandering to the cult and helping your smart, sensitive son go deeper into this cult. But I very much hope that your boy will work this out too and come home to those who actually do care about him. Much courage and respect to you.
"These are nasty times we are living in, particularly for the parents of sensitive, often smart children and young adults who have been preyed upon mercilessly by the most successful and cruel child-catching con and cult ever. "
You nailed it.
So heartbreaking and so true.
There is absolutely no kindness in lying to children or supporting the confused and delusional belief systems of adults. Unfortunately, there are all too many "be kind-ers" and some of them are just grooming our children into further abuse. https://lucyleader.substack.com/p/the-cinderella-effect-another-way
There isn't. What would be kind would be to re-psychopathologize transgender identities. Then, everybody could get real help.
"Transgender Identification as an Extreme Overvalued Belief
...The result is chillingly predictable: exposure to extreme ideas, reinforcement by those in the culture or subculture, and then action. For some, the action is violence against others. For others, it is violence against their own bodies—castration, mastectomy, phalloplasty."
...Which is why today, Genspect is officially calling for the re-psychopathologization of transgender identities, through the lens of the extreme overvalued belief. Not to stigmatize. Not to marginalize. But to restore clarity and compassion.
Because this IS a pathological condition—an all-consuming fixation that demands careful psychiatric intervention."
From "The Battle Upstream: Challenging the false belief causing medical harm"
Mia Hughes' speech from The Bigger Picture Conference 2025
Genspect Oct 08, 2025
https://genspect.substack.com/p/the-battle-upstream-challenging-the
The rot set in when believing you are someone you can never be/change your sex was removed from the DSM as a mental illness.
Brilliantly said. So sad, but so true...
The “ be kind” motto has been besmirched just like the rainbow …too bad both of them have lost their meaning.
Most of my family are against the whole trans thing, but there are a few who play the game, two of which are my nephew and his child psychiatrist husband, who basically coached our daughter along behind our backs. Still, whether for or against, it will never change what our daughter’s done to herself. 🙏🙏🙏