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And therapists, if you don't know where to start (a lot is understood that you don't know yet), the information for clinicians at https://genspect.org/guidance/ is a really good place.

They're all good. Also the essays, and book by Susan Evans and Marcus Evans, which has composite case studies. And and and....

Thank you for this essay and thank you to all the therapists who are looking into this, researching it, supporting young people struggling with this by exploring, as therapy does!

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I was going to share your essay, until I came across the phrase, "marvelous transwoman."

That phrase is an oxymoron, a contradiction in terms, and highly offensive to those of us who are battling this normalization of body dissociation for corporate profit which is severely harming children like your own.

1) No man who walks around in womanface and calls himself a female name, let alone a man who teaches schoolchildren while in womanface using a female name, should be described as "marvelous" or any other positive adjective. He is a groomer, grooming children (and gullible parents like yourself) to accept -- and then go out and promote the acceptance -- of men and women LARPing (live action role playing) as the opposite sex, of the normalization of autogynephila in public places, of the erosion of our right to speak and hear the truth in public discourse, and the very concept of what a "woman" is. He and the people who platform him are either knowingly or unknowingly engaging in grooming behavior, make no mistake. He is clearly a classic narcissist, putting his desire to act out his sexual fantasies on the public stage above everything else, including the feelings of his own three children, who were minors when he began doing it. Doesn't that bother you at all? How could that be considered "marvelous"?

2) There is no such thing as a "trans woman." These males are not a subset of women, they are a subset of men. When you use female language for males, or male language for females, you confuse children who are in the very process of learning about the world, about what women and men are, and how to navigate the world safely. Don't you see that this fake, made-up language contributed to the harm of your own child, and to the harm of all the children of the parents who contribute to and read this blog?

3) There is no such thing as "trans" anything -- "trans" is a corporate fiction, a fake made-up concept being used as an ad campaign to sell drugs and surgeries to children like yours, and to vulnerable adults. Why are we acting like there is a new category of human all of a sudden that we have to acknowledge, like a "Z" chromosome has suddenly been discovered? Who -- or WHAT -- does it serve to support this corporate fiction, to refer to anyone as "trans"? Is this helping your child or anyone else's child not fall into the grips of an unrealistic fantasy when you perpetuate the concept that this fantasy is a real thing?

Why in the world would you give unclear, confusing information to kids or anyone else? Again, who, or what, does this muddying of language serve? Does it serve kids and vulnerable adults? Can a man somehow be some sort of woman, or vice versa? Are you saying that boys have a pathway to "stunning and brave" womanhood, or that girls have a pathway to "strong and brave" manhood?

I say not, and I would question why you would want to promote this idea with fake terms and unclear language that obfuscates reality. The fact that Hayton acknowledges that he is a man does not earn him the honorary title of "woman." If you had a son who wanted to go down the same path as Hayton, would you like others to support his delusion and promote it to others by referring to your son as a "marvelous trans woman"? Or refer to your daughter as a "marvelous trans man"? It seems unwise to affirm someone else's delusion when you do not want your own child's delusion affirmed.

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