About a year ago, I was told by my younger sister that her son, my nephew, thought he was trans. I was shocked, confused and immediately questioned “how?” Thus began my indoctrination into the dark world of transgender. I had to learn what transgender meant, what TERF stood for, what transphobic meant. I suddenly had a whole new vocabulary: non-binary, binary, social contagion, gender dysphoria, pansexual, phalloplasty, reassignment surgery, top surgery, bottom surgery, binders, dead name, gender affirming surgery, MTF, FTM. It was a lot!
Btw- hi I’m a bisexual woman who’s working with and for adults who believe this BS. As a female and ally to sex based justice - how can I help? I’m an artist and I work for a wonderful designer But she’s (they /he) is in the gender cult 🤯~ look I’ve been working for her for 🫣5+ years and it only now she’s adapting this none sense.
My long term project is to record real conversations and publish them a few years later to genuinely expose the T agenda cuz to be honest LGB is about rights and the T- woof that’s just a kink and actual science and studies are astoundingly long ( I’m a GNC bisexual WOC)
All I’m asking is how can I help people to expose this shit. The real voice recordings I can get from them are easy but I want to actually help- parents send me the questions that matter plz
Speaking of words, I have a question about pronouns. I don't personally use preferred pronouns when they obviously conflict with reality, but I was on a college tour with my son, and saw nametags with pronouns on them on the dorm doors. Several said "She/They".
Does that mean the person wants to be called either She/her or They/them, or are you supposed to use She in the nominative and They in the objective, such as "She said she would be happy if you gave they a good grade"?
In any case, as I said, I don't play by those rules, I was just honestly wondering.
"She/they" means different things to different people. As you pointed out, it obviously doesn't fit the nominative/objective format for giving a pronoun. To some people "she/they" means that they are okay with being called either she or they. They're basically saying "I won't be insulted if you perceive me as a non-woman and refer to me as they" which is a weird statement - but actually, in my experience, "she/they" is just the easiest and least committal way to "be queer" and "not be cis". I don't know if such people ever actually get referred to as "they" rather than "she" - maybe their hard-they friends prefer to call them they so they feel like they have a friend in they. Er, them...
But there are people who mean more specific things. Some people mean it more like "Some days I'm a she, some days I'm a they, and you should be able to tell that by my clothing and affect, and use the correct one for what I'm being that day." This is pretty obviously a sexist understanding of identity, but that's par for the course. I don't really think there are many people starting fights with strangers over this - it's more that people expect their closer friends to "get it" when they're being a they rather than a she.
There's also a third possibility, which I've only heard of online, which is that the person expects people to alternate which pronoun to use, either within or across sentences, or just to get a generally 50/50 ratio between she and they. This is...pretty obviously impossible, and if it's a real thing at all, seems more like a way to throw eggshells everywhere & justify picking fights with people rather than anything else.
Wow! Thanks for the thorough response. I’ve never been so glad to be an old fogey. Seriously, I can’t imagine navigating middle/high school with all these land mines. Thank you again!
The uncomfortable vocabulary is a perfect example of "Social Constructionism". Trannyism is going to get worse and we will see the effects right in front of us in plain sight with all the mutilated bodies and dysfunction. It will take all of us to push back on this nonsense, if not we are doomed. It is utterly heartbreaking and all of us will be affected in someway. This is what happens when Civil Rights are all a society cares about rather than personal responsibility. Now they have a civil right at any age to cut off bits here and add pieces there, it is terrible and can get a lot worse. God help us all! Stand for Truth, Beauty and what is good. If you love what is good and True, you must hate evil. Start today.
This is why I wrote my book. I saw a need for a primer to introduce to the newcomer all the obfuscating vocabulary, biology denying concepts, the medical malfeasance behind the euphemisms of trans medicine, how the gay community got cuckolded and the medical and therapy professions got captured, how queer theory is going to tear apart the social contract of agreed-upon-reality, plus the movement of energizing coalition building that will resist this onslaught. It's an easy read born of my 40 years as a lesbian, in the San Francisco Bay Area, watching the gay community evolve into a bullying, political powerhouse fueled by trans money.
It just came out. At 200 pages it's a quick read. My first reader said it was a page turner; she wasn't a TERF before, but now she gets it. Her wife, a veteran TERF said this about it. "There is no gender book like this. You take us by the hand and gently lead us through the fog. Your compassion comes through, so your credibility increases." Another TERF friend said, "You have always been a good writer. But this seems next level sophisticated. How you put your words together, how you advance your argument. It is so coherent."
I added all the humor I could muster, in this psychic warfare, to make it as entertaining and insightful as I could. My heart goes out to all of you parents. I hope this helps. You can order it here. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C8QBJXCK?ref_=pe_3052080_397514860
I had to look up non-binary when my kid declared she was non-binary. I had heard it before but never bothered to look into what it meant. I thought I knew but I was wrong.
I was surprised to learn that almost anyone can claim to be non-binary. Even myself. Of course my kid thinks she is a special kind of non-binary and I'm not really non-binary, I'm just a regular man. A "Toxic male" at that. I say to her, "Don't make assumptions about me!" If I say I'm non-binary then you have to accept that." :) Gallows humor.
Even though I am permanently banned on Twitter, I am overjoyed to learn that Elon Musk has now decreed that “cis” and “cisgender” are banned on Twitter. No more fake biological categories. Back to reality! The pronoun worm is turning!
Really?! Fantastic news! I never cared for him very much but now I have a newfound respect for him. He's really taking a stand against this evil cult! Ditto Jordan Peterson. The enemy of my enemy is my friend (I don't know who coined the phrase but it's appt).
Your sister is so lucky to have you educate yourself on what is happening. It speaks volumes, I have just one family member who ‘gets it’. It is such a stress reliever to know you have someone on your side. You are a good person
My exact experience in 2017. Except I also had to ad yaoi, hentai, “orchi”(vomit). I doted on this boy from the day he was born. Because I gently questioned him & had trouble using his chosen name-he cut me off completely & sent a toxic malignant email telling me to f*** off and die. He’s turned into a narcissistic, entitled, bullying, abusive man/boy. Won’t work, and takes no steps towards normal independence, even though he says living there is “literally killing him”. My heart is broken. Maybe someday he’ll come back.
Sorry for your hurt Martha 💔 the narcissism and entitlement is gob-smacking isn’t it. It’s almost like they have no real problems or issues so they curate one to feel important or special or gain kudos & attention amongst the peer group. Nothing worse than being a boring cis guy / girl apparently. It’s so sad.
It's not just that they are "boring", it's that they are the "rapists" and "oppressors" of the world. The psychology is very different from that used to mind control females.
It is so shocking to me that todays society would dream up such evil to put our kids through!! Please God, help people to realize that is is unacceptable!!
god and praying won't help, Hun. Actions will. Happily the worm is turning AT LAST. I just cannot fathom how ANYONE could go along with this sick ideology.
Praying is the only thing that might help at this point. Do you think the woke fascist regime is going to listen to us and desist? It's secular hubris that got us here in the first place.
Some fitting words I read recently, “To be like us is to be isolated, to be thought bigoted, to be written off…to be made vulnerable. It’s like watching a meteorite fly toward you and knowing you cannot and will not move.”
A niece in my extended family pretends to be a boy. She's eighteen now, so I suppose she's now pretending to be a man. I don't know how far the pharmaceutical and/or surgical horrors have gone, or if they have been employed at all. She talks in a fake attempt at a masculine voice, but it could just be an affectation, rather than testosterone. I'm not closely involved; I just observe from the sidelines. The creepiest thing about it is her affirming, encouraging parents, who refer to her by the phony male name and "he", and introduce her to strangers as "our son". There doesn't seem to be any conflict or doubt in their minds. They cheerfully embrace the whole show, as if it gives them status among their progressive social peers. To me, it's abuse. She should have been raised by someone else. But as I said, I just watch from afar, curious how it will all turn out.
They are just practicing extreme child-centered parenting. The child may actually be craving some boundaries. Hopefully she will not take any medical pathways. One day though she will hurt herself or cause extreme hurt to her parents. If not through gender lunacy, something else.
The voice that comes with testosterone is pretty easy to spot. It has a raspy sound to it.
I'm sorry about what you are going through. It's hard to sit on the sidelines. My daughter, who wants to be a boy, has a daughter of her own. It's so hard to hear my granddaughter call her mommy "dada" and use he/him pronouns. My daughter shouldn't be raising her for many reasons. It's hard to watch!
I can't help but wonder what all these affirming family members will do and say when the truth comes out - I mean this scenario just cannot continue for ever and ever. Their excuses and finger pointing to not take the blame will be just as absurd as their behavior is right now, I am sure. In my own family, some family members are secretly affirming my nephew's choice to follow the pied trans piper and it has caused a severe tear in the entire relationship between several family members. What will they say to gain back my trust and my sister's trust? Begging for forgiveness is beneath them as well as admitting they were wrong, so I do not see how our family will recover. So many families are divided and have been deeply hurt over this cult but it's the children who will suffer the most, the ones who believed, the ones who acted on the fantasies, the ones who took the medications and had the surgeries, the ones who turned their backs on their families and left home...I almost don't want to know how this all turns out but I have to believe that good will conquer evil and the truth will prevail and the wrong will be made right and boys will be boys again and girls will be girls again...
My sentiments exactly. Our once loving & uncomplicated family torn apart & I too wonder how we can ever recover from the hurt. It is such a fight. A silent, watching & waiting fight for this all to be over & sanity restored. Pure evil
I’m so disheartened to see the popularity growth of transgendered youth. It’s everywhere now! HONY now two days in a row featured stories about Transgender youth. immediately the masses applaud & call them brave for living in their “truth”. heaven forbid there’s a comment that isn’t supportive. people are ready to pounce!! I get why people are so afraid to speak out against it. I dare not comment how I really feel.
Thank you. Glad you got something from it. If you get the opportunity, please do share where you can. On this issue, I think we have to spread the word when we find it reasonable or informative.
Language engineering precedes social engineering. We must reject all these ridiculous terms that are just euphemisms meant to hide the horror behind them. I have even stopped using the word "community" in association with trans (or any LGBTQ+ sub group). A community is a group of people who organize themselves for the betterment of all; a community promotes human flourishing. LGBTQ+ activists, especially trans activists, do not promote human flourishing. They promote chaos. They have no right to call themselves a community. They are a political group seeking power. We must stop acceding to their made-up words and phrases, which are only meant to confuse us and control our thinking.
Btw- hi I’m a bisexual woman who’s working with and for adults who believe this BS. As a female and ally to sex based justice - how can I help? I’m an artist and I work for a wonderful designer But she’s (they /he) is in the gender cult 🤯~ look I’ve been working for her for 🫣5+ years and it only now she’s adapting this none sense.
My long term project is to record real conversations and publish them a few years later to genuinely expose the T agenda cuz to be honest LGB is about rights and the T- woof that’s just a kink and actual science and studies are astoundingly long ( I’m a GNC bisexual WOC)
All I’m asking is how can I help people to expose this shit. The real voice recordings I can get from them are easy but I want to actually help- parents send me the questions that matter plz
Good luck and prayers to your nephew.
Speaking of words, I have a question about pronouns. I don't personally use preferred pronouns when they obviously conflict with reality, but I was on a college tour with my son, and saw nametags with pronouns on them on the dorm doors. Several said "She/They".
Does that mean the person wants to be called either She/her or They/them, or are you supposed to use She in the nominative and They in the objective, such as "She said she would be happy if you gave they a good grade"?
In any case, as I said, I don't play by those rules, I was just honestly wondering.
"She/they" means different things to different people. As you pointed out, it obviously doesn't fit the nominative/objective format for giving a pronoun. To some people "she/they" means that they are okay with being called either she or they. They're basically saying "I won't be insulted if you perceive me as a non-woman and refer to me as they" which is a weird statement - but actually, in my experience, "she/they" is just the easiest and least committal way to "be queer" and "not be cis". I don't know if such people ever actually get referred to as "they" rather than "she" - maybe their hard-they friends prefer to call them they so they feel like they have a friend in they. Er, them...
But there are people who mean more specific things. Some people mean it more like "Some days I'm a she, some days I'm a they, and you should be able to tell that by my clothing and affect, and use the correct one for what I'm being that day." This is pretty obviously a sexist understanding of identity, but that's par for the course. I don't really think there are many people starting fights with strangers over this - it's more that people expect their closer friends to "get it" when they're being a they rather than a she.
There's also a third possibility, which I've only heard of online, which is that the person expects people to alternate which pronoun to use, either within or across sentences, or just to get a generally 50/50 ratio between she and they. This is...pretty obviously impossible, and if it's a real thing at all, seems more like a way to throw eggshells everywhere & justify picking fights with people rather than anything else.
Wow! Thanks for the thorough response. I’ve never been so glad to be an old fogey. Seriously, I can’t imagine navigating middle/high school with all these land mines. Thank you again!
Funny, I also had to research to learn all the language. But now a year later, I’ve forgotten most of it.
Because NO ONE speaks like this in real life. Now I don’t care.
I mean if your kid get hooked on some drug, should we parents immerse ourself in the drug culture to figure it out?
No. I must live on and hope my offspring figures out their own life. Just like a druggy.
The uncomfortable vocabulary is a perfect example of "Social Constructionism". Trannyism is going to get worse and we will see the effects right in front of us in plain sight with all the mutilated bodies and dysfunction. It will take all of us to push back on this nonsense, if not we are doomed. It is utterly heartbreaking and all of us will be affected in someway. This is what happens when Civil Rights are all a society cares about rather than personal responsibility. Now they have a civil right at any age to cut off bits here and add pieces there, it is terrible and can get a lot worse. God help us all! Stand for Truth, Beauty and what is good. If you love what is good and True, you must hate evil. Start today.
This is why I wrote my book. I saw a need for a primer to introduce to the newcomer all the obfuscating vocabulary, biology denying concepts, the medical malfeasance behind the euphemisms of trans medicine, how the gay community got cuckolded and the medical and therapy professions got captured, how queer theory is going to tear apart the social contract of agreed-upon-reality, plus the movement of energizing coalition building that will resist this onslaught. It's an easy read born of my 40 years as a lesbian, in the San Francisco Bay Area, watching the gay community evolve into a bullying, political powerhouse fueled by trans money.
It just came out. At 200 pages it's a quick read. My first reader said it was a page turner; she wasn't a TERF before, but now she gets it. Her wife, a veteran TERF said this about it. "There is no gender book like this. You take us by the hand and gently lead us through the fog. Your compassion comes through, so your credibility increases." Another TERF friend said, "You have always been a good writer. But this seems next level sophisticated. How you put your words together, how you advance your argument. It is so coherent."
I added all the humor I could muster, in this psychic warfare, to make it as entertaining and insightful as I could. My heart goes out to all of you parents. I hope this helps. You can order it here. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C8QBJXCK?ref_=pe_3052080_397514860
I had to look up non-binary when my kid declared she was non-binary. I had heard it before but never bothered to look into what it meant. I thought I knew but I was wrong.
I was surprised to learn that almost anyone can claim to be non-binary. Even myself. Of course my kid thinks she is a special kind of non-binary and I'm not really non-binary, I'm just a regular man. A "Toxic male" at that. I say to her, "Don't make assumptions about me!" If I say I'm non-binary then you have to accept that." :) Gallows humor.
Even though I am permanently banned on Twitter, I am overjoyed to learn that Elon Musk has now decreed that “cis” and “cisgender” are banned on Twitter. No more fake biological categories. Back to reality! The pronoun worm is turning!
Really?! Fantastic news! I never cared for him very much but now I have a newfound respect for him. He's really taking a stand against this evil cult! Ditto Jordan Peterson. The enemy of my enemy is my friend (I don't know who coined the phrase but it's appt).
Your sister is so lucky to have you educate yourself on what is happening. It speaks volumes, I have just one family member who ‘gets it’. It is such a stress reliever to know you have someone on your side. You are a good person
My exact experience in 2017. Except I also had to ad yaoi, hentai, “orchi”(vomit). I doted on this boy from the day he was born. Because I gently questioned him & had trouble using his chosen name-he cut me off completely & sent a toxic malignant email telling me to f*** off and die. He’s turned into a narcissistic, entitled, bullying, abusive man/boy. Won’t work, and takes no steps towards normal independence, even though he says living there is “literally killing him”. My heart is broken. Maybe someday he’ll come back.
Sorry for your hurt Martha 💔 the narcissism and entitlement is gob-smacking isn’t it. It’s almost like they have no real problems or issues so they curate one to feel important or special or gain kudos & attention amongst the peer group. Nothing worse than being a boring cis guy / girl apparently. It’s so sad.
It's not just that they are "boring", it's that they are the "rapists" and "oppressors" of the world. The psychology is very different from that used to mind control females.
It is so shocking to me that todays society would dream up such evil to put our kids through!! Please God, help people to realize that is is unacceptable!!
god and praying won't help, Hun. Actions will. Happily the worm is turning AT LAST. I just cannot fathom how ANYONE could go along with this sick ideology.
Praying is the only thing that might help at this point. Do you think the woke fascist regime is going to listen to us and desist? It's secular hubris that got us here in the first place.
Socially speaking, contraception is the ultimate puberty blocker. It is the ultimate prevention of growing up into adult human responsibilities.
And prevents unwanted pregnancy and childbirth, particularly to those of us who suffer from tokophobia. 😬
I am sorry to hear that. It sounds like a very serious pathology.
Some fitting words I read recently, “To be like us is to be isolated, to be thought bigoted, to be written off…to be made vulnerable. It’s like watching a meteorite fly toward you and knowing you cannot and will not move.”
A niece in my extended family pretends to be a boy. She's eighteen now, so I suppose she's now pretending to be a man. I don't know how far the pharmaceutical and/or surgical horrors have gone, or if they have been employed at all. She talks in a fake attempt at a masculine voice, but it could just be an affectation, rather than testosterone. I'm not closely involved; I just observe from the sidelines. The creepiest thing about it is her affirming, encouraging parents, who refer to her by the phony male name and "he", and introduce her to strangers as "our son". There doesn't seem to be any conflict or doubt in their minds. They cheerfully embrace the whole show, as if it gives them status among their progressive social peers. To me, it's abuse. She should have been raised by someone else. But as I said, I just watch from afar, curious how it will all turn out.
It blows my mind how quickly the whole world has latched onto this and fallen for the biggest lie of the century ...
They are just practicing extreme child-centered parenting. The child may actually be craving some boundaries. Hopefully she will not take any medical pathways. One day though she will hurt herself or cause extreme hurt to her parents. If not through gender lunacy, something else.
The voice that comes with testosterone is pretty easy to spot. It has a raspy sound to it.
I'm sorry about what you are going through. It's hard to sit on the sidelines. My daughter, who wants to be a boy, has a daughter of her own. It's so hard to hear my granddaughter call her mommy "dada" and use he/him pronouns. My daughter shouldn't be raising her for many reasons. It's hard to watch!
Some people should be sterilised. That's horrifying. You have my sympathies xxx
I can't help but wonder what all these affirming family members will do and say when the truth comes out - I mean this scenario just cannot continue for ever and ever. Their excuses and finger pointing to not take the blame will be just as absurd as their behavior is right now, I am sure. In my own family, some family members are secretly affirming my nephew's choice to follow the pied trans piper and it has caused a severe tear in the entire relationship between several family members. What will they say to gain back my trust and my sister's trust? Begging for forgiveness is beneath them as well as admitting they were wrong, so I do not see how our family will recover. So many families are divided and have been deeply hurt over this cult but it's the children who will suffer the most, the ones who believed, the ones who acted on the fantasies, the ones who took the medications and had the surgeries, the ones who turned their backs on their families and left home...I almost don't want to know how this all turns out but I have to believe that good will conquer evil and the truth will prevail and the wrong will be made right and boys will be boys again and girls will be girls again...
I hope to believe the same as you, but I fear this Pandora's box of lies has now been opened and weaponized, this stain on society will always remain.
I too have called this the pied piper....
My sentiments exactly. Our once loving & uncomplicated family torn apart & I too wonder how we can ever recover from the hurt. It is such a fight. A silent, watching & waiting fight for this all to be over & sanity restored. Pure evil
I’m so disheartened to see the popularity growth of transgendered youth. It’s everywhere now! HONY now two days in a row featured stories about Transgender youth. immediately the masses applaud & call them brave for living in their “truth”. heaven forbid there’s a comment that isn’t supportive. people are ready to pounce!! I get why people are so afraid to speak out against it. I dare not comment how I really feel.
The irony is that true bravery is doing what you're doing now - speaking against it with logic, science and TRUTH.
Compassion, yes. Understanding, Yes. Affirmation, No.
Article on the social delusion aspect of this thing… https://thetransatlantic.substack.com/p/ideology-and-anxiety-what-can-we
Excellent article, thanks for sharing.
Thank you. Glad you got something from it. If you get the opportunity, please do share where you can. On this issue, I think we have to spread the word when we find it reasonable or informative.
Language engineering precedes social engineering. We must reject all these ridiculous terms that are just euphemisms meant to hide the horror behind them. I have even stopped using the word "community" in association with trans (or any LGBTQ+ sub group). A community is a group of people who organize themselves for the betterment of all; a community promotes human flourishing. LGBTQ+ activists, especially trans activists, do not promote human flourishing. They promote chaos. They have no right to call themselves a community. They are a political group seeking power. We must stop acceding to their made-up words and phrases, which are only meant to confuse us and control our thinking.
Well said