Yes, this is a safe space for family who don't conformed to twisted views of reality. Grandparents usually are neglected too. Take courage we are living in a up side down world.
Thank you for sharing your story. Prayers for wisdom and strength as you navigate this and more importantly prayers for those in your family taken in by the lie that they'll know the truth and it will set them free!
Hello. As a sister in Christ, I know not to pour fuel on the anger at your children, none of us need that. We know that the evil one is behind all of this. I’ve seen the smartest, most levelheaded people taken in by transgender ideology. I know so well what it’s like for people to think you’re immature, stupid and cruel for having common sense. It’s a topsy turvy world.
My husband and I are the ones who aren’t affirming our child, but our PARENTS (also in their 70’s) are. Yes, the grandparents (and aunts and uncles are cousins) are affirming and even funding it. It’s so heartbreaking and isolating. We all still have a decent relationship but it’s only because no one talks about the “transgender elephant in the room.” And it’s bound to happen sooner or later, that we will have to clearly state that we do not co-sign this madness, and just as my husband and I have lost friends over this, we will likely lose the support of our siblings and parents, because they believe the narrative, see our child as an oppressed minority (a status that she really craved, so much attention!) and don’t want to be “on the wrong side of history.”
Hang in there, the love and peace of Christ be with you.
Ah, yes. The "right and wrong sides of history". Not to mention, the "Moral Arc of the Universe". How can one choose to NOT be on the right side when it's all so clear and inevitable?
Your daughter is also mature enough to change her thoughts on the transgender lie! But it’s probably not worth your breath to try to convince her.
As far as your grandson goes, arguing won’t help, they just dig in deeper. But you can try to make him comprehend the very real health problems cross sex hormones can / will cause. Tell him that you are coming from a place of love, of wanting to protect him. Because whoever prescribed those hormones, likely did NOT go into detail on the dangerous side effects.
Lastly, they have a right to pick a new name and pronouns, and you have a right not to use them. Who says their feelings have to trump yours? That’s what I told my own daughter.
So YOU "should be mature enough to change your thoughts" on this subject? HA! That's comedy gold, and a new one for me. Please don't fall for that line for a second. Actually, your daughter and her pastor husband should be "mature enough" to actually parent their children, and not allow them to destroy themselves and their futures! This sort of thing always reminds me of the father at a school board meeting who defended his son's trans delusions. He said that he allowed his son to lead the way (since the child always somehow knows what's true), immediately AFTER saying the whole business was a minefield! Parents have gone AWOL.
Dearest Grandmother, I am so sorry for what you are going through, all this horrible ideology is so hard to understand. How did it get to such a place in our society? How have Christian people gotten enmeshed in such evil? It has been going on 12 years since my youngest grandson from my youngest son started on this vile journey. My husband was dying when "Buddy" tried to explain what he was doing, that he was "born in the wrong body". We had no idea what he was talking about. My beloved husband passed away in 2014, after telling our grandson that he didn't begin to understand but that he would always love "Buddy". Since that time, 2 more of our grandchildren have decided they have the same problem; all 3 of them underwent abuse and abandonment in their childhoods resulting in mental health issues (along with their autism). My son, the father of all 3 with 3 different women, (and with his own mental illness) has blocked me from his life, and his children have done the same. All my grandchildren are young adults and have lived this lie for years now. Though I may not be able to see my family, I can still pray and I can tell the truth. My continuing prayers are for the outpouring of how wrong this belief system is will completely blanket the world. The whole premise is insane, and evil. No woman will ever become a man, and no man will ever become a woman, no drug or surgery will ever change the facts of life. The people who are still pushing these lies onto our children and our young ones will have to face reality hopefully soon, as more truth than ever before is coming forth. We, as the parents, as the grandparents, as loving family members and friends will be here with open arms to help put shattered lives back together. Lord, may it be soon. Amen. Love, Indio
I can’t even imagine being so captured by an ideology that you would cut off your own mother and father, who probably gave so much to raise you. (I’m thinking of the adult children in this story) it’s the ultimate sign of disrespect in my opinion. They know their parents beliefs, know how important those beliefs are to them, yet say “ if you don’t put “my” beliefs ahead of yours you are not worthy of my love. This is without a doubt a huge reason I have absolutely no respect for people that push this narrative/ideology/ belief. I’m a teacher. When kids are disrespectful to me I ask them; “should I show you respect even though you don’t show me respect( I usually do, no matter what, but hope they understand they don’t deserve it) sometimes this jolts them into understanding that not everyone believes the same way and if you want them to respect you, you need to show respect for their beliefs.
My heart aches and breaks for you. In Matthew 10:34-39 and Luke 12:51-53 Jesus tells his disciples that truth divides even the closest of family relationships like fathers and sons and mothers and daughters. This is hard to bear. You are truly sharing in Christ’s sufferings. May He continue to uphold you, strengthen and comfort you and give you the courage to stand on truth and be an anchor for your children and grandchildren. God bless you!
I was raised in a “progressive,” secular home, and was derisive of Judeo-Christian faith traditions growing up. I thought I was “intellectually above” people who worshipped God and had faith. I was also lonely, and felt like I was on the outside looking in to the values and traditions supporting a functioning, civilized society— including civil rights.
Now I have embraced Christianity, and am humbled and extremely grateful for all I receive in my faith and community, but it has been difficult to find a Christian church these days that hasn’t warped its doctrine around the twisted concept of “trans kids” and “inclusion,” to the detriment and destruction of their own time-honored faith traditions, and the boundaries that preserve them.
“Trans” is not “gay.” Churches that demonize same-sex attraction to the point of threats and violence are quite rare these days, but you’d think that the sexual mutilation of healthy adolescents was specifically preached in the gospels, the way this “trans compassion and kindness” cult has hijacked Christianity, common sense, and simple reverence for Creation.
It turns out that the threat of being labelled “hateful,” “bigoted,” or “phobic” is the magic wand to transform any church into an organization acting as handmaidens for the horrific chemical and surgical destruction of vulnerable people.
I will never be a religious fundamentalist, but I do pray that God will show me what is mine to do. I realize that being a moderate and faithful Christian these days makes me a suspicious character to “progressives” — as suspicious as I was to Christians and Jews as a non-believer 50 years ago. But I think the world desperately needs more people who are grounded in the faith traditions our civilization was built upon… not “progressives” who won’t rest until every last vestige of human stability and tradition is destroyed.
There are many non-religious progressive feminists out here fighting hard against the trans contagion and corruption, just as we fought hard for gay rights and for women's right to bodily autonomy and financial independence from men via access to the higher education and professional paid workforce that male religious and secular leaders had long denied women and girls on patriarchal grounds. The religious indoctrination of young people into the idea that males are the naturally dominant, smarter and more morally upstanding sex, as enforced and symbolized through the marital vow of wifely obedience and the worshipping of male gods, is centrally responsible for the domestic violence that continues to brutalize and kill far more women and children than 'trans' is doing. Trans is a patriarchal movement led by rich men who think they are gods, and who bitterly resent female power, including our natural reproductive power, as domestic abusers classically do. It won't be stopped by patriarchal religions or beliefs that are largely based on the same male resentment of the women they cannot entirely control, own and use. The capitulation of most religious groups to this anti-family, anti-women ideology, testifies directly to this. My faith for change lies in the many strong women and few strong men who have shown they do not resent female strength and power, who know that the worship of the male and the blaming of the female is the root problem facilitating the trans takeover, and who are fighting hard for the truth and the good to prevail. Protest not prayer will save us, or we will not be saved.
Interesting analysis. The radical feminist critique cemented my views on transgenderism. The misogyny inherent in the movement is glaring and impossible to ignore. So I'm 100% pro-TERF, love WoLF, and agree with so much of what you said. I just view it less as a patriarchal movement than yet another Leftist project to sever every natural human bond that ever existed.
I am so, so sorry. It's hard enough for parents to go through this, but I think it must be even more painful for grandparents. It's why I've insisted that my trans identified daughter not disclose her identity to either of her 90 year old grandparents.
I wish I had answers - do X or Y and it will be better. But the truth is, we're all fumbling through this, not wanting to lose our loved ones or have them go no contact, yet at the same time trying to stand for truth and with our respective religious beliefs. Even if you're not Catholic, I recommend searching on YouTube "Father Schmitz transgender question." He has a six minute video about how to strike this balance. I found it very comforting.
You sound like wonderful grandparents. Keep praying.
Just watched that video. I’ve seen some of his videos before, I really like Father Schmitz. Not Catholic, but it applies strongly to all Christians. “Who are we called to walk with today?”
We are all broken sinners, it is a broken world. I’m no exception. But I pray to walk with Him, and I pray to be a Light to others.
You are such kind people for taking in your grandson and for the grace you're showing as you try to navigate this horrible ideology. It's captured so many of our children. Our daughter too. It's so scary. It sounds like you're very spiritual people, and I can tell you many of the parents suffering through this have turned to God and prayer. There are thousands of parents and family members out here praying with you. We are getting stronger. You don't need to play along. Be honest and loving. So many people are lying to your grandson, and to my daughter. I think it's ok to be the people in their lives that are loving, kind and truthful. Stay strong. It's painful, I know, but you got this!
Thank you for sharing your story of hardship caused by this demonic thought system. It encourages people like me to stay vigilant in prayer over my grandchildren. I pray God’s grace and peace — and deliverance — for your family and for all families caught in this snare.
It might be helpful for you and your children who are pressuring you to remember that all of the pressures you are confronted with were totally off everyone's radar just a few years ago, like 5 years ago. No one expected this turn of events. No one expected to be strongarmed to accept the gender confusion of their kids and grandkids til very recently. So they should maybe give you a little grace, or a lot.
My heartfelt sympathy is with you. Truly, nothing prepares you for this kind of grief because it is, even when love persists. It’s the pain of seeing someone you love walk a unfamiliar path and feeling powerless to intervene.
I may not be in your exact situation, but I understand that this isn’t about being “behind the times.” It’s about conscience, faith, and the truth that formed your life. These aren’t things you can simply turn off because society says so.
What I admire most is that you haven’t stopped loving him. You haven’t discarded him. You haven’t hardened your heart. You’re walking a quiet, faithful love, one that doesn’t shout, shame, or deceive. That’s not weakness. That’s bravery.
While you may not be able to alter his decisions, none of us can control another’s soul but, your steady love is more impactful than you realize. Continue to pray. Continue to love. Continue to be honest without cruelty. Boundaries, when held gently, are still acts of love.
You are not crazy. You are not hateful. You are not “unenlightened.” You are a grandmother navigating the delicate line between truth and tenderness and that is sacred ground.
You aren’t alone in this, even when it often feels like you are.
Yes, this is a safe space for family who don't conformed to twisted views of reality. Grandparents usually are neglected too. Take courage we are living in a up side down world.
Thank you for sharing your story. Prayers for wisdom and strength as you navigate this and more importantly prayers for those in your family taken in by the lie that they'll know the truth and it will set them free!
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Hello. As a sister in Christ, I know not to pour fuel on the anger at your children, none of us need that. We know that the evil one is behind all of this. I’ve seen the smartest, most levelheaded people taken in by transgender ideology. I know so well what it’s like for people to think you’re immature, stupid and cruel for having common sense. It’s a topsy turvy world.
My husband and I are the ones who aren’t affirming our child, but our PARENTS (also in their 70’s) are. Yes, the grandparents (and aunts and uncles are cousins) are affirming and even funding it. It’s so heartbreaking and isolating. We all still have a decent relationship but it’s only because no one talks about the “transgender elephant in the room.” And it’s bound to happen sooner or later, that we will have to clearly state that we do not co-sign this madness, and just as my husband and I have lost friends over this, we will likely lose the support of our siblings and parents, because they believe the narrative, see our child as an oppressed minority (a status that she really craved, so much attention!) and don’t want to be “on the wrong side of history.”
Hang in there, the love and peace of Christ be with you.
Ah, yes. The "right and wrong sides of history". Not to mention, the "Moral Arc of the Universe". How can one choose to NOT be on the right side when it's all so clear and inevitable?
I just prayed for you. That is so sad to read.
Your daughter is also mature enough to change her thoughts on the transgender lie! But it’s probably not worth your breath to try to convince her.
As far as your grandson goes, arguing won’t help, they just dig in deeper. But you can try to make him comprehend the very real health problems cross sex hormones can / will cause. Tell him that you are coming from a place of love, of wanting to protect him. Because whoever prescribed those hormones, likely did NOT go into detail on the dangerous side effects.
Lastly, they have a right to pick a new name and pronouns, and you have a right not to use them. Who says their feelings have to trump yours? That’s what I told my own daughter.
So YOU "should be mature enough to change your thoughts" on this subject? HA! That's comedy gold, and a new one for me. Please don't fall for that line for a second. Actually, your daughter and her pastor husband should be "mature enough" to actually parent their children, and not allow them to destroy themselves and their futures! This sort of thing always reminds me of the father at a school board meeting who defended his son's trans delusions. He said that he allowed his son to lead the way (since the child always somehow knows what's true), immediately AFTER saying the whole business was a minefield! Parents have gone AWOL.
Dearest Grandmother, I am so sorry for what you are going through, all this horrible ideology is so hard to understand. How did it get to such a place in our society? How have Christian people gotten enmeshed in such evil? It has been going on 12 years since my youngest grandson from my youngest son started on this vile journey. My husband was dying when "Buddy" tried to explain what he was doing, that he was "born in the wrong body". We had no idea what he was talking about. My beloved husband passed away in 2014, after telling our grandson that he didn't begin to understand but that he would always love "Buddy". Since that time, 2 more of our grandchildren have decided they have the same problem; all 3 of them underwent abuse and abandonment in their childhoods resulting in mental health issues (along with their autism). My son, the father of all 3 with 3 different women, (and with his own mental illness) has blocked me from his life, and his children have done the same. All my grandchildren are young adults and have lived this lie for years now. Though I may not be able to see my family, I can still pray and I can tell the truth. My continuing prayers are for the outpouring of how wrong this belief system is will completely blanket the world. The whole premise is insane, and evil. No woman will ever become a man, and no man will ever become a woman, no drug or surgery will ever change the facts of life. The people who are still pushing these lies onto our children and our young ones will have to face reality hopefully soon, as more truth than ever before is coming forth. We, as the parents, as the grandparents, as loving family members and friends will be here with open arms to help put shattered lives back together. Lord, may it be soon. Amen. Love, Indio
I can’t even imagine being so captured by an ideology that you would cut off your own mother and father, who probably gave so much to raise you. (I’m thinking of the adult children in this story) it’s the ultimate sign of disrespect in my opinion. They know their parents beliefs, know how important those beliefs are to them, yet say “ if you don’t put “my” beliefs ahead of yours you are not worthy of my love. This is without a doubt a huge reason I have absolutely no respect for people that push this narrative/ideology/ belief. I’m a teacher. When kids are disrespectful to me I ask them; “should I show you respect even though you don’t show me respect( I usually do, no matter what, but hope they understand they don’t deserve it) sometimes this jolts them into understanding that not everyone believes the same way and if you want them to respect you, you need to show respect for their beliefs.
My heart aches and breaks for you. In Matthew 10:34-39 and Luke 12:51-53 Jesus tells his disciples that truth divides even the closest of family relationships like fathers and sons and mothers and daughters. This is hard to bear. You are truly sharing in Christ’s sufferings. May He continue to uphold you, strengthen and comfort you and give you the courage to stand on truth and be an anchor for your children and grandchildren. God bless you!
It’s all so stupid, I can’t believe this is the world we are living in. And how much hurt something so stupid can cause us.
I was raised in a “progressive,” secular home, and was derisive of Judeo-Christian faith traditions growing up. I thought I was “intellectually above” people who worshipped God and had faith. I was also lonely, and felt like I was on the outside looking in to the values and traditions supporting a functioning, civilized society— including civil rights.
Now I have embraced Christianity, and am humbled and extremely grateful for all I receive in my faith and community, but it has been difficult to find a Christian church these days that hasn’t warped its doctrine around the twisted concept of “trans kids” and “inclusion,” to the detriment and destruction of their own time-honored faith traditions, and the boundaries that preserve them.
“Trans” is not “gay.” Churches that demonize same-sex attraction to the point of threats and violence are quite rare these days, but you’d think that the sexual mutilation of healthy adolescents was specifically preached in the gospels, the way this “trans compassion and kindness” cult has hijacked Christianity, common sense, and simple reverence for Creation.
It turns out that the threat of being labelled “hateful,” “bigoted,” or “phobic” is the magic wand to transform any church into an organization acting as handmaidens for the horrific chemical and surgical destruction of vulnerable people.
I will never be a religious fundamentalist, but I do pray that God will show me what is mine to do. I realize that being a moderate and faithful Christian these days makes me a suspicious character to “progressives” — as suspicious as I was to Christians and Jews as a non-believer 50 years ago. But I think the world desperately needs more people who are grounded in the faith traditions our civilization was built upon… not “progressives” who won’t rest until every last vestige of human stability and tradition is destroyed.
There are many non-religious progressive feminists out here fighting hard against the trans contagion and corruption, just as we fought hard for gay rights and for women's right to bodily autonomy and financial independence from men via access to the higher education and professional paid workforce that male religious and secular leaders had long denied women and girls on patriarchal grounds. The religious indoctrination of young people into the idea that males are the naturally dominant, smarter and more morally upstanding sex, as enforced and symbolized through the marital vow of wifely obedience and the worshipping of male gods, is centrally responsible for the domestic violence that continues to brutalize and kill far more women and children than 'trans' is doing. Trans is a patriarchal movement led by rich men who think they are gods, and who bitterly resent female power, including our natural reproductive power, as domestic abusers classically do. It won't be stopped by patriarchal religions or beliefs that are largely based on the same male resentment of the women they cannot entirely control, own and use. The capitulation of most religious groups to this anti-family, anti-women ideology, testifies directly to this. My faith for change lies in the many strong women and few strong men who have shown they do not resent female strength and power, who know that the worship of the male and the blaming of the female is the root problem facilitating the trans takeover, and who are fighting hard for the truth and the good to prevail. Protest not prayer will save us, or we will not be saved.
Interesting analysis. The radical feminist critique cemented my views on transgenderism. The misogyny inherent in the movement is glaring and impossible to ignore. So I'm 100% pro-TERF, love WoLF, and agree with so much of what you said. I just view it less as a patriarchal movement than yet another Leftist project to sever every natural human bond that ever existed.
I am so, so sorry. It's hard enough for parents to go through this, but I think it must be even more painful for grandparents. It's why I've insisted that my trans identified daughter not disclose her identity to either of her 90 year old grandparents.
I wish I had answers - do X or Y and it will be better. But the truth is, we're all fumbling through this, not wanting to lose our loved ones or have them go no contact, yet at the same time trying to stand for truth and with our respective religious beliefs. Even if you're not Catholic, I recommend searching on YouTube "Father Schmitz transgender question." He has a six minute video about how to strike this balance. I found it very comforting.
You sound like wonderful grandparents. Keep praying.
Just watched that video. I’ve seen some of his videos before, I really like Father Schmitz. Not Catholic, but it applies strongly to all Christians. “Who are we called to walk with today?”
We are all broken sinners, it is a broken world. I’m no exception. But I pray to walk with Him, and I pray to be a Light to others.
You are such kind people for taking in your grandson and for the grace you're showing as you try to navigate this horrible ideology. It's captured so many of our children. Our daughter too. It's so scary. It sounds like you're very spiritual people, and I can tell you many of the parents suffering through this have turned to God and prayer. There are thousands of parents and family members out here praying with you. We are getting stronger. You don't need to play along. Be honest and loving. So many people are lying to your grandson, and to my daughter. I think it's ok to be the people in their lives that are loving, kind and truthful. Stay strong. It's painful, I know, but you got this!
Thank you for sharing your story of hardship caused by this demonic thought system. It encourages people like me to stay vigilant in prayer over my grandchildren. I pray God’s grace and peace — and deliverance — for your family and for all families caught in this snare.
It might be helpful for you and your children who are pressuring you to remember that all of the pressures you are confronted with were totally off everyone's radar just a few years ago, like 5 years ago. No one expected this turn of events. No one expected to be strongarmed to accept the gender confusion of their kids and grandkids til very recently. So they should maybe give you a little grace, or a lot.
My heartfelt sympathy is with you. Truly, nothing prepares you for this kind of grief because it is, even when love persists. It’s the pain of seeing someone you love walk a unfamiliar path and feeling powerless to intervene.
I may not be in your exact situation, but I understand that this isn’t about being “behind the times.” It’s about conscience, faith, and the truth that formed your life. These aren’t things you can simply turn off because society says so.
What I admire most is that you haven’t stopped loving him. You haven’t discarded him. You haven’t hardened your heart. You’re walking a quiet, faithful love, one that doesn’t shout, shame, or deceive. That’s not weakness. That’s bravery.
While you may not be able to alter his decisions, none of us can control another’s soul but, your steady love is more impactful than you realize. Continue to pray. Continue to love. Continue to be honest without cruelty. Boundaries, when held gently, are still acts of love.
You are not crazy. You are not hateful. You are not “unenlightened.” You are a grandmother navigating the delicate line between truth and tenderness and that is sacred ground.
You aren’t alone in this, even when it often feels like you are.
This is so beautiful! Thank you for sharing.