As in every war there are people swept up in what is euphemistically called “collateral damage.” In demolishing so many lives without an iota of thought to the long-term repercussions, the trans-cult has made a serious tactical mistake: they created too many of us.
I have started to volunteer and work with advocate protecting children from gender ideology. It’s a great group along with LGB courage Coalition and Democrats against gender ideology.
Oh boy, this one hurt, like picking off an old scab, yesterday I was walking and thinking and I just had a moment of rage and I wanted to yell at every person, every neighbor, everyone of my daughters friends and their family, and my daughters teachers, and counselors, and doctors and everyone who affirmed this delusion that if only she took testosterone and removed her breasts she would be a man, as I type this I feel the rage in me, I am so angry at so many people who could not just say......No....;;; -(. Thanks, a lot all of you who could not do that, as I fold into a ball of yarn and fade away with my oldest daughter completely maimed and hurting, her life forever changed for the worse. God help us all, my only source of hope is Jesus to get me through all of this. UGHHHHHH!!!! "pulled down every tradition, every family vacation, every high school prom, every holiday, every joyous memory - as this one sibling sucked all of the air out of the loving family leaving an empty shell of people trying to hold it together in the wake of" trans.
This is the most total and gut wrenching explanation of our shared experience I have yet read! And I feel exactly the same... Though scared, my wounds are healing and I rise daily preparing to continue the battle until All our children are freed and return home! But also realizing, for the rest of our lives we will have to deal with the aftermath of this violence they have suffered!
For the first time ever, I am banned from reading this article because of the UK’s so-called ‘Online Safety Act’. Sadly, I cannot post this on X (twitter) & help to spread the invaluable work of Pitt Parents in their crusade against the evil trans cult. America, keep freedom alive; the western world needs you.
I would be in so much trouble if I lived in the UK! Grateful to live in the USA and many of us are Freedom Fighters...Free Speech is the only way Truth comes out!
Spot on, but thank God this recovering alcoholic mom isn’t drinking over this BS. If I succumbed to affirming and going along with the lie just to keep the peace, I would probably be drunk. To thine own self be true.
Incidentally, AlAnon principles help me a lot with dealing with my trans-identifying child. I definitely don’t have to like or condone it. But I accept that there’s nothing I can do to change her now-adult (but still sick) mind. And then I do my best to live with grace and dignity. May God bless and strengthen all of us trying to navigate this without self destructing.
“Moms who know with certainty that they did something wrong”
And the amount of mental energy and resources and research just to send a text is unbelievable. I’ve spent so many days and hours on a few lines of text to my child.
I wish so much for all of us to be seen and heard. 💔 Thank you all.
I used to always watch my weight. Watching carefully what I eat, counting calories, taking care of my image. I feel I can't anymore I just eat and eat without even thinking I just don't care anymore I miss my baby, my baby that was born a boy I miss him so much
I know that pain. It helps me to pray the rosary as it gives me 20 minutes of peace. I pray for all young men caught up in this cult, including your dear son.
You must take care of your health... physical, mental and emotional! You can't help your son in the future if you don't! Focus on Christ! I believe God has a plan to heal, deliver and bring our children, His children home!
Read Daniel 4: 25-35
I am praying the Kings story becomes the story for all our children!
Please understand, you have to look after yourself. You don’t have to count calories but you do have to choose healthy, whole food. I suggest you go on a ketogenic or a carnivore diet.
If you are choosing to eat high carbohydrate, it will hurt you. Really hurt.
If you take care of yourself, there is a future with some good in it for you.
I suggest you might need counseling to help you. The eating problem is fixable, but you might need to be coached what to eat. It does not mean counting calories but it does mean choosing the right foods.
Please be sure to keep an eye on your health. It's okay to not be skinny. Women are naturally many shapes, generally the same shapes as their mothers and grandmothers and great-grandmothers. Just please don't turn this grief into self-harm.
Think about what other comfort activities you can indulge in: reading, sleeping, exercising, a hobby. Anything, so long as it doesn't turn against you.
Your mental health depends upon you staying healthy.
I think I'm getting there little by little, my taking care of myself. I work full time and I just got my Real Estate license I think studying helped me to keep my mind busy. I will try to ho back to exercising it helps a lot Thank you 💜
After witnessing the insane gender wars in the West now for the past 8 years, I can say this with some confidence: no parent ever did anything as wrong as tech companies, perverts, the educational establishment, medical and psychiatric authorities, and the civil/human rights NGOs have done to families.
I know devout, evangelical Christians who have lost a daughter or a son to this madness. I know secular Ph.D. academics and lawyers and working class people who have, too. Same with people who gave their children I-pads and smart phones in elementary school, and with those who made their children wait until they were older teens. I know people who are very conservative politically, and very liberal or even leftist who have lost a child to this cult. Because the internet is everyone's 24-hour front yard/attractive nuisance, this sickness can infect anyone. There is literally no community, religion, ideology, or philosophy or philosophy that can protect us aside from rejecting it totally and refusing to participate in trans rituals and pronoun prayers.
This is a collective action problem, and as the original writer of this column suggests, so many share the blame in propping up the maddest and most destructive ideas the West has ever seen. Here is my modest proposal for opposing the insanity.
Pronouns are for the user/writer/speaker, not the referent.
Sex is material. Gender is just stereotypes.
Sex is sometimes medically or socially relevant. Gender never is.
Humans are mammals, and no mammal can 'change sex.'
So much of this confusion is I due to the long-term consequences of separating sexual intercourse from child-bearing/rearing. The reason so many people are confused about sex and its purpose in our lives is that we're not having enough children. We've forgotten what sex and human sexual dimorphism accomplish for our species. I'm not saying we should go back to life before the pill--but this may be the long tail of the sexual revolution in the West.
We have doubled the human population from 4 billion to 8 billion in just 45 years.
We're still having WAY TOO MANY children.
Sex has always, always, always been about physical pleasure. That's how survival of the species has been assured in all mammals.
Humans have only very recently, in the last hundred years or so, had sex on purpose to have children. If we'd relied on intellectually planning for the reproduction of our species, human beings would have died out a million years ago.
I think you’re underestimating the intelligence & will of people in the more distant past. The fertility decline in the US & France began in the eighteenth century, not the twentieth.
There’s evidence that contraception was responding to a demand, not creating one.
I don’t think we’ll fully be able to assess the sexual revolution for at least another 40 years. It’s the kind of change that takes generations to play out & understand—my mother’s generation was the first one affected, but we won’t know how it all turned out until my grandchildren are at least in their 40s.
I should have said that people in the WEIRD world (Western Educated Industrialized Rich & Democratic) aren’t having enough kids. Depopulation is a reality now in the rich Asian countries, Western Europe, & North America. The only reason the US & Canadian populations keep rising is because of largely unchecked immigration.
I'm a humanist. I'm pro-human. I'm also a big fan of the Enlightenment and Western values. To paraphrase Gandhi, I think Western Civilization is a good idea, actually. Rule of law. Individuals not tribes. Universal human rights. These are noble goals.
The environmental doomerist narrative has always struck me as very similar to Christian apocalypticism: we're all sinners, we're all doomed, the end is nigh. It's interesting that this materialist perspective maps so perfectly on to the Christian one, don't you think? It might be true! The world will doubtlessly come to an end one day. But for all of the mad prognosticating over the last 2000+ years (probably longer, IDK), it hasn't yet.
Doomerism may be endemic to our species, because it's very hard for us to see or imagine the world past a typical human lifespan. 70-80 years is about as much bandwidth as most of us have. (See, I'm a materialist. The human body gives us a number of material limits within which we must operate.)
You are correct: some transgender people have children--most of them had them before they "transitioned." But I'm afraid that the current transgender craze is a blind pouch, or a cul-de-sac, of broken lineage and infertility. But having children makes most people happy, so I think it's a scandal that our educational and theraputic establishment are taking away that option for so many before they can understand what they're giving up.
I’d like to add to this list all of the ex-friends and their moms who affirmed and affirmed away, who have all moved on, and are now happily enjoying the rest of their lives
Ugh, the woman who posted pictures of my child and her friends, many of whom struggled with gender dysphoria, with the caption, “All the kids who call me mom!” I don’t even have social media; I had to hear about it from a friend. I believe the term is “glitter mom.” My child’s best friend’s mother. Thought she was being such a woke hero. If she knew, if she experienced just a little bit of the absolute hell we’ve been through, she would never have supported this. But anything to look like a hashtag ally!!
you are so right! Parents of other children who were not going through this who took it upon themselves to 'affirm' our children. Maybe we could hold a spot in Dante's circle just for them.
Sometimes I wonder if the damage to the families is always collateral. It feels like at least some of the glitter activists and "teachers" inflict it intentionally, wanting to destroy others out of spite, jealousy, and hatred. ( In a malicious Look-at-your- gifted-son / your -beautiful -daughter/ your-perfect-family now!)
On the national level I didn’t vote for Trump (or Harris) but as one who watched with horror as the Biden administration proposed regulations that would have allowed men to shower with my daughter and granddaughter I do admire the steps his administration has taken to restore a degree of sanity to this important area of human relations.
Well done. Captures perfectly how many people are affected by the trans identified person and the ideology they've fallen prey to. It's almost as if they are in the eye of the hurricane, oblivious to the havoc being wreaked outside of the eye. It's taken so much from us - but I refuse to wallow in the role of victim. It's a struggle every day.
As for the teachers, doctors, therapists and surgeons who perpetrated this catastrophe, I just wonder when the exposes will begin to roll out. Whether they admit to their complicity, or they are exposed by their colleagues, it will happen. And I suspect those revelations will be earth-shattering.
There are a number of detransitioner lawsuits going on right now.
There are a number of lawsuits over men in women's prisons going on.
There are lawsuits going before the Supreme Court over men in women's sports.
Besides that, left-wing women have been publishing exposes online (and, when they can, in right-wing publications) for years already. Read Reduxx. The exposes are there.
Great article. I would also like to acknowledge spouses, the trans-widows, who have been gaslit, tortured, shamed, and discarded while having their whole world shattered.
My younger son is collateral damage. They both still live at home and his anger is visible.
My family is damaged. We haven’t had family meals together in the 8+ years since this became our reality. I cannot have extended family over.
Your description of moms? That’s me, every painful word. Still researching. Still blaming myself. Still playing the “what if” game.
Trapped in this tsunami with no relief in sight.
And somehow, my son doesn’t see or get it.
Thank you for this. It is validation for me, and my endless torturous thoughts.
I have started to volunteer and work with advocate protecting children from gender ideology. It’s a great group along with LGB courage Coalition and Democrats against gender ideology.
Oh boy, this one hurt, like picking off an old scab, yesterday I was walking and thinking and I just had a moment of rage and I wanted to yell at every person, every neighbor, everyone of my daughters friends and their family, and my daughters teachers, and counselors, and doctors and everyone who affirmed this delusion that if only she took testosterone and removed her breasts she would be a man, as I type this I feel the rage in me, I am so angry at so many people who could not just say......No....;;; -(. Thanks, a lot all of you who could not do that, as I fold into a ball of yarn and fade away with my oldest daughter completely maimed and hurting, her life forever changed for the worse. God help us all, my only source of hope is Jesus to get me through all of this. UGHHHHHH!!!! "pulled down every tradition, every family vacation, every high school prom, every holiday, every joyous memory - as this one sibling sucked all of the air out of the loving family leaving an empty shell of people trying to hold it together in the wake of" trans.
This is the most total and gut wrenching explanation of our shared experience I have yet read! And I feel exactly the same... Though scared, my wounds are healing and I rise daily preparing to continue the battle until All our children are freed and return home! But also realizing, for the rest of our lives we will have to deal with the aftermath of this violence they have suffered!
Thank you for sharing this with us..
For the first time ever, I am banned from reading this article because of the UK’s so-called ‘Online Safety Act’. Sadly, I cannot post this on X (twitter) & help to spread the invaluable work of Pitt Parents in their crusade against the evil trans cult. America, keep freedom alive; the western world needs you.
I would be in so much trouble if I lived in the UK! Grateful to live in the USA and many of us are Freedom Fighters...Free Speech is the only way Truth comes out!
Spot on, but thank God this recovering alcoholic mom isn’t drinking over this BS. If I succumbed to affirming and going along with the lie just to keep the peace, I would probably be drunk. To thine own self be true.
Incidentally, AlAnon principles help me a lot with dealing with my trans-identifying child. I definitely don’t have to like or condone it. But I accept that there’s nothing I can do to change her now-adult (but still sick) mind. And then I do my best to live with grace and dignity. May God bless and strengthen all of us trying to navigate this without self destructing.
"To thine on self be true and it follows as the night the day ..thou canst then to no man be false"
Shakespeare
“Moms who know with certainty that they did something wrong”
And the amount of mental energy and resources and research just to send a text is unbelievable. I’ve spent so many days and hours on a few lines of text to my child.
I wish so much for all of us to be seen and heard. 💔 Thank you all.
I used to always watch my weight. Watching carefully what I eat, counting calories, taking care of my image. I feel I can't anymore I just eat and eat without even thinking I just don't care anymore I miss my baby, my baby that was born a boy I miss him so much
I know that pain. It helps me to pray the rosary as it gives me 20 minutes of peace. I pray for all young men caught up in this cult, including your dear son.
Thank you Christa, I pray every day too for all our young men
You must take care of your health... physical, mental and emotional! You can't help your son in the future if you don't! Focus on Christ! I believe God has a plan to heal, deliver and bring our children, His children home!
Read Daniel 4: 25-35
I am praying the Kings story becomes the story for all our children!
Yes I belive it too, I am little by little taking care of myself more so when my boy comes back I am healthy and strong
Please understand, you have to look after yourself. You don’t have to count calories but you do have to choose healthy, whole food. I suggest you go on a ketogenic or a carnivore diet.
If you are choosing to eat high carbohydrate, it will hurt you. Really hurt.
If you take care of yourself, there is a future with some good in it for you.
I suggest you might need counseling to help you. The eating problem is fixable, but you might need to be coached what to eat. It does not mean counting calories but it does mean choosing the right foods.
Thank you for your beautiful words🙏
Please be sure to keep an eye on your health. It's okay to not be skinny. Women are naturally many shapes, generally the same shapes as their mothers and grandmothers and great-grandmothers. Just please don't turn this grief into self-harm.
Think about what other comfort activities you can indulge in: reading, sleeping, exercising, a hobby. Anything, so long as it doesn't turn against you.
Your mental health depends upon you staying healthy.
I think I'm getting there little by little, my taking care of myself. I work full time and I just got my Real Estate license I think studying helped me to keep my mind busy. I will try to ho back to exercising it helps a lot Thank you 💜
Thank you ♡♡
"Mothers who. . .hold the truth behind their teeth."
THIS.
In a nutshell.
After witnessing the insane gender wars in the West now for the past 8 years, I can say this with some confidence: no parent ever did anything as wrong as tech companies, perverts, the educational establishment, medical and psychiatric authorities, and the civil/human rights NGOs have done to families.
I know devout, evangelical Christians who have lost a daughter or a son to this madness. I know secular Ph.D. academics and lawyers and working class people who have, too. Same with people who gave their children I-pads and smart phones in elementary school, and with those who made their children wait until they were older teens. I know people who are very conservative politically, and very liberal or even leftist who have lost a child to this cult. Because the internet is everyone's 24-hour front yard/attractive nuisance, this sickness can infect anyone. There is literally no community, religion, ideology, or philosophy or philosophy that can protect us aside from rejecting it totally and refusing to participate in trans rituals and pronoun prayers.
This is a collective action problem, and as the original writer of this column suggests, so many share the blame in propping up the maddest and most destructive ideas the West has ever seen. Here is my modest proposal for opposing the insanity.
Pronouns are for the user/writer/speaker, not the referent.
Sex is material. Gender is just stereotypes.
Sex is sometimes medically or socially relevant. Gender never is.
Humans are mammals, and no mammal can 'change sex.'
So much of this confusion is I due to the long-term consequences of separating sexual intercourse from child-bearing/rearing. The reason so many people are confused about sex and its purpose in our lives is that we're not having enough children. We've forgotten what sex and human sexual dimorphism accomplish for our species. I'm not saying we should go back to life before the pill--but this may be the long tail of the sexual revolution in the West.
I agree with Alex:
We're not having enough children???
We have doubled the human population from 4 billion to 8 billion in just 45 years.
We're still having WAY TOO MANY children.
Sex has always, always, always been about physical pleasure. That's how survival of the species has been assured in all mammals.
Humans have only very recently, in the last hundred years or so, had sex on purpose to have children. If we'd relied on intellectually planning for the reproduction of our species, human beings would have died out a million years ago.
I think you’re underestimating the intelligence & will of people in the more distant past. The fertility decline in the US & France began in the eighteenth century, not the twentieth.
There’s evidence that contraception was responding to a demand, not creating one.
I don’t think we’ll fully be able to assess the sexual revolution for at least another 40 years. It’s the kind of change that takes generations to play out & understand—my mother’s generation was the first one affected, but we won’t know how it all turned out until my grandchildren are at least in their 40s.
I should have said that people in the WEIRD world (Western Educated Industrialized Rich & Democratic) aren’t having enough kids. Depopulation is a reality now in the rich Asian countries, Western Europe, & North America. The only reason the US & Canadian populations keep rising is because of largely unchecked immigration.
I'm a humanist. I'm pro-human. I'm also a big fan of the Enlightenment and Western values. To paraphrase Gandhi, I think Western Civilization is a good idea, actually. Rule of law. Individuals not tribes. Universal human rights. These are noble goals.
The environmental doomerist narrative has always struck me as very similar to Christian apocalypticism: we're all sinners, we're all doomed, the end is nigh. It's interesting that this materialist perspective maps so perfectly on to the Christian one, don't you think? It might be true! The world will doubtlessly come to an end one day. But for all of the mad prognosticating over the last 2000+ years (probably longer, IDK), it hasn't yet.
Doomerism may be endemic to our species, because it's very hard for us to see or imagine the world past a typical human lifespan. 70-80 years is about as much bandwidth as most of us have. (See, I'm a materialist. The human body gives us a number of material limits within which we must operate.)
You are correct: some transgender people have children--most of them had them before they "transitioned." But I'm afraid that the current transgender craze is a blind pouch, or a cul-de-sac, of broken lineage and infertility. But having children makes most people happy, so I think it's a scandal that our educational and theraputic establishment are taking away that option for so many before they can understand what they're giving up.
I’d like to add to this list all of the ex-friends and their moms who affirmed and affirmed away, who have all moved on, and are now happily enjoying the rest of their lives
Ugh, the woman who posted pictures of my child and her friends, many of whom struggled with gender dysphoria, with the caption, “All the kids who call me mom!” I don’t even have social media; I had to hear about it from a friend. I believe the term is “glitter mom.” My child’s best friend’s mother. Thought she was being such a woke hero. If she knew, if she experienced just a little bit of the absolute hell we’ve been through, she would never have supported this. But anything to look like a hashtag ally!!
you are so right! Parents of other children who were not going through this who took it upon themselves to 'affirm' our children. Maybe we could hold a spot in Dante's circle just for them.
Sometimes I wonder if the damage to the families is always collateral. It feels like at least some of the glitter activists and "teachers" inflict it intentionally, wanting to destroy others out of spite, jealousy, and hatred. ( In a malicious Look-at-your- gifted-son / your -beautiful -daughter/ your-perfect-family now!)
It's like a Grimm's fairy tale come to life.
The longer this goes on, the more I think about Greek mythology, Aesop's fables, and the Grimm brothers.
🫂. Devastating I’m so sorry.
On the national level I didn’t vote for Trump (or Harris) but as one who watched with horror as the Biden administration proposed regulations that would have allowed men to shower with my daughter and granddaughter I do admire the steps his administration has taken to restore a degree of sanity to this important area of human relations.
Well done. Captures perfectly how many people are affected by the trans identified person and the ideology they've fallen prey to. It's almost as if they are in the eye of the hurricane, oblivious to the havoc being wreaked outside of the eye. It's taken so much from us - but I refuse to wallow in the role of victim. It's a struggle every day.
I am always dismayed by the numbers of people prepared to lie to one another, especially to loved ones.
As for the teachers, doctors, therapists and surgeons who perpetrated this catastrophe, I just wonder when the exposes will begin to roll out. Whether they admit to their complicity, or they are exposed by their colleagues, it will happen. And I suspect those revelations will be earth-shattering.
They are rolling out.
There are a number of detransitioner lawsuits going on right now.
There are a number of lawsuits over men in women's prisons going on.
There are lawsuits going before the Supreme Court over men in women's sports.
Besides that, left-wing women have been publishing exposes online (and, when they can, in right-wing publications) for years already. Read Reduxx. The exposes are there.
Great article. I would also like to acknowledge spouses, the trans-widows, who have been gaslit, tortured, shamed, and discarded while having their whole world shattered.
Yes, their suffering is intense