Realizing that there are other parents in this situation, who see that this makes no sense and don’t believe the lies, has kept me sane. It’s been six years now with my daughter, and countless nights that I’ve laid awake sobbing at 3 am. But eventually you accept what you can’t control, and you look for the small moments to plant seeds of doubt in their minds, and you love them anyhow, and you learn to keep you sanity and hope that someday they’ll come to their senses. I still think it will happen with my daughter.
What a moving story - your desire to be a mom and your love for your son tugged on my heartstrings. Sadly, you are once again not alone but this time it is because of an evil cult, a cult that is stealing our children. How did we end up here, together, terrified for our children? We must stand strong together until every child is free from the trans lies. We need each other more now than ever before. God help us, and please have mercy on our children. Help them all to desist or detransition. People who are harming our children need to be held accountable. I am here for all of you, praying daily. Do not
My two did this in their thirties. Now in their forties. They have kids. Divorced from their kids’s other parents. I have very little hope for their desistance. One has not spoken to me since 2017. I have three grandchildren with these two. No contact there either. I try not to think about it because there is nothing I can do.
No,my younger son (I have four children) thinks he is female and my younger daughter thinks she is man. They have three children and divorced spouses. It is such abuse to their children that they pretend to be a father (my daughter to her daughter ) and a second mom (my son to his son and daughter).
"There has been a 4000 (yes, 4000) percent increase in adolescents and young adults unexpectedly deciding that they have been born in the wrong body. Why don’t more people think this is odd?"
Right????
And, the 4000% number is about 5 years old. I would be greater now.
I was just listening to a clip where Obama recently said how important it is for boys to have a "gay or non-binary friend" to teach empathy. Why is he still claiming that people can be neither male nor female? Does he understand what he is talking about at all? Does he want young people to go to Queerdoc.com for their nullifications?
It is the same interview where Obama said boys should have a non-binary friend.
It sounds like a great deal of spin. Suddenly, he has a concern about how men and boys have been told they are "toxic" - because his side lost.
"progressive parents, enlightened ones" - oxymoron here
"Obama’s willingness to scold his own side, and indeed himself". He needs to scold himself about opening the door to transgenderism and getting it all paid for under Obamacare/ACA - see Jennifer Bilek:
" Obama made transgenderism a pet issue of his administration, holding a meeting at the White House (the first ever) for transgenderism.
"We have to shift the conversation from seeing men as being the problem to men as having problems." This makes it sound like men need to sit around in group therapy rather than be busy and productive with jobs and family.
"We rightly have tried to invest in girls to make sure that there's a level playing field and then they're not barred from opportunities." Like in sports?
With the latest disclosures by DI Tulsi Gabbard Obama should be worried about jail time:
"Barack Obama Now Squarely in Russiagate Crosshairs
New disclosures from a Tulsi Gabbard-led working group point directly to the top, as the legacy of "Hope and Change" begins a plunge to the ocean floor"
Idk, struggle to respect now that I am aware of the cultural influence he has had & my family has not fared well under it. We are mamma bears after all
Thanks for writing this. I share the fears about my 18 yr old son. I think he will desist too but wow, such a loonytoons spell they are under. It would be easier if adults didn’t support this so often. Fingers crossed sanity will prevail.
I still have these nights, even though my daughter has desisted to the point that she is no longer planning on anything medical. But every time she puts on that dreadful binder (rarely, and I suppose/hope it's more of an outfit thing; she's 20), the pain returns. And the questions. What have I done that she can't be content with her femininity? Why does this horrible ideology even exist? How can I help her appreciate reality? Etc etc. One day this will all be in the past. I pray for all of us, and all of our kids to remain at least physically unscathed... and for our hearts and THEIRS to be mended.
I doubt you did or said anything to put her off becoming a woman, Running Raven. That obviously came from external influences. I do often think that the trans phenomenon is in great part due to a subconscious fear of taking on the expectations and responsibilities of being a woman (or man). Exacerbated by a general sense of dread brought on by a loss of faith in a personal or even societal or global future.
Regarding your daughter, have you expressed to her how much it hurts you to see her wear the binder? How you worry about the permanent effect it could have on her physically?
Thank you for such a thoughtful essay. I too am familiar with the feeling of lying awake in the night, and the thoughts that come. Panic is a constant and intimate bed companion. I saw this was first published in 2021. Has your son yet desisted?
Another mom here. Can’t count the times I’ve lied awake with tears flowing thinking about my extremely smart, sweet boy. And how he could even think he is not a boy. I pray and so hope you are right, that they will all desist or detransition. Love to all the parents out there enduring this global nightmare.
Thinking about all of the moms lying awake at night…crying. yes. Me. And me too.
Realizing that there are other parents in this situation, who see that this makes no sense and don’t believe the lies, has kept me sane. It’s been six years now with my daughter, and countless nights that I’ve laid awake sobbing at 3 am. But eventually you accept what you can’t control, and you look for the small moments to plant seeds of doubt in their minds, and you love them anyhow, and you learn to keep you sanity and hope that someday they’ll come to their senses. I still think it will happen with my daughter.
I pray for my daughter to return and all who are waiting. I fear she will never return.
💕
I pray and cry everyday. Thank you for your words. They give me hope.
Finding a group of like minded parents has helped me tremendously. It helps me to know I am not alone in questioning this ideology.
What a moving story - your desire to be a mom and your love for your son tugged on my heartstrings. Sadly, you are once again not alone but this time it is because of an evil cult, a cult that is stealing our children. How did we end up here, together, terrified for our children? We must stand strong together until every child is free from the trans lies. We need each other more now than ever before. God help us, and please have mercy on our children. Help them all to desist or detransition. People who are harming our children need to be held accountable. I am here for all of you, praying daily. Do not
give up HOPE!
My two did this in their thirties. Now in their forties. They have kids. Divorced from their kids’s other parents. I have very little hope for their desistance. One has not spoken to me since 2017. I have three grandchildren with these two. No contact there either. I try not to think about it because there is nothing I can do.
I am so sorry. It is so painful.
MeriBear- how difficult that must be to have both adult children fall into this cult. Are they both the same sex?
No,my younger son (I have four children) thinks he is female and my younger daughter thinks she is man. They have three children and divorced spouses. It is such abuse to their children that they pretend to be a father (my daughter to her daughter ) and a second mom (my son to his son and daughter).
I have no words…. 😶 this culture has GOT to change, how can this in any way be right
That is so sad and tragic.
I am so glad you have a group of people to support you through this trying journey.
"There has been a 4000 (yes, 4000) percent increase in adolescents and young adults unexpectedly deciding that they have been born in the wrong body. Why don’t more people think this is odd?"
Right????
And, the 4000% number is about 5 years old. I would be greater now.
I was just listening to a clip where Obama recently said how important it is for boys to have a "gay or non-binary friend" to teach empathy. Why is he still claiming that people can be neither male nor female? Does he understand what he is talking about at all? Does he want young people to go to Queerdoc.com for their nullifications?
https://queerdoc.com/nullectomy-nullification/
😞that’s really disappointing…a recent clip? I hoped that language was dying out
I came across it somewhere else - but from a quick search here it is from 2 very different sources:
1)"Obama Explains Why Men Need Gay and Nonbinary Friends
Now that's what we call healthy masculinity!
By Abby Monteil July 18, 2025"
https://www.them.us/obama-michelle-barack-gay-nonbinary-friends
and
2) "Obama Says Fathers Aren’t Enough, Boys Need Gay and Non-Binary Friends [WATCH]
By LifeZette News Staff July 19, 2025"
https://www.lifezette.com/2025/07/obama-says-fathers-arent-enough-boys-need-gay-and-non-binary-friends-watch/
Kinda fuming about this honestly, like, it’s a bit late now, but I guess I should be positive
https://open.substack.com/pub/ofboysandmen/p/obama-on-the-male-malaise-8-takeaways?r=1p6k6u&utm_medium=ios
It is the same interview where Obama said boys should have a non-binary friend.
It sounds like a great deal of spin. Suddenly, he has a concern about how men and boys have been told they are "toxic" - because his side lost.
"progressive parents, enlightened ones" - oxymoron here
"Obama’s willingness to scold his own side, and indeed himself". He needs to scold himself about opening the door to transgenderism and getting it all paid for under Obamacare/ACA - see Jennifer Bilek:
" Obama made transgenderism a pet issue of his administration, holding a meeting at the White House (the first ever) for transgenderism.
https://www.thestandardsc.org/jennifer-bilek/billionaires-funding-transgender-movement-for-profit/
"We have to shift the conversation from seeing men as being the problem to men as having problems." This makes it sound like men need to sit around in group therapy rather than be busy and productive with jobs and family.
"We rightly have tried to invest in girls to make sure that there's a level playing field and then they're not barred from opportunities." Like in sports?
With the latest disclosures by DI Tulsi Gabbard Obama should be worried about jail time:
"Barack Obama Now Squarely in Russiagate Crosshairs
New disclosures from a Tulsi Gabbard-led working group point directly to the top, as the legacy of "Hope and Change" begins a plunge to the ocean floor"
https://www.racket.news/p/barack-obama-now-squarely-in-russiagate
Idk, struggle to respect now that I am aware of the cultural influence he has had & my family has not fared well under it. We are mamma bears after all
I voted for Obama the first time and now I think he was the most destructive president ever.
Made the mistake of clicking that link. Horrifying.
Same here. Ugh. I wish I could un-see and un-read what I saw and read!
"Life Saving Medically Necessary Affirmative Medical Care" though, right?
All of it is horrifying.
Why do any of these Frankenstein "gender" quacks still have licenses to practice "medicine"?
At the FTC conference Dr. Grossman showed how insurance codes are used fraudulently.
Thanks for writing this. I share the fears about my 18 yr old son. I think he will desist too but wow, such a loonytoons spell they are under. It would be easier if adults didn’t support this so often. Fingers crossed sanity will prevail.
I still have these nights, even though my daughter has desisted to the point that she is no longer planning on anything medical. But every time she puts on that dreadful binder (rarely, and I suppose/hope it's more of an outfit thing; she's 20), the pain returns. And the questions. What have I done that she can't be content with her femininity? Why does this horrible ideology even exist? How can I help her appreciate reality? Etc etc. One day this will all be in the past. I pray for all of us, and all of our kids to remain at least physically unscathed... and for our hearts and THEIRS to be mended.
I doubt you did or said anything to put her off becoming a woman, Running Raven. That obviously came from external influences. I do often think that the trans phenomenon is in great part due to a subconscious fear of taking on the expectations and responsibilities of being a woman (or man). Exacerbated by a general sense of dread brought on by a loss of faith in a personal or even societal or global future.
Regarding your daughter, have you expressed to her how much it hurts you to see her wear the binder? How you worry about the permanent effect it could have on her physically?
We are one in this awful situation. When I found the ROGD parent group, I no longer felt crazy. I had parents with the same or similar stories.
Thank you for such a thoughtful essay. I too am familiar with the feeling of lying awake in the night, and the thoughts that come. Panic is a constant and intimate bed companion. I saw this was first published in 2021. Has your son yet desisted?
Thank you for writing this, for being so honest and sharing your hope. Your strength gives me strength. ❤️
You have a beautiful spirit. Thank you for helping to uplift us!
Another mom here. Can’t count the times I’ve lied awake with tears flowing thinking about my extremely smart, sweet boy. And how he could even think he is not a boy. I pray and so hope you are right, that they will all desist or detransition. Love to all the parents out there enduring this global nightmare.