Same! I still have the trains and cars. And I’m not a girly mom. So don’t tell me kiddo that you’re a girl because you now claim you like pink and try nail polish, insinuating that I am not female because I don’t like pink and wear nail polish.
I’m a woman because I pushed you out of places only a woman and have. And I wiped your parts only a male can have.
But yes, yes you were ALL boy. If anything I should have been “trans!”
I liked playing in the dirt and hung out with the boys, I hate dresses and jewelry, high heels and flower patterns. I’d rather build a fort than play Barbie’s. So how do you explain your identity theory for me?
So many of our teen/YA boys were gender CONFORMING. They are sensitive, gifted, introverted, and probably high in neuroticism. If psychology really cared about what is going on with all these kids declaring "trans" identities, they would be conducting studies trying to get to the bottom - how many were abused, groomed online, algorithm induced, school, peers. Such a shame therapy has been captured.
Snap, I have another one of those boys, Thomas the tank engine, Bob the builder, står wars, Lego, Minecraft, dungeons & dragons etc etc. And then trans. No sense at all.
Please know that it's not about your childrearing or any decisions you made about your children. It's absolutely not.
It's about adult groomers online grooming innocent kids into a cult.
It's about schools grooming innocent kids into a cult.
It's about the extraordinary hold on our zeitgeist that has been gained by a cult.
And it's about the shocking reach of this financial lobby and how far they got in secret, before we all started realizing they were dragging our kids into a cult.
This sounds so much like my son and his story: obsessed with Brio track building, lined up cars, then Lego. He made stop action videos with his Lego figures to depict the creation story, with background music, at 9-10 years old. Nerdy, amazing memory, avid reader, made computers, jump started a friend's mother's car at 8 yrs old. Loved cats, his dog, schooled horses, had jobs, gifted pianist, but no organized sports. After a PhD and in medical school, he experienced not fitting in, isolation......then after graduation, as an angry bitter man, he decides to transition to female and rewrote his narrative. He now tries to fit in with lesbian females. He is neuro-divergent, he will never fit into average and typical, and the underlying bitterness and hurt remains.
I could have written this...My son's childhood was very similar. I think the lies he has told everyone about his childhood is part of the reason he does not want us in his life because we know the truth and we challenge him we he insists he does not have ROGD. He was not athletic though he played little league and basketball when he was small. He was on the robotics team. He loved trains. We sent a wonderful young man off to college and what we received back after 4 years was a depressed angry self involved "woman". It breaks my heart that so many families have been destroyed by this cult. I have hope that one day he will see there are many different ways to be a man.
So depressing that this is what they put their brains & energy into & that they have zero tolerance of their ‘stoopid’ parents. The doctors aren’t the enemy, we are.
I remember sitting so long next to the train tracks with my son (because the commuter rail runs so rarely on the weekends, and he wouldn't leave until he saw the train) that the police drove by to see if we were all right.
I remember before my son could talk, when he was a baby, he cried in a restaurant, and he never cried. I asked the waitress to turn on the ceiling fan. Somehow I understood he was distressed because he thought it was broken.
My son got over his trans delusion. I hope yours will too.
Our daughter & her brother are 2 years apart & we had all the things & never made any comments about girl vs boy toys. Both are extremely intelligent & were very into these same things-trains planes building etc & oh we had a wonderful house on the end of a dead end with a huge yard & swings & sandbox & flowers trees cats etc & we hatched butterflies & went to all the museums & zoos & parks & beaches. But according to our girl she had a terrible childhood that traumatized her. School & teachers were horrible bc they didn’t know what to do with her. But it all began with Minecraft for us as well. I think these kids all have in common intelligence & interests that eclipse their more (how to not sound mean?) average peers & they feel left out. I remember feeling very lost in high school bc I didn’t care about chasing boys or getting in trouble I just wanted to do well in school & read & paint & draw. Chasing popularity meh. Not into team sports liked going to the ocean on my bike.
The power of "suggestion"...look what it has done to your son, and thousands of other children. Whoever suggested that "you were born in the wrong body" is responsible for causing this social contagion, which is ruining lives, relationships, innocent kids' good heath, and their futures. Hang on to your receipts because you do indeed have proof that he was not interested in girl stuff. He was all boy - until he wasn't. So sad what this evil ideology is doing to our innocent children. There is nothing wrong with being nerdy - we need nerds, nerds are smart and cool and unique. Not everyone can be the quarterback! Not everyone can be the head cheerleader, either. But the tomboys and the nerds are the kids who have the most fun in life because they explorer. I know because I was a tomboy, and I was brave! I was not afraid to catch a grasshopper off the lawn and show it to the neighborhood kids. I was fast and could grab a garden snake before it slithered away. I enjoyed the fear of climbing the tree just so I could be up high and look around. My nephew was a nerd and smart and cool! But someone made that horrible "suggestion" to him, and he began to believe the lies. I am sad for every parent who is going through this very difficult time in history - when girls will be boys and boys will be girls; it's a mixed-up world...just like the song warned so many years ago.
Felt this article so much! I have a daughter who thinks she is a boy and told me it's who she's always been. Yes she played with cars and had a Thomas the Tank Engine phase (I was a childminder so she gad equal access yo all toys!) but the princess dresses, barbies, moshi monsters, beanie babies, Monster high dolls, Dora the Explorer and many many more were her favourites.... like you say I have the memories and some of the yoys still too..... she can't fool me.
Exactly the same receipts with my son, too! He still loves his computer building and now is creating soft ware. I haven't seen or heard from him except once in 10 years but I've been informed he's well and employed at the moment. In my case both my daughters- his big sisters whom he admired and respected groomed him as Trans they being nauseating strident feminists. Hey they get to display their trans flags in their front yards,though. By association they are so cool, they think.
So sorry to hear that your daughters groomed your son. Apparently they never understood that women's rights have been intentionally undermined by the trans cult and its backers.
I've been excised from the family but I'm permitted contact providing I continue to bail them out of debt and provide presents to the grandchildren. Just a couple of months ago I announced that I was no longer willing to provide gifts, etc. or be relied upon for financial back up anymore. The grandchildren are being taught to treat me as their parents treat me... an antiquated old woman they do not have to respect. Do you know after all these years none of the grandchildren has ever said thanks for various birthday or Xmas gifts I've sent. Recently, it occured to me it's possible I send the gifts and no one even knows I sent them.
I’m so sorry. It’s heartbreaking. Our kids view relationships as transactional; it’s very disappointing. Perhaps by setting boundaries they will realize how they have been behaving. Peace and strength to you.
You must know that a TERF is a radical feminist: viciously hated, more than anyone else, by the transgenderists—because radicals feminists are the ones who were fighting the transgenderist lobby for so many years before any of the rest of us even heard about it.
Allison Bailey, Kathleen Stock, Kara Dansky, Jennifer Bilek, JK Rowling: the women who have made the greatest strides to defeat the transgenderist lobby are all lifelong hardcore feminists.
It's the wimpy so-called "third-wave feminists" who go along with it.
As a Republican politician told Kara Dansky, "The TERFs are going to save us all."
When I see one of my daughters encouraaging one of her sons to become a They/ Them... and another advising their daughter age 10 that she doesn't have to accept being female and she would support her in any transition or identity she may want to embrace.... yes... I find this behaviour nauseating. My puberty was difficult enough without throwing these kinds of comments about the at times unsettling body changes that take place from childhood to adolesence. It's hard to accept their point of view. When I observe both daughters putting down men who are very masculine and constantly refer to man-splaining and alpha tendancies while also putting down men who hunt and fish and lift weights... It's hard to accept. Both are recently divorced. So they carry and communicate "that" bagge to their children. I don't know all the terms but I thought a feminist was a person who behaves like my daughters. After all, their youngest sibling adored them and thought they were so cool because they were popular at school. Clearly, his sisters were not antiquated like his parents.... Both of them encouraged my son to question his masculinity and advised him to entertain becoming female. One has a flag announcing her position on gender. The other has bumper stickers plastered all over her car. They regularly attend the LGBT ... etc. parades and drag along their 4 and 5 year old children to them. Your comment makes me uncomfortable. I hope my reply provides the information you require to be less judgmental about my statement that I feel their behaviour is nauseating.
Starting in the Nineties and through about 2015 I worked as a psychologist with quite a few adult men who were questioning their sexual identities. The process of retroactively self-reassigning their sex was very evident in many of them as the decision to transition medically hardened in their thinking. I was surprised that so many of these guys who had been in quite conventional masculine roles their entire lives were claiming to have been feminine since childhood. I see the same thing happening now with girl clients who suddenly decide they are "nonbinary."
Similar story for us. My daughter was extremely feminine. I got 23 and a half incredibly delightful years. She was my easy child, until the trans cult. Next month is my birthday. The day she informed her parents her once very healthy body was being poisoned by the politics are assigned herself. Admitting she never once considered herself anything but female. However the therapist convinced her she would "feel better". When I asked what if she stops taking the drugs and she replied she wasn't going to, I saw the suicidal pergatory in her eyes. She moved to the other side of the country to drown in her choice. It's over. All the happy times, love, hope, dreams. It's gone. I'm left to pick up the pieces as though her parents are emotional rocks and not the human beings that deserve the kindness and love the pride groups tout but suffocate. There isn't a single day I don't question everything with a sadness that keeps me from sleeping and each day wondering why I'm still here. Not one day without an emotional breakdown.
You're not alone, I hear your pain. Our story as well. I got 22 wonderful years with my easy, delightful daughter. It's hard not to give up hope. My daughter has started to come back into our lives a tiny bit, but she is a different person. The detransiitoners give me hope. But for now I'm trying to focus on my healing, trying to learn to live again.
Same! I still have the trains and cars. And I’m not a girly mom. So don’t tell me kiddo that you’re a girl because you now claim you like pink and try nail polish, insinuating that I am not female because I don’t like pink and wear nail polish.
I’m a woman because I pushed you out of places only a woman and have. And I wiped your parts only a male can have.
But yes, yes you were ALL boy. If anything I should have been “trans!”
I liked playing in the dirt and hung out with the boys, I hate dresses and jewelry, high heels and flower patterns. I’d rather build a fort than play Barbie’s. So how do you explain your identity theory for me?
Drives me insane. 🤪
So many of our teen/YA boys were gender CONFORMING. They are sensitive, gifted, introverted, and probably high in neuroticism. If psychology really cared about what is going on with all these kids declaring "trans" identities, they would be conducting studies trying to get to the bottom - how many were abused, groomed online, algorithm induced, school, peers. Such a shame therapy has been captured.
Snap, I have another one of those boys, Thomas the tank engine, Bob the builder, står wars, Lego, Minecraft, dungeons & dragons etc etc. And then trans. No sense at all.
Please know that it's not about your childrearing or any decisions you made about your children. It's absolutely not.
It's about adult groomers online grooming innocent kids into a cult.
It's about schools grooming innocent kids into a cult.
It's about the extraordinary hold on our zeitgeist that has been gained by a cult.
And it's about the shocking reach of this financial lobby and how far they got in secret, before we all started realizing they were dragging our kids into a cult.
This sounds so much like my son and his story: obsessed with Brio track building, lined up cars, then Lego. He made stop action videos with his Lego figures to depict the creation story, with background music, at 9-10 years old. Nerdy, amazing memory, avid reader, made computers, jump started a friend's mother's car at 8 yrs old. Loved cats, his dog, schooled horses, had jobs, gifted pianist, but no organized sports. After a PhD and in medical school, he experienced not fitting in, isolation......then after graduation, as an angry bitter man, he decides to transition to female and rewrote his narrative. He now tries to fit in with lesbian females. He is neuro-divergent, he will never fit into average and typical, and the underlying bitterness and hurt remains.
Yes! We still have big tub with Brio tracks.
I could have written this...My son's childhood was very similar. I think the lies he has told everyone about his childhood is part of the reason he does not want us in his life because we know the truth and we challenge him we he insists he does not have ROGD. He was not athletic though he played little league and basketball when he was small. He was on the robotics team. He loved trains. We sent a wonderful young man off to college and what we received back after 4 years was a depressed angry self involved "woman". It breaks my heart that so many families have been destroyed by this cult. I have hope that one day he will see there are many different ways to be a man.
So depressing that this is what they put their brains & energy into & that they have zero tolerance of their ‘stoopid’ parents. The doctors aren’t the enemy, we are.
I like "different parents, same son."
I remember sitting so long next to the train tracks with my son (because the commuter rail runs so rarely on the weekends, and he wouldn't leave until he saw the train) that the police drove by to see if we were all right.
I remember before my son could talk, when he was a baby, he cried in a restaurant, and he never cried. I asked the waitress to turn on the ceiling fan. Somehow I understood he was distressed because he thought it was broken.
My son got over his trans delusion. I hope yours will too.
Our daughter & her brother are 2 years apart & we had all the things & never made any comments about girl vs boy toys. Both are extremely intelligent & were very into these same things-trains planes building etc & oh we had a wonderful house on the end of a dead end with a huge yard & swings & sandbox & flowers trees cats etc & we hatched butterflies & went to all the museums & zoos & parks & beaches. But according to our girl she had a terrible childhood that traumatized her. School & teachers were horrible bc they didn’t know what to do with her. But it all began with Minecraft for us as well. I think these kids all have in common intelligence & interests that eclipse their more (how to not sound mean?) average peers & they feel left out. I remember feeling very lost in high school bc I didn’t care about chasing boys or getting in trouble I just wanted to do well in school & read & paint & draw. Chasing popularity meh. Not into team sports liked going to the ocean on my bike.
The power of "suggestion"...look what it has done to your son, and thousands of other children. Whoever suggested that "you were born in the wrong body" is responsible for causing this social contagion, which is ruining lives, relationships, innocent kids' good heath, and their futures. Hang on to your receipts because you do indeed have proof that he was not interested in girl stuff. He was all boy - until he wasn't. So sad what this evil ideology is doing to our innocent children. There is nothing wrong with being nerdy - we need nerds, nerds are smart and cool and unique. Not everyone can be the quarterback! Not everyone can be the head cheerleader, either. But the tomboys and the nerds are the kids who have the most fun in life because they explorer. I know because I was a tomboy, and I was brave! I was not afraid to catch a grasshopper off the lawn and show it to the neighborhood kids. I was fast and could grab a garden snake before it slithered away. I enjoyed the fear of climbing the tree just so I could be up high and look around. My nephew was a nerd and smart and cool! But someone made that horrible "suggestion" to him, and he began to believe the lies. I am sad for every parent who is going through this very difficult time in history - when girls will be boys and boys will be girls; it's a mixed-up world...just like the song warned so many years ago.
I rode home from the hospital as a newborn with this Kinks 8 track playing. And then 42 years later, my son...
Felt this article so much! I have a daughter who thinks she is a boy and told me it's who she's always been. Yes she played with cars and had a Thomas the Tank Engine phase (I was a childminder so she gad equal access yo all toys!) but the princess dresses, barbies, moshi monsters, beanie babies, Monster high dolls, Dora the Explorer and many many more were her favourites.... like you say I have the memories and some of the yoys still too..... she can't fool me.
Exactly the same receipts with my son, too! He still loves his computer building and now is creating soft ware. I haven't seen or heard from him except once in 10 years but I've been informed he's well and employed at the moment. In my case both my daughters- his big sisters whom he admired and respected groomed him as Trans they being nauseating strident feminists. Hey they get to display their trans flags in their front yards,though. By association they are so cool, they think.
So sorry to hear that your daughters groomed your son. Apparently they never understood that women's rights have been intentionally undermined by the trans cult and its backers.
10 years is a long time. Are your daughters talking to you or because you aren't a believer you have to be excised from the family?
I've been excised from the family but I'm permitted contact providing I continue to bail them out of debt and provide presents to the grandchildren. Just a couple of months ago I announced that I was no longer willing to provide gifts, etc. or be relied upon for financial back up anymore. The grandchildren are being taught to treat me as their parents treat me... an antiquated old woman they do not have to respect. Do you know after all these years none of the grandchildren has ever said thanks for various birthday or Xmas gifts I've sent. Recently, it occured to me it's possible I send the gifts and no one even knows I sent them.
I’m so sorry. It’s heartbreaking. Our kids view relationships as transactional; it’s very disappointing. Perhaps by setting boundaries they will realize how they have been behaving. Peace and strength to you.
Did you just call your own daughters nauseating?
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You must know that a TERF is a radical feminist: viciously hated, more than anyone else, by the transgenderists—because radicals feminists are the ones who were fighting the transgenderist lobby for so many years before any of the rest of us even heard about it.
Allison Bailey, Kathleen Stock, Kara Dansky, Jennifer Bilek, JK Rowling: the women who have made the greatest strides to defeat the transgenderist lobby are all lifelong hardcore feminists.
It's the wimpy so-called "third-wave feminists" who go along with it.
As a Republican politician told Kara Dansky, "The TERFs are going to save us all."
When I see one of my daughters encouraaging one of her sons to become a They/ Them... and another advising their daughter age 10 that she doesn't have to accept being female and she would support her in any transition or identity she may want to embrace.... yes... I find this behaviour nauseating. My puberty was difficult enough without throwing these kinds of comments about the at times unsettling body changes that take place from childhood to adolesence. It's hard to accept their point of view. When I observe both daughters putting down men who are very masculine and constantly refer to man-splaining and alpha tendancies while also putting down men who hunt and fish and lift weights... It's hard to accept. Both are recently divorced. So they carry and communicate "that" bagge to their children. I don't know all the terms but I thought a feminist was a person who behaves like my daughters. After all, their youngest sibling adored them and thought they were so cool because they were popular at school. Clearly, his sisters were not antiquated like his parents.... Both of them encouraged my son to question his masculinity and advised him to entertain becoming female. One has a flag announcing her position on gender. The other has bumper stickers plastered all over her car. They regularly attend the LGBT ... etc. parades and drag along their 4 and 5 year old children to them. Your comment makes me uncomfortable. I hope my reply provides the information you require to be less judgmental about my statement that I feel their behaviour is nauseating.
Wow, that’s such a strange story. I always thought ‘wait til you have kids, then you’ll really know what this is like’. But yours do!!
So sorry for your situation. Its awful.
Yes I could have written this. A group of girls groomed him. One girl who identifies make wanted a relationship so told him he’s trans.
I could have written most of this. Still fighting here.
Starting in the Nineties and through about 2015 I worked as a psychologist with quite a few adult men who were questioning their sexual identities. The process of retroactively self-reassigning their sex was very evident in many of them as the decision to transition medically hardened in their thinking. I was surprised that so many of these guys who had been in quite conventional masculine roles their entire lives were claiming to have been feminine since childhood. I see the same thing happening now with girl clients who suddenly decide they are "nonbinary."
Hold onto your receipts and your memories, folks. We can give them back once this lunacy has passed!
Similar story for us. My daughter was extremely feminine. I got 23 and a half incredibly delightful years. She was my easy child, until the trans cult. Next month is my birthday. The day she informed her parents her once very healthy body was being poisoned by the politics are assigned herself. Admitting she never once considered herself anything but female. However the therapist convinced her she would "feel better". When I asked what if she stops taking the drugs and she replied she wasn't going to, I saw the suicidal pergatory in her eyes. She moved to the other side of the country to drown in her choice. It's over. All the happy times, love, hope, dreams. It's gone. I'm left to pick up the pieces as though her parents are emotional rocks and not the human beings that deserve the kindness and love the pride groups tout but suffocate. There isn't a single day I don't question everything with a sadness that keeps me from sleeping and each day wondering why I'm still here. Not one day without an emotional breakdown.
Ditto. I often wonder why am I still here?
Don’t say that, it means the dark side is winning. Shouldn’t be a courtroom, but it kinda is.
You're not alone, I hear your pain. Our story as well. I got 22 wonderful years with my easy, delightful daughter. It's hard not to give up hope. My daughter has started to come back into our lives a tiny bit, but she is a different person. The detransiitoners give me hope. But for now I'm trying to focus on my healing, trying to learn to live again.