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Wendi Shaffner's avatar

You are smarter than everyone else now. Nothing can trick you anymore. I’m sorry you had to go through this, but so glad you made it. You will be able to love others now better than ever.

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Anne S Betancourt's avatar

Kudos to you for speaking about your journey! And praise God you now know the truth! Focus on continuing to seek Truth. His name is Jesus and He died that you might know the truth and it will set you free!

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Un-silent's avatar

Heartbreaking. People need to know the truth, this article needs to be read by anyone thinking of taking the predator's drugs to transition.

https://www.midwesterndoctor.com/p/hormone-blockers-are-very-dangerous

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Poeima's avatar

Thank you for sharing. Beautiful poem. So glad that you see the truth and are willing to speak up. Keep going

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Deadnames's avatar

It makes me so happy to read a positive story in this space. I gives all the parent of cult stollen kids hope. My daughter is transitioning and is 30 years old. She too was captured by the evil groomers on Tik tok. She is very bitter toward me but I know that it is the cult speaking. She is not happy & doesn't even know it. Our family is forever changed & I am sad every day. I am so very happy for your entire family & hope you all cling together & heal in truth & love. Bless you all!

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Laura G's avatar

Beautiful! You are strong ♥️

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Terf vibes's avatar

You've had to grow up fast, learning life lessons most of us take decades of adulthood to learn - especially about our parents. TikTok with Trans has turned a whole generation of young people against their parents and against themselves. You were lucky at least that your parents didn't go along with the groupthink. Some desisters speaking out now were 'affirmed' by their parents (who tend to be damned if we do or don't 'affirm') and are angry with them for that. I hope your physical health is not damaged irreparably. Thank you for your poignant poem.

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Indio's avatar

We love you, here, and that will never change. We are so grateful that you have seen the truth. This what we yearn for in our families. As we wait for our misguided and lost loved ones to come to the realization of how destructive this cult is, we read your poem and weep with joy for you. You, and other Detransitioners give us hope. Please forgive yourself for being misled, dear one. You have your life to live, now. What gets me through this life is the love of Jesus. His love is endless and helps us to keep on going and loving no matter what.

Love, Indio

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CA mom's avatar

I love that you so bravely shared. Thank you. I hope you will continue to tell your story in some format.

It seems like a question that arises repeatedly from different parents (including me) with different essays is, “what caused you to desist?” Perhaps there is another PITT post in your future?

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Victoria's avatar

author here, what ultimately made me desist was reading Abigail Shrier's Irreversible Damage. My parents used reverse psychology on me, they told me that i would get triggered by reading it and i should not open it, while it was blatantly lying on my dads desk. So one day I decided to read it and it opened my eyes

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CA mom's avatar

Would love to hear more about that in a future essay (hint) ❤️

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Victoria's avatar

I already wrote one it's titled "they pushed me into this ideology and tried to keep me there forever"

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Beeswax's avatar

Ha! This makes my heart sing.

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Helene's avatar

Heartbreaking but beautiful

Welcome back

Here you're loved unconditionally

No terms or end of lease

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Anne's avatar

😪🙏

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Emily Ann's avatar

"I wonder, where did all their love go?" Wow.

Exactly the question I am afraid my daughter will ask one day if/when people turn on her.

I am so happy that it sounds as though your eyes were opened before you did anything physically harmful, but sad that you had to go through this and that activists pitted you against your parents.

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Ross's avatar

On reading your comment I just whipped up some revised lyrics for 'Where did all our love go" (the best version of which is actually by Softcell https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6pGPeFdJH_E)

Baby baby. Where did all your love go?

I see I'm not needed

In your cult no more

I came in to your life

Searching and wondering

And you told me trans

Was my inner 'truth'

Oh baby baby, where did all your love go?

When I woke up

And saw you were the fool?

Oh baby baby, now you go and hate me

You remonstrate me

For understanding the truth

Now baby, baby. Why don't you join me?

Appreciate and applaud me

You can leave the cult too

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Joanna Vital Health's avatar

Hi Emily Ann,

Yes, that's what these groomers do...they try to pit the child against the parents and "lovebombing" is part of that.

I wrote about it in my reply to the Desister's Poem below.

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Joanna Vital Health's avatar

Thanks for this whole writing, especially this:

"Now that I’m out of this deep hole,

I wonder, where did all their love go?"

Yes, the "transmafia" grooms people. They consist of the groomers and the groomed (sometimes in the same individual).

Whenever possible, we have to NOT let their voices be the only ones heard on this.

That's why I go to the public speaking sessions here in NYC's Community Education District Council 2. I brought up how the tranmafia LOVEBOMBS as part of GROOMING when I spoke in the 2nd session in March 2025.

Below is the Link, cued to where I start speaking. It is only about 2 minutes long, and a very worthwhile watch. My private email appears beneath it in case you, or any other like-minded person, wants to get in touch.

LINK:

https://www.youtube.com/live/aywk8z35_i0?si=iOcV7aFY7TlkjGtu&t=11410

EMAIL:

JoannaVitalHealth@protonmail.com

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Martha Jane Shoultz's avatar

Every word of what you said is true, according to so many desisters and detransitioners. I know so many others will see themselves in this poem. Thank you for this eloquent expression of your experience with manipulative adults who destroy the lives of children and vulnerable youth.

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Hippiesq's avatar

You hit the nail on the head with this poem. Your observations about society are as accurate as they are frightening.

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Joan P's avatar

I salute your strength and your resolve to get through. It couldn’t have been easy. Thank you for sharing your experiences, your views, your realizations. I’m sure I’m not alone in hoping my child finds his way back, the way you did. ❤️

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