This is how this cult speaks about us. And this is a mum who paid for the surgeries. Sick. This cult is sick and these people are sick in the head. Never affirm.
Dear writer, YOU are amazing! You have such insight, understanding, and wisdom which comes from your trials and tribulations. I had a difficult childhood, too and I am in my late 60's and I can still feel the pain once in a while. Forgiveness is the most important tool that I learned while in many years of therapy. Although it is not easy to forgive, it is freeing. Thank you for telling us your story. Your courage and honesty made me want to read more about you. Wishing you the very best and much peace.
What a lot of work you've done, to arrive at these insights about your parents. Thank you for opening up here. I wish you all good things in life going forward.
Thank you for sharing your journey and heart . It is so courageous and kind of you to help us love our precious children well. We are all broken & flawed and no-one parents perfectly . I celebrate your courage , strength , to break free and do the hard work of being and celebrating how wonderfully created you are . You give many the precious gift of hope . Bless you .
Thank you for sharing. I wonder daily what my children are thinking. It’s hard to fight in a canceled society, and still keep your kid in good graces while they are under this spell. I am thinking about filing a complaint against my child’s therapist and I’m currently putting my foot down with the school. We can’t let this keep happening.
It’s interesting that I too felt neglected by my parents and tried to make up for it. What has been extremely helpful for me is learning about the Narcissist Family dynamics I grew up with. Only after that could I actually be there for my kids. And everything I was taught about parenting was wrong. (Hold on to your kids book) I needed to understand in order to heal. And heal to not harm them. I hope you can find this healing as well!
Thanks for having the courage to talk so openly and authentically 🤗 was there any particular event or person that happened that helped you find your way out of the gender puzzle?
I am sorry you had such a scary time as a youngster. I am sorry you didn't get what you needed. I find this double-edge sword situation with my daughter, she is very much the victim & was impossible to parent, I didn't do anything right, I am abusive (??), immature, etc etc much of which I think she is getting from her online community. I have to wonder, tho-I too was isolated & lonely with an absent father & alcoholic mother & was afraid to have kids bc I didn't want to risk being a bad mom, but eventually I swore I would be different & what I did was refuse to let my daughter make excuses & try to see the consequences of her actions & for that she hates me. I really wonder what would become of all these kids that turn to the internet if there WAS no internet. I wanted the computers GONE & I never wanted it in her room but dad is IT work from home so I lost that battle, plus she would threaten suicide if we took it away. It was like I saw this coming but no one was listening to me. Much luck to you & you are very strong. I hope you can forgive your parents & still love them flaws & all.
Thank you for writing this! You are a wonderful human being, created in God's image.
We let each other down, as along with being God's imagers, we are human, filled with flaws. You have made a way for yourself throughout all your life, you have every right to be proud of who you are. We are loved by Jesus, whose love is pure, and He will never let us down. Take care, dear one. Love, Indio
wow...well done you being the wonderful, empathic, understanding person that you are. It's a lonesome journey when parents don't do their own 'work' in growing up and seeing to their issues, often leaving children to find their own way and then sometimes falling down some very big rabbit holes. So glad you've come out the other end. Have faith in yourself, you have good judgement and insight and a strong soul. Thankyou for writing and sharing.
Thank you for sharing. I want to say that as a mom, you are very insightful you are absolutely strong like YOU. Proud of how you have done the work to unpack the trauma you experienced and how that effected you and lured you into the trans ideology. I’m sure if you ever choose to be a father, you will be a wonderful role model. Praying my son and others learn from your experience.
Dad sounds like the same generation as me, from the dark ages, when there were only transexuals and transvestites (not something you'd ever want a son to be, that would be very weird) and gender identity ideology with it's glittery unicorns simply didn't exist. I hope you can reconcile, mostly parents bumble along dealing with their own crap, hoping for the best and wanting the kids to be ok. Thanks for writing, all the best, it's always so good to hear from detransitioners, it gives us parents hope.
Adding the viewpoints of the minors' side of things is a terrific idea. I have been suspecting that the mental condition of the parents has a lot to do with young people feeling alone with their own mental unhappiness. Many kids don't grow up in warm, supportive families. Parents are often at a loss about how to be a parent. I am surprised at how few consider therapy to try to even things out.
I am a parent and a grand parent. I fluffed up the previous job, because my marriage was unstable. Fortunately, transgenderism wasn't around in those days. Also, I threw myself into therapy, which I think made enough of a difference.
Therapy for gender dysphoria, nor even to determine if there is actually dysphoria, is not allowed in our state. Doctors do not seem to be interested in determining, much less resolving, underlying issues.
Re: medical doctors will avoid mental issues, because fixing them is very hard work. Fixing them with hormones and surgery is easier. We need more psychologists who have not been brainwashed by the transgender ideology. Schools and parents need to learn more about issues affecting young people going through puberty. So many teens feel alone in dealing with this very challenging phase.
I'm sorry you had such a traumatic upbringing. For your mom to say "You're strong, like me" demonstrates how enmeshed she still is to you. But continue to remind yourself that you're a separate person whose identity doesn't depend on hers. YOU've done the hard work of personal reflection and growth - bravo to YOU for earning your strength. You are an extremely insightful person who has so much to offer. Western cultural stereotypes make sensitive, artistic, non-athletic males feel like something's wrong with them if don't fit the masculine macho mold. I pray you embrace yourself just as you are, not looking to any others for approval, and surround yourself with a community of wisdom and authentic, in-the-flesh friendship. God loves you and knows you - read Psalm 139, be blessed and don't give up in fighting for your personal peace and self-love. You are worth it.
This is how this cult speaks about us. And this is a mum who paid for the surgeries. Sick. This cult is sick and these people are sick in the head. Never affirm.
https://www.reddit.com/r/transgenderUK/s/IIuXOYT9RK
Dear writer, YOU are amazing! You have such insight, understanding, and wisdom which comes from your trials and tribulations. I had a difficult childhood, too and I am in my late 60's and I can still feel the pain once in a while. Forgiveness is the most important tool that I learned while in many years of therapy. Although it is not easy to forgive, it is freeing. Thank you for telling us your story. Your courage and honesty made me want to read more about you. Wishing you the very best and much peace.
What a lot of work you've done, to arrive at these insights about your parents. Thank you for opening up here. I wish you all good things in life going forward.
Thank you for sharing your journey and heart . It is so courageous and kind of you to help us love our precious children well. We are all broken & flawed and no-one parents perfectly . I celebrate your courage , strength , to break free and do the hard work of being and celebrating how wonderfully created you are . You give many the precious gift of hope . Bless you .
Thank you for sharing. I wonder daily what my children are thinking. It’s hard to fight in a canceled society, and still keep your kid in good graces while they are under this spell. I am thinking about filing a complaint against my child’s therapist and I’m currently putting my foot down with the school. We can’t let this keep happening.
It’s interesting that I too felt neglected by my parents and tried to make up for it. What has been extremely helpful for me is learning about the Narcissist Family dynamics I grew up with. Only after that could I actually be there for my kids. And everything I was taught about parenting was wrong. (Hold on to your kids book) I needed to understand in order to heal. And heal to not harm them. I hope you can find this healing as well!
THANK YOU for your brave post, Author, and CONGRATULATIONS on detransitioning.
I often say "Detransitioners speak the truth".
-Joanna from NYC's Medical Freedom Alliance
Good to hear story of any de transition er and what life was like for them before during and after
Thanks for having the courage to talk so openly and authentically 🤗 was there any particular event or person that happened that helped you find your way out of the gender puzzle?
I am sorry you had such a scary time as a youngster. I am sorry you didn't get what you needed. I find this double-edge sword situation with my daughter, she is very much the victim & was impossible to parent, I didn't do anything right, I am abusive (??), immature, etc etc much of which I think she is getting from her online community. I have to wonder, tho-I too was isolated & lonely with an absent father & alcoholic mother & was afraid to have kids bc I didn't want to risk being a bad mom, but eventually I swore I would be different & what I did was refuse to let my daughter make excuses & try to see the consequences of her actions & for that she hates me. I really wonder what would become of all these kids that turn to the internet if there WAS no internet. I wanted the computers GONE & I never wanted it in her room but dad is IT work from home so I lost that battle, plus she would threaten suicide if we took it away. It was like I saw this coming but no one was listening to me. Much luck to you & you are very strong. I hope you can forgive your parents & still love them flaws & all.
Thank you for writing this! You are a wonderful human being, created in God's image.
We let each other down, as along with being God's imagers, we are human, filled with flaws. You have made a way for yourself throughout all your life, you have every right to be proud of who you are. We are loved by Jesus, whose love is pure, and He will never let us down. Take care, dear one. Love, Indio
wow...well done you being the wonderful, empathic, understanding person that you are. It's a lonesome journey when parents don't do their own 'work' in growing up and seeing to their issues, often leaving children to find their own way and then sometimes falling down some very big rabbit holes. So glad you've come out the other end. Have faith in yourself, you have good judgement and insight and a strong soul. Thankyou for writing and sharing.
Thank you for sharing. I want to say that as a mom, you are very insightful you are absolutely strong like YOU. Proud of how you have done the work to unpack the trauma you experienced and how that effected you and lured you into the trans ideology. I’m sure if you ever choose to be a father, you will be a wonderful role model. Praying my son and others learn from your experience.
Dad sounds like the same generation as me, from the dark ages, when there were only transexuals and transvestites (not something you'd ever want a son to be, that would be very weird) and gender identity ideology with it's glittery unicorns simply didn't exist. I hope you can reconcile, mostly parents bumble along dealing with their own crap, hoping for the best and wanting the kids to be ok. Thanks for writing, all the best, it's always so good to hear from detransitioners, it gives us parents hope.
Adding the viewpoints of the minors' side of things is a terrific idea. I have been suspecting that the mental condition of the parents has a lot to do with young people feeling alone with their own mental unhappiness. Many kids don't grow up in warm, supportive families. Parents are often at a loss about how to be a parent. I am surprised at how few consider therapy to try to even things out.
I am a parent and a grand parent. I fluffed up the previous job, because my marriage was unstable. Fortunately, transgenderism wasn't around in those days. Also, I threw myself into therapy, which I think made enough of a difference.
Therapy for gender dysphoria, nor even to determine if there is actually dysphoria, is not allowed in our state. Doctors do not seem to be interested in determining, much less resolving, underlying issues.
Re: medical doctors will avoid mental issues, because fixing them is very hard work. Fixing them with hormones and surgery is easier. We need more psychologists who have not been brainwashed by the transgender ideology. Schools and parents need to learn more about issues affecting young people going through puberty. So many teens feel alone in dealing with this very challenging phase.
Bless you and stay strong. May your best days come soon and last!
I'm sorry you had such a traumatic upbringing. For your mom to say "You're strong, like me" demonstrates how enmeshed she still is to you. But continue to remind yourself that you're a separate person whose identity doesn't depend on hers. YOU've done the hard work of personal reflection and growth - bravo to YOU for earning your strength. You are an extremely insightful person who has so much to offer. Western cultural stereotypes make sensitive, artistic, non-athletic males feel like something's wrong with them if don't fit the masculine macho mold. I pray you embrace yourself just as you are, not looking to any others for approval, and surround yourself with a community of wisdom and authentic, in-the-flesh friendship. God loves you and knows you - read Psalm 139, be blessed and don't give up in fighting for your personal peace and self-love. You are worth it.