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This is so beautifully written. And so apt. That he was sucked from his room of reality and light and family love into this otherworldly space of indoctrination. It's heart breaking. Thank you for sharing a nightmare that so many of us are going through. Hold yourself gently.

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I’m so, SO SORRY….for all of us. Almost 8 years now.. His life is a shell. Yet other people tell me there are happy, successful trans people. I have yet to know one.

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This is a nightmare. It makes me so mad when people comment "why do you care what someone else does with their body?!?!" It is so hard to explain to someone who has never been touched by this how insane and soul crushing it is. People treat it like it is just normal kids experimenting, but it is on such a different level. I compare it more to an addict.

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Oh my gosh i feel your pain. We’ve been living this nightmare for 3 years. I have to remind myself to keep the hope alive in my heart. Keep praying and don’t give up ❤️

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Thank you for sharing your story.

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I am so sad that you lost your son to this evil cult. My heart breaks for you and all the other parents who have felt this same pain. Losing a child is unbearable but losing a child to this trans-ideology is truly insufferable. My sister experienced both losses, and the pain never ceases. Every day I remind myself that my handsome, smart, athletic, artistic, musically gifted nephew is in a better place. The 14- months that he abandoned his home and rejected his parents caused us all such heartaches. It was the not knowing, the silence, the worry, the fear that ate at us. I understand what you are going through, many of us here on this sub stack do as well. I wish you peace. I hope that your son will remember his roots, his childhood, his family and your deep love and return to you before it is too late.

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Oh Dad… I am so sorry for your loss & the whirlwind of confusion & tearing pain it’s causing. Thank you for continuing to love your son through for what parents need to continue to pray. That at some point, your children will gravitate or run head on into the light from the doorway. Ultimately, even when we are unaware, parental influence is the strongest & longest lasting gift you can give your children. Practice those parts of living that garner strength, patience, forgiveness, health for YOU. When your son returns, you will need all of it.

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Aaron Kimberley from LGBT Courage Coalition and the co founder are/were both trans identifying F to M. Both whistleblowers. Aaron is a registered nurse in Canada. A kind and compassionate soul. They’re speaking out strongly against the medicalization of children and youth. If there’s anyone, your kids may listen to when they’re ready, maybe it’s them. Worth a try?

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For those interested in following them on Substack. They’re doing great activism.

https://lgbtcouragecoalition.substack.com/p/channeling-your-inner-outrage

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It is an absolute nightmare. One you could have never imagined. It's the Invasion of the Bodysnatchers and Mindsnatchers. Insidious, soul-crushing. I'll be praying it will end for you and your son will return to you. Be gentle with yourself. You didn't do ANYTHING to cause this. You can just be there when he realizes this is futile. I pray it will be sooner than later. This is so hard...everyday. I'm sorry.

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I've had so many dreams about what happened to my daughter as well. I've had dreams where my daughter shows up at my house with a double mastectomy. Not that long ago I had a dream she detransitioned and was wearing the sundress she wore when we first visited her college. I was so happy--then I woke up. There is not the slightest chance of this happening anytime in the near future (if at all). I wanted to chase the dream but it was gone.

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Joe Biden is either so stupid or so uninformed about the issue that he believes that mutilating children (who in some cases may be gay) in the name of “gender affirming care” is somehow like the civil rights struggle of the 1960’s. He doesn’t understand or care that this is exactly the approach that our sworn enemy Iran uses in its futile attempt to stamp out homosexuality. Donald Trump is equally stupid and uninformed but he at least is surrounded by people who would do the right thing to save the children (ban gender affirming care for those under 18) even if for the wrong reasons. It’s unbelievable but a vote for Trump in this case is a vote for sanity. In any case I won’t be voting.

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I hate trump but I will vote for him on this issue alone. This needs to end before more kids are damanged.

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That is so heartening to hear!!!!

Yes, Helen Joyce and Sall Grover and Riley Gaines and so many others like them are just awesome, amazing and brave women who I look up to. I'm so grateful that they are strong enough to stand up and say "no this is not right" in public forums. Very grateful to them ❤️

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They’re gems. One of my favourite activists to hear when I’m really frustrated and want to lash out and whack someone is JK Rowling. She just keeps hitting back and what a way she has with words. Big ❤️ for JK.

Also on the Canadian athlete front, tune into April Hutchinson (www.aprilhutchinson.com and she’s on social media). She’s hitting hard against her banning from Team Canada for speaking out against men self IDing as women being allowed to compete against women and a gorgeous beast of a woman (powerlifter) and slowly gaining support. She sells has excellent athletic wear like Jennifer Sey’s XX-XY Athletics. They could use more followers.

While people may not be able to speak out publicly, I think it’s important to support those who are hitting hard. Please consider buying some of the products they’re selling or give a small donation if you can afford it as it keeps them going in their fight.

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Simply heartbreaking, as a mother of a prodigal daughter sucked into the alphabet cult, I feel your pain. Prayers for your comfort and for his return to your loving arms. God will make all things right again some day.

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So sorry for this terrible set of circumstances. My daughter is 19 now and has been taking testosterone for 6 months. There have been terrible times over the last 18 months since her declaration of “transness”, horrible fights, and emotional makeups. She is still living at home and for the last few weeks she has been nicer and more relaxed. She actually told me just yesterday that she is seeing her therapist again to help her with her “ADD” and “Autism”. She said she’s happy with who she is and with the “trans” stuff and she does seem happy “being” masculine. It’s all so bizarre and confusing and I still call her by her birth name (which is very feminine) and she’s not even mentioning it (at least not to me!) anymore. My husband and I are struggling in our relationship because of it but I suppose we’ll work it out. Good luck to you with your precious son and I hope you can find some personal peace.❤️

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