I’m so sorry for us all. I will never give up hope that my son will return. For the longest time I could not accept that this insanity was really happening. I do now, and I fight like hell and will continue until I draw my last breath. I speak the truth to anyone and everyone who is slightly curious or who has no idea of this madness. I do not waste my time or energy on those who are truly captured-they must be defeated, not educated. The truth is like a lion; you do not have to defend it, just turn it loose!
Expose this billion dollar industry and when the money dries up, this will end.
This is the real life situation for many of us in "Blue" states. I had CPS at my door even though my kid was already past 18th birthday. ... The system is fostering mental illness and making difficult situations much worse than they need to be. Social workers encourage kids to hate and distrust their parents.
This is state-sponsored kidnapping.
...
I wonder if there's anything that could be done on the federal level to void these new laws in Blue states?
Or, a family with money to burn might try suing for violation of their parental rights. The same way people are suing schools, try to sue the welfare system or sue CPS. ... I wonder if that's possible. This has to end.
I lived in WA state for 20 years and recently moved to Idaho to literally save what is left of my family. Unfortunately, I lost my daughter 4 years ago in a similar fashion. I have some guilt for not staying and fighting the corrupt system that took away my daughter. But the gender ideology machine is bigger than all of us. I talk to many families in WA state who lost a child to the gender cult and they struggles and are seriously ostracized if they don't fall in line with the "Blue Church." I am working on sharing my family story here. It is a difficult task finding all the right words as to what we all went through. Thank you for your bravery.
I know you are not seeking pity, but it's impossible to not feel that and express it to you, heartfelt!
If you'd written this 10 or 20 years ago, it would have been considered excellent dark dystopian sci-fi. I totally believe your account but it is SO incredible, that it does resonate as futuristic fiction on some level... I think it's the imaginings of future worlds of pain that the confluence of bio-medical advance, social media innovation, iideological norm promotion, political and moral virtue-signalling and no doubt many other factors will create for future generations down the line. We need to say it: we are OUT OF CONTROL and we need to bring ourselves back much more than we do to traditional ways while (and this is me as an academic in International Politics and History) simultaneously not losing our position - by refusing technological advance - in the power political game of dominance in the world... we all know where that can lead.
I’m so sorry for your pain it is also mine. Watch the interview with Az Akeem on Gender: a Wider Lense with Stella O’Malley - it made me feel a bit better.
State sanctioned kidnapping and enablement. This cult was made in the image of Satan, kill (the child's God given identity), steal (the child from the family), and destroy (the family unit and the child's mind and body). This is truly from the pit of hell.
“It feels like everything is stacked against parents like me. I can’t just go get my child. I can’t even hire someone to bring her home or take her to a mental health facility. The laws protect her right to stay on the streets, with other families, in the very system that keeps her broken and enabled.”
This and so much more of what you have written. From another parent facing estrangement, thank you for the gift of this essay.
So tragic but what a warrior of love you are becoming by your trial of fire. I wrap you and your daughter and all the families caught in this in a blanket of love. Just one question what does this mean- "with a clause that they will not pay for anything if the member is unhappy with the outcomes".
If a member undergoes a procedure covered under the affirming care benefits and later becomes dissatisfied with the outcome or changes their mind about the procedure, the insurance will not cover any related follow-up corrections or adjustments.
So well written. I wish more people realised the impact on families. The pain of your child saying those things, I know it doesn't ease the pain, but it all sounds so scripted. I have been on this road as a mother for 4 years. I have had the school not let me see my child, etc. I still feel so isolated that no one understands the trauma and grief. ( mine is now 20) As a couple, as parents, our relationship constantly suffers as we navigate this grief differently.
Then, just this weekend, my sister-in-law, who is kind and tries to be supportive, told me of a friends neighbours kid (reminding me with a gut-wrenching jerk of the neighbourhood gossip). Anyway, she was telling me the kid had transitioned and was accepted, so it was a happy ending - I didn't respond well; I responded angrily with how is this happy? what about their health? Liver, bones, fertility, sexual function, etc....... and I didnt even mention that, deep down, the grief of those parents, they are most likely "going with it" through fear of losing their child -- is there really such a place as acceptance and happy endings...... or just the fear of rejection, suicide, self harm?
My heart breaks for you,me & all the other loving mamas & papas on here.
Thank you for your eloquent words that explain all I would like to say and much of what my husband and I have been through. Our daughter medicalized at 18 and although estranged from us, talks to family members and hasn't blocked texts. I have been rejected again and again and again, via words, via text and in person denied hugs given to other family members. It is stories such as yours and other detransitiioned youth that help me transcend my own pain and anger and continue wanting to be there for our daughter. Don't catch me on a bad day though. At those times I want to yell, "To Hell with the lot of it".
You are a fantastic mother. You seem to me to be handling the situation as well as any parent could. I'm very glad your girl answered your call, perhaps suggesting she liked hearing your voice, particularly in its calm state. I don't do calm in a crisis, but I am inspired by you to try harder. Thank you and all the very best of luck in navigating this insanity and the heartache it causes. She will be back, I am sure of it, but you are right; nothing will ever be the same again.
Thank you for sharing this. I have lost my son to this cult so I understand your pain. But remember that we are on the right side of history. They have pushed the gender ideology BS as far as they can. I think in the coming year they will only have set backs. At least I hope because I am exhausted.
Gender ideology tears families apart. It's evil and corrosive. There are probably millions of parents around the world, some, like me, living on tender hooks waiting for clues that things are slipping back, others who've lives have already been destroyed utterly and completely. We are made out to be the villains, the antagonists in their narrative. All the while we are breaking apart and dying inside, struggling to get through the day and keep it together for the rest of our families. It's an intolerable hell.
Such beautiful writing about such devastating pain. I sorrow with you: my 30-yr old son has been on the trans train and estranged for about 6 years. I too will miss him the rest of my life.
My heart goes out to you. This is an abominable crime against humanity.
Legalized kidnapping. It's in Washington state too. Sick as hell! I hope you get your daughter back. A very gut wrenching story.
I’m so sorry for us all. I will never give up hope that my son will return. For the longest time I could not accept that this insanity was really happening. I do now, and I fight like hell and will continue until I draw my last breath. I speak the truth to anyone and everyone who is slightly curious or who has no idea of this madness. I do not waste my time or energy on those who are truly captured-they must be defeated, not educated. The truth is like a lion; you do not have to defend it, just turn it loose!
Expose this billion dollar industry and when the money dries up, this will end.
This is the real life situation for many of us in "Blue" states. I had CPS at my door even though my kid was already past 18th birthday. ... The system is fostering mental illness and making difficult situations much worse than they need to be. Social workers encourage kids to hate and distrust their parents.
This is state-sponsored kidnapping.
...
I wonder if there's anything that could be done on the federal level to void these new laws in Blue states?
Or, a family with money to burn might try suing for violation of their parental rights. The same way people are suing schools, try to sue the welfare system or sue CPS. ... I wonder if that's possible. This has to end.
Sending you love and hugs.
I lived in WA state for 20 years and recently moved to Idaho to literally save what is left of my family. Unfortunately, I lost my daughter 4 years ago in a similar fashion. I have some guilt for not staying and fighting the corrupt system that took away my daughter. But the gender ideology machine is bigger than all of us. I talk to many families in WA state who lost a child to the gender cult and they struggles and are seriously ostracized if they don't fall in line with the "Blue Church." I am working on sharing my family story here. It is a difficult task finding all the right words as to what we all went through. Thank you for your bravery.
My daughter was brainwashed and stolen from us in Washington state too, 4 years ago.
I know you are not seeking pity, but it's impossible to not feel that and express it to you, heartfelt!
If you'd written this 10 or 20 years ago, it would have been considered excellent dark dystopian sci-fi. I totally believe your account but it is SO incredible, that it does resonate as futuristic fiction on some level... I think it's the imaginings of future worlds of pain that the confluence of bio-medical advance, social media innovation, iideological norm promotion, political and moral virtue-signalling and no doubt many other factors will create for future generations down the line. We need to say it: we are OUT OF CONTROL and we need to bring ourselves back much more than we do to traditional ways while (and this is me as an academic in International Politics and History) simultaneously not losing our position - by refusing technological advance - in the power political game of dominance in the world... we all know where that can lead.
I’m so sorry for your pain it is also mine. Watch the interview with Az Akeem on Gender: a Wider Lense with Stella O’Malley - it made me feel a bit better.
State sanctioned kidnapping and enablement. This cult was made in the image of Satan, kill (the child's God given identity), steal (the child from the family), and destroy (the family unit and the child's mind and body). This is truly from the pit of hell.
“It feels like everything is stacked against parents like me. I can’t just go get my child. I can’t even hire someone to bring her home or take her to a mental health facility. The laws protect her right to stay on the streets, with other families, in the very system that keeps her broken and enabled.”
This and so much more of what you have written. From another parent facing estrangement, thank you for the gift of this essay.
So tragic but what a warrior of love you are becoming by your trial of fire. I wrap you and your daughter and all the families caught in this in a blanket of love. Just one question what does this mean- "with a clause that they will not pay for anything if the member is unhappy with the outcomes".
If a member undergoes a procedure covered under the affirming care benefits and later becomes dissatisfied with the outcome or changes their mind about the procedure, the insurance will not cover any related follow-up corrections or adjustments.
These people are vicious.
So well written. I wish more people realised the impact on families. The pain of your child saying those things, I know it doesn't ease the pain, but it all sounds so scripted. I have been on this road as a mother for 4 years. I have had the school not let me see my child, etc. I still feel so isolated that no one understands the trauma and grief. ( mine is now 20) As a couple, as parents, our relationship constantly suffers as we navigate this grief differently.
Then, just this weekend, my sister-in-law, who is kind and tries to be supportive, told me of a friends neighbours kid (reminding me with a gut-wrenching jerk of the neighbourhood gossip). Anyway, she was telling me the kid had transitioned and was accepted, so it was a happy ending - I didn't respond well; I responded angrily with how is this happy? what about their health? Liver, bones, fertility, sexual function, etc....... and I didnt even mention that, deep down, the grief of those parents, they are most likely "going with it" through fear of losing their child -- is there really such a place as acceptance and happy endings...... or just the fear of rejection, suicide, self harm?
My heart breaks for you,me & all the other loving mamas & papas on here.
Thank you for your eloquent words that explain all I would like to say and much of what my husband and I have been through. Our daughter medicalized at 18 and although estranged from us, talks to family members and hasn't blocked texts. I have been rejected again and again and again, via words, via text and in person denied hugs given to other family members. It is stories such as yours and other detransitiioned youth that help me transcend my own pain and anger and continue wanting to be there for our daughter. Don't catch me on a bad day though. At those times I want to yell, "To Hell with the lot of it".
You are a fantastic mother. You seem to me to be handling the situation as well as any parent could. I'm very glad your girl answered your call, perhaps suggesting she liked hearing your voice, particularly in its calm state. I don't do calm in a crisis, but I am inspired by you to try harder. Thank you and all the very best of luck in navigating this insanity and the heartache it causes. She will be back, I am sure of it, but you are right; nothing will ever be the same again.
Thank you for sharing this. I have lost my son to this cult so I understand your pain. But remember that we are on the right side of history. They have pushed the gender ideology BS as far as they can. I think in the coming year they will only have set backs. At least I hope because I am exhausted.
Gender ideology tears families apart. It's evil and corrosive. There are probably millions of parents around the world, some, like me, living on tender hooks waiting for clues that things are slipping back, others who've lives have already been destroyed utterly and completely. We are made out to be the villains, the antagonists in their narrative. All the while we are breaking apart and dying inside, struggling to get through the day and keep it together for the rest of our families. It's an intolerable hell.
Such beautiful writing about such devastating pain. I sorrow with you: my 30-yr old son has been on the trans train and estranged for about 6 years. I too will miss him the rest of my life.