From age 13 to 15.5, my daughter was a trans boy. I thought that she desisted, as she was presenting as female for the next few years. She even wore a dress to prom. Then, when she got to college, she shaved her head freshman year. Sophomore year, she announced that she was going to have a double…
From age 13 to 15.5, my daughter was a trans boy. I thought that she desisted, as she was presenting as female for the next few years. She even wore a dress to prom. Then, when she got to college, she shaved her head freshman year. Sophomore year, she announced that she was going to have a double mastectomy. Thank goodness, we were able to put t halt to that. But the child that we thought had desisted had not. I thought that we made it through, but she went right back to it when she went to college. Now her grandmother is giving out huge monetary gifts to all of the grandchildren for Christmas, and she is about to graduate from ccollege, and I worry about what is coming next.
It's interesting that you write this. One of the first signs with my daughter was that she came home for the holidays with a shaved head. Her roommate ("non-Cis") had shaved it. She still wore a dress/big dangly earrings and I remember telling her she pulled it off really well. Within six months she and the friend started T together (unbeknownst to me). Before college, she showed no signs of being trans but was supportive of it, like most Gen Zers. It's been almost 5 years now with no signs of desistance in sight.
If I were sending my kid to college today, I would research the college first. There is a ranking for LGBTQ friendliness and my daughter's college is at the top. They got a lot of funding from one of the trans foundations, started an LGTBTQ dorm area, etc. Had I known what was coming, I would have done everything in my power to send her elsewhere. I also would have stopped filling out the FAFSA and cut off all financial support. But I didn't know what I was up against. It was within a few months (maybe less?) of me submitting her last FAFSA that she cut off all contact for 2 years.
I am so sorry. Yes, that's my fear as well that my daughter will fall back into it. I think we will only fully relax when the cult is destroyed. I hope your daughter desists again and this time for good. Don't lose hope! It's great she didn't get a mastectomy yet.
I am so happy that your daughter desisted.
From age 13 to 15.5, my daughter was a trans boy. I thought that she desisted, as she was presenting as female for the next few years. She even wore a dress to prom. Then, when she got to college, she shaved her head freshman year. Sophomore year, she announced that she was going to have a double mastectomy. Thank goodness, we were able to put t halt to that. But the child that we thought had desisted had not. I thought that we made it through, but she went right back to it when she went to college. Now her grandmother is giving out huge monetary gifts to all of the grandchildren for Christmas, and she is about to graduate from ccollege, and I worry about what is coming next.
It's interesting that you write this. One of the first signs with my daughter was that she came home for the holidays with a shaved head. Her roommate ("non-Cis") had shaved it. She still wore a dress/big dangly earrings and I remember telling her she pulled it off really well. Within six months she and the friend started T together (unbeknownst to me). Before college, she showed no signs of being trans but was supportive of it, like most Gen Zers. It's been almost 5 years now with no signs of desistance in sight.
If I were sending my kid to college today, I would research the college first. There is a ranking for LGBTQ friendliness and my daughter's college is at the top. They got a lot of funding from one of the trans foundations, started an LGTBTQ dorm area, etc. Had I known what was coming, I would have done everything in my power to send her elsewhere. I also would have stopped filling out the FAFSA and cut off all financial support. But I didn't know what I was up against. It was within a few months (maybe less?) of me submitting her last FAFSA that she cut off all contact for 2 years.
I am so sorry. Yes, that's my fear as well that my daughter will fall back into it. I think we will only fully relax when the cult is destroyed. I hope your daughter desists again and this time for good. Don't lose hope! It's great she didn't get a mastectomy yet.