Powerfully heartbreaking. I am sorry your daughter is lost in this evil cult which leaves us all feeling a bit haunted by the past. Our memories of once was, what our loved ones once looked like, once acted like. Painful to remember what our dreams were. I hope your family can heal and reconnect. I pray your daughter returns to being your daughter. Keep your hope alive. You are not alone.
I too look at my daughter’s hands..long , slender and delicate .. resembling nothing like the boy she wants to be… just to feel the touch of her soft .
hands and hold them tight once more would be so special. God is holding you and all of us in the palm of His hand as we grieve the loss of our children. Take comfort in the promise that He will never leave or forsake us. God bless our children.
I'm a bit of sick of myself for the sleepless night and grieving. I fell I'm being bullied and become the oppressed class.
What did we do wrong to be punished? We just want to have the original authentic child we give birth and raise up.
Is this a fair game to the parents? What can we do to make it fair?
Is there organization to advise the parents on how to fight back and regain control of this situation? Can we form one ourselves and to stand out the promote parental rights?
I hadn't lost a son (I was told); I'd gained a daughter. The tears are streaming as I read your words. I cry with you. I'm not even allowed to mourn my son or acknowledge his childhood, his schoolyears, our history, our family life together. As for gaining a daughter? She's a stranger without a past, so intent on reinventing herself that her mother just reminds her of the person she once was. The boy whose hand I once held in mine. I cry with you.
I've heard from a couple of mothers (in contact with their trans-identified daughters) that they find themselves gazing upon the hands of their daughters--as it is too difficult to look at their faces. Testosterone is a powerful drug.
I haven't seen my daughter in 5 years. A while back I saw a photo of her online....I didn't recognise her, as you say Testosterone is a powerful drug...I looked to her hands and only then did I know it was her!
Parental mental health is not considered or acknowledged in 2024. Parents grieve alone while trans rights and everything around gender ideology is celebrated. I pray this current state of affairs changes.
I too use my hands to wipe away tears, over and over again. I'm sorry.
Where is the section in the DSM for the parental dysphoria caused by the incongruence between their children's sex and their acquired gender identity? For that matter, anyone's dysphoria caused by another's incongruence? And I'm so sick of smug "allies" acting like they know my child, whom I carried for nine months and raised to adulthood, better than I do.
You mean the teens who tell on you for forgetting your child's new name although you've called them their given name thousands of times before their transition? Or the teachers who have to lecture them about whether they're safe because you used the wrong pronouns? Or family members like mine, who finally believe something is up after reading Pamela Paul in the NYT long after you told them numerous times this was a problematic issue. Those people? No, the only people who under us is us, parents with lived experience and therapists who haven't bought into GAC.
I understand all to well how you feel. I just want to hug my daughter so hard, but her new "identity" doesn't really want hugs anymore. I live in constant sadness, trying to just keep communication lines open and worrying I'll have to block her from taking testosterone or cutting off her breasts at any moment. I go to weddings and baby showers for my nieces and friends daughters, the same age and I smile and celebrate them, all the while hiding my inner pain that never stops. It's a hell. I know. Sending hugs, love and prayers. You're a beautiful writer. Thank your for sharing. I'm out here. Praying for this to end with you.
Butterfly kisses with my son as he had the longest little lashes when he was little. Now he makes a face when I hug him (he just stands there but allows the hug) and seems frustrated at me for most anything I do. The meds have robbed all that was of my son’s bright, outgoing spirit. His demeanor is almost unrecognizable from the first 19 of the almost 25 yrs of his life.
I often weep for him and how lost he is. I know he doesn’t like where he is now but it’s easier to pretend all is well than quit the meds and possibly lose so called “friends” online who really don’t give a crap about his health & well-being.
Keep believing. Keep praying. Here is a link that might encourage you. God bless ❤️🙏🏼
https://www.instagram.com/p/C-GnCGNOjdo/?igsh=MWZ3dTNrNzNscnI2
Powerfully heartbreaking. I am sorry your daughter is lost in this evil cult which leaves us all feeling a bit haunted by the past. Our memories of once was, what our loved ones once looked like, once acted like. Painful to remember what our dreams were. I hope your family can heal and reconnect. I pray your daughter returns to being your daughter. Keep your hope alive. You are not alone.
I remember holding hands while walking in the park with my grown daughter before she entered the cult. This writing really touched me, thank you.
I too look at my daughter’s hands..long , slender and delicate .. resembling nothing like the boy she wants to be… just to feel the touch of her soft .
hands and hold them tight once more would be so special. God is holding you and all of us in the palm of His hand as we grieve the loss of our children. Take comfort in the promise that He will never leave or forsake us. God bless our children.
I'm a bit of sick of myself for the sleepless night and grieving. I fell I'm being bullied and become the oppressed class.
What did we do wrong to be punished? We just want to have the original authentic child we give birth and raise up.
Is this a fair game to the parents? What can we do to make it fair?
Is there organization to advise the parents on how to fight back and regain control of this situation? Can we form one ourselves and to stand out the promote parental rights?
I hadn't lost a son (I was told); I'd gained a daughter. The tears are streaming as I read your words. I cry with you. I'm not even allowed to mourn my son or acknowledge his childhood, his schoolyears, our history, our family life together. As for gaining a daughter? She's a stranger without a past, so intent on reinventing herself that her mother just reminds her of the person she once was. The boy whose hand I once held in mine. I cry with you.
A stranger without a past 💯 we cry together
omgosh...i weep over all of this...
I'm so sorry.
My daughter is also lost.
I've heard from a couple of mothers (in contact with their trans-identified daughters) that they find themselves gazing upon the hands of their daughters--as it is too difficult to look at their faces. Testosterone is a powerful drug.
I haven't seen my daughter in 5 years. A while back I saw a photo of her online....I didn't recognise her, as you say Testosterone is a powerful drug...I looked to her hands and only then did I know it was her!
Tragic.
I’m right there with you. Tears have randomly come easily for me these past 7 years after this bombshell revelation - my daughter’s trans madness!
Hugs❤️
This brought tears to my eyes. It's been especially hard having an autistic daughter that doesn't like to be hugged much.
Peace be upon you
Beautiful.
💔💔💔
Parental mental health is not considered or acknowledged in 2024. Parents grieve alone while trans rights and everything around gender ideology is celebrated. I pray this current state of affairs changes.
I too use my hands to wipe away tears, over and over again. I'm sorry.
Where is the section in the DSM for the parental dysphoria caused by the incongruence between their children's sex and their acquired gender identity? For that matter, anyone's dysphoria caused by another's incongruence? And I'm so sick of smug "allies" acting like they know my child, whom I carried for nine months and raised to adulthood, better than I do.
You mean the teens who tell on you for forgetting your child's new name although you've called them their given name thousands of times before their transition? Or the teachers who have to lecture them about whether they're safe because you used the wrong pronouns? Or family members like mine, who finally believe something is up after reading Pamela Paul in the NYT long after you told them numerous times this was a problematic issue. Those people? No, the only people who under us is us, parents with lived experience and therapists who haven't bought into GAC.
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I understand all to well how you feel. I just want to hug my daughter so hard, but her new "identity" doesn't really want hugs anymore. I live in constant sadness, trying to just keep communication lines open and worrying I'll have to block her from taking testosterone or cutting off her breasts at any moment. I go to weddings and baby showers for my nieces and friends daughters, the same age and I smile and celebrate them, all the while hiding my inner pain that never stops. It's a hell. I know. Sending hugs, love and prayers. You're a beautiful writer. Thank your for sharing. I'm out here. Praying for this to end with you.
Amen🙏
"too"
We used to do nose kisses 😢
Yet another heart breaking article 💔
Butterfly kisses with my son as he had the longest little lashes when he was little. Now he makes a face when I hug him (he just stands there but allows the hug) and seems frustrated at me for most anything I do. The meds have robbed all that was of my son’s bright, outgoing spirit. His demeanor is almost unrecognizable from the first 19 of the almost 25 yrs of his life.
I often weep for him and how lost he is. I know he doesn’t like where he is now but it’s easier to pretend all is well than quit the meds and possibly lose so called “friends” online who really don’t give a crap about his health & well-being.