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Al's avatar

So bitterly sweet It makes my heart ache at the attempt to urge the nonsense to stop, using such logic and light hearted desperation.... I hope she choses well,as does my son and all the other parents kids that are represented here 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

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Grandma Eileen's avatar

Great job - so powerful and so much information. You spell it out very clearly and the truth is quite haunting. These innocent children have no idea what they are getting themselves into when they believe that they can magically become the opposite sex. So dangerous, so harmful. How can any doctor allow this, encourage this, perform these procedures - do they not have a conscience? The truth is available, but people do not want to learn the truth. I have family members who think transgender is real - how is this possible? I asked my sisters if they really think God makes a mistake and puts the wrong person in the wrong body and they all agreed that "yes, it happens". I was shocked! I have a niece who recently told me she has several transgender friends and they have never been happier. Really? Blind leading the blind. So sad. We must continue our fight, keep telling the truth, and keep the home fires burning. I have to believe that the truth will prevail.

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Coco's avatar

Thanks for sharing. Great job touching on all of the key points. I’m just so disgusted and haunted by that phalloplasty video. It’s so ghastly and Frankenstein like. It should be required viewing for these women before they consent to be mutilated. It should also be required viewing for President Biden too. I keep remembering the visuals and gasping with my hand over my mouth while going about my day. Surgeons performing these are true monsters. I cannot imagine how callous, disturbed, and greedy a doctor would have to be to do it particularly when you know some of your patients are homeless, autistic, or mentally ill no matter their age.

I hope that our daughters are smart enough to come to their senses before they feel the need to resort to that. Honestly. It’s the stuff of nightmares.

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Davis, Thomas's avatar

The parents face the ugly side of life so they can protect their children from it and show them the beautiful side of life. When the children reach adulthood, the most loving thing a parent can do is warn of the ugly side in enough detail to be heard. This letter does a masterful job of doing so. I wish your child well.

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Frogmom's avatar

Excellent letter! Thanks for sharing- I plan to share with anyone I know going through this.

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John Moore's avatar

Do the doctors show these videos to their patients before gelding them? I suppose not. To what extent do they inform them of what exactly will happen? What do the surgical consent forms look like?

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Sharon Lee COWAN's avatar

Thank you for pulling all these resources together!

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Robin's avatar

Thank you so much for this great summary of the truth behind transition. I do not believe that any child possesses the competency to make an informed consent decision about their own mutilation and I don't think that parents have the right to make this decision on behalf of children either. https://lucyleader.substack.com/p/there-is-no-way-to-live-a-life-without

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Barbara Pecze's avatar

Excellent advice with no sugar-coating!

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Ann's avatar

Indeed, a perfect and beautiful innocent little girl.

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CA mom's avatar

This is a great letter, and I appreciate all the links to other helpful resources.

Although your child may be different, I think most teens would find your use of emojis passive aggressive and might use that as an excuse to disregard the brilliant points you make. If you decide to actually send the letter, maybe reconsider their use.

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GenderRealistMom's avatar

Sorry if it will sound like nit-picking, but if you give this to your daughter, are you planning to keep pronouns for t"trans men" as "he"? (I sympathize with wanting to minimize conflict but it may be better to keep things 100% real and honest). Also, Buck Angel is hardly a positive influence figure.

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Mrs Miller's avatar

Good question. I do indulge pronouns with buck and Marcus because they pass so well. Maybe I'd bypass the pronouns altogether on a rewrite. And I might edit to say trans-identifying rather than trans men. That said, my daughter has been swift to correct my terminology usage and I wouldn't want to undermine my overarching message by calling them women.

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L Word's avatar

Such a touching letter. Thank you for sharing it.

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Just Mom's avatar

Great job pulling together information for her!

I believe you have to present the information before they start hormones, because after they start their brains are not able to hear you.

During covid my daughter broke up with her boyfriend to “figure things out” and sought counseling for anxiety on campus, 4 hours away. Before I knew what was happening the counselor had convinced her to ’ just try it’ meaning T. She had already started on T before she told us what was happening.

She quickly estranged us when I tried to talk her out of medication, not knowing she had already started.

You are wise to act on your instincts and put the information together for her.

Praying for all of our children to hear truth🙏🏼

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MLO's avatar

THANKYOU FOR SHARING

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Lisa's avatar

Add liver tumors to the list of harms that taking testosterone cause to the female body. And the drugs that treat the heart disease harm the liver further.

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