I’m concerned that if your trans-identified son ever wants to fix your relationship, the fact that you published pictures of him online, along with what I assume are your family’s real first names and your younger son’s real place of birth, is going to be an additional conflict between the two of you. No one would find this site by Googl…
I’m concerned that if your trans-identified son ever wants to fix your relationship, the fact that you published pictures of him online, along with what I assume are your family’s real first names and your younger son’s real place of birth, is going to be an additional conflict between the two of you. No one would find this site by Googling his name. However, if someone who already knew him and/or the family ended up here, I think it would be easy for them to figure out who you were talking about.
I assume you wouldn’t like it if he published similar things about you on a site opposing your ideology. *Can* you put it online? Yeah, but I don’t think it adds or detracts from your piece, and it has the potential to escalate the problems between you if he ever finds this.
It is true our children can be excessively sensitive to criticism. I noticed my own daughter having what looked like a panic attack when I tried to talk to her about my views. Having panic attacks was her normal reaction to a lot of things. She relies on medication to stop them. Sadly, the ability to accept opposing views is absent. So no matter what I do or say she is going to be upset. That is why she went mute at school. Autistic girls do that as a coping mechanism. She is doing that to me at the moment. I understand why, but it still hurts.
We have to be strong, not let our deluded children bully us. They are having tantrums if they do not get full control over other people. They are expecting us to conform. The need to have control over parents perhaps gives them some comfort as they feel overwhelmed by a world they have no control over.
I am searching for a way to reach out to my children without denying my own integrity. This is terribly difficult for me as I have no family support. My husband many years ago showed no hesitation affirming our daughter’s delusion. I lost any respect I might have had for him. Respecting liars is impossible for me. Transgenderism ruins families.
I have nothing more to lose. I cling to my integrity, not caring what anyone thinks of me.
I had thought long and hard about the concerns you raise.
I decided that my # 1 mission is to warn other parents of what can happen to their child. To do this, I have to provide authentic detail of the signs of this disaster and its effects on all the family members. This requires vivid narration which readers can relate to. Here is why I am willing to take the risk that my son and his sister could recognize themselves in these stories:
1. Ricky will come back to where he should be, but the chances are slim that it will be during our lifetimes. We are both in our mid 60s. Ricky became committed to the cult’s overtures at age 15, and has not shown any significant signs of listening to any good sense. He is very deep in it, and it will take a lot of time to bring him back. We have to pick a strategy that provides a greater good, even if it is at the expense of privacy, something that Ricky and his sister have denied us in this situation.
2. Ricky and his sister have been open in social media in their hostility towards us. I don’t think they will be heard to complain over our expressing our feelings in a similar, more discrete fashion.
3. I need to heal. My wife and two remaining children need to heal. Writing these pieces helps in the healing process.
4. If Ricky recognizes himself in the stories, so be it. The dosage of truth will do him good. It might plant a seed of self-awareness in him so he will see and appreciate who really has true charity for him. Even if he is on his lonely deathbed when it happens.
I’m concerned that if your trans-identified son ever wants to fix your relationship, the fact that you published pictures of him online, along with what I assume are your family’s real first names and your younger son’s real place of birth, is going to be an additional conflict between the two of you. No one would find this site by Googling his name. However, if someone who already knew him and/or the family ended up here, I think it would be easy for them to figure out who you were talking about.
I assume you wouldn’t like it if he published similar things about you on a site opposing your ideology. *Can* you put it online? Yeah, but I don’t think it adds or detracts from your piece, and it has the potential to escalate the problems between you if he ever finds this.
Are your other kids aware this is online?
It is true our children can be excessively sensitive to criticism. I noticed my own daughter having what looked like a panic attack when I tried to talk to her about my views. Having panic attacks was her normal reaction to a lot of things. She relies on medication to stop them. Sadly, the ability to accept opposing views is absent. So no matter what I do or say she is going to be upset. That is why she went mute at school. Autistic girls do that as a coping mechanism. She is doing that to me at the moment. I understand why, but it still hurts.
We have to be strong, not let our deluded children bully us. They are having tantrums if they do not get full control over other people. They are expecting us to conform. The need to have control over parents perhaps gives them some comfort as they feel overwhelmed by a world they have no control over.
I am searching for a way to reach out to my children without denying my own integrity. This is terribly difficult for me as I have no family support. My husband many years ago showed no hesitation affirming our daughter’s delusion. I lost any respect I might have had for him. Respecting liars is impossible for me. Transgenderism ruins families.
I have nothing more to lose. I cling to my integrity, not caring what anyone thinks of me.
I had thought long and hard about the concerns you raise.
I decided that my # 1 mission is to warn other parents of what can happen to their child. To do this, I have to provide authentic detail of the signs of this disaster and its effects on all the family members. This requires vivid narration which readers can relate to. Here is why I am willing to take the risk that my son and his sister could recognize themselves in these stories:
1. Ricky will come back to where he should be, but the chances are slim that it will be during our lifetimes. We are both in our mid 60s. Ricky became committed to the cult’s overtures at age 15, and has not shown any significant signs of listening to any good sense. He is very deep in it, and it will take a lot of time to bring him back. We have to pick a strategy that provides a greater good, even if it is at the expense of privacy, something that Ricky and his sister have denied us in this situation.
2. Ricky and his sister have been open in social media in their hostility towards us. I don’t think they will be heard to complain over our expressing our feelings in a similar, more discrete fashion.
3. I need to heal. My wife and two remaining children need to heal. Writing these pieces helps in the healing process.
4. If Ricky recognizes himself in the stories, so be it. The dosage of truth will do him good. It might plant a seed of self-awareness in him so he will see and appreciate who really has true charity for him. Even if he is on his lonely deathbed when it happens.