Predators know exactly the weaknesses these kids have and they exploit them. How will these victims feel in ten years when they realize what has been done to them?
The r/detrans site you referenced now has 56,000 members (as of Jan. 31, 2025). And multiple lawsuits have arisen against the gender-affirming ghoul physicians since this essay was published. There's still a long way to go.....
"Adolescence is a time of exploration and identity formation. Teens will always try on new identities for size, mix with the wrong crowd and learn from it, and rebel against their parents." - exactly!!
I naively believed that it's just a phase my daughter was going through (she's a teenager, she's supposed to rebel) and that she'd come out the other side of it. But I didn't realise at the time how strong the forces were pushing her deeper and deeper into that teenage rebellion. Fortunately, in our case, she has not taken drugs or mutilated her body (to my knowledge), but she ran away from home and has been estranged for over two years 😢.
Executive Orders are one thing, and I hope they slow and eventually stop this woo woo from taking hold in other children's minds, but maybe you're right. Maybe as more and more detransitioner voices are heard, as the stories of how they were betrayed by the medical profession and society in general start to infiltrate all the online spaces that these vulnerable kids frequent, maybe then they will start to see sense and return home. Maybe .... ??
Thank you for sharing; this is a very good and insightful read.
I really hope and pray my daughter would see the light sooner than later. She’s been on this gender cult and social contagion for almost a decade now; 6+ years since she revealed to us. I wish I could just take her phone away but she’s an adult now. Yes, I regret not putting limitations on her phone when we bought her first one when she was a minor. I just pray as much as I can that she does not resort to hormones and surgeries, Heaven forbid.
This is exactly what I tried to explain to my MtF child. That the feeling of inadequacy and of "not belonging" was actually normal. I even went so far as to say that had the internet and "trans" been a "thing" when I was a teen I probably would have identified with them as well. I have always been a tomboy, preferred the company of boys. Hated my home life and envied others. Of course I got the eye rolls and dismissive comments of how I can't possibly understand. It probably didn't help that I was sobbing at the time. I had wanted to write a similar letter to this one and just give it to him but things had forced my hand before I had the chance. I might just print this one out and still give it to him. Thank you so much for sharing.
I was a tomboy as well. If I look at the DSM5 criteria for gender dysphoria, I checked every single one of those boxes as a youth. And then I simply grew out of it.
Maybe we tomboys need to make our voices heard more publicly to remind kids that it’s normal.
Great insight. One thing that struck me was that this article mentions 20,000 members of the detrans subreddit. There are now over 55,000! Those poor kids. So much damage done.
Thanks for the re-post. This brings 20-20 focus to why so many teens are susceptible to the propaganda. "Grass is greener" has a similar cause ot mis-perception as the muller-lyer illusion. Thanks for prompting me to see the similarity. I will continue advocating to my local school board.
There are many reasons, but probably the most important ones are that;
1. The DEI culture puts many teens into a category of "oppressors" who are forced to be ashamed of the color of their skin and their parents, but "coming out" as the opposite gender or "non-binary" and starting transitioning makes them "oppressed" minority and forces everybody to admire them, use their preferred pronouns and let them into private spaces of the opposite gender.
2. Autistic kids, victims of sexual assault who blame their bodies for what happened to them, kids with incurable medical conditions, and kids who think they are ugly are being lied to that transitioning is an easy fix to all their problems, and they'll never regret their decision.
An excellent repost, and I agree: "I don’t see how promising vulnerable young children and teens a new body will make them happier. It certainly can’t possibly be healthier to take hormones and have body altering surgeries. But that is what is happening and encouraged with the transgender ideology today."
And bingo with this line:
"I wasn’t trying to escape my family; I just was trying to escape myself - because I was unhappy." My daughter was very unhappy and expresses how much she misses me. Yet, she is in so deep, she can't see a way out and has decided to dig in. Detransitioning seems to be out of reach and for some kids like my daughter, an admission of a mistake, which she is not willing to admit. She is still trying to keep the ideology alive.
Same, I can't see how mine will ever admit she was wrong. The best I can hope for is that, maybe, when enough detransitioner stories are out there, the vibe will shift among the young adults. They will feel hard done by, mistreated by the medical professionals, lied to by schools and counsellors etc, and maybe, just maybe, they will feel justified in changing tack.
I can relate to that perception of those that got caught in the web of trans. My adult child too.. I can't imagine how she will deal with ever accepting, she has truly been brainwashed . Hopefully, privately she will but then that means she would possibly have to leave her 4 yr partner who is a major advocate for " trans kids" No one wants to be wrong but this, with its visual cues....? Quite likely their own peers and fear of being out of their "comfort zone" make it difficult tho Hopefully not impossible.
Your post and the one above it (from EyesOpen) resonate so deeply with me. My son is 10 years into this mess and while I had periods of hope over the years that he was getting better, seeing his way out, he’s only recently dug in deeper. I think he’s affirmed and accepted as trans by his gf and peer group. It’s a status symbol of sorts.
He and I were so close until the time he left for college. I never, ever imagined how cold he could become, how devoted a follower he could be to this cult. Our relationship is fractured. Barely speaking - and unable to rationally discuss the elephant in this room.
Even after 10 years, I can’t escape the grief and the guilt of this situation. I blame myself for every slip up I had as a mother. It’s a weight, it’s overwhelming, and it makes life feel so sad and hopeless. 💔
Very honestly and truthfully written. I hope your words of wisdom will help and encourage many parents. Detransitioners are very brave and I am grateful that they have the courage to admit that a mistake was made, the strength to face their futures as themselves, and to fight against the trans cult lies. This gives us all hope!
The lucky ones are those who didn’t go for hormones and surgery. The others are damaged for life.
I think we all realise, a few years on from that post, there is no number, and disbelievers will just bury their heads deeper.
Predators know exactly the weaknesses these kids have and they exploit them. How will these victims feel in ten years when they realize what has been done to them?
The r/detrans site you referenced now has 56,000 members (as of Jan. 31, 2025). And multiple lawsuits have arisen against the gender-affirming ghoul physicians since this essay was published. There's still a long way to go.....
"Adolescence is a time of exploration and identity formation. Teens will always try on new identities for size, mix with the wrong crowd and learn from it, and rebel against their parents." - exactly!!
I naively believed that it's just a phase my daughter was going through (she's a teenager, she's supposed to rebel) and that she'd come out the other side of it. But I didn't realise at the time how strong the forces were pushing her deeper and deeper into that teenage rebellion. Fortunately, in our case, she has not taken drugs or mutilated her body (to my knowledge), but she ran away from home and has been estranged for over two years 😢.
Executive Orders are one thing, and I hope they slow and eventually stop this woo woo from taking hold in other children's minds, but maybe you're right. Maybe as more and more detransitioner voices are heard, as the stories of how they were betrayed by the medical profession and society in general start to infiltrate all the online spaces that these vulnerable kids frequent, maybe then they will start to see sense and return home. Maybe .... ??
So frustrating!!! I want to pull my hair out. It’s so obvious to us. How can so many be so dumb?
Wonderfully said! Thank you for making such a thoughtful, honest, reasonable assessment. Let’s hope it’s listened to. ❤️
Thank you for sharing; this is a very good and insightful read.
I really hope and pray my daughter would see the light sooner than later. She’s been on this gender cult and social contagion for almost a decade now; 6+ years since she revealed to us. I wish I could just take her phone away but she’s an adult now. Yes, I regret not putting limitations on her phone when we bought her first one when she was a minor. I just pray as much as I can that she does not resort to hormones and surgeries, Heaven forbid.
This is exactly what I tried to explain to my MtF child. That the feeling of inadequacy and of "not belonging" was actually normal. I even went so far as to say that had the internet and "trans" been a "thing" when I was a teen I probably would have identified with them as well. I have always been a tomboy, preferred the company of boys. Hated my home life and envied others. Of course I got the eye rolls and dismissive comments of how I can't possibly understand. It probably didn't help that I was sobbing at the time. I had wanted to write a similar letter to this one and just give it to him but things had forced my hand before I had the chance. I might just print this one out and still give it to him. Thank you so much for sharing.
I was a tomboy as well. If I look at the DSM5 criteria for gender dysphoria, I checked every single one of those boxes as a youth. And then I simply grew out of it.
Maybe we tomboys need to make our voices heard more publicly to remind kids that it’s normal.
Great insight. One thing that struck me was that this article mentions 20,000 members of the detrans subreddit. There are now over 55,000! Those poor kids. So much damage done.
Thanks for the re-post. This brings 20-20 focus to why so many teens are susceptible to the propaganda. "Grass is greener" has a similar cause ot mis-perception as the muller-lyer illusion. Thanks for prompting me to see the similarity. I will continue advocating to my local school board.
There are many reasons, but probably the most important ones are that;
1. The DEI culture puts many teens into a category of "oppressors" who are forced to be ashamed of the color of their skin and their parents, but "coming out" as the opposite gender or "non-binary" and starting transitioning makes them "oppressed" minority and forces everybody to admire them, use their preferred pronouns and let them into private spaces of the opposite gender.
2. Autistic kids, victims of sexual assault who blame their bodies for what happened to them, kids with incurable medical conditions, and kids who think they are ugly are being lied to that transitioning is an easy fix to all their problems, and they'll never regret their decision.
An excellent repost, and I agree: "I don’t see how promising vulnerable young children and teens a new body will make them happier. It certainly can’t possibly be healthier to take hormones and have body altering surgeries. But that is what is happening and encouraged with the transgender ideology today."
And bingo with this line:
"I wasn’t trying to escape my family; I just was trying to escape myself - because I was unhappy." My daughter was very unhappy and expresses how much she misses me. Yet, she is in so deep, she can't see a way out and has decided to dig in. Detransitioning seems to be out of reach and for some kids like my daughter, an admission of a mistake, which she is not willing to admit. She is still trying to keep the ideology alive.
Same, I can't see how mine will ever admit she was wrong. The best I can hope for is that, maybe, when enough detransitioner stories are out there, the vibe will shift among the young adults. They will feel hard done by, mistreated by the medical professionals, lied to by schools and counsellors etc, and maybe, just maybe, they will feel justified in changing tack.
I can relate to that perception of those that got caught in the web of trans. My adult child too.. I can't imagine how she will deal with ever accepting, she has truly been brainwashed . Hopefully, privately she will but then that means she would possibly have to leave her 4 yr partner who is a major advocate for " trans kids" No one wants to be wrong but this, with its visual cues....? Quite likely their own peers and fear of being out of their "comfort zone" make it difficult tho Hopefully not impossible.
Your post and the one above it (from EyesOpen) resonate so deeply with me. My son is 10 years into this mess and while I had periods of hope over the years that he was getting better, seeing his way out, he’s only recently dug in deeper. I think he’s affirmed and accepted as trans by his gf and peer group. It’s a status symbol of sorts.
He and I were so close until the time he left for college. I never, ever imagined how cold he could become, how devoted a follower he could be to this cult. Our relationship is fractured. Barely speaking - and unable to rationally discuss the elephant in this room.
Even after 10 years, I can’t escape the grief and the guilt of this situation. I blame myself for every slip up I had as a mother. It’s a weight, it’s overwhelming, and it makes life feel so sad and hopeless. 💔
Very honestly and truthfully written. I hope your words of wisdom will help and encourage many parents. Detransitioners are very brave and I am grateful that they have the courage to admit that a mistake was made, the strength to face their futures as themselves, and to fight against the trans cult lies. This gives us all hope!