I finally decided to tell the truth:
A letter to my daughter,
We have been so afraid of losing our connection with our daughter that we have basically been silent. I have always prided myself in being truthful with my children but, in this day and age, the truth has become a matter of opinion. "What is your truth?" young people have been asked. Like everything we hold sacred in this world, the fact that there is only 'THE truth', has been challenged and vilified.
I finally decided to tell the truth:
Please take your time in reading this. I am writing this to you because I believe it is the best way to communicate to you my feelings and my fears, my regrets, and my love—and, because I can't be silent any longer. I can’t rein in my emotions enough to be able to speak with you so I am hoping that you will read this and sit with it, and hear me before you respond. Spoken words can be thrown out so quickly. I want you to really hear me when I tell you how much I truly love you.
You are the first person I think of when I wake up in the morning and as I lay my head down each night. I worry about you constantly. I would do anything and everything I can to protect you. I am afraid, and that has kept me silent. I am afraid for you. I am afraid that you will be like so many other young women that have been charmed by the transgender ideology only to wake up one day and realize it was all a terrible mistake. I feel that I am to blame for this. I wasn’t there for you when you needed me the most and for that I am truly sorry. I can't begin to explain to you how desperately I want to go back and change that time, to protect you, to let you know that you are so deserving of more than I was able to give you at the time. I used to get so angry with my own mom when she would tell me that she did the best that she could. I wanted to scream, "No! You did not!" What I have so painfully come to realize is that, yes, she did.
There are swaths of time that I don't remember. I was so lost in a haze of depression and self loathing. And you, unfortunately, paid the price. I wasn't and I couldn't be the mother that you deserved. I did the best that I could though. Was it good enough? NO! It wasn't, but it was all I had.
You were a true miracle when you entered this world! We were so afraid of losing you throughout my pregnancy, but you made it! And you have been a shining light so bright since the day you were born. I've told you before and I will tell you again: There is a goodness in you that people are drawn to. I've seen it happen many times.
You ARE special!
It pains me to think of the self loathing that you have been experiencing. I look back and try to see when it all began. How did my beautiful little girl become so scared and so unsure of herself? How did I let that happen to her? Why didn't I see the signs and nip it in the bud? Where was I when you were struggling? You told me once that, when you hit puberty, you felt so uncomfortable in your body. You questioned why everyone (boys and girls alike), couldn't just continue to look the same? The answer is simple. Because that is what happens when you grow up. You were always going to become a woman, with the incredible gift of being able to carry another human life in your body. It is the most amazing gift, to be able carry a life inside of ourselves, a part of us and a part of the person that we love and have chosen as our partner in life. Because that is what happens when you grow up. You become a woman -- with the God given gift of being able to carry another human life in your body.
Unfortunately, you have been led to believe that the uncomfortable feelings of going through puberty means you are transgender and that you were born in the wrong body. First of all, I don't believe that God makes mistakes. Secondly, talk to any grown woman and they will tell you that those terrifying feelings when you change from a little girl into a woman are completely normal. Becoming a woman is scary! Sex is scary! Especially today. Young children are being exposed to pornographic materials that they are unable to understand, let alone wrap their minds around. I know that you've seen this firsthand in the children that you care for every day.
I often ask myself, "What were you exposed to? What did you see that left its mark on you?" I know from talking to other parents, and also hearing from young women who have detransitioned, that what they saw on different websites and on social media platforms scared the hell out of them. Is that what happened to you? Dad and I both failed you. We should have protected you from the internet, but we were naive at best.
Negligent is more like it. I am so truly sorry!
Daddy and I cannot stop you from destroying your body. And that is what it is. Transgender medicine is the destruction of a perfect and healthy body. You WILL become a patient for life if you decide to medically transition. There are so many young women like you who have destroyed their bodies; only to come to regret their decisions once they have removed their perfectly healthy breasts, altered their voices, lost their hair to male pattern baldness, grown an Adam’s apple, increased their risk of cancer and heart disease, grown facial hair, and ultimately sterilized themselves.
The transgender cult is destroying families. And yes, it is a cult. And you are a victim of that indoctrination. Parents are vilified if they don't automatically affirm and participate in the lie that their children have been born into the wrong bodies.
But I can't be silent any longer. I love you too much. I have to tell you the truth. I think that you are making a terrible mistake. One that you will come to ultimately regret. I think that you would be so much happier if you could find peace in accepting yourself as you are. A beautiful young woman! You will never be a man. It is physically impossible. You will always be pretending, hiding, living a lie. It will be painful because it is never something you can actually achieve. I believe that if you allowed yourself, opened up yourself, to accepting and loving the beautiful body that God has given you, that you will eventually find peace. You ARE female. You ARE a woman. What is keeping you from truly accepting yourself? I want you to think about that.
I have attached some links that I would like you to share with you. There are videos and stories from many young women much like yourself. Please take your time and open up your mind to the possibility that you may have been misled. That you are actually perfect just the way you are. Just the way God made you.
I love you!
It's time we take back the truth!!