I have a problem: A Desistor's Manifesto - Part 6

This is the sixth segment of an essay in six parts. Part 1, part 2, part 3, part 4, and part 5.

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What transgenderism brought into my life is a mountain of hurt and disillusionment, loneliness and pain, anger and despair.

I have been asked, why do I dare to call the trans movement a cult? Because it is. It has all the characteristics of a cult - the ruthless propaganda of the ideology, the systematic indoctrination, the love bombing of its victims, the destabilization of their view of reality and sense of self. This, in addition to requiring unquestioning devotion to socially problematic and scientifically arguable beliefs, practicing mind control, pushing followers to embrace unhealthy behaviors (think cross sex hormones, mutilations of healthy organs...), guilt-tripping its detractors, convincing members that they are under threat and safe only in the group and pushing for the infamous "no contact" policy with those who are not on board with the cult philosophy. The total rejection of loved ones who don't share the dogma is an essential aspect, as it is paramount to a successful and lasting brainwashing. This rejection prevents the newcomer from being exposed to a different narrative and it also ensure the loyalty of new recruits by providing for their physical needs and hunger for belonging through a "glitter family", comprised of loyal converts who will in turn reinforce the dogma.

Trans activists are working overtime to disable any meaningful and healthy relationships between the trans disciples and their folks and even lobby to pass laws to legally allow the removal (or should I say kidnapping, like AB665 in California) of trans-identifying kids from families unwilling to submit to the new creed.

I have a problem when iniquitous laws are passed to facilitate the legal destruction of kids and to paralyze parental attempts to rescue them, forcing parents to witness the demise of their children and pushing them to the rock bottom of mental torture and excruciating emotional anguish. This is what should absolutely be illegal.

Remember the part of the Pinocchio story when a naive, deceived and defiant Pinocchio runs away from Geppetto's love and protective arms, leaving this father to worry and weep. Pinocchio is enticed by bad, dishonest and self-serving people who lie to him, steal from him, leading to him being changed into a donkey, before they ultimately throw him into the sea. Pinocchio is abandoned to his regrets and filled with despair. Sounds familiar? I feel today's trans identifying kids are the Pinocchios of our time.

I fell into the hands of wicked adults who managed to take me to "a world of their own" where, as described by Lewis Carroll, "everything (is) nonsense and nothing (is) what it is because everything (is) what it is not". I was promised "a better tomorrow" in a new world filled with inner peace and lasting" body satisfaction", but it never delivered. Gender transition made me hope for a "social reincarnation" of some sort where I was guaranteed happiness. For me, like for many, if not most, that dream of a "new you", that will resolve your inner chaos never materialized, hence the nearly 20 fold increase in suicide rate post transition among transgenders in comparison to the general population.¹

Evil lies, wicked agendas, greed and fear had poisoned my heart and set my childhood on fire. 

I was captured and hurt by an unadulterated evil that nearly destroyed me. This evil causes emotional amnesia to its victims, disfigures their childhood memories, erases their past magical family moments and turns them into imposters in their own bodies, leading them to live a make-believe life, pretending to be someone who only exists in their deceived mind. The trans agenda gets a steady stream of loyal new recruits via the systematic destruction of their victims (new names and identities), the erasure and rewriting of their life history (new and distorted" life story") and the non-stop recruiting among peers and through a new glitter "family" made of virtual members on social media and/or local activists.

Gender reconciliation inside a person is a deep and complex issue that goes beyond the exclusively political, social, cultural or psycho medical paradigms. The main problem is in the human heart. Unless you take care of the source of all issues first, any solution, even the most promising ones, will only be a bandage on a hemorrhagic wound. I don't know many desistors who turned back from the toxic gender ideology because his/her mind was convinced by magnificent arguments and unarguable logic. Every single one I know desisted after something or someone touched their heart somehow.

You may (or may not) be familiar with the radioactive trans symbol meme. It's often associated with the following statement: "This is the age of sin. Reject the order of creation. Revel in the annihilation of Man as the image of God. Destroy. Plot design of death. Disfigure the face of Man and Women". Why am I talking about that?

At the risk of sounding "unhinged", the point I'm trying to make here, is that there is a bunch of sick, deviant people out there who are on a mission to destroy humanity. It's disturbing and inconvenient, but it's a fact. When you combine those with ruthless, rapacious opportunistic corporations, you have the recipe for a perfect (and disastrous) storm. And they are using transgenderism as one of their instruments of ideological re-engineering of society (on top of generating substantial juicy profits...). That's why (or at least one of the reasons why) we have to push back like there is no tomorrow.

I want to see the demonic trans cult and its wicked ideology defeated and its dark legacy disappear into oblivion in the forgotten files of human history. Hearing stories of desistance makes my day. By the way, I use desistor and detransitioner interchangeably. Any detransition starts with desistance in the heart and is followed, when the person is ready, by a change in the mindset. And detransition can differ greatly among individuals, from social to surgical and everything in between. While venting away my raw anger in this piece, I used many times the word "transgender" and a couple times the technically more accurate term "transsexual”. I did it for the sake of clarity. Everyone knows what those words mean. However, it fails to address the "trans elephant" in the room. Those terms are lies in and out of themselves. To be blunt, they are "fantasy concepts". Nobody can authentically "transition" from one biological sex to the other. Modern surgery and a sophisticated trans market make it possible to simulate the appearance of "being" the other sex. But it remains just that: an illusion of reality. I prefer the term "identity confused" (in private, I tend to say that I once was "mentally confused about my biological/birth sex). Unless of course I'm dealing with perverse opportunists who have zero identity issues but are taking advantage of the current gender chaos for self serving purposes. In that case, I just call them what they are: cross dressers.

I strongly agree with Taylor Silverman (@tmsilverman) who stated on X: "The first step to ending going along with their bullshit is to stop using their bullshit language". Some may counter argue that with "we need to love everyone". Lisa Shultz, the author of "The Trans Train" said in her recent PITT piece: "Is agreeing with whatever a kid says what love means? I'm a big fan of love but that word doesn't address the complexity of trans ideology and the medicalized model...".

She's right. It doesn't. 

Real love says the truth. It doesn't pretend in the name of "love". It doesn't hurt under the guise of "love". Real love is not afraid of rejection. It's not hungry of social affirmation and cultural acceptance. Real love doesn't stand idle while someone's body, future and overall life are being decimated. Those behaviors are the very opposite of authentic love.

I love to see people escape the cult's malicious grip and heal and thrive, becoming who they really are, who they were meant to be.

In the image of Pinocchio who finally wakes up to the truth of who really loves him, who is truly rooting for him, who really cares, he turns from wood to flesh, blissfully reaching reality and finally becoming alive.

This is my desistor's manifesto. And if you are one of those trans "allies", and you're gonna call me transphobe, then don't just throw it at me. Tell me why. What have I done? What did I say to qualify as being phobic of who I once was? Nobody is more transphobic than gender affirming people. You have to really hate someone to push them towards a life of medical dependency and mental instability. And professionals of all kinds must be evil and/or pathologically greedy to facilitate such irreversible abuse. Was your mansion with Olympic size pool and built in jacuzzi worth my health, trans care providing Doctor? Was your brand-new Lamborghini and all-inclusive vacation in the Bahamas worth my future, trans propaganda Hollywood producer? Was my mental disarray worth your reelection, trans policies supporting Senator? Do you enjoy your likes and "justice warrior" statute in the community, trans affirming family and friends? 

I hope so. Because you got them at the expense of my constitutional right to pursue happiness and my will to live. Why? Tell me: what life and happiness are left for me to pursue and experience when my body is destroyed, my spirit is broken and I'm dying of physical pain and emotional anguish inside?

Many transgenders don't detransition, not because they don't want to, but because they are so messed up by the "amazing" and "compassionate" trans affirming health care that it's less painful and less costly to remain "as is ", a walking and breathing "damaged good", compliments of trans affirming "experts" and supporters.

Ask "Scott" in "What is a woman" (Matt Walsh). She has a few truths to tell you. Many transgenders live in the "night of the living dead" every day.

When will you realize what your freaking virtue signaling affirmation has done? It has pushed many of us into a trans grave we're buried in alive. And I'm not talking about life details like being called "sir" on the phone because testosterone has messed up your voice for good; or kids asking you in their innocent uncensored candor :" are you a boy or a girl?" because obviously, it's not evident. I'm talking about the unfathomable pain that doesn't go away and that you've got to experience to understand. In "Through the Looking Glass" Alice declares: "I knew who I was this morning but I've changed a few times since then". The same is true for many trans people who live in a seemingly hopeless no man's land of identity and emotional confusion. Desistance may liberate your mind but it doesn't erase the scars. ²

But despite all of that, we have to keep going. Because exiting the planet out of despair is not a valid option. Because life is worth living. Because there is still hope. Because restoration is possible. And because I refuse to be a suicide statistic of the trans madness. And because against all odds, everything is gonna be ok and we'll make it through. 

It is my prayer and my hope that advances and breakthroughs in endocrinology and surgical repair care will help people who have been badly hurt and they will see the light at the end of the tunnel.

And it's not just a hope, it's the fight of my life. A fight for truth. A fight for life. A fight for reality. For the right to be intact and whole. The right to be yourself. The real you.

Not a phony "true self" inflicted by greedy deviants and their imbecile cheerleaders on you.

And it's happening right now. People are desisting right and left. Detransitioners are increasingly speaking up. Others are being successfully warned and walk away from gender confusion. A strong momentum is building.

As recently as October 2023, the "Do No Harm Coalition", a medical advocacy group has issued a "detransitioner bill of rights". Unthinkable years back when the medical community seemed hypnotized by the trans agenda or remained silent out of fear of committing professional suicide. It publicly recognized the plight of detransitioners and their need for support, and it can serve as a template for states to enact laws to protect gender confused individuals against harmful medical practices. Recently, I was overjoyed to read (on PITT) that Therapy First (formerly GETA) went from a handful of courageous therapists to nearly 400.

Hundreds of students from the Perkiomen Valley school district in Pennsylvania organized a walk out in September 2023 to protest boys in girls' bathrooms out of concern for the girls' safety and wellbeing. Liam Morrison, a student banned from wearing a shirt that says" there are only 2 genders" is fighting back and challenging the school district's policy. Some time ago, one PITT story was about courageous parents and concerned citizens pushing back against the transgender ideology indoctrination in the Seattle School District. Up to now, those giant school districts were out of our league. Not anymore. Things are changing. Society is (slowly) waking up. One person and one state at a time.

We all heard the quote saying, “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing”. It might not be the only thing, as other elements factor in, but complacency, silence and apathy in the face of evil are not an option. Whether you're running against a pro trans fanatic at your district's school board, lobbying your reps for common sensical pro parent and pro-family laws to be voted, helping gathering signatures for a petition, donating to a detransitioner's legal fund to sue the monsters who have caused the harm or helping pay for reparative surgery, mentoring young people at risk of falling into the trans trap by affirming the beauty and strength of their birth gender, posting articulate and witty articles/ pictures/ memes on social media, posting encouraging words to detransitioners, reading books to your kids and grandkids that can help prevent/counter the lies of the gender ideology*, standing your ground lovingly but firmly when people around you spew pro trans bullshit ...anything that can bring people to hear a different narrative than the common trans approved lies and can lead them to reconsider their position and potentially reach a stage of awakening and hopefully desistance from the trans doctrine is helpful. No effort is too small, no action is insignificant.

Let's be honest: truly (non ROGD) gender dysphoric transsexuals exist and will always be there. They are not the problem. They are VERY rare and they're usually low-profile people who just want to live their life and are not trying to impose their "reality" upon society. Many of us know people with an illness or disability who managed to live a decently satisfying life, because I'll never say it enough: gender dysphoria was, is and will always remain a mental illness regardless of what the pseudo-science or opinions of the day tell us.

But the organized destruction of a generation through the devastation of their bodies, lives, futures and families based on big fat ugly lies, by evil forces combining their effort to execute an insane, anti-humanity, financially motived and monstrously horrific agenda that wants to convert the world to their trans demonic religion has got to go.

And I'm hopeful it will happen during our lifetime. 

Regardless of the verbal abuse, the intimidation tactics, the threats and the typical doublespeak where detractors accuse the other side of what they are guilty of, we have to carry on and keep up the fight.

I can't resist mentioning one the most outstanding illustration of doublespeak that occurred in 2022, at the WPATH 27^th annual training in Canada where Psychologist Dr. Harriette Wimms stated that parents who don't affirm their child's gender identity (and the subsequent transition) suffer from mental illness. It would be a hilarious joke if it was not an unfounded, dangerous and harm-inducing belief that she and other "experts" hold dearly. 

I know that one day the so called "gender theory" will be taught as one of the most unscientific, ridiculous and devastating ideology that the world had to endure.

Gender ideology skeptics and opponents are on the right side of history. Though I'm aware it will not bring back home every single victim of the trans madness battlefield, victory against the insane and evil gender tyranny is in our future. Things are turning around; hope is very much alive for those who are still in their clutches.

Let all people of common sense and goodwill be a part of its eradication and instrumental in the liberation of the current hypnotized captives.

I'll conclude with the following quotes:

• "Never give in. Never give in. Never yield to force. Never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy". British Prime Minister Winston Churchill, 1941

• "A lie doesn't become truth, wrong doesn't become right, and evil doesn't become good, just because it's accepted by a majority" (or in this case, by a minority pretending to be a majority). Booker T. Washington

• "If it can be destroyed by the truth, it deserves to be destroyed by the truth". Linus, The Peanuts.

• "Did you think I would crumble? Did you think I'd lay down and die? Oh no. Not I. I will survive. I've got all my life to live. I've got all my love to give. I will survive". Gloria Gaynor.

And not just survive but thrive and live life filled to the brim.

Helene

*Examples of books for small kids:

"Johnny the walrus", Matt Walsh 

"Elephants are not birds", Ashley St. Clair, Brave Books

1. "The transgender suicide epidemic", Mark Hodges, 8/18/2015, "Gender, Lies and Suicide": a whistleblower speaks out, Walt Heyer, 2013, "Danish studies finds transgenders attempt suicide 7.7 times more often...", Andreas Wailtzer, 6/30/2023, “5 men and women harmed by trans surgeries share their stories of regret anxiety and depression”, Matt Lamb, August 11, 2022, “Detransition Awareness Day expected to draw record turnout next week at California capitol”, Calvin Freiburger, March 2, 2023, “Long-Term Follow-Up of Transsexual Persons Undergoing Sex Reassignment Surgery: Cohort Study in Sweden” February 2, 2011, “What’s wrong with the new NIH study on transgender kids?”, Jane Robbins, February 19, 2018.

2. "Thousands of young people regret their gender transition and their stories are gut wrenching", Jonathon Van Maren, 10/27/2023, "This series of articles could help save your loved ones from transgender ideology", Matt Lamb, 11/14/2022, The American College of Pediatricians published a review this month (Feb.2024) that explains that there is no proven benefits of GAT (Gender Affirming Therapy) for kids with gender dysphoria.