Read the first two paras and there are so many red flags in there. "Stealing food without asking"?? Teenager's dietary needs are so unpredictable, depending on if they are having a growth spurt, so in my house they eat what they want and don't need to ask. And equating doing girly stuff with desisting is weird. She can wear a black hoodie and hide her figure if she wants, if it makes her more comfortable. It sounds like there is only a stereotypical way of being female in your house and she's uncomfortable with that. What's with this long hair and showing off her figure stuff? Not all girls or women want to do that, EVER. Maybe let her be a woman in her own way, even if it's non-conforming, and she won't need to say 'I wanna be a boy'.
Maybe I'm in the wrong place, but if this is a typical story then parents need to have a look at themselves too.
Beautiful I can not imagine this pain.To watch the evil all around countering all your love and care with your beautiful jewel.I am thankful that the brain washing didn’t completely consume her and you my indeed have her back.Much love to you family for not giving up.
You are not alone in this. It will be a long road to our collective recovery from this moment, but better days are ahead. In the meantime, remember God, who notes the fall of a sparrow and numbers the hairs on our heads
Congratulations brother! From one dad-of-a-desisted-daughter to another.
We are walking through a recent battlefield, on our way to the next one where we are still needed. We grieve those we have lost, but we gotta celebrate what we can, when we can 🎉🥳👏
Us too. Our daughter is finally back in school, at a new school. We are so relieved that she came to realize that she wasn't really a boy and that medically altering her body to be more masculine wasn't going to help. But we are scared too. One of the two girls she likes the most in her class is socially transitioning to male and the other identifies as non-binary, and our daughter is lonely and insecure. She hates hearing these new friends talk about their realizations that they aren't "really" female but also knows she can't talk them out of it and doesn't want to talk about what she went through. But she is also feeling lonely and hopeless because she doesn't feel feminine either and doesn't see any peers who are uncomfortable with their bodies or are non-conforming to gender stereotypes but also accept or embrace being female (because they believe themselves to be trans or non-binary). Where are the teen girls and young women who can serve as role models in expanding what it means to be a woman, as women?
I wish we had pushed back more forcefully when our daughter was 14 and "came out" as trans-identified. She is now 21, has been on hormones for almost two years, and is unrecognisable. She has said she'll be going off the "t" now, because she is satisfied with the changes she has achieved, but does not consider herself a detransitioner and still intends to have surgery someday. So no victory lap here, either.
I can't tell you how happy I am for you, your daughter and your family. I admire your will to stay in the fight, this is not over for so many. God bless all of you.
Very happy to hear your story. Our daughter also desisted (almost two years ago) and I understand what you say about standing in solidarity with the families still fighting for their kids.
Congratulations. Success comes in small steps. You have obviously worked hard to save your child from these "progressive" lies. Both you & your wife should be proud, but as you acknowledge the war against this insanity is never over. Good luck.
I know what it is to have survivors guilt that your child made it out as you watch friends children getting sucked in. BUT this is an occasion worthy of celebration! It’s okay to feel relief and happiness while still helping and fighting for others. I hope you and your wife and family shake off the heaviness that can settle on a family from the trans fight, and when you have those joyful moments of desistance (her name, clothes, etc) go ahead and enjoy them!
Thank you! I rejoice with you, and pray for continued progress. How precious it is that you can say the words, "She is desisting." It is totally understandable that you are not yet running a victory lap, that is your compassion and experience speaking but do know that your beautiful article has gladdened my heart, and many others. How we, the families still deep in the trenches, need the stories of success and desistence, such as yours. I pray for justice to come for all those complicit in furthering this insane ideology, I pray for mercy for all who have suffered and all those still suffering. We are so grateful for each beloved person who makes it through, so please do write more as time goes on. Love, Indio
"How deeply misogynistic the trans movement is at its core."
I agree, 100%. I find it difficult to believe that the affirmers can't also see it. Perhaps they simply won't allow themselves to believe that the Left could be guilty of misogyny, as that runs completely counter to the progressive narrative.
Read the first two paras and there are so many red flags in there. "Stealing food without asking"?? Teenager's dietary needs are so unpredictable, depending on if they are having a growth spurt, so in my house they eat what they want and don't need to ask. And equating doing girly stuff with desisting is weird. She can wear a black hoodie and hide her figure if she wants, if it makes her more comfortable. It sounds like there is only a stereotypical way of being female in your house and she's uncomfortable with that. What's with this long hair and showing off her figure stuff? Not all girls or women want to do that, EVER. Maybe let her be a woman in her own way, even if it's non-conforming, and she won't need to say 'I wanna be a boy'.
Maybe I'm in the wrong place, but if this is a typical story then parents need to have a look at themselves too.
Beautiful I can not imagine this pain.To watch the evil all around countering all your love and care with your beautiful jewel.I am thankful that the brain washing didn’t completely consume her and you my indeed have her back.Much love to you family for not giving up.
You are not alone in this. It will be a long road to our collective recovery from this moment, but better days are ahead. In the meantime, remember God, who notes the fall of a sparrow and numbers the hairs on our heads
Congratulations brother! From one dad-of-a-desisted-daughter to another.
We are walking through a recent battlefield, on our way to the next one where we are still needed. We grieve those we have lost, but we gotta celebrate what we can, when we can 🎉🥳👏
Us too. Our daughter is finally back in school, at a new school. We are so relieved that she came to realize that she wasn't really a boy and that medically altering her body to be more masculine wasn't going to help. But we are scared too. One of the two girls she likes the most in her class is socially transitioning to male and the other identifies as non-binary, and our daughter is lonely and insecure. She hates hearing these new friends talk about their realizations that they aren't "really" female but also knows she can't talk them out of it and doesn't want to talk about what she went through. But she is also feeling lonely and hopeless because she doesn't feel feminine either and doesn't see any peers who are uncomfortable with their bodies or are non-conforming to gender stereotypes but also accept or embrace being female (because they believe themselves to be trans or non-binary). Where are the teen girls and young women who can serve as role models in expanding what it means to be a woman, as women?
I wish we had pushed back more forcefully when our daughter was 14 and "came out" as trans-identified. She is now 21, has been on hormones for almost two years, and is unrecognisable. She has said she'll be going off the "t" now, because she is satisfied with the changes she has achieved, but does not consider herself a detransitioner and still intends to have surgery someday. So no victory lap here, either.
I can't tell you how happy I am for you, your daughter and your family. I admire your will to stay in the fight, this is not over for so many. God bless all of you.
Very happy to hear your story. Our daughter also desisted (almost two years ago) and I understand what you say about standing in solidarity with the families still fighting for their kids.
Thanks for sharing the unbelievable amount of work you had to do & for so long, & with four other children to take care of.
Congratulations. Success comes in small steps. You have obviously worked hard to save your child from these "progressive" lies. Both you & your wife should be proud, but as you acknowledge the war against this insanity is never over. Good luck.
I know what it is to have survivors guilt that your child made it out as you watch friends children getting sucked in. BUT this is an occasion worthy of celebration! It’s okay to feel relief and happiness while still helping and fighting for others. I hope you and your wife and family shake off the heaviness that can settle on a family from the trans fight, and when you have those joyful moments of desistance (her name, clothes, etc) go ahead and enjoy them!
Thank you! I rejoice with you, and pray for continued progress. How precious it is that you can say the words, "She is desisting." It is totally understandable that you are not yet running a victory lap, that is your compassion and experience speaking but do know that your beautiful article has gladdened my heart, and many others. How we, the families still deep in the trenches, need the stories of success and desistence, such as yours. I pray for justice to come for all those complicit in furthering this insane ideology, I pray for mercy for all who have suffered and all those still suffering. We are so grateful for each beloved person who makes it through, so please do write more as time goes on. Love, Indio
Thank you for sharing your positive story. It is so nice to hear.
I am so happy for you!
So happy to hear this. You did all of the hard things and it is worth it. If only we could have controlled the internet sooner. 😔
"How deeply misogynistic the trans movement is at its core."
I agree, 100%. I find it difficult to believe that the affirmers can't also see it. Perhaps they simply won't allow themselves to believe that the Left could be guilty of misogyny, as that runs completely counter to the progressive narrative.