It's not too soon to plan our exit
As light begins to emerge on the horizon, and the world awakens to question the to-date-undebatable concept of trans, it’s time to start thinking about the off-ramp from the resistance highway.
What is “success” in our endeavor? When can the parent resistance disband and disperse? When is PITT no longer needed?
At first we said, that time is when our children desist or detransition. A number of our children have now done so, we’re thrilled to say. Some of us in this position, having had success within their own families, have moved on from the resistance, back to their normal lives. Others have stayed to help those with children still in the cult. It’s too soon to disband now—society is still captured and too many young people are at risk—but it isn’t too soon to think this through to its logical conclusion—the end of the parents against gender identity movement. The alternative is unacceptable—to institutionalize a movement that has outlasted its utility.
We’ve seen what happens when there’s no exit plan, when an organization formed to reach a certain goal, achieves its aims, outlives its usefulness, and has to find a new raison d'être: We get trans - the cause that latched on to the LGB rights movements when their original goals achieved widespread acceptance.
The last thing we want is for the un-trans movement to turn into a bureaucracy, with paid leadership, real estate and political structure, that needs to continually find ways to maintain relevance. If trans is a trend, or a fad, we don’t want to cement it into our culture through our efforts—or inadvertently spawn something in the future that’s even worse for our kids or grandkids. If we institutionalize, it takes a momentary cause that unites us, and turns it into a permanent fixture. And what we’d rather have is for future generations to only know what “trans” is from their history books, like lobotomies, repressed/false memories, and other medical curiosities and disasters from bygone eras.
But yet, the trans movement, having affixed itself to the infrastructure build by the LGB movement, including AIDs clinics and health services, lobbying structures, and help lines, like the Trevor Project are so powerful and entrenched, that we NEED structure to defend against them. So, how do we create a movement, with enough structure to embed in all areas of our culture and enough strength to push back against a cultural juggernaut, but also with enough self-actualization to take our structure apart before its aims turn from good to evil, as all such things seem to do?
What is clear is that we need to think this through in advance. Just look at the current world situation surrounding the pandemic controls. As the pandemic begins to ebb, countries are at various stages of exiting the tight control protocols that were emplaced, when covid deaths were spiking and vaccinations and effective treatment protocols were just a plan, not a reality. Schools are realizing that we got on the masking highway, without a clear idea of where to get off the road. We didn’t do a great job of setting clear guidelines and an exit path in advance and it’s leading to civil disorder and strife.
We need a plan—or we will be doomed to repeat history.
If you don't mind me saying, I think that parents who walk away from this fight, once their child is safe, are extremely selfish.
This ideology affects so many different aspects of Society. It has only just started to become apparent to most people. How many more lives will be ruined.
Selfless, brave, mostly women, but some men, have been fighting this battle for over seven years. They are exhausted. Every decent person, needs to step up, and do what they can to expose this dangerous, authoritarian, totalitarian, homophobic, misogynist movement.
It doesn't matter, if it doesn't affect you personally.
People must do what they can to help.
We can't let this dystopian nightmare become a reality.
Thank you for listening.
I knew from the beginning where this article was going because it makes so much sense. We watched the trans movement latch onto the hard fought gains and successes of the gay rights movement and take these organizations in directions that, ironically, are often most hostile to gay and lesbian individuals. I don’t know what movement would attach itself to ours, but I can imagine one that is also homophobic and might seek to take down all the gains of the gay rights movement in the name of some sort of morality, implausibly arguing that “encouraging” young people to be gay/lesbian/bisexual will socially sterilize them, or some other crazy thing. The problem is that, as we see, crazy arguments sometimes take hold of society. And we don’t want the world to go backwards again. So I would say that we need a clear mission statement and make clear thst whatever we as parents fight for under that mission, we stop once we succeed. I see our mission as: to prevent the unnecessary medicalization and sterilization of young people (or anyone really) who simply feel discomfort with their bodies, don’t fit gender stereotypes or just feel like they are not like the other girls/boys. These people deserve compassion and care. That may sometimes involve just the passing of time (particularly when it’s 12 and 13 year old girls with this issue - which happens to most young girls). It may involve family and close friends giving extra emotional support and, for some, it may involve therapy to explore why the person is having such difficulty accepting their own biology. We also need to expand people’s minds about what behaviors are acceptable in society, which will relieve the struggle for many who are simply gender non-conforming. Boys who want to wear dresses to school should be allowed and should not be hurt for doing so. Girls who can’t stand dresses should be allowed to wear a nice suit to a wedding instead. You get the idea. Nobody should be spreading the ridiculous notion to children they they may be born in the wrong body. Adults who choose to medically alter their bodies should be allowed - but should be armed with correct information about the side effects and dangers and should not be given false promises about how such interventions will relieve their emotional Problems or allow them to be their true self. It’s cosmetic surgery. It will perhaps allow one to pass as the opposite sex in society if that is their goal. Once messages from the medical community are clear, schools no longer spout false notions, and young people are not pushed to chemically and surgically alter healthy bodies to achieve “happiness,” we will have achieved our goal and can disband.