You were created by God for good, at this particular time in history. You are a witness to the Truth and a role model to others who may need your strength. Well done!
Wow! Bravo! Ignore all the atheists and haters. You finally know who you are. I am so proud of you child. I wish that I could hug you and tell you how amazing and beautiful you are. Thank you and don’t ever stop sharing.♥️
Crushing certainty? I am a mental health professional with 35 years experience. I have also taught human sexuality. These are my conclusions based on my review of the literature and my clinical experience. Others will arrive at different opinions based on their own reviews. If your N is 1 I am certain that does not qualify as a researxh-informed opinion. Of course you are entitled to your own opinion based on your iife experience.
To say that you don't believe anyone on Earth is exclusively same sex attracted is Crushing Certainty.
If you instead said that you believed gay population numbers were overblown, there's room for debate there. But to say you don't believe in exclusive same sex attraction, in anyone, ever. That's Crushing Certainty. After expressing such an Extreme Statement, immediately the burden of proof is on you.
Congratulations on finding sanity and getting anchored in truth. Our 19 YO daughter went through a period age 15 similar to yours. It started with TikTok influencers and I was ignorant of what she was putting in her brain. It went from “ my new name is X” not what God gave her through my wife’s dreams to “ I’m gay/bi” to “ I’m gonna have an elective mastectomy and trans “. Through patience and therapy, she came back center. Started going to church again and an obvious change in her demeanor resulted. I truly have empathy for anyone that thinks they’re in the wrong body. I have no idea how that must feel. A surgeon both my wife and I work with has a 19 YO that just went off to college in another state and he has fully accepted her trans. He refers to her as his son now. He’s a brilliant physician but caught up in the mania of this nightmare. The advice I have for any parent is continue to love and listen, get them into therapy if not already, and not a therapist supporting trans ideology. Be patient and don’t force change. Reading on this madness is helpful as well. 2 books I read and recommend are Abi Shrier’s “ Irreversible Damge” and Hannah Barnes’” Time to Think. As an aside, from what I’ve read, it appears this trans movement is partly steeped in anti gay rhetoric. Many of the families reported by therapists in Time to Think brought their child to the gender clinic in fear that the child was gay and transing them would resolve that conflict. My final thought, transing a child whose frontal cortex hasn’t even graduated yet is akin to Josef Mengele’s work. Its abuse, not healthcare and the increasing number of hospitals preforming these abomination surgeries are making a killing in revenue.
If only everyone had the ability of critical thinking as the author does. And unfortunately, being a critical thinker often means feeling lonely. What occupies many people’s time and focus is trying too hard to fit in, and battling their own mind as they do so.
Have you also accepted yourself has a lesbian too? For there is nothing wrong about being a lesbian. You are 100% normal and worthy of love and respect.
Thank you for your kind words. After writing this piece and talking with others, I have come to a general acceptance. It's not a proud embrasure, but I'm fine with just taking it for what it is and figuring out the nuances later.
Hi! I'm sure I'll get a lot of flack for this comment, but I have to make it anyway, with much love. I'm not sure which God/god you are referring to in your beautiful piece, but if it is the Christian God, he not only made us male and female, as you're discovering, but he made us male and female for each other. Followers of Jesus are called to either faithful celibacy or faithful male/female marriage. Not at all because God hates us, but because he loves us and his design truly is for our best good. I encourage you to keep seeking God by reading his word, the Bible, and seek out testimonies of believers who've gone through the path of a gay lifestyle to Christ. Becket Cook on YouTube has a great channel with some really excellent interviews. I wish you all the best in your continued journey and will say a prayer for you today.
I appreciate that you have stated that your comment is made from a place of love, however, my opinion is that the things you have written are inappropriate to say to a young desister who has made herself vulnerable by generously sharing her story with parents. Most of us would rejoice in having an authentic and happy lesbian daughter, rather than a hurting child who has adopted a false transgender identity.
Before I say anything else, I want to say 'to each their own.'
But the world holds up romantic love as one of the most deeply fulfilling aspects of our humanity. Raising children would probably be the only other thing that would compete, but even that is much better done in partnership with a romantic partner.
Trying to push 'lifelong celibacy' as any kind of attractive alternative to romantic love, that's a tough sell. To each person their own choices of course. We're all different and some people prefer celibacy which is fine with me. But there are people who have never felt any attraction to the opposite sex. None ever. Even after trying desperately to make it happen. People are free to suggest celibacy I suppose, but I'll say this: if I were raised in a culture that pushed 'celibacy only' for homosexuals, in a world that correctly puts romantic love on the tallest of pedestals, transing the gay away just to gain access to Romantic Love, would be a very, very tempting idea. A horrifying turn of events starting with a message as seemingly-innocuous as 'please choose celibacy.'
We should keep in mind what messages like 'please choose celibacy' can do to desperate people.
Absolutely. I believe wholeheartedly in the sanctity of marriage between men and women. I wrote an essay reflecting on the matter about two months ago and still feel the same way. Same-sex attraction, though a very strange cross to bear, is a worthy sacrifice in the eyes of the Lord. I'm committed to God and the Divine Plan for humanity, and currently have no plans on backing out of my celibacy.
Sending you the deepest empathy. I was a tomboy growing up decades before you. Rarely fitted in. Was bullied horribly. More friends with teachers. Hid in the art room or music room at recess and lunch so I wasn't bullied more. I am bisexual. It isn't the most interesting thing about me at all, sexuality should never be put on a pedestal. But it's real, a part of who we are and completely normal. May the years bring you comfort with the wisdom of age. x
Same sex attraction is normal for everyone, especially as people are entering the period in which their normal narcissism surges, early adolescence. They are learning to love their developing bodies by seeing a mirror in others. As that process completes, their attraction is able to shift to the opposite sex as long as there are no developmental problems/disruptions, trauma, or serious emotional problems.
Very interesting contribution to the discussion. What would you say to the small number of people who have never felt any attraction to the opposite sex? Those exclusively same sex attracted from the beginning of puberty who have tried desperately without success to summon even a small desire for the opposite sex?
Sexual attraction varies from person to person. Many people never experience it. Some marital sex research even demonstrated that many women do not experience arrousal until the sex starts. There are some cases in which life experiences are in the way too.
Do you mean there are all sorts of variables, for you? Sexuality can be very complicated absolutely. But it can also be very simple and straightforward. My experience has been zero attraction to the opposite sex my entire life, and stable strong attraction to the same sex my entire life. I know many people who have said the same. Of course you are welcome to believe what you want about great numbers of people who have a different experience from you. But I can't help but wonder why you are so convinced about the experiences of countless others. What justifies that certainty. I always take time to consider how Psychological Projection might play a role, when someone displays such crushing certainty. So many different experiences in this world. Why are you so certain about this when you can't see into the hearts and minds of all the same sex attracted people in the world?
If you were my daughter and I knew you were having homosexual attractions I would have advised to socialise more with girl friends, keep an anti-inflammatory diet, sleep hygiene and avoid masturbating. The diet part is the most difficult because children love sweets, gluten. But when they see that they feel better on it, they start to keep the diet without needing incentives.
I wouldn't disagree with the healthy living bit in general - maybe I am more inclined to the Stone Age diet ! However are you really suggesting that it is a way of avoiding lesbianism or just any sex ? It could be read that way .
I was brought up without sweets to avoid teeth problems but later my mother told me that my pride in my excellent teeth had made me into a horrible person . This then became the reason to feed sweets to my son . Consequently he had an implant to replace a rotten tooth before secondary school .
Is this something you have experienced yourself? I am an absolute health nut myself in order to keep myself in top mental and physical shape, focusing on inflammation, hormonal imbalance, proper diet, and no addictions. My exclusive same sex attraction had never waned, and I have still never felt a single inkling of attraction towards the opposite sex. I think your certainty in this dubious claim might cause people to silently ask questions about you personally. A highly dubious claim to make. If there is any evidence of this claim of yours, please bring it. I am open to having my mind changed.
Sorry, I sent a link and I don't see it, maybe it is filtered as spam. See "Modern diet and stress cause homosexuality: A hypothesis and a potential therapy", for the relevant research. I also share on my substack. Factors that impact sexual orientation start their impact in the womb and continue throughout life, with earlier exposure in life having more weight in the causality. Therefore, prevention is much more successful than reversing it.
I have no problem with a gay person wanting to try to change their orientation, as it's a personal liberty thing. People are free to try. The few people I have seen in interviews who claim to have converted from exclusive same sex attraction to heterosexual attraction, I would be a lot more at ease with their choices, if they believed in a live and let live mentality. But the so-called heterosexual converts, they usually believe that no one should be homosexual, which to me looks like Projection on a massive scale.
I feel sorry for parents who cannot accept their child's sexuality, not to mention the gay person themselves. Parents identify so deeply with their own children that for them to come out can be taken so personally by the parent, almost as if the parent themselves just realized traumatically that their own heterosexuality has been switched to homosexuality. The parent child bond is beautiful, but separation in some cases is for the best when parents cannot accept their child being different from them. I sometimes wonder how many of these non-accepting parents have same sex attraction themselves that they despise and have squashed down, only to have one of their worst fears realized in a child who comes out as gay. I can't help but wonder when the refusal to accept is so immoveable. Or it could be rigid religious beliefs. Or simply being 100% heterosexual and not believing in anything you can't feel yourself. People keep their secrets so it's impossible to know for certain. One thing for sure is having a parent who doesn't accept you can cause profound pain. Sometimes you have to suspend a know-it-all mentality and just take your child at their word.
I would want my daughter to use her sex organs the way they were designed to be used: the vagina has a certain shape, contracting muscles, vaginal mucus so as the penis is inserted, moves within it effortlessly and injects the sperm to fertilize the eggs. I would want her to have biological children and raise them with their biological father.
Um - maybe what you say is true sometimes but correcting diet won't make someone het if they are not AND perhaps more importantly laying down rules for sexual behaviour has a long history (unfortunately not yet over) of causing terrible harm . I was thinking of genital mutilation , rape in and out of marriage etc.
Sexual attractions are affected by hormones and neurotransmitters, which diet can change. For example, a woman who has polycystic ovaries can have a very high level of testosterone, which makes her look and behave like a male. As a result she becomes a lesbian or transgender. High fat, high sugar diet can cause PCOS. Or homosexuality can develop due to porn addiction and diet is helpful against addictions. Etc.
What on earth are you saying? There is nothing wrong with being a lesbian and changing someones diet will do nothing! Wow. I am astonished, and disgusted by this homophobic comment(s). Homophobia is very clearly one of the reasons why young LGB teenagers get sucked into the horror that is gender identity ideology. There is nothing wrong with them. They should be supported as the the gay kids they are, in the male or female body they have. Just because gender identity ideology has sent so many into a very bad place does not then mean that homosexuality is something to be erased. Continuing that antiquated perspective will create even more harm. Gosh, blows my mind how insensitive and cruel your comments are.
I am not saying that homosexuality is a disease. Wanting to be heterosexual is not necessarily related to homophobia. It may come from the desire to have biological children, to raise them with their biological parent, or from memories of having heterosexual attractions etc. 80% of transgenders are homosexual/bisexual and there is a close link between the two.
I am usually completely accepting of everything that PITT puts forth, however I feel this story has something wrong with it. It seems like it was written by someone much older than it is representing as being. Just putting this out there now, although I'm not attempting to detract from the essential message at all. Don't get mad at me, I'm on your side! Really!!
You are courageous , fearfully and wonderful made by a loving God . May you come to see your mutifacted beauty through His eyes and know the " love of Christ Which surpasses all understanding ".Thank you for sharing your story and your heart .
I am so glad you survived and returned to your true loving Lesbian nature. It's so hard to get information with men and the trans cult slandering us out of female-hatred and jealousy. But your parents sound unusually loving and caring. And your persistence is wonderful.
I became a Lesbian many years ago and believe it's the true and healthiest nature of girls and women, to have love without the pressure and perving that males do to us. Adding us against our will to "GBTQetc" is one of the worst cons, making girls and women think that that is our culture though it's recent and not our history. I've seen our wonderful Lesbian culture being slandered and erased all over the world, and we do not have the money or means that the men of the trans cult have to fight it, but we continue and they will never eliminate us.
I was raised to be a whole-hearted believer in god, but something is wrong when people still make a male to worship, even after all the horror that patriarchy has committed. YOU are the hero who saved yourself and should be credited with doing that, not a deity that does not exist.
Thank you, Bev. I have read a few of your works along this rocky journey and they were definitely part of my deprogramming process. I hate to disappoint you, though, but I'm not someone who embraces lesbian culture or anything like that. Maybe one day, but for now, the EO church and God are my home.
Even though I'm a baby Christian, trust me, we don't worship a male deity, we just call Him a "he" due to old language conventions. Plus, Jesus is only one Christ out of many, even those alive today. I have no beef with the patriarchy, just poor, self-absorbent leaders, like the ones I write about in my main Substack.
In the end, though, I'm glad to be back in reality.
You were created by God for good, at this particular time in history. You are a witness to the Truth and a role model to others who may need your strength. Well done!
Wow! Bravo! Ignore all the atheists and haters. You finally know who you are. I am so proud of you child. I wish that I could hug you and tell you how amazing and beautiful you are. Thank you and don’t ever stop sharing.♥️
Thanks so much for sharing your story. My teenage daughter is also a proud desister.
Crushing certainty? I am a mental health professional with 35 years experience. I have also taught human sexuality. These are my conclusions based on my review of the literature and my clinical experience. Others will arrive at different opinions based on their own reviews. If your N is 1 I am certain that does not qualify as a researxh-informed opinion. Of course you are entitled to your own opinion based on your iife experience.
A mother is entitled to have crushing certainty!! Nobody can judge or know the truth of a mother’s thoughts & feelings!! Period
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To say that you don't believe anyone on Earth is exclusively same sex attracted is Crushing Certainty.
If you instead said that you believed gay population numbers were overblown, there's room for debate there. But to say you don't believe in exclusive same sex attraction, in anyone, ever. That's Crushing Certainty. After expressing such an Extreme Statement, immediately the burden of proof is on you.
THANK YOU! May my daughter do likewise!
I see. Find the research here: https://psikolog1.wordpress.com/2018/03/18/modern-diet-and-stress-cause-homosexuality-a-hypothesis-and-a-potential-therapy/#Par98 and on my substack.
Congratulations on finding sanity and getting anchored in truth. Our 19 YO daughter went through a period age 15 similar to yours. It started with TikTok influencers and I was ignorant of what she was putting in her brain. It went from “ my new name is X” not what God gave her through my wife’s dreams to “ I’m gay/bi” to “ I’m gonna have an elective mastectomy and trans “. Through patience and therapy, she came back center. Started going to church again and an obvious change in her demeanor resulted. I truly have empathy for anyone that thinks they’re in the wrong body. I have no idea how that must feel. A surgeon both my wife and I work with has a 19 YO that just went off to college in another state and he has fully accepted her trans. He refers to her as his son now. He’s a brilliant physician but caught up in the mania of this nightmare. The advice I have for any parent is continue to love and listen, get them into therapy if not already, and not a therapist supporting trans ideology. Be patient and don’t force change. Reading on this madness is helpful as well. 2 books I read and recommend are Abi Shrier’s “ Irreversible Damge” and Hannah Barnes’” Time to Think. As an aside, from what I’ve read, it appears this trans movement is partly steeped in anti gay rhetoric. Many of the families reported by therapists in Time to Think brought their child to the gender clinic in fear that the child was gay and transing them would resolve that conflict. My final thought, transing a child whose frontal cortex hasn’t even graduated yet is akin to Josef Mengele’s work. Its abuse, not healthcare and the increasing number of hospitals preforming these abomination surgeries are making a killing in revenue.
Maybe your frontal cortex will mature as well.
If only everyone had the ability of critical thinking as the author does. And unfortunately, being a critical thinker often means feeling lonely. What occupies many people’s time and focus is trying too hard to fit in, and battling their own mind as they do so.
Have you also accepted yourself has a lesbian too? For there is nothing wrong about being a lesbian. You are 100% normal and worthy of love and respect.
Thank you for your kind words. After writing this piece and talking with others, I have come to a general acceptance. It's not a proud embrasure, but I'm fine with just taking it for what it is and figuring out the nuances later.
Hi! I'm sure I'll get a lot of flack for this comment, but I have to make it anyway, with much love. I'm not sure which God/god you are referring to in your beautiful piece, but if it is the Christian God, he not only made us male and female, as you're discovering, but he made us male and female for each other. Followers of Jesus are called to either faithful celibacy or faithful male/female marriage. Not at all because God hates us, but because he loves us and his design truly is for our best good. I encourage you to keep seeking God by reading his word, the Bible, and seek out testimonies of believers who've gone through the path of a gay lifestyle to Christ. Becket Cook on YouTube has a great channel with some really excellent interviews. I wish you all the best in your continued journey and will say a prayer for you today.
I appreciate that you have stated that your comment is made from a place of love, however, my opinion is that the things you have written are inappropriate to say to a young desister who has made herself vulnerable by generously sharing her story with parents. Most of us would rejoice in having an authentic and happy lesbian daughter, rather than a hurting child who has adopted a false transgender identity.
Before I say anything else, I want to say 'to each their own.'
But the world holds up romantic love as one of the most deeply fulfilling aspects of our humanity. Raising children would probably be the only other thing that would compete, but even that is much better done in partnership with a romantic partner.
Trying to push 'lifelong celibacy' as any kind of attractive alternative to romantic love, that's a tough sell. To each person their own choices of course. We're all different and some people prefer celibacy which is fine with me. But there are people who have never felt any attraction to the opposite sex. None ever. Even after trying desperately to make it happen. People are free to suggest celibacy I suppose, but I'll say this: if I were raised in a culture that pushed 'celibacy only' for homosexuals, in a world that correctly puts romantic love on the tallest of pedestals, transing the gay away just to gain access to Romantic Love, would be a very, very tempting idea. A horrifying turn of events starting with a message as seemingly-innocuous as 'please choose celibacy.'
We should keep in mind what messages like 'please choose celibacy' can do to desperate people.
Absolutely. I believe wholeheartedly in the sanctity of marriage between men and women. I wrote an essay reflecting on the matter about two months ago and still feel the same way. Same-sex attraction, though a very strange cross to bear, is a worthy sacrifice in the eyes of the Lord. I'm committed to God and the Divine Plan for humanity, and currently have no plans on backing out of my celibacy.
Thank you for your prayers :)
Sending you the deepest empathy. I was a tomboy growing up decades before you. Rarely fitted in. Was bullied horribly. More friends with teachers. Hid in the art room or music room at recess and lunch so I wasn't bullied more. I am bisexual. It isn't the most interesting thing about me at all, sexuality should never be put on a pedestal. But it's real, a part of who we are and completely normal. May the years bring you comfort with the wisdom of age. x
Here's a fun film you might enjoy that I saw at 17 which made my heart soar with joy: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0113416/
Same sex attraction is normal for everyone, especially as people are entering the period in which their normal narcissism surges, early adolescence. They are learning to love their developing bodies by seeing a mirror in others. As that process completes, their attraction is able to shift to the opposite sex as long as there are no developmental problems/disruptions, trauma, or serious emotional problems.
Very interesting contribution to the discussion. What would you say to the small number of people who have never felt any attraction to the opposite sex? Those exclusively same sex attracted from the beginning of puberty who have tried desperately without success to summon even a small desire for the opposite sex?
Sexual attraction varies from person to person. Many people never experience it. Some marital sex research even demonstrated that many women do not experience arrousal until the sex starts. There are some cases in which life experiences are in the way too.
This doesn't look like an answer to my question. Do you believe some people are exclusively same sex attracted?
No. Attraction is a complicated thing. There are all sorts of variables.
Do you mean there are all sorts of variables, for you? Sexuality can be very complicated absolutely. But it can also be very simple and straightforward. My experience has been zero attraction to the opposite sex my entire life, and stable strong attraction to the same sex my entire life. I know many people who have said the same. Of course you are welcome to believe what you want about great numbers of people who have a different experience from you. But I can't help but wonder why you are so convinced about the experiences of countless others. What justifies that certainty. I always take time to consider how Psychological Projection might play a role, when someone displays such crushing certainty. So many different experiences in this world. Why are you so certain about this when you can't see into the hearts and minds of all the same sex attracted people in the world?
If you were my daughter and I knew you were having homosexual attractions I would have advised to socialise more with girl friends, keep an anti-inflammatory diet, sleep hygiene and avoid masturbating. The diet part is the most difficult because children love sweets, gluten. But when they see that they feel better on it, they start to keep the diet without needing incentives.
I wouldn't disagree with the healthy living bit in general - maybe I am more inclined to the Stone Age diet ! However are you really suggesting that it is a way of avoiding lesbianism or just any sex ? It could be read that way .
I was brought up without sweets to avoid teeth problems but later my mother told me that my pride in my excellent teeth had made me into a horrible person . This then became the reason to feed sweets to my son . Consequently he had an implant to replace a rotten tooth before secondary school .
Yes, correcting hormones, inflammation, addictions can change sex attractions and diet affects all of them.
Do you have data to cite supporting your claim?
I share relevant research on my substack. This article also has a lot of material: https://psikolog1.wordpress.com/2018/03/18/modern-diet-and-stress-cause-homosexuality-a-hypothesis-and-a-potential-therapy/#Par98
Is this something you have experienced yourself? I am an absolute health nut myself in order to keep myself in top mental and physical shape, focusing on inflammation, hormonal imbalance, proper diet, and no addictions. My exclusive same sex attraction had never waned, and I have still never felt a single inkling of attraction towards the opposite sex. I think your certainty in this dubious claim might cause people to silently ask questions about you personally. A highly dubious claim to make. If there is any evidence of this claim of yours, please bring it. I am open to having my mind changed.
Sorry, I sent a link and I don't see it, maybe it is filtered as spam. See "Modern diet and stress cause homosexuality: A hypothesis and a potential therapy", for the relevant research. I also share on my substack. Factors that impact sexual orientation start their impact in the womb and continue throughout life, with earlier exposure in life having more weight in the causality. Therefore, prevention is much more successful than reversing it.
I have no problem with a gay person wanting to try to change their orientation, as it's a personal liberty thing. People are free to try. The few people I have seen in interviews who claim to have converted from exclusive same sex attraction to heterosexual attraction, I would be a lot more at ease with their choices, if they believed in a live and let live mentality. But the so-called heterosexual converts, they usually believe that no one should be homosexual, which to me looks like Projection on a massive scale.
I feel sorry for parents who cannot accept their child's sexuality, not to mention the gay person themselves. Parents identify so deeply with their own children that for them to come out can be taken so personally by the parent, almost as if the parent themselves just realized traumatically that their own heterosexuality has been switched to homosexuality. The parent child bond is beautiful, but separation in some cases is for the best when parents cannot accept their child being different from them. I sometimes wonder how many of these non-accepting parents have same sex attraction themselves that they despise and have squashed down, only to have one of their worst fears realized in a child who comes out as gay. I can't help but wonder when the refusal to accept is so immoveable. Or it could be rigid religious beliefs. Or simply being 100% heterosexual and not believing in anything you can't feel yourself. People keep their secrets so it's impossible to know for certain. One thing for sure is having a parent who doesn't accept you can cause profound pain. Sometimes you have to suspend a know-it-all mentality and just take your child at their word.
I would not dispute that , of course .
What I was questioning was whether you were really recommending this either because:-
a) sexual activity/excitement/ pleasure is bad in itself or
b) trans illusions are just that - illusions or even
c) only heterosexuality is valid sexual expression either on grounds of - "naturalness" , religion , philosphy or other ideology .
I would want my daughter to use her sex organs the way they were designed to be used: the vagina has a certain shape, contracting muscles, vaginal mucus so as the penis is inserted, moves within it effortlessly and injects the sperm to fertilize the eggs. I would want her to have biological children and raise them with their biological father.
Um - maybe what you say is true sometimes but correcting diet won't make someone het if they are not AND perhaps more importantly laying down rules for sexual behaviour has a long history (unfortunately not yet over) of causing terrible harm . I was thinking of genital mutilation , rape in and out of marriage etc.
Sexual attractions are affected by hormones and neurotransmitters, which diet can change. For example, a woman who has polycystic ovaries can have a very high level of testosterone, which makes her look and behave like a male. As a result she becomes a lesbian or transgender. High fat, high sugar diet can cause PCOS. Or homosexuality can develop due to porn addiction and diet is helpful against addictions. Etc.
What on earth are you saying? There is nothing wrong with being a lesbian and changing someones diet will do nothing! Wow. I am astonished, and disgusted by this homophobic comment(s). Homophobia is very clearly one of the reasons why young LGB teenagers get sucked into the horror that is gender identity ideology. There is nothing wrong with them. They should be supported as the the gay kids they are, in the male or female body they have. Just because gender identity ideology has sent so many into a very bad place does not then mean that homosexuality is something to be erased. Continuing that antiquated perspective will create even more harm. Gosh, blows my mind how insensitive and cruel your comments are.
I am not saying that homosexuality is a disease. Wanting to be heterosexual is not necessarily related to homophobia. It may come from the desire to have biological children, to raise them with their biological parent, or from memories of having heterosexual attractions etc. 80% of transgenders are homosexual/bisexual and there is a close link between the two.
Wel done ! I was trying to say all this but I type so slowly !
Happy to help! I am utterly floored by such things I see pop up in these harrowing times. Just because TRAs are horrendous does not men LGBs are!
Absolutely ! Isn't that why LGB was organised ?
I am usually completely accepting of everything that PITT puts forth, however I feel this story has something wrong with it. It seems like it was written by someone much older than it is representing as being. Just putting this out there now, although I'm not attempting to detract from the essential message at all. Don't get mad at me, I'm on your side! Really!!
Hi, I'm the author of this piece. Trust me, it's a high compliment!
Thank You I love your honesty, and this is so encouraging.
You are courageous , fearfully and wonderful made by a loving God . May you come to see your mutifacted beauty through His eyes and know the " love of Christ Which surpasses all understanding ".Thank you for sharing your story and your heart .
I just saw this:
The Distance cross-posted a post from Inspecting Gender
The Late-Onset Dysphoria of a Middle-Aged ‘Trans Man’
Reading Scott Newgent’s new memoir
MATT OSBORNE
The Late-Onset Dysphoria of a Middle-Aged ‘Trans Man’
Reading Scott Newgent’s new memoir
I am so glad you survived and returned to your true loving Lesbian nature. It's so hard to get information with men and the trans cult slandering us out of female-hatred and jealousy. But your parents sound unusually loving and caring. And your persistence is wonderful.
I became a Lesbian many years ago and believe it's the true and healthiest nature of girls and women, to have love without the pressure and perving that males do to us. Adding us against our will to "GBTQetc" is one of the worst cons, making girls and women think that that is our culture though it's recent and not our history. I've seen our wonderful Lesbian culture being slandered and erased all over the world, and we do not have the money or means that the men of the trans cult have to fight it, but we continue and they will never eliminate us.
I was raised to be a whole-hearted believer in god, but something is wrong when people still make a male to worship, even after all the horror that patriarchy has committed. YOU are the hero who saved yourself and should be credited with doing that, not a deity that does not exist.
Thank you, Bev. I have read a few of your works along this rocky journey and they were definitely part of my deprogramming process. I hate to disappoint you, though, but I'm not someone who embraces lesbian culture or anything like that. Maybe one day, but for now, the EO church and God are my home.
Even though I'm a baby Christian, trust me, we don't worship a male deity, we just call Him a "he" due to old language conventions. Plus, Jesus is only one Christ out of many, even those alive today. I have no beef with the patriarchy, just poor, self-absorbent leaders, like the ones I write about in my main Substack.
In the end, though, I'm glad to be back in reality.
Isn't it funny though, how women are actually the ones who create life? ;)
Not a man in the clouds.
Convenient that a book written by men makes a 'man' the creator.
(I'll be quiet now) hihi!