So many parents have naively hired a psychologist or therapist (or in this case, a life coach) and assumed that the expert would be on the side of facts and biology. But all too often the opposite occurs.
You and your son were lucky that his coach had not been brainwashed into believing that the affirmative model was the only way to go. No "would you rather have a dead son or a live daughter?" from this guy, thank goodness.
He distracted your son away from the transgender sinkhole of stupidity and lies by asking him to focus instead on nature in all its miraculous, tangible beauty. Nature is where the human body, heart and mind reside. Nature is where love is.
Imagine...an incorruptible mental health professional. Can we clone him?
All of that seems to be very reasonable and sound advice. Unfortunately we aren't in a position to be able to calmly discuss biological reality with our 20 year old daughter, but I am not giving up hope that she will cross paths with someone who helps her see things from a different perspective, or that life circumstances show her that her fantasy is just that -fantasy. Congrats on getting your son back.
I am so happy for your family! In my situation it is hard to have conversations with someone who is completely estranged . I have no way of contacting our son.
I can’t help feeling so exasperated that any kid would encounter people with authority and extensive training who gleefully affirm their delusions about changing sex. This authority disables parental authority and destroys healthy family relationships. The blame for this misery and destruction falls squarely at the feet of the teachers, counsellors, agencies, and physicians. The parents are living through an unimaginable nightmare, watching their kids fall prey to a disfigurement cult that all authorities and governments seem to endorse as a justice movement.
I feel like you are telling my story. My son went away to college 3 years ago and in 2 months said he was non binary,then a girl,and dropped out of school because he was suicidal.He was already in therapy and on medication for anxiety and depression.What broke him was the trans group at school said he was faking. We got him home ,therapy that stressed non affirming and was eventually titrated off medication. He went back to college but lives at home, and about 1 year later dropped the trans talk. Currently has his 1st girlfriend,in ROTC and has dropped 50 lbs. What a difference in him. He said the trans identity was an escape ( he was heavily in computer games and Amine) and he was holding on to some trauma we did not know about from high school.
All I can say is that we kept telling him he was not a girl , we loved him ,and would support anything except medication and surgery.
My son came to a similar conclusion for similar reasons. In fact, in confidence, he told a dear friend that "falling into trans ideology was f-king stupid." Although I'm not thrilled about swearing, in this case, I'll allow it. I found a reality-based therapist who helped plant his feet on a solid path. And yes, moms are always right.
So many parents have naively hired a psychologist or therapist (or in this case, a life coach) and assumed that the expert would be on the side of facts and biology. But all too often the opposite occurs.
You and your son were lucky that his coach had not been brainwashed into believing that the affirmative model was the only way to go. No "would you rather have a dead son or a live daughter?" from this guy, thank goodness.
He distracted your son away from the transgender sinkhole of stupidity and lies by asking him to focus instead on nature in all its miraculous, tangible beauty. Nature is where the human body, heart and mind reside. Nature is where love is.
Imagine...an incorruptible mental health professional. Can we clone him?
Gives me hope. Thank you!
All of that seems to be very reasonable and sound advice. Unfortunately we aren't in a position to be able to calmly discuss biological reality with our 20 year old daughter, but I am not giving up hope that she will cross paths with someone who helps her see things from a different perspective, or that life circumstances show her that her fantasy is just that -fantasy. Congrats on getting your son back.
Thank you for sharing! It gives me hope that my daughter, who is away at college, might desist.
Thank you for this beautiful, encouraging essay.
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I am so happy for your family! In my situation it is hard to have conversations with someone who is completely estranged . I have no way of contacting our son.
I can’t help feeling so exasperated that any kid would encounter people with authority and extensive training who gleefully affirm their delusions about changing sex. This authority disables parental authority and destroys healthy family relationships. The blame for this misery and destruction falls squarely at the feet of the teachers, counsellors, agencies, and physicians. The parents are living through an unimaginable nightmare, watching their kids fall prey to a disfigurement cult that all authorities and governments seem to endorse as a justice movement.
I second that one!
I feel like you are telling my story. My son went away to college 3 years ago and in 2 months said he was non binary,then a girl,and dropped out of school because he was suicidal.He was already in therapy and on medication for anxiety and depression.What broke him was the trans group at school said he was faking. We got him home ,therapy that stressed non affirming and was eventually titrated off medication. He went back to college but lives at home, and about 1 year later dropped the trans talk. Currently has his 1st girlfriend,in ROTC and has dropped 50 lbs. What a difference in him. He said the trans identity was an escape ( he was heavily in computer games and Amine) and he was holding on to some trauma we did not know about from high school.
All I can say is that we kept telling him he was not a girl , we loved him ,and would support anything except medication and surgery.
I am grateful we are passed that dark period.
My son came to a similar conclusion for similar reasons. In fact, in confidence, he told a dear friend that "falling into trans ideology was f-king stupid." Although I'm not thrilled about swearing, in this case, I'll allow it. I found a reality-based therapist who helped plant his feet on a solid path. And yes, moms are always right.
What a wonderful outcome. Thanks for sharing. It’s encouraging to hear such positive change and resolution.
Beautiful!