I am writing this to share with you what is in my heart. It is about both of us, and I have written it because I love you… I have had a fair amount of experience with loss. When I was 15, I lost my Dad. When I was 20, I lost my brother. When I was around 52, I lost you to the virtual world, most notably to MMORPG (for the lay person that is “massively multiplayer online role-playing games”) but also to much else that goes on in that ‘world’.
There is some recent good news from the UK: "Figures just released by NHS England seem to demonstrate a considerable decline in demand for gender services among under minors under 18 years of age. Referrals for 2022-23 were in excess of 3390 but in 2023-24 they had fallen to about 2550".
The Cass Review and the faddish quality of so many school children's "trends" may have parts in this decline.
BTW: "gender dysphoria" is a hook, a bait to enter a "cult" which attracts anxious, lost adolescents looking for "membership". Like previous cults, the victims will eventually recognise that they were deceived or duped. I do hope that health services prosecute ALL the professionals, who made money out of the cult.
The human world requires fathers like you Dad. Happy to know you are soothing some wounds. Healing is living; living is temporary. Hence healing is an open process inviting life into our brief existences.
My friends, a pastor whom I know shared his heart about his daughter, and attached a photo, before and after she had her breasts removed. His heart is broken. He noted to me that Planned Parenthood is now offering gender affirming care. I looked here: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/get-care/our-services/gender-affirming-care
I have some great and encouraging news to share that my daughter has desisted and now rejects her former trans identity. It started for her at 16 when she was battling her mood disorder and was not responding to medication. We caved in and let her have a smart phone too soon and she was exposed to too much too soon. More importantly, there is an invisible spiritual that is not as hidden as it used to be. When we got real serious with our prayers…..things started happening. I know that is why she renounced all of this. It is by the mercy and grace of God I tell you! It took some time but when we started intentionally praying with other parents, changes started happening. Friends, there is power in prayer! This generation is under such diabolical attack, heck, we all are. My daughter is a work in progress and has more healing and growing up to do, but she IS now embracing her God-given feminine self. If I am allowed here, I’d like to recommend additional parent support at chastity.com and an apostolate called Courage International. There is a sub-group for parents called Encourage and parents can opt to call any evening into a conference call to pray together for our kids with SSA and GID. Hope this is encouraging and gives hope!
I wasn’t able to read this until today. You have carried such a heavy load throughout your life. What a strong example of a caretaker you have been for your family. I pray someday your son will wake up and recognize your strength and your resilience and mostly your love.
And He said, “A man had two sons. The younger of them said to his father, ‘Father, give me the share of the estate that is coming to me.’ And so he divided his wealth between them. And not many days later, the younger son gathered everything together and went on a journey to a distant country, and there he squandered his estate in wild living. Now when he had spent everything, a severe famine occurred in that country, and he began doing without. So he went and hired himself out to one of the citizens of that country, and he sent him into his fields to feed pigs. And he longed to have his fill of the carob pods that the pigs were eating, and no one was giving him anything. But when he came to his senses, he said, ‘How many of my father’s hired laborers have more than enough bread, but I am dying here from hunger! I will set out and go to my father, and will say to him, “Father, I have sinned against heaven, and in your sight; I am no longer worthy to be called your son; treat me as one of your hired laborers.”’ So he set out and came to his father. But when he was still a long way off, his father saw him and felt compassion for him, and ran and embraced him and kissed him. And the son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against heaven and in your sight; I am no longer worthy to be called your son.’ But the father said to his slaves, ‘Quickly bring out the best robe and put it on him, and put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet; and bring the fattened calf, slaughter it, and let’s eat and celebrate; for this son of mine was dead and has come to life again; he was lost and has been found.’ And they began to celebrate.
“Now his older son was in the field, and when he came and approached the house, he heard music and dancing. And he summoned one of the servants and began inquiring what these things could be. And he said to him, ‘Your brother has come, and your father has slaughtered the fattened calf because he has received him back safe and sound.’ But he became angry and was not willing to go in; and his father came out and began pleading with him. But he answered and said to his father, ‘Look! For so many years I have been serving you and I have never neglected a command of yours; and yet you never gave me a young goat, so that I might celebrate with my friends; but when this son of yours came, who has devoured your wealth with prostitutes, you slaughtered the fattened calf for him.’ And he said to him, ‘Son, you have always been with me, and all that is mine is yours. But we had to celebrate and rejoice, because this brother of yours was dead and has begun to live, and was lost and has been found.’”
Keep up the good fight. Continue to have hope that he comes to his senses, pray for him, and continue to show him love. It is a giant cult, maybe you can somehow show him from time to time that it is a cult.
God Bless you Father. Your commitment to your family has been outstanding. Thank you for sharing the number of challenges you have had to face and the valiant efforts you made to overcome them.
You still have a life worth living. There is still hope, there is value in people, in nature, in work, friendships and faith. It doesn't negate the pain, the grief, the sorrow and longing. They are ever present, but the alternative of giving up and losing hope denies all you have done and will do, and that you can still find love in life. You can. Thank you for sharing with us your thoughtful, but painful perspective. I pray you will find strength to keep going and that your boy will wake from his capture. That's what it is. It's not your fault.
My son who was taking feminizing hormones is actually dead now from suicide. It can strike young men in their twenties as well. This is ruining so many families. There are support groups out there. Being with other parents going through it does help. 😔
How very sad. Of course, I know nothing about your son who committed suicide, but I've noticed a pattern: The child will have been influenced on social media to believe he or she is transgender. The parents object, so an estrangement develops. Then, when the child realizes that transitioning isn't doing for him or her what was expected, the child feels he can't return to the parents, and so ends up with nothing -- no trans miracle and no supportive relationships.
I'm so sorry. I live in fear of that every day. My kid is convinced they're a cure and is determined to get them. When he does and they don't fix things, because they can't, I'm just at a loss. We lost twins to premature birth at 19 weeks. This is a different circle of hell, watching another child do it in slow motion... well I'm losing hair by the handful.
Just out of curiosity, do you think it's also possible that your son may seek out the hormones again when he is becoming severely depressed? Certainly estrogen can worsen or even cause such problems (in females, too!), but as with drugs of abuse, it can often be difficult to tell whether the hormone is the cause of the difficulty or an ineffective coping mechanism. I'm wondering if you have any sense of which may be true for your son. Perhaps it's a bit of both.
Your story also illustrates that simply outlawing medicalization of minors isn't going to be enough, at all, to help. Because there will be many who will find black market sources if they can't get what they want legally-and that unfortunately is true of surgery as well as drugs. We so desperately need some effective treatments for people with gender dysphoria. Actually, most of our mental health treatments could stand to be much more effective.
I’m so sorry. No parent is perfect. I grew up without my dad in my life much, and I was very bitter toward him. But in my older adulthood, I’m grateful for the relationship I have with him now. I pray someday he will miss you and crave a relationship with you, and you will have restoration.
This is very heartbreaking - and especially heartbreaking that these tragedies are encouraged by our society. WPATH doctors are the very definition of quacks and ought to have their licences revoked ASAP.
Just yesterday there was another gender confused killer (like Audrey Hale). He murdered his parents. All the news is calling him a woman which he began "identifying" as very recently:
"‘I Hate Them’: Utah Woman Murders Parents, Says She Would ‘Do It Again’"
I expect he will go to a women's prison. Maybe he needed some intervention that was not of the quack medicine gender kind?
Meanwhile, the Tennessee Star has been reporting leaked information about Hale that the FBI has been trying to keep quiet - likely because it does not fit the Trans-Narative^TM, IMO
"Collin Troy Bailey, 28, who police say is currently transitioning to a woman and goes by Mia Bailey, was arrested for investigation of two counts of aggravated murder, attempted aggravated murder, seven counts of shooting a gun and aggravated burglary."
"Mia Bailey — whom police said wears wigs and changes her appearance frequently — was cornered and arrested Wednesday after an extensive manhunt that spanned several hours."
gaslighting the american public does not serve anyone. This was a man. A troubled man. Not a "she". Not a "her". the media is complicit in this narcissistic abuse of the American public. No one is born in the wrong body. No one can change sex.
But, I do agree with you 100% Anonamom: "This was a man. A troubled man. Not a "she". Not a "her". the media is complicit in this narcissistic abuse of the American public. No one is born in the wrong body. No one can change sex." !!!
There's a lack of science on the mental effects of the cross sex hormones. If you call them steroids and PEDs there's science on the East German women athletes, and "roid rage" was noticed in body-builders and pro athletes starting in the 1980s. I wonder how many anecdotes of using them off label for cosmetic purposes by someone who gets really violent it'll take for research to get done. Given the profit motives, my guess is thousands.
True. And when someone commits a mass assault/murder we are not privy to what pharmaceuticals the individual was on. My guess is that this is more of the problem than the actual weapon used in these attacks and assaults.
I’m so sorry…it seems we are a community of loving parents who all showed up to the best of our ability. We had our children kidnapped by a sick world and we didn’t see it coming. It is a painful thing we share here. I cry because I really would love to have some answers…solutions. What I do have to offer is a prayer, and hope. As things get exposed and our children awaken-which I MUST believe to survive, I dream and hope we see a mass exodus of our broken kids coming home to heal & remember who they are, and where they know love & safety are.
There is some recent good news from the UK: "Figures just released by NHS England seem to demonstrate a considerable decline in demand for gender services among under minors under 18 years of age. Referrals for 2022-23 were in excess of 3390 but in 2023-24 they had fallen to about 2550".
The Cass Review and the faddish quality of so many school children's "trends" may have parts in this decline.
BTW: "gender dysphoria" is a hook, a bait to enter a "cult" which attracts anxious, lost adolescents looking for "membership". Like previous cults, the victims will eventually recognise that they were deceived or duped. I do hope that health services prosecute ALL the professionals, who made money out of the cult.
The human world requires fathers like you Dad. Happy to know you are soothing some wounds. Healing is living; living is temporary. Hence healing is an open process inviting life into our brief existences.
My friends, a pastor whom I know shared his heart about his daughter, and attached a photo, before and after she had her breasts removed. His heart is broken. He noted to me that Planned Parenthood is now offering gender affirming care. I looked here: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/get-care/our-services/gender-affirming-care
I have some great and encouraging news to share that my daughter has desisted and now rejects her former trans identity. It started for her at 16 when she was battling her mood disorder and was not responding to medication. We caved in and let her have a smart phone too soon and she was exposed to too much too soon. More importantly, there is an invisible spiritual that is not as hidden as it used to be. When we got real serious with our prayers…..things started happening. I know that is why she renounced all of this. It is by the mercy and grace of God I tell you! It took some time but when we started intentionally praying with other parents, changes started happening. Friends, there is power in prayer! This generation is under such diabolical attack, heck, we all are. My daughter is a work in progress and has more healing and growing up to do, but she IS now embracing her God-given feminine self. If I am allowed here, I’d like to recommend additional parent support at chastity.com and an apostolate called Courage International. There is a sub-group for parents called Encourage and parents can opt to call any evening into a conference call to pray together for our kids with SSA and GID. Hope this is encouraging and gives hope!
typo: invisible spiritual *battle*
It is so very painful and traumatic. I think of it as a ‘living death’ .
I wasn’t able to read this until today. You have carried such a heavy load throughout your life. What a strong example of a caretaker you have been for your family. I pray someday your son will wake up and recognize your strength and your resilience and mostly your love.
Luke 15:11-32
The Prodigal Son
And He said, “A man had two sons. The younger of them said to his father, ‘Father, give me the share of the estate that is coming to me.’ And so he divided his wealth between them. And not many days later, the younger son gathered everything together and went on a journey to a distant country, and there he squandered his estate in wild living. Now when he had spent everything, a severe famine occurred in that country, and he began doing without. So he went and hired himself out to one of the citizens of that country, and he sent him into his fields to feed pigs. And he longed to have his fill of the carob pods that the pigs were eating, and no one was giving him anything. But when he came to his senses, he said, ‘How many of my father’s hired laborers have more than enough bread, but I am dying here from hunger! I will set out and go to my father, and will say to him, “Father, I have sinned against heaven, and in your sight; I am no longer worthy to be called your son; treat me as one of your hired laborers.”’ So he set out and came to his father. But when he was still a long way off, his father saw him and felt compassion for him, and ran and embraced him and kissed him. And the son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against heaven and in your sight; I am no longer worthy to be called your son.’ But the father said to his slaves, ‘Quickly bring out the best robe and put it on him, and put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet; and bring the fattened calf, slaughter it, and let’s eat and celebrate; for this son of mine was dead and has come to life again; he was lost and has been found.’ And they began to celebrate.
“Now his older son was in the field, and when he came and approached the house, he heard music and dancing. And he summoned one of the servants and began inquiring what these things could be. And he said to him, ‘Your brother has come, and your father has slaughtered the fattened calf because he has received him back safe and sound.’ But he became angry and was not willing to go in; and his father came out and began pleading with him. But he answered and said to his father, ‘Look! For so many years I have been serving you and I have never neglected a command of yours; and yet you never gave me a young goat, so that I might celebrate with my friends; but when this son of yours came, who has devoured your wealth with prostitutes, you slaughtered the fattened calf for him.’ And he said to him, ‘Son, you have always been with me, and all that is mine is yours. But we had to celebrate and rejoice, because this brother of yours was dead and has begun to live, and was lost and has been found.’”
Keep up the good fight. Continue to have hope that he comes to his senses, pray for him, and continue to show him love. It is a giant cult, maybe you can somehow show him from time to time that it is a cult.
God Bless you Father. Your commitment to your family has been outstanding. Thank you for sharing the number of challenges you have had to face and the valiant efforts you made to overcome them.
You still have a life worth living. There is still hope, there is value in people, in nature, in work, friendships and faith. It doesn't negate the pain, the grief, the sorrow and longing. They are ever present, but the alternative of giving up and losing hope denies all you have done and will do, and that you can still find love in life. You can. Thank you for sharing with us your thoughtful, but painful perspective. I pray you will find strength to keep going and that your boy will wake from his capture. That's what it is. It's not your fault.
My son who was taking feminizing hormones is actually dead now from suicide. It can strike young men in their twenties as well. This is ruining so many families. There are support groups out there. Being with other parents going through it does help. 😔
I wish there was something I could say to ease your pain but I know there are no words. This is one of my greatest fears. I am so sorry.
How very sad. Of course, I know nothing about your son who committed suicide, but I've noticed a pattern: The child will have been influenced on social media to believe he or she is transgender. The parents object, so an estrangement develops. Then, when the child realizes that transitioning isn't doing for him or her what was expected, the child feels he can't return to the parents, and so ends up with nothing -- no trans miracle and no supportive relationships.
I’m so sorry
I'm so sorry. I live in fear of that every day. My kid is convinced they're a cure and is determined to get them. When he does and they don't fix things, because they can't, I'm just at a loss. We lost twins to premature birth at 19 weeks. This is a different circle of hell, watching another child do it in slow motion... well I'm losing hair by the handful.
The trauma has done the same to me. I used to have long thick hair. I think I have lost half of it.
Please don’t abandon yourself. I’m using Regain for my hair. Don’t let the cult destroy you. We must defeat this.
I am so terribly sorry for your loss and your pain. I hope you are able to find some peace one day. xxx
Just out of curiosity, do you think it's also possible that your son may seek out the hormones again when he is becoming severely depressed? Certainly estrogen can worsen or even cause such problems (in females, too!), but as with drugs of abuse, it can often be difficult to tell whether the hormone is the cause of the difficulty or an ineffective coping mechanism. I'm wondering if you have any sense of which may be true for your son. Perhaps it's a bit of both.
Your story also illustrates that simply outlawing medicalization of minors isn't going to be enough, at all, to help. Because there will be many who will find black market sources if they can't get what they want legally-and that unfortunately is true of surgery as well as drugs. We so desperately need some effective treatments for people with gender dysphoria. Actually, most of our mental health treatments could stand to be much more effective.
I’m so sorry. No parent is perfect. I grew up without my dad in my life much, and I was very bitter toward him. But in my older adulthood, I’m grateful for the relationship I have with him now. I pray someday he will miss you and crave a relationship with you, and you will have restoration.
It is painful.
So well written. I’m sorry for your loss and your distress. I share a similar story as mom.
Me too
Me too
I couldn't focus on literally any of this after the word Ogre, I just had images of a transphobic Shrek running around. I AM AN OGRE! Grrrr
This is very heartbreaking - and especially heartbreaking that these tragedies are encouraged by our society. WPATH doctors are the very definition of quacks and ought to have their licences revoked ASAP.
Just yesterday there was another gender confused killer (like Audrey Hale). He murdered his parents. All the news is calling him a woman which he began "identifying" as very recently:
"‘I Hate Them’: Utah Woman Murders Parents, Says She Would ‘Do It Again’"
https://www.crimeonline.com/2024/06/20/i-hate-them-utah-woman-murders-parents-says-she-would-do-it-again/
I expect he will go to a women's prison. Maybe he needed some intervention that was not of the quack medicine gender kind?
Meanwhile, the Tennessee Star has been reporting leaked information about Hale that the FBI has been trying to keep quiet - likely because it does not fit the Trans-Narative^TM, IMO
https://tennesseestar.com/covenant-school-shooting/mnpd-notes-about-treatment-covenant-killer-audrey-hale-received-at-vanderbilt-university-medical-center-tied-by-metadata-to-police-investigator-who-secured-search-warrant/tpappert/2024/06/20/
This article at least includes the demented killer's real name:
"Unremorseful woman brutally killed southern Utah parents, tried to kill brother, police say"
https://www.ksl.com/article/51047085/unremorseful-woman-brutally-killed-southern-utah-parents-tried-to-kill-brother-police-say
"Collin Troy Bailey, 28, who police say is currently transitioning to a woman and goes by Mia Bailey, was arrested for investigation of two counts of aggravated murder, attempted aggravated murder, seven counts of shooting a gun and aggravated burglary."
And, https://nypost.com/2024/06/19/us-news/trans-woman-kills-parents-in-utah-double-murder-police/
"Mia Bailey — whom police said wears wigs and changes her appearance frequently — was cornered and arrested Wednesday after an extensive manhunt that spanned several hours."
It is time to get confused people real help!
gaslighting the american public does not serve anyone. This was a man. A troubled man. Not a "she". Not a "her". the media is complicit in this narcissistic abuse of the American public. No one is born in the wrong body. No one can change sex.
I guess it serves doctors and hospitals profiting from it? And, it sure seems to be working in power politics:
"Democrats Deny Basic Biology In Push To Change Gender Of Children
Governor Gavin Newsom’s allies have passed legislation to block schools from telling parents when their kids think they’re the opposite sex
MICHAEL SHELLENBERGER JUN 16, 2024"
https://public.substack.com/p/democrats-deny-basic-biology-in-push
But, I do agree with you 100% Anonamom: "This was a man. A troubled man. Not a "she". Not a "her". the media is complicit in this narcissistic abuse of the American public. No one is born in the wrong body. No one can change sex." !!!
There's a lack of science on the mental effects of the cross sex hormones. If you call them steroids and PEDs there's science on the East German women athletes, and "roid rage" was noticed in body-builders and pro athletes starting in the 1980s. I wonder how many anecdotes of using them off label for cosmetic purposes by someone who gets really violent it'll take for research to get done. Given the profit motives, my guess is thousands.
True. And when someone commits a mass assault/murder we are not privy to what pharmaceuticals the individual was on. My guess is that this is more of the problem than the actual weapon used in these attacks and assaults.
I’m so sorry…it seems we are a community of loving parents who all showed up to the best of our ability. We had our children kidnapped by a sick world and we didn’t see it coming. It is a painful thing we share here. I cry because I really would love to have some answers…solutions. What I do have to offer is a prayer, and hope. As things get exposed and our children awaken-which I MUST believe to survive, I dream and hope we see a mass exodus of our broken kids coming home to heal & remember who they are, and where they know love & safety are.
Exactly! And yes, I also MUST believe. And I pray it is in my lifetime.