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Flyover Perspective's avatar

I'm not going to try to soothe your pain because words cannot help you. I would like to share my own story a bit. I come at it from the other end. I was in a avowed atheist and quite confident in my belief that God does not exist.

My adult child is a drug addict, has high social anxiety and is an extreme alcoholic. He turned 31 in November and has not been sober more than 2 days since he was a teenager. This is according to him.

Coming from two parents that were alcoholics I tried every trick in the book I knew. Finally I gave up. I knew I couldn't change him and I had continued to bang my head against the wall in my attempts to do so. The only thing I had left to do was to give him to God, and to pray.

I would even say as I was praying I don't think anybody's listening but this is all I have left to try.

Last December my son became violently ill. We went to the ER almost 10 times. He was finally hospitalized for 6 days and on a feeding tube. They ran every test they could and could find no explanation. They were fully aware of his drug and alcohol use and his lifestyle.

All of a sudden his symptoms stopped and after two more days they sent us home. He has not been the slightest bit sick since before Christmas. He has also not touched a drug or a drop of alcohol in that time. Shockingly he has only had two short urges to drink. And those were gone within 30 minutes.

He's now going to church, stops at the house all the time, has let me come over to his house, and is a happy person working on his social life.

I came to the only conclusion I could and that was that God had reached down and touched him and given him this miracle of sobriety. If he chooses to throw this gift away that does not negate God's existence. I am now a firm believer. I prayed for over 10 years for this to happen. All I can tell you is to please don't give up. Even if you don't think anyone's listening, keep praying for your daughter and God bless you.

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GB_free's avatar

I too am parenting an ROGD teen girl, and am continually fed up and at my limit. I relate 100% with your frustration. For me, it has had the opposite effect. I have found my way back to God, and I don't know how I would survive this without Him. I am in the same boat as you - begging every day for my daughter to turn her back on the darkness and lies of Satan and run into the light and truth of God - and I do believe He will answer this prayer. It will just be in His own time. For me it has been a test of my faith, and some days are better than others. My belief in God reminds me that God does not make mistakes. He does not put some children into the "wrong bodies". I've been exploring my faith a lot, and understand your need to take a break. God will take you back, whenever you are ready. I am not sure if you have ever seen the series The Chosen, but I would 100% recommend it for a watch. Seeing what challenges those in biblical times had to overcome for their faith is so inspiring. We don't know God's plan, but I have to believe there is one. Wishing you only blessings and light.

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