To whom you are attracted sexually is purely subjective and therefore cannot reasonably be contested by an outside observer. Where you decide to live your life on a spectrum of superficial, stereotypical male to female attributes (and we all do) is also purely subjective and similarly cannot be questioned. However, your biological sex reflects an objective reality which cannot be changed by your subjective personal view and futile attempts to do so can result in serious health impacts to you as well as actual harms to members of the sex you are impersonating (especially women). Finally, others who are grounded in objective reality should never be forced to accept your subjective version of your actual biological sex.
It's a cult, and every post on this blog solidifies that conviction in my mind. It's impossible, sometimes, to get back a loved one who has been so lovebombed by the cult, whether it's Jim Jones, Heaven's Gate, Warren Jeefs, Scientology, or the rainbow cult.
Wow that’s horrendous I’m so sorry! I’ve copied your comment if you don’t mind? My daughter needs to know these shocking outcomes. Thank you for sharing. Gosh I feel like crying (I actually am now) thinking about how horrible this evil cult is and how it has hurt you and your daughter and the rest of us. Sad so sad.
Question from article: ... but still critically important riddle that is: who decided families are bad?
Answer: Marxists. Anyone out there protesting against the trans movement AND protesting against capitalism is at odds with their own belief system.
Marxists believe that the family is a tool of capitalism and its main function is to maintain capitalism and reinforce social inequalities.
Marxism is a conflict perspective in the family that argues that the working-class, the proletariat, is exploited by the capitalist class, who profit off of their labor.
Marx and Engels believed that the monogamous nuclear family emerged from, and benefits, capitalism. According to Engels, the nuclear family promotes inheritance and consequently intergenerational inequality.
"Marxism is a conflict perspective in the family that argues that the working-class, the proletariat, is exploited by the capitalist class, who profit off of their labor."
--- Is this true or false?
"Marx and Engels believed that the monogamous nuclear family emerged from, and benefits, capitalism. According to Engels, the nuclear family promotes inheritance and consequently intergenerational inequality."
--- Is this not true? Having lived in countries where multi-generational joint families were the norm, as well as countries where nuclear families were the norm, the nuclear family model is definitely set up for less sharing and more individual consumption/hoarding.
Agreed, but those are the names these men go by. If anyone wants to look them up, those are the names under which their nefarious deeds will mostly be recorded.
Money to buy politicians by donating to their campaigns, allowing them to successfully defeat politicians with less money, thus buying entire governments.
Multimillionaires like Trumpster James Pritzker and conservative Canadian mining mogul Robert Quartermain have invested extraordinary amounts of money in this lobby, which stands to make them exponentially more.
They hired Denton's international lobbying firm to tell them how to pass these highly unpopular transgenderism laws, and Denton's told them to tie them to highly popular LGB laws--even though transgenderism IS irreversible medical conversion therapy to "trans" the LGB into some horrible homophobic facsimile of "straight."
This is why they first launched transgenderism on the right: because they knew homophobia would go over well with the right. But Denton's advised them to switch course and instead invest in politicians on the left. So now they do.
But they also still invest in politicians on the right. Why else has Bright Red Texas failed to pass any of the many bills introduced in recent years to control this transgenderist moral panic? Because the top Republicans are being funded by transgenderism-pusher men like Pritzker and Quartermain.
To say you’ve done your research would be an understatement. A thought occurred to be in your post about having to accept/“affirm” their child’s (or patient’s, students) new identity if they will commit
Suicide. What I find interesting, telling and heartbreaking is that the name a child was given at birth and then changed to reflect their “new identity” is called their DEAD name. It seems almost like a suicidal gesture, one that kills their own history, often old relationships. Other countries have ceased transing minors. Some US states are banning it, but the so-called progressive states haven’t. I can’t even …
I've seen tweets from de-transitioners saying that transitioning was meant to be a form of suicide. It's not "transition them or they'll suicide," but, "transition them AS suicide."
Christopher F. Rufo wrote an excellent explanation on how the transgender thing started entitled, “Inside the Transgender Empire” for Imprimis which is a Hillsdale College publication. It’s dated September 2023. If you want to understand how this started, read it. Satan has many allies, and those allies have deep pockets.
Thank you for concisely expressing the dark path that enabled the theft of my son's health and potential, which shattered my family, and inflicted my sorrow. I share your hope that there will be some "legal wins soon" as a "path back to sanity." Though, and it's sad to even write this, it still may be too late for my son to find HIS path back to sanity.
It may take decades, but it does seem that most people grow up and realize they’ve made a lot of mistakes. Hopefully it won’t be too late when they do. I just pray that it happens for my daughter in my lifetime. It does seem humanly impossible, but there is hope. 🙏🏼
I loved your story about how you handled your son, old-school. That sort of responsible parenting is out of fashion, at least with progressive parents (conservative parents don't seem to have this 'trans' problem). Although frankly I'm surprised someone didn't report you to social services for 'child abuse' - since any sort of discipline these days as seen as such. Maybe there are other parents who now have the balls or labia to be proper, disciplining parents.
I hope it works out okay for your daughter. It sounds like you may need new tactics - and you're right, it's not always the parents' fault, but in retrospect--for many--maybe the left wouldn't have this problem if parents had been willing to say No more. I'd be interested in hearing from families who said no to their trans children.
I am a parent who refuses to call my daughter by an alternate name or pronouns, so I guess that’s “saying no”. However, I can’t control what she thinks or feels, and I can’t really control what name she calls herself at school, and trying to control how she dresses or wears her hair seems like a losing battle. She’s 18 now so if she chooses to medicalize I don’t have much leverage to stop that either. It’s a bit of a tightrope because if I push back too hard it may make her rebel even more against my attempts to control her. So I have to be very careful about what I say and wait for the right opportunities to drop small nudges into the conversation.
Although I have a tendency to blame myself and obsessively second-guess every parenting decision I’ve ever made, trying to figure out what magical thing I should have done or said to prevent this, I know that any family can have a troubled child. I’ve known families with troubled kids that were very religious, or not religious at all, very strict or very permissive, very structured or more relaxed, rich, poor, two-parent or single-parent or blended, working moms or stay at home moms, calm or boisterous- no type of family seems to be immune from having a troubled child, although it’s fair to say that some are more likely than others. And I’ve known many families where one child was troubled and the others were thriving. So I have to believe there are a lot of factors outside the family. For my child being rejected and bullied in school when she was younger was a huge factor.
So far saying no hasn’t helped that much - she still calls herself a boy. We just try to keep the relationship as good as we can without participating in nonsense, and hope that someday she’ll come to her senses
I said no to my trans child. Too late. She was accustomed to having her own way. The authorities intervened and accused me of abuse for trying to stop her self harming! These entitled children are indoctrinated at school into claiming their rights to do whatever. No respect for parents. Her two older siblings went to a Catholic school but she refused so missed out on old fashioned discipline. Just glad the two older children survived puberty (the most vulnerable stage) before the trans cult arose to grab my youngest.
FYI The Trevor Project has infiltrated schools. In my area in CA, every single middle and high school student ID has the Trevor Project suicide hotline on the back of their card. This is over 20k kids in our area. Every parent I have mentioned it to didn't know what Trevor Project was (they have chatrooms that disappear so parents can't see) or they didn't know that was on the back of the ID cards. Parents are not understanding what is going on.
My 18 year old daughter who is very upfront about her testosterone injections, of which she has recently had her 2nd shot. Begged me to take her to the emergency room at our renowned Royal North Shore Hospital because she was experiencing severe chest pain. I said it’s probably the chest binder she’s been wearing for 18 months and she didn’t fly off the handle and disagree! She was pale and shaking and I put her in the car and drove her to the hospital at midnight. She checked in at Triage and used her given name then sweetly and politely asked me to allow her to speak to the doctor privately. That was the last I was told. I waited in the emergency waiting room until 4am with no indication when she would be discharged so I advised the nurse at the info desk I would head home and await her or the hospital’s call to come back and pick her up. About an hour later I had fallen asleep fully clothed ready to return to the hospital to get her. My husband answered my phone and he went and picked her up. She offered a vague explanation about unknown chest spasms and that was that. Yesterday I was clearing dirty dishes and picking up clothes in her bedroom when I came across her discharge report from the hospital. I now know why she didn’t want me with her while she spoke to the doctor. 1. The report identified her as Sex: male. 2. She believed it could be because of the chest binder. 3. She has been using marijuana DAILY for the last approximately 12 months. 4. She has been using Vapes for 18 months. She lied to my face when I asked her if she was using vapes as I found a wrapper and used cartridge on our outdoor furniture, and said it was a friend she had staying over. She was given Panadol at the emergency room after extensive blood tests and monitoring for 5 hours and discharged. I have a stranger living in my home who I don’t recognise anymore and she doesn’t seem to care. Why am I worrying???
You would be heartless if you did not worry. I would have been worried sick. These daughters of ours lie to us. I heard mine had pneumonia as a result of the chest binding. The only good thing is that eventually her health deteriorated so she had to give up smoking. I also found a discharge letter in my daughter’s room. We have to be detectives. The health service seems not to care about the damage our deluded girls are inflicting on themselves. Alcohol plus illegal drugs such as marijuana interact with testosterone. That combination nearly killed my daughter. It was a suicide attempt.
I’m so sorry for your pain. That’s maybe the hardest part is that this child we have loved and raised betrays us. My daughter completely changed after taking testosterone. I pray that your daughter will see how much you care. 🙏🏼
I had an autistic son as well. I fought to get him into programs that would allow him to shine and keep him from the trauma I suffered in high school from bullying. He turned out all right and is a functioning adult (tho quirky). The difference was it was a decade or so earlier than all of this and I didn't have to worry about victim culture and trans. In fact, even though he went to special programs, I didn't inform him about his autism until he was an adult, just so he wouldn't rely on that as an excuse for bad behavior or underachievement.
I've thought about it long and hard though. If he had become abusive, narcissistic or uncaring or me or the family, I would have kicked him out at 18. I would certainly not tolerated the kind of behavior associated with trans.
I remember clearly explaining to my daughter that she would always be my daughter. She claimed I disowned her because she decided she had become our son. She also became narcissistic, uncaring, and full of hatred toward herself. That hatred extended to people around her. I fail to comprehend how social workers think that parents trying to stop this behaviour are abusive. Seems the Woke religion has replaced Christianity in the UK.
I think it all rolled in on a glittery, "My Little Pony" Trojan Horse called Kindness, but the horse's actual name is Chaos. (covered up with a smiley-face sticker) Chaos is the twin of Profit. Wherever one goes the other follows. But they aren't identical twins, and Profit has great branding. Well, they both have great branding. "Kindness is Everything!" signs line the residential streets all over our cities. Profit has to be sneakier because Profit has always been suspect. The way it works is this: Chaos rolls in and once things are well stirred up, and there's riots, plagues and distrust, and the generations suspect each other of causing centuries of untold suffering, Profit is set to rake in the money and power (and sex.) Yep! I believe its orchestrated and we probably had many chances to speak up but we didn't really believe it could go this far, because this far is CRAZY. Besides, Chaos was doing it's job and keeping us very, very busy! Profit (along with Chaos) is planning for us to kill each other so they don't need to. Here's the only way out: we need to trust each other, we need to find the truth, and STOP listening to Profit and Chaos.
To whom you are attracted sexually is purely subjective and therefore cannot reasonably be contested by an outside observer. Where you decide to live your life on a spectrum of superficial, stereotypical male to female attributes (and we all do) is also purely subjective and similarly cannot be questioned. However, your biological sex reflects an objective reality which cannot be changed by your subjective personal view and futile attempts to do so can result in serious health impacts to you as well as actual harms to members of the sex you are impersonating (especially women). Finally, others who are grounded in objective reality should never be forced to accept your subjective version of your actual biological sex.
YUP
It's a cult, and every post on this blog solidifies that conviction in my mind. It's impossible, sometimes, to get back a loved one who has been so lovebombed by the cult, whether it's Jim Jones, Heaven's Gate, Warren Jeefs, Scientology, or the rainbow cult.
Wow that’s horrendous I’m so sorry! I’ve copied your comment if you don’t mind? My daughter needs to know these shocking outcomes. Thank you for sharing. Gosh I feel like crying (I actually am now) thinking about how horrible this evil cult is and how it has hurt you and your daughter and the rest of us. Sad so sad.
Question from article: ... but still critically important riddle that is: who decided families are bad?
Answer: Marxists. Anyone out there protesting against the trans movement AND protesting against capitalism is at odds with their own belief system.
Marxists believe that the family is a tool of capitalism and its main function is to maintain capitalism and reinforce social inequalities.
Marxism is a conflict perspective in the family that argues that the working-class, the proletariat, is exploited by the capitalist class, who profit off of their labor.
Marx and Engels believed that the monogamous nuclear family emerged from, and benefits, capitalism. According to Engels, the nuclear family promotes inheritance and consequently intergenerational inequality.
https://simplysociology.com/functions-of-the-family-marxism.html
"Marxism is a conflict perspective in the family that argues that the working-class, the proletariat, is exploited by the capitalist class, who profit off of their labor."
--- Is this true or false?
"Marx and Engels believed that the monogamous nuclear family emerged from, and benefits, capitalism. According to Engels, the nuclear family promotes inheritance and consequently intergenerational inequality."
--- Is this not true? Having lived in countries where multi-generational joint families were the norm, as well as countries where nuclear families were the norm, the nuclear family model is definitely set up for less sharing and more individual consumption/hoarding.
Agreed, but those are the names these men go by. If anyone wants to look them up, those are the names under which their nefarious deeds will mostly be recorded.
“How did they pull this off?”
Money.
Lots and lots and lots of money.
Money to buy politicians by donating to their campaigns, allowing them to successfully defeat politicians with less money, thus buying entire governments.
Multimillionaires like Trumpster James Pritzker and conservative Canadian mining mogul Robert Quartermain have invested extraordinary amounts of money in this lobby, which stands to make them exponentially more.
They hired Denton's international lobbying firm to tell them how to pass these highly unpopular transgenderism laws, and Denton's told them to tie them to highly popular LGB laws--even though transgenderism IS irreversible medical conversion therapy to "trans" the LGB into some horrible homophobic facsimile of "straight."
This is why they first launched transgenderism on the right: because they knew homophobia would go over well with the right. But Denton's advised them to switch course and instead invest in politicians on the left. So now they do.
But they also still invest in politicians on the right. Why else has Bright Red Texas failed to pass any of the many bills introduced in recent years to control this transgenderist moral panic? Because the top Republicans are being funded by transgenderism-pusher men like Pritzker and Quartermain.
Jennifer Bilek has done the research: https://www.the11thhourblog.com/
To say you’ve done your research would be an understatement. A thought occurred to be in your post about having to accept/“affirm” their child’s (or patient’s, students) new identity if they will commit
Suicide. What I find interesting, telling and heartbreaking is that the name a child was given at birth and then changed to reflect their “new identity” is called their DEAD name. It seems almost like a suicidal gesture, one that kills their own history, often old relationships. Other countries have ceased transing minors. Some US states are banning it, but the so-called progressive states haven’t. I can’t even …
I've seen tweets from de-transitioners saying that transitioning was meant to be a form of suicide. It's not "transition them or they'll suicide," but, "transition them AS suicide."
Christopher F. Rufo wrote an excellent explanation on how the transgender thing started entitled, “Inside the Transgender Empire” for Imprimis which is a Hillsdale College publication. It’s dated September 2023. If you want to understand how this started, read it. Satan has many allies, and those allies have deep pockets.
"The Transsexual Empire" is a book written by feminist Janice Raymond in 1979:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Transsexual_Empire
That's where Rufo's term came from.
Thank you for concisely expressing the dark path that enabled the theft of my son's health and potential, which shattered my family, and inflicted my sorrow. I share your hope that there will be some "legal wins soon" as a "path back to sanity." Though, and it's sad to even write this, it still may be too late for my son to find HIS path back to sanity.
It may take decades, but it does seem that most people grow up and realize they’ve made a lot of mistakes. Hopefully it won’t be too late when they do. I just pray that it happens for my daughter in my lifetime. It does seem humanly impossible, but there is hope. 🙏🏼
It certainly seems humanly impossible. That is why people have to pray for miracles.
Hanging onto hope is the only thing we can do,
I loved your story about how you handled your son, old-school. That sort of responsible parenting is out of fashion, at least with progressive parents (conservative parents don't seem to have this 'trans' problem). Although frankly I'm surprised someone didn't report you to social services for 'child abuse' - since any sort of discipline these days as seen as such. Maybe there are other parents who now have the balls or labia to be proper, disciplining parents.
I hope it works out okay for your daughter. It sounds like you may need new tactics - and you're right, it's not always the parents' fault, but in retrospect--for many--maybe the left wouldn't have this problem if parents had been willing to say No more. I'd be interested in hearing from families who said no to their trans children.
I am a parent who refuses to call my daughter by an alternate name or pronouns, so I guess that’s “saying no”. However, I can’t control what she thinks or feels, and I can’t really control what name she calls herself at school, and trying to control how she dresses or wears her hair seems like a losing battle. She’s 18 now so if she chooses to medicalize I don’t have much leverage to stop that either. It’s a bit of a tightrope because if I push back too hard it may make her rebel even more against my attempts to control her. So I have to be very careful about what I say and wait for the right opportunities to drop small nudges into the conversation.
Although I have a tendency to blame myself and obsessively second-guess every parenting decision I’ve ever made, trying to figure out what magical thing I should have done or said to prevent this, I know that any family can have a troubled child. I’ve known families with troubled kids that were very religious, or not religious at all, very strict or very permissive, very structured or more relaxed, rich, poor, two-parent or single-parent or blended, working moms or stay at home moms, calm or boisterous- no type of family seems to be immune from having a troubled child, although it’s fair to say that some are more likely than others. And I’ve known many families where one child was troubled and the others were thriving. So I have to believe there are a lot of factors outside the family. For my child being rejected and bullied in school when she was younger was a huge factor.
So far saying no hasn’t helped that much - she still calls herself a boy. We just try to keep the relationship as good as we can without participating in nonsense, and hope that someday she’ll come to her senses
I said no to my trans child. Too late. She was accustomed to having her own way. The authorities intervened and accused me of abuse for trying to stop her self harming! These entitled children are indoctrinated at school into claiming their rights to do whatever. No respect for parents. Her two older siblings went to a Catholic school but she refused so missed out on old fashioned discipline. Just glad the two older children survived puberty (the most vulnerable stage) before the trans cult arose to grab my youngest.
Absolutely amazing, spot-on thinking and writing. Thank you.
FYI The Trevor Project has infiltrated schools. In my area in CA, every single middle and high school student ID has the Trevor Project suicide hotline on the back of their card. This is over 20k kids in our area. Every parent I have mentioned it to didn't know what Trevor Project was (they have chatrooms that disappear so parents can't see) or they didn't know that was on the back of the ID cards. Parents are not understanding what is going on.
My 18 year old daughter who is very upfront about her testosterone injections, of which she has recently had her 2nd shot. Begged me to take her to the emergency room at our renowned Royal North Shore Hospital because she was experiencing severe chest pain. I said it’s probably the chest binder she’s been wearing for 18 months and she didn’t fly off the handle and disagree! She was pale and shaking and I put her in the car and drove her to the hospital at midnight. She checked in at Triage and used her given name then sweetly and politely asked me to allow her to speak to the doctor privately. That was the last I was told. I waited in the emergency waiting room until 4am with no indication when she would be discharged so I advised the nurse at the info desk I would head home and await her or the hospital’s call to come back and pick her up. About an hour later I had fallen asleep fully clothed ready to return to the hospital to get her. My husband answered my phone and he went and picked her up. She offered a vague explanation about unknown chest spasms and that was that. Yesterday I was clearing dirty dishes and picking up clothes in her bedroom when I came across her discharge report from the hospital. I now know why she didn’t want me with her while she spoke to the doctor. 1. The report identified her as Sex: male. 2. She believed it could be because of the chest binder. 3. She has been using marijuana DAILY for the last approximately 12 months. 4. She has been using Vapes for 18 months. She lied to my face when I asked her if she was using vapes as I found a wrapper and used cartridge on our outdoor furniture, and said it was a friend she had staying over. She was given Panadol at the emergency room after extensive blood tests and monitoring for 5 hours and discharged. I have a stranger living in my home who I don’t recognise anymore and she doesn’t seem to care. Why am I worrying???
You would be heartless if you did not worry. I would have been worried sick. These daughters of ours lie to us. I heard mine had pneumonia as a result of the chest binding. The only good thing is that eventually her health deteriorated so she had to give up smoking. I also found a discharge letter in my daughter’s room. We have to be detectives. The health service seems not to care about the damage our deluded girls are inflicting on themselves. Alcohol plus illegal drugs such as marijuana interact with testosterone. That combination nearly killed my daughter. It was a suicide attempt.
I’m so sorry for your pain. That’s maybe the hardest part is that this child we have loved and raised betrays us. My daughter completely changed after taking testosterone. I pray that your daughter will see how much you care. 🙏🏼
I'm sorry this happened to you.
I had an autistic son as well. I fought to get him into programs that would allow him to shine and keep him from the trauma I suffered in high school from bullying. He turned out all right and is a functioning adult (tho quirky). The difference was it was a decade or so earlier than all of this and I didn't have to worry about victim culture and trans. In fact, even though he went to special programs, I didn't inform him about his autism until he was an adult, just so he wouldn't rely on that as an excuse for bad behavior or underachievement.
I've thought about it long and hard though. If he had become abusive, narcissistic or uncaring or me or the family, I would have kicked him out at 18. I would certainly not tolerated the kind of behavior associated with trans.
Please take care of yourself and heal.
I remember clearly explaining to my daughter that she would always be my daughter. She claimed I disowned her because she decided she had become our son. She also became narcissistic, uncaring, and full of hatred toward herself. That hatred extended to people around her. I fail to comprehend how social workers think that parents trying to stop this behaviour are abusive. Seems the Woke religion has replaced Christianity in the UK.
I think it all rolled in on a glittery, "My Little Pony" Trojan Horse called Kindness, but the horse's actual name is Chaos. (covered up with a smiley-face sticker) Chaos is the twin of Profit. Wherever one goes the other follows. But they aren't identical twins, and Profit has great branding. Well, they both have great branding. "Kindness is Everything!" signs line the residential streets all over our cities. Profit has to be sneakier because Profit has always been suspect. The way it works is this: Chaos rolls in and once things are well stirred up, and there's riots, plagues and distrust, and the generations suspect each other of causing centuries of untold suffering, Profit is set to rake in the money and power (and sex.) Yep! I believe its orchestrated and we probably had many chances to speak up but we didn't really believe it could go this far, because this far is CRAZY. Besides, Chaos was doing it's job and keeping us very, very busy! Profit (along with Chaos) is planning for us to kill each other so they don't need to. Here's the only way out: we need to trust each other, we need to find the truth, and STOP listening to Profit and Chaos.
From Game of Thrones: "Chaos is a ladder." --Littlefinger.
From Grand Theft Auto 3: "Nothing causes property values to plummet like a good, old-fashioned gang war." --Donald Love.
I love that the Truth is everywhere, right?