As so many of us here, our story is the same. My son is 28 and was caught up in this cult during the pandemic and a mental health crisis. I recently saw hi from afar in the grocery store parking lot he didn't know and I didn't want to scare him and make things worse. He has rewritten his past in his mind, has accused me of being abusive. He was such a kind, responsible and talented young man man. Now he is depressed, unemployable and living in the basement at his father who affirms him. He is alone and online all the time but some who blames me for his life. We were so close and he was such a happy kid. This threatens to destroy me but I have no choice but to live or I will compound the pain for him and for his brother.
Yes. She has never actually had gender dysphoria or wanted to be a boy. She got bullied for her beliefs and for being overweight. The trans crutch helps her self esteem not tank too low bc she can just be "the fat funny guy" instead of a girl who is really not attractive right now. She has eaten herself into morbid obesity. She used to be super pretty. I pray that one day God will give me my original daughter back. Yesterday, I attended a doctor-led Do No Harm video conference. It was interesting. The Do No Harm website has a great list of resources. For Christians, I've found Help4Families.org helpful.
so, so sorry...we share the same sad mother faith... i wonder if these young people will ever wake up and realize how wrong they were and that they've been manipulated by evil forces. And i don't even know if i want to be around when that happens...
This story only proves that there is some serious witchcraft going on. This parent raised her child up in the way he should go, but he departed from it. My daughter has also gone no contact which has hurt me immensely. Why don't they feel the same pain? I have never seen anything so diabolical as this, it is sociopathic and resembles some kind of possession.
Keep praying against this spirit of rebellion and confusion. Our God is more powerful and will right these wrongs!
Me too. Except it is my 25yearold DAUGHTER. She first told us she was lesbian. Then trans man. She's been on "T" over 2 years and (after not seeing her for months) she recently showed up with a full beard of stubble on her face. The thing you said about briefly spotting her old self happens rarely... mostly it is just very strained when we rarely see her (she'll cut us off if we say wrong things) or when she rarely responds to text... because we too do not affirm. But we try to just show her LOVE. And I PRAY for her soul and her future health to be saved. And I PRAY for HOPE and JOY to return to this mama's heart. And I pray for all of us parents here because I know from experience every day and every night how much we are all crying. God, please give us the STRENGTH to persevere... 🙏🙏🙏
I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS ME.
So sad. Prayers for you and all those affected. This Toxic ideology needs to crash and burn and its proponents to be thrown in jail !! So sorry God Bless 🙏
My story is similar to yours. I guess all of ours are similar. I still see my son in his new persona; It's been 3-4 years since his transition. I hear his voice even though it is higher. I know he's in there. He lives out of state and has for >10yrs, separated from family. I continue to gently and lovingly speak truth to him. I told him he would always be my son, and he accepted that and said, "yeah, I know." He's in relationship with a biological woman who considers herself lesbian. I just keep praying and trusting God will deliver him from this nonsense even if I'm not alive to see it.
I could feel your angst. Your heart is heavy with worry, as it should it be. All of us caught up in this trans-cult nightmare feel that heaviness, too. You wrote: "The headwinds feel so strong. This is an ideology that contradicts truth and science—and it has woven itself into our schools, our healthcare, our government, our media, and even our places of worship." That is exactly what has happened. How these lies have infiltrated so deeply is beyond my ability to fathom. I am dreading the future, the "what is coming next" and how will this trans ideology play out? How many more killings will there be? The media loves this drama and can't get enough of it! Sensationalize the trans theories and put more ideas into these trouble kid's minds, hand them a rifle and the next news story can be broadcast worldwide. Repeat.
Oh! How I hate those memories emails. Rubbing my sadness into my face at how wonderful our life was. My kids weee so cute it hurts. I delete the emails and do not open b/c I will start crying. Still— even as I think we are over the hill. I am so angry. So betrayed. I cannot even fathom the pain I was in. The attacks I withstood. My husband and my kids almost lost me, but I stayed. Hour by hour. Minute by minute. I am trying to get back into routine b/c it feels familiar. It feels productive. Damn Shutterfly, damn iPhoto memories…
Pictures are rough, I so agree. However, I have a select few that I have framed in the house that REMIND ME I'm not the crazy one. He really DID live a full, loving, happy life before the insanity broke. I need that, along with routine you mention. Blessings to you fellow parents as we trudge through this pile of sludge - us warriors fighting for our kids.
Thank you for sharing. Beautifully written. I try to have a routine as well but the tragedy of losing my son to this cult is just too much most days. I want to remain hopeful but It has been four years and I don't see how he is going to come out of this. We are estranged only because we had been steadfast against medicalization. I know we are on the right side of history but the sadness of losing him has devastated me. I miss him so much.
There is an epidemic of young people going "no contact" with their families. The reasons for doing so vary, but it almost always involves rewriting the past. There's nothing you can do to convince them the reality was different. We all have our own interpretations of the truth, but when someone views their entire past through a certain "lens," and a newly adopted one at that, you have just lost that person. All you can do is hope they find their way back. At least you are in communication with your son, and that gives you something to work with, even if it doesn't seem like much. It's more than many of us have.
Your articulate post captures the silent suffering that happens when Google photos presents a memories montage. On the one hand, past photos affirm the truth of my son before he was swallowed by thi heinous mind - body (and family) destroying cult. And yet the photos are as a you say "reminders of what's been lost." The trans cult is an insidious thief that I despise deep in my bones.
This is my story too, although my son was a little older, not long out of college.
I can't even look at the memories anymore. I'm so sad for you and all of us. 😢
As so many of us here, our story is the same. My son is 28 and was caught up in this cult during the pandemic and a mental health crisis. I recently saw hi from afar in the grocery store parking lot he didn't know and I didn't want to scare him and make things worse. He has rewritten his past in his mind, has accused me of being abusive. He was such a kind, responsible and talented young man man. Now he is depressed, unemployable and living in the basement at his father who affirms him. He is alone and online all the time but some who blames me for his life. We were so close and he was such a happy kid. This threatens to destroy me but I have no choice but to live or I will compound the pain for him and for his brother.
Yes. She has never actually had gender dysphoria or wanted to be a boy. She got bullied for her beliefs and for being overweight. The trans crutch helps her self esteem not tank too low bc she can just be "the fat funny guy" instead of a girl who is really not attractive right now. She has eaten herself into morbid obesity. She used to be super pretty. I pray that one day God will give me my original daughter back. Yesterday, I attended a doctor-led Do No Harm video conference. It was interesting. The Do No Harm website has a great list of resources. For Christians, I've found Help4Families.org helpful.
so, so sorry...we share the same sad mother faith... i wonder if these young people will ever wake up and realize how wrong they were and that they've been manipulated by evil forces. And i don't even know if i want to be around when that happens...
God bless!
This story only proves that there is some serious witchcraft going on. This parent raised her child up in the way he should go, but he departed from it. My daughter has also gone no contact which has hurt me immensely. Why don't they feel the same pain? I have never seen anything so diabolical as this, it is sociopathic and resembles some kind of possession.
Keep praying against this spirit of rebellion and confusion. Our God is more powerful and will right these wrongs!
Me too. Except it is my 25yearold DAUGHTER. She first told us she was lesbian. Then trans man. She's been on "T" over 2 years and (after not seeing her for months) she recently showed up with a full beard of stubble on her face. The thing you said about briefly spotting her old self happens rarely... mostly it is just very strained when we rarely see her (she'll cut us off if we say wrong things) or when she rarely responds to text... because we too do not affirm. But we try to just show her LOVE. And I PRAY for her soul and her future health to be saved. And I PRAY for HOPE and JOY to return to this mama's heart. And I pray for all of us parents here because I know from experience every day and every night how much we are all crying. God, please give us the STRENGTH to persevere... 🙏🙏🙏
I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS ME.
Philippians 4:13
So sad. Prayers for you and all those affected. This Toxic ideology needs to crash and burn and its proponents to be thrown in jail !! So sorry God Bless 🙏
My story is similar to yours. I guess all of ours are similar. I still see my son in his new persona; It's been 3-4 years since his transition. I hear his voice even though it is higher. I know he's in there. He lives out of state and has for >10yrs, separated from family. I continue to gently and lovingly speak truth to him. I told him he would always be my son, and he accepted that and said, "yeah, I know." He's in relationship with a biological woman who considers herself lesbian. I just keep praying and trusting God will deliver him from this nonsense even if I'm not alive to see it.
I could feel your angst. Your heart is heavy with worry, as it should it be. All of us caught up in this trans-cult nightmare feel that heaviness, too. You wrote: "The headwinds feel so strong. This is an ideology that contradicts truth and science—and it has woven itself into our schools, our healthcare, our government, our media, and even our places of worship." That is exactly what has happened. How these lies have infiltrated so deeply is beyond my ability to fathom. I am dreading the future, the "what is coming next" and how will this trans ideology play out? How many more killings will there be? The media loves this drama and can't get enough of it! Sensationalize the trans theories and put more ideas into these trouble kid's minds, hand them a rifle and the next news story can be broadcast worldwide. Repeat.
Oh! How I hate those memories emails. Rubbing my sadness into my face at how wonderful our life was. My kids weee so cute it hurts. I delete the emails and do not open b/c I will start crying. Still— even as I think we are over the hill. I am so angry. So betrayed. I cannot even fathom the pain I was in. The attacks I withstood. My husband and my kids almost lost me, but I stayed. Hour by hour. Minute by minute. I am trying to get back into routine b/c it feels familiar. It feels productive. Damn Shutterfly, damn iPhoto memories…
Pictures are rough, I so agree. However, I have a select few that I have framed in the house that REMIND ME I'm not the crazy one. He really DID live a full, loving, happy life before the insanity broke. I need that, along with routine you mention. Blessings to you fellow parents as we trudge through this pile of sludge - us warriors fighting for our kids.
I could have also written this story except we are estranged from our son for not affirming.
Thank you for sharing. Beautifully written. I try to have a routine as well but the tragedy of losing my son to this cult is just too much most days. I want to remain hopeful but It has been four years and I don't see how he is going to come out of this. We are estranged only because we had been steadfast against medicalization. I know we are on the right side of history but the sadness of losing him has devastated me. I miss him so much.
Yup the “on this day” ❤️
I’m not giving up.
There is an epidemic of young people going "no contact" with their families. The reasons for doing so vary, but it almost always involves rewriting the past. There's nothing you can do to convince them the reality was different. We all have our own interpretations of the truth, but when someone views their entire past through a certain "lens," and a newly adopted one at that, you have just lost that person. All you can do is hope they find their way back. At least you are in communication with your son, and that gives you something to work with, even if it doesn't seem like much. It's more than many of us have.
Your articulate post captures the silent suffering that happens when Google photos presents a memories montage. On the one hand, past photos affirm the truth of my son before he was swallowed by thi heinous mind - body (and family) destroying cult. And yet the photos are as a you say "reminders of what's been lost." The trans cult is an insidious thief that I despise deep in my bones.