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Grandma Eileen's avatar

I am so grateful that you were able to help pull your daughter out of this trans-cult! The internet can be evil and dangerous and the information available to innocent young minds can be so damaging. Stay strong! Thank you for sharing your story. Praying for your continued success in helping your daughter stay as your daughter.

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Patricia Winters MD's avatar

Wow! Sounds like a narrow escape for your girl. I wish with all my heart I had known to intervene earlier, and with more certainty, in the case of my own daughter. So many are at risk!

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Jessica's avatar

It is interesting how many stories start with "I'm on the left of politics." Hmm.

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SamizBOT's avatar

yup, and the same people who say that there is no such thing as a slippery slope also demand that progress stop right here at this point and go no further

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Kay Stewart's avatar

you are doing the right thing! stay with it. I am one of the unfortunate mothers with a daughter just like yours, who is now 26 and this influence affected her back when it was just starting and parents weren’t aware enough to know what was happening. there was no social support for parents like us. I’m so glad there is now. you and your daughter will avoid a lot of heartbreak because you are now guiding her and keeping her safe from this evil cultural perversion. God bless you!

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Person's avatar

Thank you for sharing your experience. You did the right thing taking control of the internet. Not easy for most of us. This issue weighs heavy on my heart also

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Christina's avatar

You are so lucky that you found out early. God bless you and your daughter and I hope she grows in \to the happy young woman she is meant to be.

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Spurssarah's avatar

I applaud you. I wish I had done the same although my kid was fourteen. Six years on and kid has had surgery and started hormones.

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Person's avatar

Applause is well deserved. I failed to take control of the situation. My attempts failed drastically as my rebellious 14 year old estranged me. Everyone else around (mostly on the internet) “supported” her delusion. Now 23 and still using that dreadful testosterone gel to keep up “appearances”.

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Kay Stewart's avatar

i’m sorry you are going through this - i share your experience with my 26 year old daughter - and know well the heartache. god bless you.

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Person's avatar

Thanks, without support from you and many others all going through this nightmare, our heartaches would be unbearable.

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Tom in Denver's avatar

It is much easier to control internet access at a younger age. Also changing schools and getting kids out of an affirming environment can help. It is harder the closer they get to 18.

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Mama Ain't Playin''s avatar

Good points. Even after changing schools, it's unlikely that the genderwoo won't be at the new school but giving kids a fresh start is a good idea.

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Lesbian Mom 3's avatar

Internet breaks are so important, and so much easier to implement with younger kids. The internet seems to be the largest influence in trans identification with teens/tweens. Soooo glad your daughter is happier

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Tanya Guadalupe's avatar

That's wonderful your daughter desisted. Our story is similar except our daughter hasn't desisted. It's been a year and she's 13 now. I'm hopeful, but she still insists she will live her life as a male when she's old enough to move out. It's heartbreaking.

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Ton's avatar

Me gusta leer estas historias, mi hija ya con 12 está pasando por lo mismo, afortunadamente al igual que tu hija a cambiado para mejor, pero siempre estoy pendiente.

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Paul_'s avatar

Good for you for intervening successfully! That’s hard to do for many.

Unfortunately, some people are politicizing this issue. This isn’t a leftist phenomenon, although some leftists and liberals seem to feel a compulsion to support transitioning without question or thought.

The people benefiting from this are medical professionals (some of them) and people who want to disrupt the social order in the west, especially in the USA. To that extent it is political.

Best of luck to you and your daughter!

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Average Dad's avatar

All - this is the only thing I have seen work, and remember, everyone is against you (us), do not trust a single; therapist, doctor, educator, administrator, neighbor, politician, lawyer, accountant. If you do be 100% certain they do not follow the affirmation care model. Our young people need healthy friends and boundaries, to love their body they were born with all it's imperfections and to understand puberty is natural and temporary. TikTok, and especially TUMBLR are cesspool's...

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Tanya's avatar

What about YouTube shorts? Is it bad too?

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Average Dad's avatar

not sure - stick to Prager U - you can trust it.

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Lindsay's avatar

And Discord.

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KB77's avatar

And Reddit

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Lida H.'s avatar

Yes. Discord and Reddit are simply lousy with adult autogynephiles who want to groom as many children and young adults into "transition" as is possible. Tumblr and those who own it are closely affiliated with Planned Parenthood (the hormone supply aspect earns much more than terminations ever could).

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Lindsay's avatar

So happy for you! I wish I had reacted differently when my daughter came out.

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Brielle's avatar

What did you do? How did you react? What happened?

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Lindsay's avatar

I affirmed. I let her change her name to her middle name but a boy spelling, change her pronouns, cut her hair. Pretended she was a boy, told everyone to go along with it. I was on the brink of swallowing a bottle of pills to escape this insanity when my husbands therapist told him about Abigail Shrievers book which literally and figuratively saved my life.

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Merrie's avatar

I’m so happy that you found out what was going on early enough and that your daughter has desisted!

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Parent of ROGD kid's avatar

Thanks for sharing and what great news that your daughter has desisted. How unsettling that schools observing these peculiar behaviors in students (who become gender questioning suddenly but desist once the source of influence disappears) are not already becoming more cautious about the immediately affirming no questions asked response. Careless and cowardly on their part.

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