No One is Trans

Stop the harm

We did not affirm our son’s trans identity. He later detransitioned and then took his own life. The parents of the recent school shooting in Minnesota may have affirmed their son and he took his life after killing two children and wounding 18 others. Can it still be argued that affirming is the best route for children?

When the police came to my place of work, I feared the worst. I knew it was about my son. I had always worried the other shoe could drop and his detransition was too good to be true. I worried my son had done something awful. He did, but only to himself, and left his family devastated. He did not take anyone with him. My son was never violent but cross-sex hormones mess with kids’ brains. Social transition also messes with their brains.

It has been reported that Minnesota has the highest number of trans-identifying kids/young adults. According to How Many Adults and Youth Identify as Transgender in the United States?, “Three-quarters of people aged 13 and older who identify as transgender are under 35”. The AAP argues that there is no evidence of social contagion among trans-identified youths, although it is so obvious to all of us non-affirming parents. Why would this trend be immune to social contagion among the young? What makes it different from anorexia, cutting or even hysterical fits of the 19th century? Pediatrician Johanna Olsen-Kennedy admitted that doctors and therapists lie when they ask parents, “Would you rather have a dead son or a living daughter?” Were the parents of this trans shooter bullied into affirming?

We did not affirm our son but everyone around him did behind our backs, and at 18 he was able to get hormones. At our son’s funeral his best friend blamed us for his death because we did not affirm. His friend wanted the girl name on our son’s tombstone even though our son had gone back to using his birth name. This friend made the tragic loss of our son even worse, if that is possible. He claimed to know what our son would want, but he was wrong. He did not really know our son. His own mother told me that our son told her son that he was no longer trans. Her son did not believe this. Our son’s friend failed to support his detransition. I’m done blaming myself for the loss of my son. I did everything I could to help him. But I don’t blame his friend either. His friend was misled by adults who are pushing the trans narrative.

After detransitioning, our son was having a hard time taking back the trans identity with his friends. After he died, they did not believe us that he had detransitioned, although we had proof. They said that our son lied to us about it and posted terrible things about us on social media. He did not tell them about his decision to detransition, but then he didn’t tell them for a long time about his decision to trans either. We had a good relationship with him and he told us first that he thought he was trans. We questioned him and listened to him without affirming. After finally telling his friends, everything changed and he believed he was trans since all his friends and other adults affirmed.

This kid in Minnesota did not know how to take it all back either. It is reported he said, “I regret being trans, I wish I never brainwashed myself.” Instead, he used violence because he did not know how to cope with the harm that was done to him. Why is it so difficult for young adults who finally wake up to the trans lie? Maybe because of things like the chant, “Death before Detransition”.

It’s time we help kids by ending the affirmation of the trans delusion. How many more kids need to take their lives and, perhaps, innocent children with them? It’s time to stop believing there are trans people. No one is trans. It is a mental illness and a huge medical scandal pushed on the vulnerable.