You said so much with so few words. So many people who don't have family members caught up in this lie are ignorant about the harms and toxicity of this cult. Is it willfull ignorance? Laziness? Indifference? An inability to think critically? All of these and more? I chide myself for scrolling Facebook and responding to Trans Lives Matter, the Trevor Project and Pink News. I tell myself to stop. Stop sharing studies, stories of lawsuits and Detrans stories, CASS review and HHS hashtags. Stop torturing yourself with the insanity that is still out there, in spite of the pushback. But I can't help myself. We are parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, siblings, friends. This group has people who have been harmed by this ideology and have come back to their natal selves. Tell the truth. Even if your voice is small. Keep the faith, even if your candle flickers. Keep the faith. Even if your flame burns out. Keep the faith. Because to not have any feels so much worse.
I truly believe most people agree with us--that this ideology is madness. It's like the elephant in the room or the Emperor's new clothes. They see the delirium but aren't sure if others see it too so they just stay silent.
wish that were true. i think more people agree than are speaking but many people I mention this to just think it is something that is understood and that I am just, well, crazy.
The ideology comes at you from all directions. I used to be charmed by it. By the cute transwoman at the sports store, the feminine trans doctor at the emergency ward, the trans ballerina boy in the award winning movie, the happy trans people in the reality show, the journalist coming out as transwoman on TV with big pooha,… I voted for a transwoman - a great politician by the way. But when the trans bomb hit my family I googled if it was healthy. The first search result said it was all fine. But then I came across the truth. It took 10 minutes, but the majority of us never bother to find out.
Of the 4 close friends I mentioned our son’s story too, none of them truly believed that this was a harmful ideology. Likewise, they have not shared in the relief at his desistance. It’s a lonesome journey, and I’m glad there are more groups to support parents.
I have to wonder if your friends understand what trans ideology entails. The alienation from family, the medicalization, the loss of health, the loss of fertility. And the psychololgical and mental illness that gets ignored because allegedly gender affirming care shuts off any inquiry to what is really happening.
Do you even tell people? My immediate family knows because they don’t see their nephew anymore and our best “couple” friend that we go to church with. They and their daughter were also FB friends with him when he announced it on FB.
Other than that I don’t share the news to anyone. He was my pride and joy. Moved away. Got engaged. An Engineer. Friendly. Loving. How do I tell people he abandoned us at 24 yrs old.
I don’t talk about it because I my daughter - now “he” - doesn’t share “it” except with friends. I respect that, it could make it easier for her to desist (a pipe dream) and I don’t want to go against her decision not to share widely. Also, I don’t talk about it to old people who know and love her so that they don’t have to go to the immense grief I am feeling before they die.
Don't give up hope that your daughter desists. As the tide turns and the trans project is exposed, she may come to realize just how terribly she was deceived. Plus, the cognitive dissonance of the trans performance must be exhausting. I imagine there will come a time when she is exhausted and nostalgic for what once was, and you will need to be there for her.
I got emotional when I see this. Without those affirmations, will our beautiful and smart daughters be trapped so deeply in this cancerous ideology? Will they hate us this much as we are not affirming as those who care the least? 💔
If a person is not personally affected they are just completely clueless. They don't even bother to research what is happening. I was the same. Until I was forced to deep dive into this scary medicalised crazy ideology. My child thinks he knows best. That I know nothing. My friends are there for me but they cant fully understand. This is my child. Until it takes hold of your family you can't understand the pain it causes to parents. I feel powerless some days but i hope the tide will turn and giving out drugs that harm and operations that destroy will being illegal.
Its been said before, but I wish there would be much more public exposure of the trans tragedy. A movie like the Erin Brokovich movie. There is some information that’s public. But it is not sinking in with the average person.
People, especially other parents, have no clue what is happening because they have no reason to investigate for themselves. They listen to the media and adopt the "if it's not hurting anyone else, let them do what makes them happy" mentality. Well the truth is that it IS hurting others! It's ripping families apart. And it's not making them happy either. Maybe for a while they can pretend to be happy but it doesn't sustain long term. I pray the truth will be uncovered before it's too late for our kids
“Let them do what makes them happy”…, I don’t believe in that. It is the job of a parent to teach a child. To set the child on the right path in life.
Sometimes that means imposing discipline, making restrictions. Would you let a child smoke cigarettes because it makes them happy? Or skip school? Or get drunk? Or steal money?
It is hurting everyone . It truly rips families apart. In addition it makes everyone else in society lie, pretend something is true when it isn't, affects women and girls in sports and their private spaces, forces teachers and everyone in the workplace to say something they know is false, destroys the integrity of medicine and rips at the fabric of reality. So yes, it does hurt everyone else. What world do these clueless people live in??
Kids are also hurt when their dad suddenly believes he's a woman and expects their mom to pretend to be a lesbian and wants to go out clubbing with his daughters. The narcissism is off the charts.
The author's point is very well made. Using cancer as an analogy to the "trans" illness is very effective, and I will use it in the future with the "captured" co-workers I have to deal with.
Yes. I see my daughter declining in every dimension since she identified as trans. When I happen to share that, I usually get "virtuous indifference". Then the blame is shifted to me for not affirming. If I did that they say, it would all be going fabulously.
I am so, so sorry about the abuse being loaded onto you, and about the damage being inflicted on your child. I hate the people who are doing this to you.
You said so much with so few words. So many people who don't have family members caught up in this lie are ignorant about the harms and toxicity of this cult. Is it willfull ignorance? Laziness? Indifference? An inability to think critically? All of these and more? I chide myself for scrolling Facebook and responding to Trans Lives Matter, the Trevor Project and Pink News. I tell myself to stop. Stop sharing studies, stories of lawsuits and Detrans stories, CASS review and HHS hashtags. Stop torturing yourself with the insanity that is still out there, in spite of the pushback. But I can't help myself. We are parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, siblings, friends. This group has people who have been harmed by this ideology and have come back to their natal selves. Tell the truth. Even if your voice is small. Keep the faith, even if your candle flickers. Keep the faith. Even if your flame burns out. Keep the faith. Because to not have any feels so much worse.
That is a beautiful poem
"Virtuous indifference" captures it perfectly. It's mind boggling how callow people can be in response to something so obviously wrong.
I truly believe most people agree with us--that this ideology is madness. It's like the elephant in the room or the Emperor's new clothes. They see the delirium but aren't sure if others see it too so they just stay silent.
yes! that's why we need to keep speaking out about it!
thanks, Lisa.
wish that were true. i think more people agree than are speaking but many people I mention this to just think it is something that is understood and that I am just, well, crazy.
The ideology comes at you from all directions. I used to be charmed by it. By the cute transwoman at the sports store, the feminine trans doctor at the emergency ward, the trans ballerina boy in the award winning movie, the happy trans people in the reality show, the journalist coming out as transwoman on TV with big pooha,… I voted for a transwoman - a great politician by the way. But when the trans bomb hit my family I googled if it was healthy. The first search result said it was all fine. But then I came across the truth. It took 10 minutes, but the majority of us never bother to find out.
Powerful.
Of the 4 close friends I mentioned our son’s story too, none of them truly believed that this was a harmful ideology. Likewise, they have not shared in the relief at his desistance. It’s a lonesome journey, and I’m glad there are more groups to support parents.
this can be a lonely road, for sure. but we keep finding and connecting with others. it helps.
I have to wonder if your friends understand what trans ideology entails. The alienation from family, the medicalization, the loss of health, the loss of fertility. And the psychololgical and mental illness that gets ignored because allegedly gender affirming care shuts off any inquiry to what is really happening.
You are painfully correct. The societal lack of understanding is poisonous. Don’t give up on spreading the truth.
Do you even tell people? My immediate family knows because they don’t see their nephew anymore and our best “couple” friend that we go to church with. They and their daughter were also FB friends with him when he announced it on FB.
Other than that I don’t share the news to anyone. He was my pride and joy. Moved away. Got engaged. An Engineer. Friendly. Loving. How do I tell people he abandoned us at 24 yrs old.
That’s not the son I once knew. That they knew.
I don’t talk about it because I my daughter - now “he” - doesn’t share “it” except with friends. I respect that, it could make it easier for her to desist (a pipe dream) and I don’t want to go against her decision not to share widely. Also, I don’t talk about it to old people who know and love her so that they don’t have to go to the immense grief I am feeling before they die.
Don't give up hope that your daughter desists. As the tide turns and the trans project is exposed, she may come to realize just how terribly she was deceived. Plus, the cognitive dissonance of the trans performance must be exhausting. I imagine there will come a time when she is exhausted and nostalgic for what once was, and you will need to be there for her.
I got emotional when I see this. Without those affirmations, will our beautiful and smart daughters be trapped so deeply in this cancerous ideology? Will they hate us this much as we are not affirming as those who care the least? 💔
If a person is not personally affected they are just completely clueless. They don't even bother to research what is happening. I was the same. Until I was forced to deep dive into this scary medicalised crazy ideology. My child thinks he knows best. That I know nothing. My friends are there for me but they cant fully understand. This is my child. Until it takes hold of your family you can't understand the pain it causes to parents. I feel powerless some days but i hope the tide will turn and giving out drugs that harm and operations that destroy will being illegal.
Its been said before, but I wish there would be much more public exposure of the trans tragedy. A movie like the Erin Brokovich movie. There is some information that’s public. But it is not sinking in with the average person.
Whenever there is something like that a tsunami of hatred is thrown at it by the trans community.
People, especially other parents, have no clue what is happening because they have no reason to investigate for themselves. They listen to the media and adopt the "if it's not hurting anyone else, let them do what makes them happy" mentality. Well the truth is that it IS hurting others! It's ripping families apart. And it's not making them happy either. Maybe for a while they can pretend to be happy but it doesn't sustain long term. I pray the truth will be uncovered before it's too late for our kids
“Let them do what makes them happy”…, I don’t believe in that. It is the job of a parent to teach a child. To set the child on the right path in life.
Sometimes that means imposing discipline, making restrictions. Would you let a child smoke cigarettes because it makes them happy? Or skip school? Or get drunk? Or steal money?
Exactly. "Do what thou wilt" it seems I have heard that before.
It is hurting everyone . It truly rips families apart. In addition it makes everyone else in society lie, pretend something is true when it isn't, affects women and girls in sports and their private spaces, forces teachers and everyone in the workplace to say something they know is false, destroys the integrity of medicine and rips at the fabric of reality. So yes, it does hurt everyone else. What world do these clueless people live in??
Kids are also hurt when their dad suddenly believes he's a woman and expects their mom to pretend to be a lesbian and wants to go out clubbing with his daughters. The narcissism is off the charts.
The author's point is very well made. Using cancer as an analogy to the "trans" illness is very effective, and I will use it in the future with the "captured" co-workers I have to deal with.
Yes. I see my daughter declining in every dimension since she identified as trans. When I happen to share that, I usually get "virtuous indifference". Then the blame is shifted to me for not affirming. If I did that they say, it would all be going fabulously.
Virtuous indifference is lazy, callous, and cruel
I am so, so sorry about the abuse being loaded onto you, and about the damage being inflicted on your child. I hate the people who are doing this to you.
Agree with you.