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Lori G's avatar

Historically, Chinese have eaten humans during famines. There’s a great short story written by a Chinese man where the character is terrified that his neighbors want to eat him. Hmmmmm, I wonder where the author got that idea.

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Grandma Eileen's avatar

What a powerful tool our own imagination can become... I am glad that you were able to overcome the fear of being poisoned. Your writing was very insightful - thank you. It helps me to understand how this evil-cult could spread so rapidly and devour so many minds. I can't imagine being a parent or a teacher or a doctor and affirming a young mind into thinking that they were born in the wrong body, any more than if your own parents had agreed and convinced you that you were going to be poisoned any minute. Tragic. The amount of poisoning that has gone into these innocent minds about this trans-ideology is criminal.

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Louby's avatar

at about age 14 I was convinced the world was ending so why bother with homework & other things that I didn't like. As you can imagine this didnt get me far & I just had to GET ON WITH IT incase I wasnt correct ! I was robbed no adult agreed or entertained this fear

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Jason's avatar

This essay is the perfect metaphor for the sabotage of children’s minds. If only parents always had enough influence to overwhelm the negative influence of social media, teachers, therapists, etc.

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Ann's avatar

A year and a half before our son announced his identity, he was wanting to get started in weight lifting and considering the military after graduation. Talk about a 180. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Barbara Pecze's avatar

It is a miracle! And I pray it continues. Transitioning makes no sense; it's a Frankensteinian experiment that will ruin lives. Parents need to show tough love and not acquiesce or accept trans ideology; if they do it's child abuse.

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Prayingmother's avatar

If only my adult son (27) would let my talk to him. It’s easier for him to ignore my calls, texts. I’m so tempted to just show up and demand he talk to me but would he even listen. Hormones make him emotionally convinced I’m the person with the problem. So sad and hurtful but I won’t give up on him. He’s in a cult.

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Truthbetold's avatar

Best way to be is honest. You are the parent. I have a family member captured and half the family coddles and pretends, the other half refuses to play along. The more you give in the more they ask for.

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Concerned mom's avatar

That's us down to a T, I am the bad parent while my husband panders to both our daughters in their mistaken belief.

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Louby's avatar

this sounds familiar !

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GenderRealistMom's avatar

The parents are kinda screwed though. If you roll your eyes and tell your kid "No, you don't have ....ADHD/Autism/Bipolar/Wrong body ....." , you are "gaslighting" them and denying their precious "lived experience". Eye roll. I sorta have to tread careful and express my scepticism carefully and rarely, while mostly acting neutral.

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Concerned mom's avatar

This is so messed up... You know your family has been gripped by gender ideology when you are afraid to misgender the dog.

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NancySD's avatar

Very insightful. I had a similar experience. In the early 70’s I read a book about a girl my age diagnosed with schizophrenia (I Never Promised You a Rose Garden). I became obsessed with the fear of developing it. Fortunately, my parents had zero tolerance for rumination or hypochondria. I can’t imagine what kids must go through these days.

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Eleganta's avatar

I was emotionally abused and gaslighted as a teenager--my parents tried very hard to convince me that I was unstable. So I became obsessed with books about mental illness. I Never Promised You a Rose Garden was a big one!

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Gregory's avatar

Brilliant writing! So right. I currently play the role of dismissive parent, tough love advocate and practitioner, the father who says "man up" even to his daughters... but not in a gender theory kinda way, hehe. I have followed my instinct about kids, the role of parents to lead and the role of traditional ways of being. I have often had doubts but did it this way anyway. When my youngest daughter raised the news of one of her peers changing his name to a girl's name, I refused to accept the new gender identity of a kid we knew since he was 4. And took every opportunity to make clear to her it was nonsense and she could be complicit in him seriously damaging himself if she went along with it.

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Concerned mom's avatar

Well done... Affirmation is the first step of this downward spiral.

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GenCrit in N. California's avatar

So in a sense, wrong-sex identity can develop in a similar way as hypochondria. It may not be the same thing, but it can develop similarly.

I think there is a term in philosophy for this, a type of logical fallacy. Does anyone know what this logical fallacy is called, please?

Fascinating. Thank you to the author.

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GenCrit in N. California's avatar

Fascinating, and makes so much sense!

I can never figure out which websites are telling kids about (what I prefer to call) wrong-sex identity. I would like to see for myself what these websites say and how they present it.

Can anyone name a few such websites for me that kids are looking at, where they are reading this stuff, so I can go read these websites too, please? So I can see and understand what kids are reading?

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Sarah Barratt's avatar

Eliza Mondegreen writes a substack based on what she reads from sites like reddit. It is very illuminating. It is all young trans-identified people interacting with each other. They are grooming each other, essentially.

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GenCrit in N. California's avatar

Hi Sarah, thank you. I am on Eliza's substack, but don't read it often. I don't recall seeing the name of kids-oriented websites there, and didn't even realize it was primarily about kids! I'll have to re-read, or read more there.

I also didn't realize it was mostly kids grooming each other. Where are they doing that, please? On Reddit, as George referred to? And where are they getting their source material, does Eliza say? Because I get the impression that it is wealthy, highly organized, well-connected adults who are feeding well-packaged, slick materials to kids, even if the kids are sharing it with each other. Your thoughts, please?

Thank you for replying and for referring me to Eliza's substack. I should ask her all these questions.

Thanks again!

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George Q Tyrebyter's avatar

Are you on Reddit? There's a TON of toxic shit on reddit. That's good place to begin. I got one account perma-banned on reddit by saying something gender-critical. So I have to use a special account on firefox to even get on.

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GenCrit in N. California's avatar

I just figured out to Google "LGBT kids." LOL. Duh on my part! I found a ton of stuff. I just started watching a frightening TED talk about the "importance" of teaching kids this stuff. I need to get into the YouTube comments and list point by point responses.

Thank you.

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GenCrit in N. California's avatar

Thank you. No, I'm not, though I can access Reddit to read as a non-member. Can you give me some specific titles, please? Thats what I cant find.

Everyone tells me there's tons of stuff out there. But no one gives me specific titles. That's what I need.

I would like to get the names of major websites where kids are getting exposed to these ideas, such as the names of LGBT sites for kids. If that's where kids are getting this stuff from?

Thanks again.

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George Q Tyrebyter's avatar

Go to reddit and search for "transgender" or "ftm" or "mtf" or other search terms. I don't spend time there anymore so I'm not all that conversant in the specific terms. reddit has all these communities, and if you find the right one, you will find the slop.

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GenCrit in N. California's avatar

Ok, I'll do that. Thanks, George!

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Eileen Slifer's avatar

Excellent parallel!

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Another Concerned Citizen's avatar

Hyper focus and fixation may be why so many autistic children are falling prey to radical gender ideology.

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CPAL's avatar

Excellent article. Apt analogy.

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MHT's avatar

This article hit on something that is typical in many (most?) adolescents-an obsession or hyperfocus with/on their bodies. So much is changing in the adolescent body-some unwelcome until they get used it, learn to adapt, cope or come to accept it as part of growing up.

Now if they are the least bit unhappy or wondering about their bodies, it’s called dysphoria - rather than an adolescent adjustment reaction, and now must be treated with drugs, surgery, affirmation that they will always be unhappy unless they do drastic things-rather than watchful waiting and emotional support.

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George Q Tyrebyter's avatar

I am 71. So, I went thru adolescence in the 1960s, and graduated HS in 1970. I cannot remember a huge deal with puberty. Oh, sure, some kids had the pizza-face acne, and some were a little squirrelly at times. But no one seemed CRAZZZYYYYY due to puberty.

What changed so that now puberty is this sentence of death? Why is it treated as such a horrible time? Of course, your body changes, your views and moods are affected but IF YOU WANT TO BE AN ADULT, PUBERTY IS THE ROAD TO ADULTHOOD.

What are we telling kids about puberty that is making it pathological?

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Person's avatar

Autistic children are highly likely to find puberty disturbing enough to qualify for a diagnosis of gender dysphoria. So gender ideology appeals to them. They can be led to believe their autism can be fixed by changing sex. Whoever promotes this lie to them is guilty of eugenics.

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Concerned mom's avatar

Yeah, why is puberty treated as a disease? Oh can someone please put this comment up on bill boards for the world to see?

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Susan Doherty's avatar

Me ,too. I was born in 1947 and I don't remember having any horror of or difficulties with puberty !! We've created this monster by likening puberty to something akin to child abuse. It's totally insane !!😭💔

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Nancy in NC's avatar

I'm your age, and like you, puberty was just a phase that was part of life that no one dwelled upon. It wasn't a big deal. it was considered in the same vein as getting adult teeth. Thanks to Peter Pan too many people are encouraged to remain children for decades.

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Motherae's avatar

Life has become too easy? Kids of the 60s still went without - Christmas and birthdays were a big deal - this was still the case in the 80s and early 90s but for todays kids they often don’t know what they want for Xmas or birthday as they have everything. My grandparents had one couch their whole adult lives that they saved for. Today after 25 years of marriage I’m into our 3rd couch - disposable soceity has included disposing lessons forged through hardship?

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Sadmom2's avatar

Social media is destroying these kids. That's what is different in my opinion. Not all kids are vulnerable to its poison, but mine was. :(

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NorCal to EU mom's avatar

Yes, the hyper focus on their bodies made easy by social media algorithms. Obsessing about your breasts? Watch one video. Let me show you 100 more videos about them. And then what makes it dark is the manipulative turn it can take as you prefer more of the small breast videos which then become something else much more disturbing.

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