Our story is similar to yours too. I am on this road for 4 years from her coming out as trans, plus a year before when we learned about her bisexuality. She's 22 now. I got closer to God too during this process - I was close to Him before, but this really taught me to be absolute dependent upon Him. She's on T …
Our story is similar to yours too. I am on this road for 4 years from her coming out as trans, plus a year before when we learned about her bisexuality. She's 22 now. I got closer to God too during this process - I was close to Him before, but this really taught me to be absolute dependent upon Him. She's on T from last year's April and still lives with us. It's difficult. I needed to learn that I have a life, my own life, husband and a son, family, friends, church, work. hobbies, etc. I became so centralised to the trans issue, I needed to understand I have to shift my focus. It doesn't mean I don't pray anymore or it's not important anymore, yes it is, and it's huge, but can't filter everything through the "gender lens". Also I found it hard that this is a marathon, even with God. I still believe He could intervene like overnight, but I think in most of the cases it's a process. Also I cannot live the intense pain I had at certain points of this road (coming out/starting on T, etc). and those crisis caused me to pray really passionately and fervently. And meanwhile I still do pray and try to be persevered and pray fervently I think that God is faithful and merciful and gracious, when I may not have the same intense prayer just a sigh, that "God please have mercy on her ". I try to get up on my feet over and over again and stand on the gap, but there are days, when I'm so tired to fight for her almost on my own. But won't give up. God's strengthening me and there will be a victory, she will be coming back to her Lord.
I find helpful too the group of faith with parents on this same road, and I cherish that group. I found difficult too as a person of faith that our perspective is not as valid as someone who has no particular faith.
Thank you for sharing this!
Our story is similar to yours too. I am on this road for 4 years from her coming out as trans, plus a year before when we learned about her bisexuality. She's 22 now. I got closer to God too during this process - I was close to Him before, but this really taught me to be absolute dependent upon Him. She's on T from last year's April and still lives with us. It's difficult. I needed to learn that I have a life, my own life, husband and a son, family, friends, church, work. hobbies, etc. I became so centralised to the trans issue, I needed to understand I have to shift my focus. It doesn't mean I don't pray anymore or it's not important anymore, yes it is, and it's huge, but can't filter everything through the "gender lens". Also I found it hard that this is a marathon, even with God. I still believe He could intervene like overnight, but I think in most of the cases it's a process. Also I cannot live the intense pain I had at certain points of this road (coming out/starting on T, etc). and those crisis caused me to pray really passionately and fervently. And meanwhile I still do pray and try to be persevered and pray fervently I think that God is faithful and merciful and gracious, when I may not have the same intense prayer just a sigh, that "God please have mercy on her ". I try to get up on my feet over and over again and stand on the gap, but there are days, when I'm so tired to fight for her almost on my own. But won't give up. God's strengthening me and there will be a victory, she will be coming back to her Lord.
I find helpful too the group of faith with parents on this same road, and I cherish that group. I found difficult too as a person of faith that our perspective is not as valid as someone who has no particular faith.