The problem is that there is no 'better way' to handle it. We are all at a loss. What may work for some, won't for others. We are all fighting an uphill battle.
God Bless You. Thank you for writing. Before I found this group, I felt isolated and shunned. I look forward to the day this cult of destruction is stopped. Blessings to you all and your families
I feel so bad for this mom! I would be in the same boat if this were my daughter (or son). I would not go along with the crazy trans contagion, even if it temporarily destroyed our relationship. Protecting our children from themselves is our toughest role as parents. I hope one day her daughter wakes up and can thank her mom for saving her body, mind, and future from this nightmare.
100% same situation here...isn't it terrible that most of us share the same story, as if copy&paste ?! I cry every day...mostly when i think about her before this "process" of self "finding" ( i would rather say losing) and transformation into "somebody" i don't know.
My only relief is that i'm not alone with this trauma. I find comfort knowing that. But isn't it sad and controversial to find comfort reading how much pain there is out there? And crying while reading what other families are going through trying to keep the sacred bond of family together?
I feel with you Mom... We didn't see our daughter (22 ) since May 23 ...and who knows when and if this nightmare is ever going to end?
Love and hugs from over the ocean, where the world is also NOT OK
Stay strong, Mom! You have taken the right path in rejecting this madness. She is trying to play Dad against you. It is okay to be sad but don’t change your course.
From the outside looking in, it appears that the trans thing is beginning to run out of steam. Is anyone else getting that feeling or is it just wishful thinking on my part?
not in Europe... the hype here is still HUGE ...and the state is supporting this madness more than 100%...new affirmative legislation on it's way... The EU Parliament is a big satanic swamp
It seems that way to me too. The beautiful voices of opposition have gotten very very loud. And they will continue to get louder, and continue to get quicker at spotting this bullshit.
I am certain trans ideology will continue to desperately fart out pathetic 'salvage operations' to try to right the ship, but it's a horror show that fascinates, and when people notice the disturbing side of it, they never look away again. It's got too many eyeballs on it now. The satanic things it was able to achieve are truly impressive considering the horror of it all, but I'm not sure how it manages to untarnish itself with so many eyeballs now tracking it's moves daily. It seems like the heydays are over for this ideology. I think all it can try and do now is attempt to prevent clawback for the most part. As the affirming voices start to die down, the real activists will start to become more and more obvious. The ones who have transitioned their own kids. Or any adult who was pivotal in encouraging a child to transition. Those sad creatures will be the loudest voices left. I am profoundly grateful I never encouraged anyone with pro-trans affirmations before I went down the rabbit hole in 2020. The people who encouraged children are going to have hard years ahead of them, the more the biggest medical scandal of our time is shown for what it is in the coming years.
Imagine our insurance premiums when all of the kids decide to detransition. How will these parents live with themselves when they realize that they've sterilized and mutilated their kids? I will forever wonder where this came from and why adults participated in it.
So sorry to hear of your heartbreak. I am also the mother of a prodigal daughter. It is really frustrating when the other parent won't support you. My daughter still speaks to her father also since he refuses to say anything against what she is doing. Apparently, some people would rather accept a lie or bad behavior against another just so they don't lose communication with the prodigal themselves. Sad.
I can hear your grief and pain at being so close but so far away from your daughter. I’m so sorry that her father isn’t supporting you. That makes it even more difficult and isolating. And I’m also sorry for the trolling comments I read. This is normally such a supportive page. It’s unfortunate they’re choosing to focus on a photo without understanding the sadness behind it.
It is really positive to have seen her as described by mom. My son cut me off a year ago while going trans. I recently heard from the family member still in contact that he had saved a large amount of money and was planning a cross country adventure that would involve going through significant places from his life and seeing old friends in those places. I felt so so happy for him. I think the grieving aspect of excommunication can easily overwhelm us as parents, but grieving is not a forever kind of place. We cannot stay in grieving, or at least, we can exclusively live in grief. When I managed to get my head above water around the grief and guilt of losing my son by his choice, the thought came to me that I really needed to open up space for wishing him well and feeling faith that he could find his way, EVEN IF the first steps seem deluded and harmful. I imagine that my regard, wishes, and prayers can in some way touch my son's life, and I need some goodness to come forth from me. I also want it for myself. Every time I think of him, I try to find something positive and loving and encouraging in myself to direct to him.
Jen, I appreciate your comment because I do want to understand my child, and I appreciate an approach of curiosity to try to imagine what this young persons experience has been and how she might understand it. We are fortunate that the writer, her mother, gave so many intimations that could allow us to imagine more about the family experience than merely what was said.
I know we can see many things that our children cannot. It is potentially devastating for them to be at the mercy of a dangerous and sometimes malicious world. Still, when my son took me out of the picture and set his path, it became really up to him to figure it out and find a meaningful way forward. It is a certainty that his way would be so unnecessarily foolish and invite suffering, by MY view. Even so, I wish for him to learn from his experiences. I hope and trust that no matter which direction he starts walking, even if he heads first into the darkest most dangerous forest of night, that he has in him some sense of the goodness of light and so will naturally correct course. It won't look like what I would plan, but I have no say. I did spend years and years of conversation, hugs, and loving, and, if that is of any good to him, may it be so now. I hope and trust because there is no more that I know of that I actually can do now, and it is the best that I know to offer the situation.
I had a sight of my son post losing him too. It is really a huge thing. I couldn't talk to him, but there was no confusion in me that he was the only important thing happening in my universe at that moment. It has really stuck in me very strongly, just thinking of it.
I'm confused. Does her feminine appearance mean she's desisted? It seems like it would. And if so, why would she continue to be angry and resentful toward you? I am so sorry for your situation, which is compounded by your husband's lack of support for you.
Maybe she has desisted "trans-wise", but it doesn't mean that she has left the cult. Queer Theory is alive and well and is what is keeping this nonsense alive. QT is about breaking the barriers of "normal"....it has little to do with being LBG.
It fascinates me that those who hate "gender norms" the most are so hung up on them. The rest of us have realized there are many ways of being men and women a long, long time ago.
Oh, dear. Your husband needs to have your back; even if he disagrees with you, he needs to make it clear to your daughter that you deserve her respect, and he’s not going to tolerate any bad-mouthing of you. I’m so sorry to hear about this.
My heart goes out to you. I cried myself to sleep last night over my 16 year old son. Similar story; I too am the "terrible mother" who just wants him to see how ridiculous this all is while he wants what he wants, including me to "accept" ie: affirm him. I won't. Your sharing helped me. We must never lose hope or give up on our children! And never, ever sway from the truth.
I'm so sorry for you, your daughter, and your husband. As most of us know, the trans machine is not just about destroying a child - it's about destroying the whole family. I am praying yours survives.
The problem is that there is no 'better way' to handle it. We are all at a loss. What may work for some, won't for others. We are all fighting an uphill battle.
God Bless You. Thank you for writing. Before I found this group, I felt isolated and shunned. I look forward to the day this cult of destruction is stopped. Blessings to you all and your families
Why does this young woman have a walking cane? Is it due to previous use of puberty blockers?
I feel so bad for this mom! I would be in the same boat if this were my daughter (or son). I would not go along with the crazy trans contagion, even if it temporarily destroyed our relationship. Protecting our children from themselves is our toughest role as parents. I hope one day her daughter wakes up and can thank her mom for saving her body, mind, and future from this nightmare.
100% same situation here...isn't it terrible that most of us share the same story, as if copy&paste ?! I cry every day...mostly when i think about her before this "process" of self "finding" ( i would rather say losing) and transformation into "somebody" i don't know.
My only relief is that i'm not alone with this trauma. I find comfort knowing that. But isn't it sad and controversial to find comfort reading how much pain there is out there? And crying while reading what other families are going through trying to keep the sacred bond of family together?
I feel with you Mom... We didn't see our daughter (22 ) since May 23 ...and who knows when and if this nightmare is ever going to end?
Love and hugs from over the ocean, where the world is also NOT OK
Hugs to you, my friend. May all of our children come to their senses and come home. 💗🙏🏼
Stay strong, Mom! You have taken the right path in rejecting this madness. She is trying to play Dad against you. It is okay to be sad but don’t change your course.
From the outside looking in, it appears that the trans thing is beginning to run out of steam. Is anyone else getting that feeling or is it just wishful thinking on my part?
not in Europe... the hype here is still HUGE ...and the state is supporting this madness more than 100%...new affirmative legislation on it's way... The EU Parliament is a big satanic swamp
It seems that way to me too. The beautiful voices of opposition have gotten very very loud. And they will continue to get louder, and continue to get quicker at spotting this bullshit.
I am certain trans ideology will continue to desperately fart out pathetic 'salvage operations' to try to right the ship, but it's a horror show that fascinates, and when people notice the disturbing side of it, they never look away again. It's got too many eyeballs on it now. The satanic things it was able to achieve are truly impressive considering the horror of it all, but I'm not sure how it manages to untarnish itself with so many eyeballs now tracking it's moves daily. It seems like the heydays are over for this ideology. I think all it can try and do now is attempt to prevent clawback for the most part. As the affirming voices start to die down, the real activists will start to become more and more obvious. The ones who have transitioned their own kids. Or any adult who was pivotal in encouraging a child to transition. Those sad creatures will be the loudest voices left. I am profoundly grateful I never encouraged anyone with pro-trans affirmations before I went down the rabbit hole in 2020. The people who encouraged children are going to have hard years ahead of them, the more the biggest medical scandal of our time is shown for what it is in the coming years.
Imagine our insurance premiums when all of the kids decide to detransition. How will these parents live with themselves when they realize that they've sterilized and mutilated their kids? I will forever wonder where this came from and why adults participated in it.
So sorry to hear of your heartbreak. I am also the mother of a prodigal daughter. It is really frustrating when the other parent won't support you. My daughter still speaks to her father also since he refuses to say anything against what she is doing. Apparently, some people would rather accept a lie or bad behavior against another just so they don't lose communication with the prodigal themselves. Sad.
I can hear your grief and pain at being so close but so far away from your daughter. I’m so sorry that her father isn’t supporting you. That makes it even more difficult and isolating. And I’m also sorry for the trolling comments I read. This is normally such a supportive page. It’s unfortunate they’re choosing to focus on a photo without understanding the sadness behind it.
It is really positive to have seen her as described by mom. My son cut me off a year ago while going trans. I recently heard from the family member still in contact that he had saved a large amount of money and was planning a cross country adventure that would involve going through significant places from his life and seeing old friends in those places. I felt so so happy for him. I think the grieving aspect of excommunication can easily overwhelm us as parents, but grieving is not a forever kind of place. We cannot stay in grieving, or at least, we can exclusively live in grief. When I managed to get my head above water around the grief and guilt of losing my son by his choice, the thought came to me that I really needed to open up space for wishing him well and feeling faith that he could find his way, EVEN IF the first steps seem deluded and harmful. I imagine that my regard, wishes, and prayers can in some way touch my son's life, and I need some goodness to come forth from me. I also want it for myself. Every time I think of him, I try to find something positive and loving and encouraging in myself to direct to him.
Jen, I appreciate your comment because I do want to understand my child, and I appreciate an approach of curiosity to try to imagine what this young persons experience has been and how she might understand it. We are fortunate that the writer, her mother, gave so many intimations that could allow us to imagine more about the family experience than merely what was said.
I know we can see many things that our children cannot. It is potentially devastating for them to be at the mercy of a dangerous and sometimes malicious world. Still, when my son took me out of the picture and set his path, it became really up to him to figure it out and find a meaningful way forward. It is a certainty that his way would be so unnecessarily foolish and invite suffering, by MY view. Even so, I wish for him to learn from his experiences. I hope and trust that no matter which direction he starts walking, even if he heads first into the darkest most dangerous forest of night, that he has in him some sense of the goodness of light and so will naturally correct course. It won't look like what I would plan, but I have no say. I did spend years and years of conversation, hugs, and loving, and, if that is of any good to him, may it be so now. I hope and trust because there is no more that I know of that I actually can do now, and it is the best that I know to offer the situation.
I had a sight of my son post losing him too. It is really a huge thing. I couldn't talk to him, but there was no confusion in me that he was the only important thing happening in my universe at that moment. It has really stuck in me very strongly, just thinking of it.
I'm confused. Does her feminine appearance mean she's desisted? It seems like it would. And if so, why would she continue to be angry and resentful toward you? I am so sorry for your situation, which is compounded by your husband's lack of support for you.
Maybe she has desisted "trans-wise", but it doesn't mean that she has left the cult. Queer Theory is alive and well and is what is keeping this nonsense alive. QT is about breaking the barriers of "normal"....it has little to do with being LBG.
It fascinates me that those who hate "gender norms" the most are so hung up on them. The rest of us have realized there are many ways of being men and women a long, long time ago.
Oh, dear. Your husband needs to have your back; even if he disagrees with you, he needs to make it clear to your daughter that you deserve her respect, and he’s not going to tolerate any bad-mouthing of you. I’m so sorry to hear about this.
Are you able to tell her how you felt seeing her gently, via your husband?
My heart goes out to you. I cried myself to sleep last night over my 16 year old son. Similar story; I too am the "terrible mother" who just wants him to see how ridiculous this all is while he wants what he wants, including me to "accept" ie: affirm him. I won't. Your sharing helped me. We must never lose hope or give up on our children! And never, ever sway from the truth.
I'm so sorry for you, your daughter, and your husband. As most of us know, the trans machine is not just about destroying a child - it's about destroying the whole family. I am praying yours survives.
Thanks for sharing, my pray and heart goes out to you