Put My Breasts Back
Hearing the regret of “gender affirming care” from teenagers and young adults is a heart-breaking nightmare.
One of the many insanities of gender ideology is that “gender affirming care” is practiced on minors - teenagers and even younger kids with perfectly healthy bodies. I’ve read articles discussing the obvious questions: Can children consent to puberty blockers? Can teenagers consent to irreversible surgeries? These are very adult conversations and teenagers, being teenagers, will always claim that they should be able to make these adult decisions. But these kids are not adults. Listen to what transed teenagers and young adults say when they escape the trans crazy train and detransition:
“I feel like you gave this to me because I looked the part - I have autism”
“I was allowed to make this decision - I’m so much more than my body”
“I was failed by the system. I literally lost organs.”
“What did I do?”
“I just woke up one day, looked at myself in the mirror, and asked myself, ‘What the heck am I doing?’ I realized no matter if I would have gone [through] every surgery, continued with hormones, I realized I would have never been a woman. At best I would have been a caricature of what I believed a woman was.”
“I have been so stupid. I have been so delusional about so many things.”
“We’re guinea pigs, something that there’s no science to back up.”
“I missed out on three years of my life.”
“I miss my breasts so much on a daily basis, I hate all my masculine features…I wish someone had stopped me”
“I sound weird; I look weird.”
“I’m so lost I want the pain to end”
“I miss my breasts. I miss my pre-surgery body. I can never go back. I cry every day.”
“I mourn my old face every day. I miss my brow bone, my jawline, my broader chin… I miss me.”
“I would do anything to have that voice again”
“They told me I wouldn’t be loved or accepted as a feminine gay person. They really put it my head that if I grew into a man, I just be so unrecognizably ugly, that I might as well commit suicide.”
“Why did I feel I was ugly in the first place?”
“I’m 18 now and a few days ago I realised that maybe I wasn’t trans at all and just a tomboy.”
“I want my breasts back.” This is from a 19-year old girl who had top surgery and called the surgeon’s office three months later begging for her breasts to be put back. The surgeon didn’t call her back. (from Jamie Reed)
I want my breasts back. Breasts that were normal and healthy. In what sane society do we allow medical treatments that lead to a teenager saying this? This is not an overly dramatic complaint along the lines of “Mom, I shouldn’t have ignored my friend at her birthday party.” This is the desperate pleading of a girl who made a mistake, based on a feeling, and will suffer the consequences for the rest of her life. And loss of breasts for girls isn’t even the worst of it. Gender affirming “care” sterilizes its victims, destroys their sexual functioning, and puts them at risk for all sorts of pain and complications and trips to the emergency room.
Where are the laws to prevent these needless tragedies? Too many states don’t have any. It’s bad enough that harm comes to adults who are victims of this cultish social contagion, but children?
To all the doctors, teachers, counselors, pastors, and other adults who support a child’s decision to start this self-harm: What the hell are you thinking? If a child said she identified as an amputee, would you support removing a few limbs? If a child said he was an elf, would you support drugs and surgeries so the kid could have horns? And you would allow it because “they know who they are”? These are children! Stop pretending they aren’t!
If anyone encounters an adult who supports this nonsense, ask the following question: “If a teenage girl, three months after having a double mastectomy goes to her mother crying and begging, ‘Mom! I made a mistake! I’m not a boy. Let’s call the surgeon! Make him put my breasts back!’, what should the mother say to her daughter?”
As far as “transition” goes, of course it’s especially awful and egregious in the case of children. But no one should support it for, or have the right to offer it to, adults either, in my opinion! Adults can be messed up and mentally ill, too, and capable of making some really awful decisions for themselves. Plus a great number of adults are also very stupid, easily led, and bad at critical thinking, even if they’re not mentally ill. But in my view, when anyone wants to head down this path, of having healthy body parts cut off, inverted or destroyed, and hormonally screwing themselves up with high doses of wrong sex hormones with really awful side effects, in an attempt to escape from themselves..? They are, by DEFINITION, mentally ill and unwell! Just like, (and I am sure most of the people who still support “transitioning” certain adults would agree with me on this), absolutely EVERYONE who requests for a doctor to cut off their healthy ear, simply because they do not like it, is mentally ill, by definition! And it should absolutely NEVER be done!! Same thing with ruining bodies, be it hormonally or surgically, because some people have spiralled into a mental obsession that makes them despise their sex, and want to pretend like they are not that sex.
Which, that is not even addressing all the large-scale SOCIOCULTURAL harm it leads to, “transitioning” certain adults who ask for it! Once we do this to men who want to be women, for instance..? They will now FOREVER be invested in being seen as women, and getting to use our spaces! As they have now sacrificed literally EVERYTHING for it!!! Their health, their genitals, their sexual functioning, their fertility, likely droves of relationships and other life prospects, and the list goes on… “Transitioning” ANY person equals enabling all the accompanying dysfunction and delusion based demands that inevitably come with it! At a massive cost to society, and our ability to maybe, hopefully, eventually, return to REALITY! Plus it further entrenches ALL these people in their delusions, and their faulty belief system… The more you accommodate them, and enable them, and the higher the stakes are, the harder it will be for them to EVER snap out of it and escape from it!! Much like, a person who’s just recently started taking Scientology courses, who hasn’t paid great money for any Scientology related courses or workshops, will be MUCH easier to wake up than someone who’s invested tons of time and money in it, and reached OT Level 7.
Not assuming that everyone who follows this Substack supports “transitioning” (certain) adults, either. But I still really like to make this argument, because I think it’s so important!! This stuff is ESPECIALLY awful and abusive in the case of children and minors, so I think the penalty for doing it to minors should be even MORE severe!! However, it is still really fucking awful in EVERY conceivable case, and it should simply never be done!! The answer should always be: “NO, we don’t do that here!! Let’s stick with reality, and then we can try to help you with your suffering, starting from that.” Is my opinion, anyway. 🙂
“They told me I wouldn’t be loved or accepted as a feminine gay person. They really put it my head that if I grew into a man, I just be so unrecognizably ugly, that I might as well commit suicide.” I found that quote especially disturbing. People can say "nobody is pressured to transition" yet people frame growing up as a nightmare to kids, and instead of telling it how it is which is everyone is uncomfortable growing up and you will feel better when you get older, people tell them that they will never feel better unless they transition. They use suicide to manipulate. They say any pain you go through you will never get over without transitioning. People with mental health issues are so vulnerable to this. The message in the end is that you could not handle puberty, being male/female is a death sentence, you will be driven to suicide if you dont "fix" your body, there is no maybe, it will happen. No wonder kids and even adults see this as life or death and fear pushback so much. I write more about this here https://www.pittparents.com/p/a-false-sense-of-danger .