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Concerned mom's avatar

Thank you for sharing your story. Still holding on and praying we will get a similar one. It will be 7 years this summer.

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Giulia Hunt's avatar

Wow! I have to salute you - you seem to have done all the right things for your boy. If only more parents were as grounded and sensible . I hope your story is widely disseminated, and I do wonder how many lives would have been saved from this life-altering horror show if they had followed your admittedly difficult path. Well done; your son will thank you all of his life.

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Running the Race's avatar

I’m happy for you and your family! It does give hope to others. My son was older than yours, but he also desisted or detransitioned or came out of the dark, whichever you prefer. I still struggle with anxiety and fear, but he is so much more present and engaged with family and friends now. His demeanor and confidence is so much better. He is a different person now. Enjoy your time together as a family and be careful about sending him to college. Going somewhere closer to home or not going at all can be a better option for a kid that needs support. There are many colleges that would try to totally undo all the progress you’ve made.

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E. Kathryn Stanley's avatar

Great story! Such a wonderful outcome, and I wish more people could have that experience.

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Kalee Lago's avatar

We’re in the middle of the nightmare right now. Our story sounds a lot like yours with our daughter. Thankyou for sharing.

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Cookie's avatar

I’m happy for you and your family and thank you for sharing.

Unfortunately, with our daughter who has a delusional mindset of being trans-identified, hating her given first name and consistently jealous of the words boys, men, Sir, etc., it’s been about 7 years since she declared she wants to be a boy. She’s now an adult who lives with us and still gets distressed by being a girl. I pray everyday for desistance but I can’t control her phone ‘addiction’ which I believe influenced her deeply although she always says she’s not influenced by anybody.

Like you, I cried a lot the first few years and I still cry. Her dad is straightforward - God created you as a girl and that’s that (I agree wholeheartedly but silently so as not to worsen her depression). Currently, we take up her time as much as we can: go out on weekends, watch concerts as she loves music, go on long road trips for vacation and stay with her at night before dinner.

I’m afraid and stressed about the future so I hope and I pray a lot.

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Sandra S Whinnem's avatar

Your story gives me hope; it has been 8 long years for our family....

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Natalie Zanipatin-Smit's avatar

What a wonderful story, praise God for having Jacob and your family overcoming this challenge. We are in yr 5 of this story with our daughter(now a 16 yr old Jr), parts of your story we can relate! Of your checklist we have checked some of those off and or in progress! We hold steadfast onto our faith and continue to have hope that she will not only desist but be healed fully!

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Ildiko P's avatar

The apology will come….my son finally did after he desisted. Mine was an 8 year journey and I never thought he would give up the trans identity.

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Mom Of 4 Daughters's avatar

So happy to hear your story—gives all of us hope. Been in almost 4 years with my TI daughter but I *think* she may be slowly pulling out.

How did your son do with life after high school? I’m worried about my TI daughter (almost 18) swimming in a very pro-trans college environment but she needs the challenge and independence and there’s only so much I can control.

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Holly's avatar

Thank you so much for sharing your story! My daughter sounds so much like Jacob! I believe she may be desisting, but honestly, I’m afraid to ask. The wall that she built between us has been heartbreaking. I’m grateful to you for sharing what steps you took to help Jacob through this lovingly. Congratulations!

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Shari Robb's avatar

Congratulations!! Way to go, Mom and Dad!! Thank you for sharing your battle with us. I wish our story had such a positive outcome; it doesn’t, but your story gives me hope. Thank you!

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Luc's avatar

Happy for your family. Ours has not been through that just wondering when a boy says this "feelings of being a girl trapped in a boy’s body" and the parents says "what does that FEEL like". What is the response.

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Marjorie's avatar

I'll tell you what my daughter said when I asked how can you know you should be in a boy's body when you have never been a boy: "I don't know, it's just something you FEEL."

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LoullyAnn's avatar

This is the same kind of answer we got. “It’s just a vibe.”

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Luc's avatar

Maybe I wasn’t clear in what I said. I meant asking “what does being (the other sex) FEEL like” Can they describe it cause I couldn’t describe that to someone and make sense.

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Paving the Way's avatar

The radical individualism of our western nations predisposes kids to frightening adolescent development.

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Un-silent's avatar

"Discord" is aptly named. So glad this story had a happy ending.

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Anon's avatar

I have a question…& it may be too soon in your journey. But is he sorry? We are all so hopeful for signs of desistance & suffer such cruelty along the way. And if they ever detransition we are so happy but the focus remains on them to rebuild their lives and selves. I’m truly wondering…do us parents ever get an apology??

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Marjorie's avatar

I highly doubt it. Most kids just sort of slowly turn the boat around and then never want to talk about it again. I would give anything to hear my child say she's a girl, I don't care if she apologizes.

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