As my wife watched me delicately select flowers for the arrangement I was making for the kitchen table, I jokingly quipped, “You know, I think I might have been gay in a previous lifetime.” Her immediate response, “You barely missed it this lifetime!” It’s a good joke and we refer to it sometimes as we navigate the gender roles of our marriage. But, of course, I was not referring to my sexuality, I was commenting on what we now call “gender identity.”
You get my point. I "display myriad traits" as the OP said. As most of us do. These traits do not make us man or woman. We are just man or woman with our own mixture of traits and likes.
My only issue with this essay is that none of us are non-binary or gender fluid. We are either male/men or female/women. Our personalities are "fluid." Our genders aren't fluid. Our expressions are.
Agreed, the whole trans and gender issue is regressive, paganistic, destructive and terribly confusing to unleash on the young unformed mind. Queer Theory in particular is a gateway to hell full of what is worst and including pedophilia. These people are sick and need truth in love. They are possessed by the demonic spirits on this issue. Sexuality is their god. Or rather their demon. It will not end well. God help us all! Protect all children and women! Man the gates!
Ok but leave the Christian righteousness for another day. I know of quite a few Pagan authors here on Substack that are equally as critical regarding all these issues.
And here's another one.
If you want to triumph over this, you're not doing it alone you and the Knights Templar all by yourselves.
I am very inclusive, tolerant, but inclusivity, tolerance, diversity is not the issue here. We all need to say no, that it is wrong to confuse non-adults about their genitalia and sexuality. Slavery would still be among us without Christianity, in fact slavery still exists today, but not in Western Christian societies. In the Western world we are swimming in it's ocean of Christianity, it is all around us, if you choose not to believe there is a God, that is your religion. Have at it, I simply look at history, extract what is best for human beings and apply it to my life. Our Government today and it's "experts" are the problems today. Tyrannical Governments have killed, raped, harmed more human beings than all religions combined. e pluribus Unum. Romans 1:21-32
You said a thousand things that have nothing to do with what I said and that I pretty much already know. I was just saying, that's all.
But fair enough, if some of you want to fight against this nonsense with Bibles in your hands and referencing epistles nobody is gonna check alright, enjoy. Like that's ever worked...
It is fake. Role playing. Narcissists insist you play along and have tantrums if you don't support this nonsense. I've told more than one person I refuse to play that game & perpetuate the lie. It has gone on for far too long. Everyone should be pushing back at this point.
This essay is a breath of fresh air offering the wisdom that has become obscured in ways that are truly terrible. Thank you to the author for a compelling read that respects our individual nuanced personalities and in so doing respects the immutability of biological sex. W
Amen!! I really dont like sharing pronouns and yet I feel forced to do it OFTEN. I do not include pronouns in my email signature as we suggested by the school and I will quietly avoid saying my pronouns when asked except when someone comes back at me asking "I didnt hear your pronouns, can you repeat them?" NO I purposely didnt share pronouns because I DO NOT BELIEVE in that nonsense. I dont care if you do and I will use what ever ridiculous pronouns you expect me to use when you are not around, but dont force me into your silly little games. It is so ironic how noninclusive the DEI people are when it comes to those who are not interested in using pronouns.
Gene Kelly once said something to the effect of "anyone who says dancing is for sissies must just be a terrible dancer." I wish we could turn back the clock to when same-sex attraction was not a personality type or a style but just a term that (very specifically) refers to whom one is sexually attracted. Masculine men can be gay, feminine women can be lesbians -- its NOT a personality. I hate the way the current co-opters of same sex attraction have made it an archetype rather than a perfectly ordinary way to be. How something so deeply regressive as "likes flowers, must be a boy" is seen as enlightened and progressive is beyond me.
Loved this essay and the deep sense of self-awareness that the author AND his spouse display.
My husbands and partners were cooks and gardeners, as was my own father. Several could also fix cars (including the one who wore earrings and sarongs during the summer months), the long haired one was a swordfighter (and husband for 25 years until his death). None of the cooking or gardening ( or love for our children) ever made them any less male.
I feel so bad for kids these days looking for boxes into which they can safely imprison themselves.
I can identify with Tom. When I was a kid, I liked hanging out with the girls as much as with the boys. I never went through a "girls are yucky!" period. In my teens and twenties, I was a ballet dancer (in San Francisco). I have worked in a florist's shop. I've read all of Jane Austen's novels. I like musicals, and I think Judy Garland is swell! Yet I've always and only been sexually attracted to women, I've been a motorcycle racer, and done construction work. I had several girlfriends, and I've been married to a woman for four decades, a woman who has no doubt I'm a guy. To insist that being a man, or a woman, means conforming to a set of rigid behaviors, likes, and dislikes is archaic. To insist that deviating from those stereotypical proclivities indicates gender dysphoria is laughable.
No, we are not all nonbinary & gender fluid. Spend time on trans subs & you will see you have misconstrued the meaning. Those words refer to sex, not gender roles, even though their ideas about their own sex may be based on stereotypical gender roles, ie I must be female because I'd rather play with the girls than the boys. I like pink: I'm a girl. Once they've decided they're a girl that becomes their sex.
"Displaying myriad traits"
Exactly!
Hi, I'm Jessica. I'm a female/woman.
I am not very agreeable. (Male trait)
I am nurturing. (Female trait)
I am probably equally introvert and extrovert.
I love makeup (woman like)
I love fishing (man like)
You get my point. I "display myriad traits" as the OP said. As most of us do. These traits do not make us man or woman. We are just man or woman with our own mixture of traits and likes.
My only issue with this essay is that none of us are non-binary or gender fluid. We are either male/men or female/women. Our personalities are "fluid." Our genders aren't fluid. Our expressions are.
Exactly. Bust stereotypes not biology.
This. But yep, they got it complete wrong.
Same with racialism. Instead of destroying it and burying it they're emphasising it even when it's irrelevant or non-existent.
Agreed, the whole trans and gender issue is regressive, paganistic, destructive and terribly confusing to unleash on the young unformed mind. Queer Theory in particular is a gateway to hell full of what is worst and including pedophilia. These people are sick and need truth in love. They are possessed by the demonic spirits on this issue. Sexuality is their god. Or rather their demon. It will not end well. God help us all! Protect all children and women! Man the gates!
Ok but leave the Christian righteousness for another day. I know of quite a few Pagan authors here on Substack that are equally as critical regarding all these issues.
And here's another one.
If you want to triumph over this, you're not doing it alone you and the Knights Templar all by yourselves.
I am very inclusive, tolerant, but inclusivity, tolerance, diversity is not the issue here. We all need to say no, that it is wrong to confuse non-adults about their genitalia and sexuality. Slavery would still be among us without Christianity, in fact slavery still exists today, but not in Western Christian societies. In the Western world we are swimming in it's ocean of Christianity, it is all around us, if you choose not to believe there is a God, that is your religion. Have at it, I simply look at history, extract what is best for human beings and apply it to my life. Our Government today and it's "experts" are the problems today. Tyrannical Governments have killed, raped, harmed more human beings than all religions combined. e pluribus Unum. Romans 1:21-32
You said a thousand things that have nothing to do with what I said and that I pretty much already know. I was just saying, that's all.
But fair enough, if some of you want to fight against this nonsense with Bibles in your hands and referencing epistles nobody is gonna check alright, enjoy. Like that's ever worked...
Hi Tom. I would like you as a friend!
Want to know where this Gender Theory stuff is coming from?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Zw1EdRKocI
Dr. John Money. All of this is wrong, and it's catastrophically wrong. It's insane this has gone this far.
It is fake. Role playing. Narcissists insist you play along and have tantrums if you don't support this nonsense. I've told more than one person I refuse to play that game & perpetuate the lie. It has gone on for far too long. Everyone should be pushing back at this point.
And "affirming" a gender identity means that parents are abdicating their safeguarding responsibilities. https://lucyleader.substack.com/p/what-the-hell-is-wrong-with-parents
Exactly! And very well said!
This essay is a breath of fresh air offering the wisdom that has become obscured in ways that are truly terrible. Thank you to the author for a compelling read that respects our individual nuanced personalities and in so doing respects the immutability of biological sex. W
Amen!! I really dont like sharing pronouns and yet I feel forced to do it OFTEN. I do not include pronouns in my email signature as we suggested by the school and I will quietly avoid saying my pronouns when asked except when someone comes back at me asking "I didnt hear your pronouns, can you repeat them?" NO I purposely didnt share pronouns because I DO NOT BELIEVE in that nonsense. I dont care if you do and I will use what ever ridiculous pronouns you expect me to use when you are not around, but dont force me into your silly little games. It is so ironic how noninclusive the DEI people are when it comes to those who are not interested in using pronouns.
I won't give pronouns nor use them improperly. I don't care what they expect me to use. I will use proper pronouns only.
If it is a job situation, I'd go out of my way to never use a pronoun for them. Repeat their name. Or just don't talk about them.
Gene Kelly once said something to the effect of "anyone who says dancing is for sissies must just be a terrible dancer." I wish we could turn back the clock to when same-sex attraction was not a personality type or a style but just a term that (very specifically) refers to whom one is sexually attracted. Masculine men can be gay, feminine women can be lesbians -- its NOT a personality. I hate the way the current co-opters of same sex attraction have made it an archetype rather than a perfectly ordinary way to be. How something so deeply regressive as "likes flowers, must be a boy" is seen as enlightened and progressive is beyond me.
Loved this essay and the deep sense of self-awareness that the author AND his spouse display.
Well put. Our likes and personalities do not make us man or woman. The entire idea is absurd. We are what we are.
My husbands and partners were cooks and gardeners, as was my own father. Several could also fix cars (including the one who wore earrings and sarongs during the summer months), the long haired one was a swordfighter (and husband for 25 years until his death). None of the cooking or gardening ( or love for our children) ever made them any less male.
I feel so bad for kids these days looking for boxes into which they can safely imprison themselves.
Remember When?
Men were Men and women were women and unite together Families, Neighbors, and friends to fight the Evil?
Those affiliated with the Military will really appreciate this one!
God Bless America!
https://youtu.be/CUkCvcM62v0
definately Watch and Share.
Outstanding piece. It describes my thoughts and feelings, exactly.
I can identify with Tom. When I was a kid, I liked hanging out with the girls as much as with the boys. I never went through a "girls are yucky!" period. In my teens and twenties, I was a ballet dancer (in San Francisco). I have worked in a florist's shop. I've read all of Jane Austen's novels. I like musicals, and I think Judy Garland is swell! Yet I've always and only been sexually attracted to women, I've been a motorcycle racer, and done construction work. I had several girlfriends, and I've been married to a woman for four decades, a woman who has no doubt I'm a guy. To insist that being a man, or a woman, means conforming to a set of rigid behaviors, likes, and dislikes is archaic. To insist that deviating from those stereotypical proclivities indicates gender dysphoria is laughable.
Brilliant. Thank you.
No, we are not all nonbinary & gender fluid. Spend time on trans subs & you will see you have misconstrued the meaning. Those words refer to sex, not gender roles, even though their ideas about their own sex may be based on stereotypical gender roles, ie I must be female because I'd rather play with the girls than the boys. I like pink: I'm a girl. Once they've decided they're a girl that becomes their sex.