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CA mom's avatar

I appreciate this perspective, and the bravery of putting forth an opinion that may be unpopular in certain circles. In my experience, whether it be gender ideology or some other nightmarish experience with one’s child, it is almost always the mother that shows up.

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Caroline Kemball's avatar

My husband has precisely occupied a secondary position in the upbringing of our kids because he sometimes cared, most of the time didn't. He saw me as an opponent. He occupied a caring, motherly position when he was at home. I felt relegated to a male, aggressive character through his antagonistic behaviour. This was ridiculous. I can almost see why my daughter identified as transgender. Thanks to your article.

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Martha Jane Shoultz's avatar

This generation is different for some families, but for many, fathers were always affectionate and involved, even if this was not promoted or acknowledged in the wider society. I do feel the role of fathers has been de-valued, and in some media fathers are portrayed as expendable, and this is terrible for all of us. However, I think the rise of the trans child has much more to do with mental illness or vulnerability combined with internet algorithms sending harmful content to the vulnerable, than with any change in the family structure.

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senora sangria's avatar

Thanks for your viewpoint.

I think it's different for each family.

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OverIT's avatar

Thank you. This is something to think about. In our case, I feel strongly it has been mostly the internet intruding into our family. As the mom, I have become the primary activist but my husband is there too. I appreciate what you have written here.

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Minnemom's avatar

No. It is not the fathers. It is not the mothers.

It is vulnerable, awkward, smart, sensitive boys fleeing masculinity to avoid isolation and shame.

It is sexually-abused girls fleeing femininity to avoid abuse.

It is proto-gay kids who cannot/do not comply with gender stereotypes, and flee the rigidity of conservative rules.

It is groomed children who are taught that someone can be born in the wrong body.

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EyesOpen's avatar

Thank you for this perspective, very insightful!

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Stevanovitch's avatar

Indeed! Our subverted, backward culture threw candy at our kids as we attempted to raise them. Once into such indoctrination centres, our power was diluted and the attack on family was real and effective. I congratulate those whohad thewits toprotect their kids from the blasphemous pop culture. They reap the love they’ve sown. And their children shall inherit the earth.

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