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Just Mom's avatar

The powerful love and anguish of a parent beautifully expressed. Thank you so much for sharing your heart with us. I join you in prayer for your son and all of our families.

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Indio's avatar

Dear Dad, thank you for your beautiful poem. Your love and your pain is palpable.

You express those feelings so clearly, and your poetry has helped me feel less alone in my grief.

My 58-year-old child is complicit in keeping our family alienated. With his mental illness and with theirs, my bewitched grandchildren continue to ostracize me, taking my great grandchildren with them. The issue is multi-generational, but what would I do if any of them suddenly decided to include me in their lives once again? I, who still love them with all my heart, and who helped raise them, how could I bear to see my beloved grandchildren living such a sick lie and raising their children in a sickening lie?

I do not know how I would be able to handle it.

I have to remember; this is what my Lord has saved me from. And I do remember, most of the time. His peace sustains me. Jesus centers me, once more.

Dear Dad, I pray that your child sees the truth and returns to you. Keep loving your child as only you can and, please, stay grounded in reality. Reality will win, in the end. Thank you.

Love, Indio

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Martha Jane Shoultz's avatar

Beautiful - a dad's love knows no bounds. Thank you for writing this. I hope your child sees this and understands it.

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Brent Bowlby's avatar

Thank you. It's a long difficult journey. I hope she understands it too. I miss her like crazy.

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Linda Cardillo's avatar

Truly beautiful aud to your child. Peace

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PatoDreams's avatar

Tears come to my eyes reading such a beautiful way of expressing what deep love and pain has been for me along this nightmare...

Thank you for sharing it, God bless you.

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Brent Bowlby's avatar

🙏 thank you.

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John Moore's avatar

I never was a crier until my son fired us and submitted himself 100% to the authority of trans. Now crying is an art form for me.

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Brent Bowlby's avatar

I know your pain so well. 💔 I just said recently I've cried enough to fill an Olympic sized pool. Hoping to reduce that to a thimble. 🙏

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Parents Truth's avatar

I often say I cried a river , then an Ocean. My tears are with you. Thank you for sharing your poem.

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Brent Bowlby's avatar

Your welcome. ❤️

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Lunafalls's avatar

Something that rebellious children don't realize is that their parents' goals for them are exactly the same as their own -- THEIR happiness.

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Grandma Eileen's avatar

Beautiful

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Liz Parker's avatar

Let your love be a guiding light for your child. 🙏

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onemoretime's avatar

Powerful beautiful nourishing Soul Art! So thankful for your work this morning. How can so much love and dedication shine through so much cruelty? Isn't this the gift of becoming a parent, that we are called to embody this level of dedication and love? I am am lost in admiration. What wonderful father could rise to this level of wisdom and courage.

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Brent Bowlby's avatar

🙏 I am so humbled. Thank you. Brent

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onemoretime's avatar

Thank you truly

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Suffering Mother's avatar

I used to write poetry I haven’t in a long time though. Maybe you inspired me. May our children return to us.

Lana

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Brent Bowlby's avatar

That's my prayer 🙏

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Frances T. Nowve's avatar

I'm reading "List in Tabs Nation" by Miriam Grossman. I recommend it.

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Lisa's avatar

Lost in Transnation!!!

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Suffering Mother's avatar

I already cried about my son this morning but this brought more tears. Thank you 🙏

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Brent Bowlby's avatar

I am happy youn liked it. It's hard for me to read my own poetry. I also cry. ❤️ Brent

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Brent Bowlby's avatar

I agree.

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