My daughter disappeared in college. Save for the first Christmas home, when we celebrated in our usual fashion, we did not see her or hear from her for many years. The manger scene was unboxed and displayed, the tree was cut and trimmed, the cookies were baked and devoured. We volunteered at a local charity wrapping gifts for needy families. We attended services behind wreathed doors, and reminded ourselves of why these days are set aside. She was grateful for the mornings in bed, the home-cooked meals and the family time carved out of busy schedules. Oh, and she was grateful for the new clothes that occupy many a young woman’s obsession. There were the usuals - tights, and skirts and a jacket she just had to have. She even ‘upgraded’ one skirt with her sister’s when they decided it was an upgrade for both. And then she left.
Gender Dysphoria is a social construct. Is a baby Male or Female is reality forever. It is fixed and unchangeable. Take care of the genitalia/body you are born with, it will never get any better. Make the best of what you were born with.
Baron I think I get your point, but I think you are missing a couple of things.
Firstly many of the young adults making these choices are on the autism spectrum. Some have been diagnosed at the time. Quite a few detransitioners are diagnosed later on, and have testified to this publicly - Chloe Cole is only one example. Hence they have a disability and need and deserve extra protection from making permanent mistakes. Autistic people (even if their IQ is normal or high) have many traits and challenges which impair their ability to make the right decision for themselves in these complex situations. For example - black and white thinking, excessive naive trust in the honesty and integrity of others, a tendency to obsessive special interests (in this case, gender ideology), and astronomical rates of mental illnesses including eating disorders, depression and anxiety. IN addition they lag behind in emotional maturity by several years. Hence an 18 year old autistic person may have the emotional maturity of a neurotypical 14 year old. Society is commiting disability eugenics by mutilating and sterilizing these people, including removing their ability for normal sexual relations, and impairing their ability to nurture their young (via "top surgery")
Secondly, the issue of professional malpractice is seperate from the issue of indivudual autonomy. The freedoms we enjoy should not extend to allow health professionals to systematically lie to their patients, to recommend "treatments" which have no evidential basis, and to exploit them for personal gain. This is what is currently occurring. Imposing appropriate expectations for ethical behaviour on ALL professionals is an essential part of the role of any civilised society. I cannot see that preventing unethical and predatory behaviour by professionals constitutes "denying people their freedom". Failure to control the enormous power of modern medicine with appropriate safeguards would lead to multiple risks and harms for all people. For example, should a doctor be allowed to lie to a patient with cancer that a medication will help them, in order to make money? This is exactly analogous to what is happening in "gender medicine".
I am not sure what you mean by "the best of us will never grow up" . When you say "the best", does this exclude disabled people such as those with autism? If your own beloved child had a disability, would you still hold these views? Just asking.
Agreed & I am grounded enough that I feel sure about my perspective. For this particular problem I say fix/work on the mind, not the body. I couldn’t live with myself for example, if I had the skill & training to remove healthy breast tissue from a fully functioning body versus cancerous breast tissue. I personally just wouldn’t be proud of myself.
Thank you for your stunning, succinct and powerful article. From the article, you are suggesting that you didn't hear from your daughter for many years. Are you now in touch again? I ask, as there are many parents in your shoes, with similar, heart-wrenching stories. If your daughter has come back into your life, I hope there has been some kind of reconcilation. Much of what you write about, I've had personal experience with. I agree with you that this is a global social experiment, meant to destroy the beauty and health of Humans. Sadly, I've encountered the well-meaning parents with kids, who feel they are immune from this contagion and program. They appear comfortable coping with today's Pronoun Policing, and like to dismiss the TransGender movement as a "personal choice" issue. It's true that friends and family members are often quite unsympathetic. They prefer to think our child has stopped communicating with us, due to our hidden abusive natures! We are an amazing group of parents, as we struggle to keep sane, soulful and loving despite dealing with an anti-human agenda the world has ever known. Each day, more of our precious children - our young women and men are brought into a lifestyle that requires a renunciation of family and traditions, and the re-making of their minds/bodies, as demanded by the TransGender Lifestyle, Ideology, Agenda -- whatever term you want to call it.
Yes, we are now back in touch - but NOT when I wrote this piece. Praying they all get out. Your child, no matter what age, needs you. I long ago stopped caring what others think of me. This cult does not discriminate.
Unfortunately I believe it will take massive class actions. Why? - because the industries around artificial assisted reproduction are booming. They go hand in hand with the horrors happening. Read my substack pieces specifically ones that deal with insurance. I have ones titled "Synthetic Sex Insurance," "Technocratic Gender Harmony," "Syntheuc Sex Candidate for the Technocracy" and others that help unravel this corporate global capture of children / young adults.
I had the same experience with my daughter in Australia who had just started university. Found out about it the next Christmas when I gave her a present including nice underwear (previously something she really liked me to buy as it is expensive!). Like most cults removal from family and former life are high on the agenda
Oh no, not another. I too have lost my child in this way. No contact since February 22 and not expecting one anytime soon, or even, forever. I am an older parent and wonder if I'll ever see him again. Maybe on my death bed but I'm not holding my breath. As you say, you do lose your friends and some family. It's very sad. I don't believe I'm a transphobe or hateful. I just believe I'm a normal, loving parent who cannot understand how my child should feel that way and forget the happy times and loving care. It's a slap in the face basically. There are so many children who would have relished the home he has abandoned and yet my privileged child has.. I'm angry now, having gone through the agony of sadness. It keeps me going.
Yeah, forgetting the happy times/loving care AND the re-writing/re-telling of their history really is a slap in the face. Oh!...the trauma of it all! Mine left June '22 and I have spoken to her 1 time only to be told that I ruined her life and that I was a bad parent and undermined her self confidence. At first I was so, so sad until the anger took over......Now I'm pretty much at peace with how things are. She has to work this out on her own and there is nothing that I can do to help her....except to deny her health care coverage if she starts to medicalize. This is a fad gone down the rabbit hole.......give me Goth and Emo any day!
So terrible and terribly wrong. Since your daughter's just 13, you have time to potentially rescue her. My son was ensnared in college.. Sending compassion
She stated in the fifth grade and hasn’t gotten any better. I’m at a loss to know how to help her. I will be remembering you and you son and all who are trying endure this journey. It is very difficult.
She is 13, and under your control. Have you considered a radical alteration in her circumstances? Send her to grandparents who do not agree with trans. Cut off her internet. Possibly home-school.
For those wondering about accountability and consequences, there are at least two malpractice suits against physicians I have read about from people who underwent treatment as minors, questioning informed consent and other factors. Here is one news article:
Note that these are from a google search and are not based upon reading the actual filings. I imagine there are others that have been filed and certainly will be filed. If I were a risk manager at malpractice carrier I would be cautioning my doctors to be very mindful of the impact of such requests on their risk potential. I am personally baffled and dismayed that there are surgeons who take pride in constructing a non-functional vagina from an amputated penis.
I look forward to hearing how these and future lawsuits proceed, though in reality many settle with confidentiality clauses and no admission of liability. But the money paid and the initial publicity are real as well as the attorneys who may eagerly take on such cases.
There are sick people with curable illness who have to fight tooth and nail to get ANY kind of decent treatment from their insurance company, yet these same companies will cover gender affirming care and/or plastic surgeries for people with well bodies (but sick minds!). Anyone who has health insurance should be concerned since EVERYONE that pays into the system is paying for these "treatments". It's no wonder insurance in this country costs so much! We have military families seeking food assistance for their children due to low wages, yet the military will pay for reassignment (plastic) surgery for some dude (likely with PTSD) who wants to look like a lady.....boggles my mind.
This is another shockingly similar story to my own. You describe the erasure really well. You remind me how sad it is that this ideology triumphs over real, lived memories as they recreate themselves & their lives.
My daughter disappeared in Middle school. I am weary of so much work, trying to get her to have an indentity of her making, instead of an indenture to unattainable and false ideology.
Weary is spot-on for what the trans cult inflicts on parents trying to rescue their child. All the weariness, and I could not save my neurodivergent son when he got to college. We need a word that combines weary, enraged, sad-- the result when your own society in which I've been a responsible member, offering sane mental health care as a psychologist, fucked over my son and my family. To say it's unfair is an understatement.
I am not a supporter of psychiatry myself, but two of the docs your suggest: Psychiatric, Industry of Death documentary & the one about the Diagnostic & Statistical Manual, are by a Scientology front group, the Citizen's Commission on Human Rights (CCHR), and they are 100% an anti-science cult. I have been researching Scientology for many years; I have been to their Psychiatry: An industry of Death museum. I think neither you nor anyone else should rely on nor suggest any information provided by Scientology. Again, they are an anti-science cult.
The fact that Scientology warns against psychiatry isn't an indication that they tell the truth about anything else, including mental/physical health treatment. In fact, Scientologists are not allowed to seek ANY mental health help at all outside Scientology auditing or specious "cleanses," especially not from mental health professional, because they are told that if they have any mental or physical health problem at all they "pulled it in" themselves and they are to blame.
There have been documented incidences of deaths and suicides of Scientologists related to mental health issues because Scientology does not allow parishoners to even TALK to a healh professional, aside from taking psychiatric drugs. I could go on. Again, I am not pro-psychiatry. But I do think that distressed people can benefit from those experienced with dealing with mental health issues.
Thank you for believing me. It's a really good piece; I hope you take the Scientology links out of it.
I can see how people are taken in--so many ex-Scientologists, very smart people, as are detransitioners, show that it's not at all hard to fall for the sweet claims of a cult, no matter how smart you are.
"Great crises arise when empathy dissipates from the human equation. We are here again at this moment of time but perhaps in a bigger way than ever. Without empathy man’s body devolves into a mere object. Today evil lurks in social acceptance where empathy is disguised as ‘diversity and inclusion’. Uncritical masses become believers rallying for the ‘trans’ cause unable to see beyond the smokescreen. Power and money make Frankenstein medicine seem palpable where it should be unthinkable."
Thank you for replying and sharing, and your supportive words.
Gender Dysphoria is a social construct. Is a baby Male or Female is reality forever. It is fixed and unchangeable. Take care of the genitalia/body you are born with, it will never get any better. Make the best of what you were born with.
Baron I think I get your point, but I think you are missing a couple of things.
Firstly many of the young adults making these choices are on the autism spectrum. Some have been diagnosed at the time. Quite a few detransitioners are diagnosed later on, and have testified to this publicly - Chloe Cole is only one example. Hence they have a disability and need and deserve extra protection from making permanent mistakes. Autistic people (even if their IQ is normal or high) have many traits and challenges which impair their ability to make the right decision for themselves in these complex situations. For example - black and white thinking, excessive naive trust in the honesty and integrity of others, a tendency to obsessive special interests (in this case, gender ideology), and astronomical rates of mental illnesses including eating disorders, depression and anxiety. IN addition they lag behind in emotional maturity by several years. Hence an 18 year old autistic person may have the emotional maturity of a neurotypical 14 year old. Society is commiting disability eugenics by mutilating and sterilizing these people, including removing their ability for normal sexual relations, and impairing their ability to nurture their young (via "top surgery")
Secondly, the issue of professional malpractice is seperate from the issue of indivudual autonomy. The freedoms we enjoy should not extend to allow health professionals to systematically lie to their patients, to recommend "treatments" which have no evidential basis, and to exploit them for personal gain. This is what is currently occurring. Imposing appropriate expectations for ethical behaviour on ALL professionals is an essential part of the role of any civilised society. I cannot see that preventing unethical and predatory behaviour by professionals constitutes "denying people their freedom". Failure to control the enormous power of modern medicine with appropriate safeguards would lead to multiple risks and harms for all people. For example, should a doctor be allowed to lie to a patient with cancer that a medication will help them, in order to make money? This is exactly analogous to what is happening in "gender medicine".
I am not sure what you mean by "the best of us will never grow up" . When you say "the best", does this exclude disabled people such as those with autism? If your own beloved child had a disability, would you still hold these views? Just asking.
I never read comments and coming back. I cannot see Baron's comment. Looks like you scared him off - ha!
Agreed & I am grounded enough that I feel sure about my perspective. For this particular problem I say fix/work on the mind, not the body. I couldn’t live with myself for example, if I had the skill & training to remove healthy breast tissue from a fully functioning body versus cancerous breast tissue. I personally just wouldn’t be proud of myself.
Sadly, she was in a private Christian school - Pre K through 5th grade-when this evil started. The phone and internet are evil weapons too.
Thank you for your stunning, succinct and powerful article. From the article, you are suggesting that you didn't hear from your daughter for many years. Are you now in touch again? I ask, as there are many parents in your shoes, with similar, heart-wrenching stories. If your daughter has come back into your life, I hope there has been some kind of reconcilation. Much of what you write about, I've had personal experience with. I agree with you that this is a global social experiment, meant to destroy the beauty and health of Humans. Sadly, I've encountered the well-meaning parents with kids, who feel they are immune from this contagion and program. They appear comfortable coping with today's Pronoun Policing, and like to dismiss the TransGender movement as a "personal choice" issue. It's true that friends and family members are often quite unsympathetic. They prefer to think our child has stopped communicating with us, due to our hidden abusive natures! We are an amazing group of parents, as we struggle to keep sane, soulful and loving despite dealing with an anti-human agenda the world has ever known. Each day, more of our precious children - our young women and men are brought into a lifestyle that requires a renunciation of family and traditions, and the re-making of their minds/bodies, as demanded by the TransGender Lifestyle, Ideology, Agenda -- whatever term you want to call it.
Yes, we are now back in touch - but NOT when I wrote this piece. Praying they all get out. Your child, no matter what age, needs you. I long ago stopped caring what others think of me. This cult does not discriminate.
Same story here. So very sad. My heart goes out to you.
The best way to end this is serious litigation. When hospital lawyers can only see risk, these gender clinics will shut down quickly.
Unfortunately I believe it will take massive class actions. Why? - because the industries around artificial assisted reproduction are booming. They go hand in hand with the horrors happening. Read my substack pieces specifically ones that deal with insurance. I have ones titled "Synthetic Sex Insurance," "Technocratic Gender Harmony," "Syntheuc Sex Candidate for the Technocracy" and others that help unravel this corporate global capture of children / young adults.
True but let me tell you no Childrens hospital wants to get hit with litigation. They are cost averse risk averse
Sadly, the legal apparatus has fallen into the trans orbit as well.
Not all of them. The suits have started.
I had the same experience with my daughter in Australia who had just started university. Found out about it the next Christmas when I gave her a present including nice underwear (previously something she really liked me to buy as it is expensive!). Like most cults removal from family and former life are high on the agenda
My finally exited but not until after writing this post and many others. Praying yours does too.
Oh no, not another. I too have lost my child in this way. No contact since February 22 and not expecting one anytime soon, or even, forever. I am an older parent and wonder if I'll ever see him again. Maybe on my death bed but I'm not holding my breath. As you say, you do lose your friends and some family. It's very sad. I don't believe I'm a transphobe or hateful. I just believe I'm a normal, loving parent who cannot understand how my child should feel that way and forget the happy times and loving care. It's a slap in the face basically. There are so many children who would have relished the home he has abandoned and yet my privileged child has.. I'm angry now, having gone through the agony of sadness. It keeps me going.
Yeah, forgetting the happy times/loving care AND the re-writing/re-telling of their history really is a slap in the face. Oh!...the trauma of it all! Mine left June '22 and I have spoken to her 1 time only to be told that I ruined her life and that I was a bad parent and undermined her self confidence. At first I was so, so sad until the anger took over......Now I'm pretty much at peace with how things are. She has to work this out on her own and there is nothing that I can do to help her....except to deny her health care coverage if she starts to medicalize. This is a fad gone down the rabbit hole.......give me Goth and Emo any day!
"Agony of sadness". Yes, that describes my loss of my son, too, to this horrid cult enabled by others.
The complete loss I feel as well from losing my thirteen year old daughter to this evil cult.
So terrible and terribly wrong. Since your daughter's just 13, you have time to potentially rescue her. My son was ensnared in college.. Sending compassion
She stated in the fifth grade and hasn’t gotten any better. I’m at a loss to know how to help her. I will be remembering you and you son and all who are trying endure this journey. It is very difficult.
She is 13, and under your control. Have you considered a radical alteration in her circumstances? Send her to grandparents who do not agree with trans. Cut off her internet. Possibly home-school.
Change the situation. You still have time.
You might find Dr. Mirriam Grossmans book Lost in Transnation helpful as she addresses parents. And Googling Genspect for ideas might help as well
I have the book and it is very insightful. Thank you for recommending it.
For those wondering about accountability and consequences, there are at least two malpractice suits against physicians I have read about from people who underwent treatment as minors, questioning informed consent and other factors. Here is one news article:
https://www.nbcbayarea.com/news/local/kaiser-permanente-sued-over-hormone-therapy/3164935/
And here is another suit:
https://www.deseret.com/2023/9/15/23874181/gender-surgery-minors-detransition-lawsuit
Note that these are from a google search and are not based upon reading the actual filings. I imagine there are others that have been filed and certainly will be filed. If I were a risk manager at malpractice carrier I would be cautioning my doctors to be very mindful of the impact of such requests on their risk potential. I am personally baffled and dismayed that there are surgeons who take pride in constructing a non-functional vagina from an amputated penis.
I look forward to hearing how these and future lawsuits proceed, though in reality many settle with confidentiality clauses and no admission of liability. But the money paid and the initial publicity are real as well as the attorneys who may eagerly take on such cases.
There are sick people with curable illness who have to fight tooth and nail to get ANY kind of decent treatment from their insurance company, yet these same companies will cover gender affirming care and/or plastic surgeries for people with well bodies (but sick minds!). Anyone who has health insurance should be concerned since EVERYONE that pays into the system is paying for these "treatments". It's no wonder insurance in this country costs so much! We have military families seeking food assistance for their children due to low wages, yet the military will pay for reassignment (plastic) surgery for some dude (likely with PTSD) who wants to look like a lady.....boggles my mind.
One major insurance provider has pulled out of providing insurance for doctors in relation to gender affirming care as they see the risk as too high.
which one?
This is another shockingly similar story to my own. You describe the erasure really well. You remind me how sad it is that this ideology triumphs over real, lived memories as they recreate themselves & their lives.
Frankenstein? He made a monster and is fictional
Josef mengeles on the other hand ......
Sorry you are part of another family sacrificed at the alter of the trans cult.
My daughter disappeared in Middle school. I am weary of so much work, trying to get her to have an indentity of her making, instead of an indenture to unattainable and false ideology.
Weary is spot-on for what the trans cult inflicts on parents trying to rescue their child. All the weariness, and I could not save my neurodivergent son when he got to college. We need a word that combines weary, enraged, sad-- the result when your own society in which I've been a responsible member, offering sane mental health care as a psychologist, fucked over my son and my family. To say it's unfair is an understatement.
I am not a supporter of psychiatry myself, but two of the docs your suggest: Psychiatric, Industry of Death documentary & the one about the Diagnostic & Statistical Manual, are by a Scientology front group, the Citizen's Commission on Human Rights (CCHR), and they are 100% an anti-science cult. I have been researching Scientology for many years; I have been to their Psychiatry: An industry of Death museum. I think neither you nor anyone else should rely on nor suggest any information provided by Scientology. Again, they are an anti-science cult.
The fact that Scientology warns against psychiatry isn't an indication that they tell the truth about anything else, including mental/physical health treatment. In fact, Scientologists are not allowed to seek ANY mental health help at all outside Scientology auditing or specious "cleanses," especially not from mental health professional, because they are told that if they have any mental or physical health problem at all they "pulled it in" themselves and they are to blame.
There have been documented incidences of deaths and suicides of Scientologists related to mental health issues because Scientology does not allow parishoners to even TALK to a healh professional, aside from taking psychiatric drugs. I could go on. Again, I am not pro-psychiatry. But I do think that distressed people can benefit from those experienced with dealing with mental health issues.
Thank you for the insight. I should have looked closer and in no way am I supporting one cult for another.
Anti-science cults seem escapable in our days.
Thank you for believing me. It's a really good piece; I hope you take the Scientology links out of it.
I can see how people are taken in--so many ex-Scientologists, very smart people, as are detransitioners, show that it's not at all hard to fall for the sweet claims of a cult, no matter how smart you are.
done!
"Great crises arise when empathy dissipates from the human equation. We are here again at this moment of time but perhaps in a bigger way than ever. Without empathy man’s body devolves into a mere object. Today evil lurks in social acceptance where empathy is disguised as ‘diversity and inclusion’. Uncritical masses become believers rallying for the ‘trans’ cause unable to see beyond the smokescreen. Power and money make Frankenstein medicine seem palpable where it should be unthinkable."
Yes.