This one really hurts because I fear my daughter would also do something terrible like this. Which is why we keep love, hope, grace alive for her and she knows it. Trans is a double edged sword of destruction, you destroy everything on your way down the road building a life on complete lies where everyone knows your lying and people cope or or go along with the lie and try to pretend you are not who you really are. Then should you detrans the entire life you built on lies is going to turn it's back on you and some of your true believer trans friends and others are going to really dislike you and shun you forever more. This is why family must keep grace and hope alive because we will be the only ones to help restore their life. Trans is the newest and most evil thing have ever spread and perpetuated onto a society, it willingly, with government help, took off on it's own to such great destruction. It must end. Say NO! Stand for truth, men cannot become women and vice versa.
Yes I do stand for truth. And I do say those things, now. And I did then too, to many people. Just in this situation, the fear of losing contact was more of a risk than addressing my beliefs. I wanted to know he was ok and alive. And that was the most important thing at the time, especially since he spoke to barely anyone else in my family. I’m not saying it was the right thing, but it felt less risky. And likely, it was. If I had, he would have cut me off, too. Truly gut wrenching.
yes us too, we did not affirm, we did not use wrong pronouns sometimes we slipped up however, we did not use her changed name, so was very hard to fellowship with her but we tried like hell, today she goes off the rail if we slip up and use the name we gave her or a wrong pronoun, it's crazy! But agree with you, eggshells, walking on eggshells and ensuring she knows we love her very much.
Right. Exactly. My family did recognize it. And found a therapist that was supposedly on the same page. But it failed to help. There was not many options unfortunately, especially once they pass the age of 18. Even under 18, if the state allows the parents rights to be stripped away, hands are also tied to an extent. It’s truly heartbreaking.
Another senseless family loss because of the evil trans cult. I am sorry for your grief and pain. The stories I have read on this sub stack written by parents who are terrified of what is happening to their child, and the fear of permanently losing their child is not only fathomable but heart wrenching. You are right, the very systems designed to help us are actually destroying us. I cannot even tell you how my trust in mankind has dwindled and how skeptical I am of the medical industry. You sound like a very strong and wise person and I wish you well. Thank you for sharing your story.
Not one more. This should never have happened. It should never happen again.
Also, if you had tried to reach out, he might have cut you out, too, as you feared. It was in his hands. And at that age, with those lies surrounding him, a lot was stacked against him doing the right thing. And yet he saw though it eventually.
Deepest sympathy for your sorrow and that of others in your family.
I had reached out, and was in contact with him. Just very minimal. I never stopped trying. I just never addressed gender and kept it more about how he was doing. I was fearful I would be cut off, so I chose to stay quiet about it, just hanging on to any communication I could. Thank you for the condolences. I wish it helped, the truth is, nothing can help. Not for our situation. There’s hope for others, but that’s only if the truth about what’s happening is exposed.
I struggle like you did with whether to lie to maintain connection. I lie to my nephew because trans was so new to me and everyone insisted he could create his own name. Then my son decided to transition and the lie was too obvious and close to home. He hasn’t spoken to me for three years. I have never been a good liar.
Yes. I find myself questioning some days if I did the right thing. And I have to remind myself, I did what I believed was right at the time. I too, have never been good at deceiving others. I am sorry to hear about your son, too. I hope you one day can say differently. Your heart has to hurt deeply.
I am very sorry for your loss. Maintaining a thread is not the right or wrong answer but a choice that should not have to be made. The outcome can be good or bad. It is heart breaking to hear of yet another whose chance in life is cut short. Peace and prayers to you and yours moving forward.
This is devastating. I'm so sorry for your family's loss. You're right, it's a culture-wide sickness being advanced by the very professions who are supposed to stay alert and protect us: Law, medicine, psychiatry, education (both K-12 and higher ed research).
Yep. There are good in all of those systems. Good doctors, good teachers, good lawyers etc. But it’s hard to tell who is authentic and who is playing a role. Intentions are not clear, and unfortunately I do believe the bad actors outweigh the good.
Very, very powerful. So your cousin no longer identified as female, yet still ended his life?
Thank you for all of the comments and support.
This one really hurts because I fear my daughter would also do something terrible like this. Which is why we keep love, hope, grace alive for her and she knows it. Trans is a double edged sword of destruction, you destroy everything on your way down the road building a life on complete lies where everyone knows your lying and people cope or or go along with the lie and try to pretend you are not who you really are. Then should you detrans the entire life you built on lies is going to turn it's back on you and some of your true believer trans friends and others are going to really dislike you and shun you forever more. This is why family must keep grace and hope alive because we will be the only ones to help restore their life. Trans is the newest and most evil thing have ever spread and perpetuated onto a society, it willingly, with government help, took off on it's own to such great destruction. It must end. Say NO! Stand for truth, men cannot become women and vice versa.
Yes I do stand for truth. And I do say those things, now. And I did then too, to many people. Just in this situation, the fear of losing contact was more of a risk than addressing my beliefs. I wanted to know he was ok and alive. And that was the most important thing at the time, especially since he spoke to barely anyone else in my family. I’m not saying it was the right thing, but it felt less risky. And likely, it was. If I had, he would have cut me off, too. Truly gut wrenching.
yes us too, we did not affirm, we did not use wrong pronouns sometimes we slipped up however, we did not use her changed name, so was very hard to fellowship with her but we tried like hell, today she goes off the rail if we slip up and use the name we gave her or a wrong pronoun, it's crazy! But agree with you, eggshells, walking on eggshells and ensuring she knows we love her very much.
How is it possible for anyone to not recognize a mental health crisis when a child denies reality?
Right. Exactly. My family did recognize it. And found a therapist that was supposedly on the same page. But it failed to help. There was not many options unfortunately, especially once they pass the age of 18. Even under 18, if the state allows the parents rights to be stripped away, hands are also tied to an extent. It’s truly heartbreaking.
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Another senseless family loss because of the evil trans cult. I am sorry for your grief and pain. The stories I have read on this sub stack written by parents who are terrified of what is happening to their child, and the fear of permanently losing their child is not only fathomable but heart wrenching. You are right, the very systems designed to help us are actually destroying us. I cannot even tell you how my trust in mankind has dwindled and how skeptical I am of the medical industry. You sound like a very strong and wise person and I wish you well. Thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you for your kind comment
Not one more. This should never have happened. It should never happen again.
Also, if you had tried to reach out, he might have cut you out, too, as you feared. It was in his hands. And at that age, with those lies surrounding him, a lot was stacked against him doing the right thing. And yet he saw though it eventually.
Deepest sympathy for your sorrow and that of others in your family.
And yes. It never should have happened 😭 so tragic.
I had reached out, and was in contact with him. Just very minimal. I never stopped trying. I just never addressed gender and kept it more about how he was doing. I was fearful I would be cut off, so I chose to stay quiet about it, just hanging on to any communication I could. Thank you for the condolences. I wish it helped, the truth is, nothing can help. Not for our situation. There’s hope for others, but that’s only if the truth about what’s happening is exposed.
I struggle like you did with whether to lie to maintain connection. I lie to my nephew because trans was so new to me and everyone insisted he could create his own name. Then my son decided to transition and the lie was too obvious and close to home. He hasn’t spoken to me for three years. I have never been a good liar.
Yes. I find myself questioning some days if I did the right thing. And I have to remind myself, I did what I believed was right at the time. I too, have never been good at deceiving others. I am sorry to hear about your son, too. I hope you one day can say differently. Your heart has to hurt deeply.
I am very sorry for your loss. Maintaining a thread is not the right or wrong answer but a choice that should not have to be made. The outcome can be good or bad. It is heart breaking to hear of yet another whose chance in life is cut short. Peace and prayers to you and yours moving forward.
Thank you so much. That thread was proof of life. Right or wrong, it’s what I held onto at the time.
Thank you for your courage and your beautiful and deeply insightful writing. So sorry for your loss.
Thank you, Elizabeth!
This is devastating. I'm so sorry for your family's loss. You're right, it's a culture-wide sickness being advanced by the very professions who are supposed to stay alert and protect us: Law, medicine, psychiatry, education (both K-12 and higher ed research).
Yep. There are good in all of those systems. Good doctors, good teachers, good lawyers etc. But it’s hard to tell who is authentic and who is playing a role. Intentions are not clear, and unfortunately I do believe the bad actors outweigh the good.