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Melanie McNamara's avatar

My daughter (who is also trans identifying) is a student at Rider and was an acquaintance of your daughter’s. I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I have thought of you often and prayed for you frequently. I cannot fathom the depth of your pain. I am in a Rider parent Facebook group and wonder what your thoughts would be about sharing your story there; there was such an outpouring of sympathy when Ilene took her life.

Holding you in prayer.

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Elizabeth Hummel's avatar

I am full of sorrow reading your beautifully written story. It's almost the exact same story we have read so many times on PITT...but it is not quite the same. Your story is also unique because Illene was unique, and so are you. She sounds like such an extraordinary person, which makes her death all the more tragic. What a loss to the world and to humanity, when we need all the help we can get these days. But the following cannot be stated enough: you were a good mother. Her death is not your fault; it is the fault of others in our society who encouraged her delusion and self-harm. I am so sorry for your loss, sending you love.

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