“So did you end up getting the injection?” She pauses before she replies, “yeah”. And there it is. The heart punch that sends me back into the depths… so far from the hope that I had built up that she might not continue on this path of destruction. I’m not sure how much longer I can ride this wave of emotion.
Unfortunately , to a certain degree, testosterone feels good. I have taken it for my own female libido, but if I take a little extra I feel strong and energetic. The testoterone is a high, but it can also cause irritability, cystic acne, and perhaps the wanted traits of facial hair, and muscles. But it makes it harder to deny the slippery slope.
I liken "medicalization" journey to what a Cis person may imagine as their wedding day. "Won't everything be perfect once I am married!!" And what a thing to celebrate! But it depends on who you marry. Sometimes those marriages go well, you met the right person and you lead an ongoing contented life. Unfortunately other marriages can lead to misery. Most often a person may not know for years if the choice was right.
Eighteen years is the dreaded birthday. My daughter stayed clear of testosterone while under my care and under age. But then she started staying with a girlfriend and then started the Testosterone cream. It’s painful to hear her voice and see her face transform. I look on her with a great amount of pity. She doesn’t realize the harm she is inflicting on herself yet. These young people don’t really get consequences.
I started watching crime scene series like forensic files. Somehow I just relate as so many crimes are against the young and vulnerable. I can mourn with all the parents that mourn their losses. I feel I’ve lost my daughter too, but to a different death crime. The death of who she really is. The death to her natural biological self. The death to her natural voice. The death to her mental well-being. The death of our family relationship that was built on love. All this inflicted on her by society’s deviant people in the media, medical field and government. How evil. How long can this go on?
We separated sexual intercourse from two committed people for life to allow "no fault" divorce. Sex is an eternal act. It creates eternal beings. Easy divorce to contraception. So no relationship between sex and life. So why not the "social construct" insanity. Men and women are no longer real. And our children are having their lives sucked out of them by "teachers'. We are a cult that manufactures monsters.
I’m so sorry, but they have won. For now at least, until the horror and damage is revealed.
I read the posts of my former friends and otherwise intelligent, educated people and I simply collapse in defeat. I’m not giving up, but it’s just one of those days we endure.
I hold on though to my mantra:
The Truth is Like a Lion, You Do Not Have to Defend It, You Just Have To Let It Loose 🙏
Too all the mom's on here even Dad's. There is a book call: Irreversible Damage by Abigail Shrier. Its an amazing book. It mite just help. It opened my eyes, has a sad but VERY Hopeful story in it. When I didnt think it was a fad and he would drop it, started reading and reaching out to people, gathered up there stories, pros and cons. Sent them to my son, I even ASK for him to help me understand this trans stuff. He just shot me down and doesn't talk to me. He lives 13 hours away. So if your teen or young adult is still home. FIGHT FIGHT & FIGHT. Don't give up. That story in the book gives me hope. Maybe not for my kid, maybe for yours. Hugs to all parents on here, Trans stuff Sucks!!!!
I feel your pain everyday, my son doesn't talk to me. Be happy she still spends time with you, find your facts do your research on T, its very harmful for young girls. Present the facts. DONT GIVE UP. Keep fighting for her, the longer she is on T the more horrible side effects she will have. Good luck, keep fighting. You have half the battle on your side already with her saying she loves you. Hugs
I am also hoping that someday my prayers will be answered and my family will be whole again. I await the day when we all can share happy stories of forgiveness and rebirth.
It’s an uphill battle when you have the entire Biden administration and states like CA normalizing and pushing these barbaric procedures on our most vulnerable children and young adults.
Thanks for sharing, I know how devastating it feels. Alice sent us a picture of a vial of T on her 18th birthday and chaos reigned in her life for 3 months or so. After moving home she settled down a bit, but due to weight gain and deteriorating mental health she decided to stop after being on about a year. Our prayers were answered. She is a very determined person so I didn't think she would ever deviate from the plan. I guess my message to you is there is always hope, I never felt there was. Post T life is much better for A.
Did the doctor at least inform your daughter of the risk of blood clots /stroke? Both diabetes and testosterone increase the risk. Who knows how much the combo increases the risk. Does she want to be a data point in their more-data-is-needed? I understand that young people feel invincible but has she ever seen a person (a relative perhaps) after a stroke ? Stroke is devastating. The doctor is criminally negligent. I know you need to tread lightly but if you have a chance, maybe talk about stroke. Young people are by and large not afraid of a quick and painless death, but that's not what stroke is. Sorry, I don't want to add to your pain. My heart goes out to you but since your daughter loves you and is talking to you, there is at least some chance she will listen.
Unfortunately , to a certain degree, testosterone feels good. I have taken it for my own female libido, but if I take a little extra I feel strong and energetic. The testoterone is a high, but it can also cause irritability, cystic acne, and perhaps the wanted traits of facial hair, and muscles. But it makes it harder to deny the slippery slope.
I liken "medicalization" journey to what a Cis person may imagine as their wedding day. "Won't everything be perfect once I am married!!" And what a thing to celebrate! But it depends on who you marry. Sometimes those marriages go well, you met the right person and you lead an ongoing contented life. Unfortunately other marriages can lead to misery. Most often a person may not know for years if the choice was right.
It's probably easier to get divorced than it is to detransition.
Eighteen years is the dreaded birthday. My daughter stayed clear of testosterone while under my care and under age. But then she started staying with a girlfriend and then started the Testosterone cream. It’s painful to hear her voice and see her face transform. I look on her with a great amount of pity. She doesn’t realize the harm she is inflicting on herself yet. These young people don’t really get consequences.
I started watching crime scene series like forensic files. Somehow I just relate as so many crimes are against the young and vulnerable. I can mourn with all the parents that mourn their losses. I feel I’ve lost my daughter too, but to a different death crime. The death of who she really is. The death to her natural biological self. The death to her natural voice. The death to her mental well-being. The death of our family relationship that was built on love. All this inflicted on her by society’s deviant people in the media, medical field and government. How evil. How long can this go on?
https://youtu.be/Su2Z4_iQHz4
This video really resonated with me. This woman understands what the parents go through.
We separated sexual intercourse from two committed people for life to allow "no fault" divorce. Sex is an eternal act. It creates eternal beings. Easy divorce to contraception. So no relationship between sex and life. So why not the "social construct" insanity. Men and women are no longer real. And our children are having their lives sucked out of them by "teachers'. We are a cult that manufactures monsters.
I’m so sorry, but they have won. For now at least, until the horror and damage is revealed.
I read the posts of my former friends and otherwise intelligent, educated people and I simply collapse in defeat. I’m not giving up, but it’s just one of those days we endure.
I hold on though to my mantra:
The Truth is Like a Lion, You Do Not Have to Defend It, You Just Have To Let It Loose 🙏
Too all the mom's on here even Dad's. There is a book call: Irreversible Damage by Abigail Shrier. Its an amazing book. It mite just help. It opened my eyes, has a sad but VERY Hopeful story in it. When I didnt think it was a fad and he would drop it, started reading and reaching out to people, gathered up there stories, pros and cons. Sent them to my son, I even ASK for him to help me understand this trans stuff. He just shot me down and doesn't talk to me. He lives 13 hours away. So if your teen or young adult is still home. FIGHT FIGHT & FIGHT. Don't give up. That story in the book gives me hope. Maybe not for my kid, maybe for yours. Hugs to all parents on here, Trans stuff Sucks!!!!
Please do not patronize us dads. I'm a man, and am completely opposed to the insanity of trans.
I feel your pain everyday, my son doesn't talk to me. Be happy she still spends time with you, find your facts do your research on T, its very harmful for young girls. Present the facts. DONT GIVE UP. Keep fighting for her, the longer she is on T the more horrible side effects she will have. Good luck, keep fighting. You have half the battle on your side already with her saying she loves you. Hugs
Very sorry to hear. I wish I could offer or do more.
I am also hoping that someday my prayers will be answered and my family will be whole again. I await the day when we all can share happy stories of forgiveness and rebirth.
It’s an uphill battle when you have the entire Biden administration and states like CA normalizing and pushing these barbaric procedures on our most vulnerable children and young adults.
Amen!
You are living through what I dread. I will be there soon enough. I am so sorry.
Heart punch. Exactly. Brought me to tears immediately. I’m so sorry. You are not alone. Thank you for sharing. This is not the end of the story.
Thanks for sharing, I know how devastating it feels. Alice sent us a picture of a vial of T on her 18th birthday and chaos reigned in her life for 3 months or so. After moving home she settled down a bit, but due to weight gain and deteriorating mental health she decided to stop after being on about a year. Our prayers were answered. She is a very determined person so I didn't think she would ever deviate from the plan. I guess my message to you is there is always hope, I never felt there was. Post T life is much better for A.
Thank you so much for sharing that. I was asking the Lord just earlier today to please just give me a tiny glimmer of hope 🙏🏼
Thank you for sharing. My heart is with you.
Did the doctor at least inform your daughter of the risk of blood clots /stroke? Both diabetes and testosterone increase the risk. Who knows how much the combo increases the risk. Does she want to be a data point in their more-data-is-needed? I understand that young people feel invincible but has she ever seen a person (a relative perhaps) after a stroke ? Stroke is devastating. The doctor is criminally negligent. I know you need to tread lightly but if you have a chance, maybe talk about stroke. Young people are by and large not afraid of a quick and painless death, but that's not what stroke is. Sorry, I don't want to add to your pain. My heart goes out to you but since your daughter loves you and is talking to you, there is at least some chance she will listen.
My heart breaks for you. Praying and sending loving thoughts. Who ever thought that being a parent could bring such grief?