My oldest son did. My husband divorced me because he was an alcoholic and I wanted him to stop drinking. I do not know why he cut off contact with me. He did cut off contact around the time my youngest first fell victim to this.
I have no husband and I've lost my son to the cult. I understand your sadness and loneliness at this rejection by your 'boys'. I'm so sorry for the pain this has caused you and as usual I can't understand how loved family members can fall to this madness.
Our adult trans son’s sister helped him elude us and receive head- to-genitalia mutilation. She also reduced our contact with our granddaughter to bare bones. She even taunted us that we would miss out on a full relationship with her. She knows how much we loved our granddaughter and went for the jugular. Psychopathic.
This started 2 years ago. After much agony, I have stopped waiting for son and daughter to come to their senses. I also stopped dreading conversations with my sisters who love to talk about their grandchildren. Now I am visiting with and corresponding with these adorable grand nieces and nephews. It is as if their pristine souls could sense that we are brimming with love of blood children that is up for grabs.
It is not a panacea. The holes that our son and daughter blew through our hearts will never completely heal. But this new connective process with other child relatives is a light in the darkness that signals a presence of hope.
I am not a big fan of old hippie style music, but “Love the One You’re With” (adapted to our situation) comes to mind.
Heartbreaking. I am sad for you, you do not deserve their rejection, and you should not be alone. How could all three of them believe the trans lies? It is shocking to me! A boy will be a boy all of his life and he cannot magically turn into a girl by wearing ill-fitting dresses, lipstick, high heels, or by taking hormones. I am horrified that your husband does not see the truth and by supporting your sons, he is causing great physical and mental harm to them. I know your heart is broken and rightfully so. Unfortunately, you are not alone in your suffering. This trans-cult destroys families, relationships, and causes unnecessary isolation and loneliness. Sending you a hug dear lady, your loss is overwhelming. May God give you comfort and strength.
This is such an indescribable pain, and yet you are brave enough to share yours with us. You are not alone. The difficulty of being the lone voice of reason in a chorus of insanity is difficult and confusing, but you are not alone. I will pray for you and your family. God bless you all!
This whole situation seems to be like some silent tragedy. You won't hear it on the news or in the paper because they would never defy the cult. We listen to each other here on this site and a few others, which is a great comfort. Please know that the Lord hears our sorrows and will return to right the wrongs, until then we suffer in silence, but at least we know that we are not alone.
"I still love my guys, but that love hurts my heart." So beautifully put. You have also put into words what we here at PITT are living with, the total incomprehension of so many around us. Thank you. Yes, I still love my son, and his five children, (my grandchildren), but that love hurts my heart also. I am totally closed out of my son's life, and he took his five children with him, three of whom claim to be "transgender". Ranging in age from 36 to 29, two are MtF, one is FtM, and they are all mentally ill. Not sure about my son, no, him probably also. He did the no contact with me after my husband passed away, while the first grandchild was flirting with the cult. I was totally immersed in the final illness of my husband's approaching death and then trying to survive afterwards, I had no idea what a horrible thing D was contemplating. Now I know, and the juggernaut has barreled through the family to consume the other two. I have been ostracized by my son's entire family, with no way to communicate with my great grandchildren. The last contact I had with the one granddaughter who was still talking with me, she said her two daughters had decided they were boys instead of teenaged girls. So hard to understand how a whole family could still believe in this insanity while the world is wrestling with the truth, (more coming forward every day) and three members of the family living the lie right in front of them. Of course, being blocked from the family, I have no idea of how the three are living, where they are living, etc., have any health concerns manifested yet, as they are bound to? I am full of questions. However, I do have the answer that is solidly set in my heart, and dear one, you ended your article so well. God's love will never change, never go away. By trusting in His plan and having been blessed by love in the past, we can be grateful for the memory of love as the battle for our loved ones continues.
I cannot imagine losing living grandchildren to this. It is difficult enough for those of us who are losing the possibility of ever having grandchildren. I hope this ends. Less medicalization will mean fewer health problems.
Thank you for sharing your anguish & heartbreak. I truly cannot understand how your husband & both boys could just cut you out of their lives like this!
I find this whole trans cult to be such an evil & family destroying religion but it always astound me when people who supposedly love you ie, husband & other son, can just cast aside the mother that raised them with unconditional love!
This "religion" requires that any sort of devotion or love be cast aside if that individual dose not submit to the demands of the cult!
I am extremely grateful that I have the love & support of my husband in our journey down the trans cult path with our adult daughter. My son doesn't speak of it but is aware that I do not & will not give up the truth for anything or anyone.
I do not have contact now with my daughter as she has made the cult's demands & I have refused in words & with silence to submit to them. It does break your heart to realise that the child you love & who once loved you can let anything get in the way of that love & for me my love for her is very much tarnished.
Bless you in your journey & may our shared gratitude & belief in the truth give us solace & hope!
Mon Dieu. This broke my heart. And while i have a daughter in this mess, I also find myself living in the memory of love and joy. Thank you for sharing.
Grateful is the gift we get to hold onto as we walk this journey. It is an act of empowerment to stand on the side of gratefulness, even in the midst of separation and loss. It is a fight against the oppressiveness that the enemy WANTS us to embrace. Gratefulness keeps us close to Jesus and lets HIM fight our battles for us. With gratefulness there is hope, even when we can't see the end result of the loss we have suffered. Gratefulness is a decision to stand in our faith...in the middle of the battle...and wait. on. Jesus.
My heart grieves for you in the midst of profound loss. You have chosen truth over lies and are suffering greatly for it. One of Jesus’ beatitudes says “blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven”. Matt 5:10. I’m sure your situation doesn’t feel like heaven, but to live agreeing with the truth is at least on the road to it and not to the hellscape of trying to create “reality” and “identity” via changing feelings and the deception that we can create our own world. It’s hard to imagine a worse state of mind than centering your life on a lie and demanding others comply or get cast out of that imaginary world.
To have lost both sons and your husband-I am so very sorry. No one can understand who has not lived it— you never feel so alone as when you are in this.
This story is so sad and I'm sorry you are living it. Sending a virtual hug from a virtual stranger who doesn't know you, but who does care. Also sending special love to your father at this precious time in both of your lives.
Did your husband and oldest son abandon you because you didn't affirm your youngest?
My oldest son did. My husband divorced me because he was an alcoholic and I wanted him to stop drinking. I do not know why he cut off contact with me. He did cut off contact around the time my youngest first fell victim to this.
I have no husband and I've lost my son to the cult. I understand your sadness and loneliness at this rejection by your 'boys'. I'm so sorry for the pain this has caused you and as usual I can't understand how loved family members can fall to this madness.
Our adult trans son’s sister helped him elude us and receive head- to-genitalia mutilation. She also reduced our contact with our granddaughter to bare bones. She even taunted us that we would miss out on a full relationship with her. She knows how much we loved our granddaughter and went for the jugular. Psychopathic.
This started 2 years ago. After much agony, I have stopped waiting for son and daughter to come to their senses. I also stopped dreading conversations with my sisters who love to talk about their grandchildren. Now I am visiting with and corresponding with these adorable grand nieces and nephews. It is as if their pristine souls could sense that we are brimming with love of blood children that is up for grabs.
It is not a panacea. The holes that our son and daughter blew through our hearts will never completely heal. But this new connective process with other child relatives is a light in the darkness that signals a presence of hope.
I am not a big fan of old hippie style music, but “Love the One You’re With” (adapted to our situation) comes to mind.
Heartbreaking. I am sad for you, you do not deserve their rejection, and you should not be alone. How could all three of them believe the trans lies? It is shocking to me! A boy will be a boy all of his life and he cannot magically turn into a girl by wearing ill-fitting dresses, lipstick, high heels, or by taking hormones. I am horrified that your husband does not see the truth and by supporting your sons, he is causing great physical and mental harm to them. I know your heart is broken and rightfully so. Unfortunately, you are not alone in your suffering. This trans-cult destroys families, relationships, and causes unnecessary isolation and loneliness. Sending you a hug dear lady, your loss is overwhelming. May God give you comfort and strength.
Thank you
I am so sorry; I can’t imagine how you feel. It’s heartbreaking that your husband and your sons have ‘abandoned’ you (for lack of a better word).
Praying for you and sending hugs as a mom who’s struggling every single day with a TIK❤️
May God bless us and our children🙏
This is such an indescribable pain, and yet you are brave enough to share yours with us. You are not alone. The difficulty of being the lone voice of reason in a chorus of insanity is difficult and confusing, but you are not alone. I will pray for you and your family. God bless you all!
This whole situation seems to be like some silent tragedy. You won't hear it on the news or in the paper because they would never defy the cult. We listen to each other here on this site and a few others, which is a great comfort. Please know that the Lord hears our sorrows and will return to right the wrongs, until then we suffer in silence, but at least we know that we are not alone.
Yes. A "silent tragedy" Though there is screaming inside. And weeping.
That's for sure.
"I still love my guys, but that love hurts my heart." So beautifully put. You have also put into words what we here at PITT are living with, the total incomprehension of so many around us. Thank you. Yes, I still love my son, and his five children, (my grandchildren), but that love hurts my heart also. I am totally closed out of my son's life, and he took his five children with him, three of whom claim to be "transgender". Ranging in age from 36 to 29, two are MtF, one is FtM, and they are all mentally ill. Not sure about my son, no, him probably also. He did the no contact with me after my husband passed away, while the first grandchild was flirting with the cult. I was totally immersed in the final illness of my husband's approaching death and then trying to survive afterwards, I had no idea what a horrible thing D was contemplating. Now I know, and the juggernaut has barreled through the family to consume the other two. I have been ostracized by my son's entire family, with no way to communicate with my great grandchildren. The last contact I had with the one granddaughter who was still talking with me, she said her two daughters had decided they were boys instead of teenaged girls. So hard to understand how a whole family could still believe in this insanity while the world is wrestling with the truth, (more coming forward every day) and three members of the family living the lie right in front of them. Of course, being blocked from the family, I have no idea of how the three are living, where they are living, etc., have any health concerns manifested yet, as they are bound to? I am full of questions. However, I do have the answer that is solidly set in my heart, and dear one, you ended your article so well. God's love will never change, never go away. By trusting in His plan and having been blessed by love in the past, we can be grateful for the memory of love as the battle for our loved ones continues.
Thank you. Love, Indio
I cannot imagine losing living grandchildren to this. It is difficult enough for those of us who are losing the possibility of ever having grandchildren. I hope this ends. Less medicalization will mean fewer health problems.
Thank you for sharing your anguish & heartbreak. I truly cannot understand how your husband & both boys could just cut you out of their lives like this!
I find this whole trans cult to be such an evil & family destroying religion but it always astound me when people who supposedly love you ie, husband & other son, can just cast aside the mother that raised them with unconditional love!
This "religion" requires that any sort of devotion or love be cast aside if that individual dose not submit to the demands of the cult!
I am extremely grateful that I have the love & support of my husband in our journey down the trans cult path with our adult daughter. My son doesn't speak of it but is aware that I do not & will not give up the truth for anything or anyone.
I do not have contact now with my daughter as she has made the cult's demands & I have refused in words & with silence to submit to them. It does break your heart to realise that the child you love & who once loved you can let anything get in the way of that love & for me my love for her is very much tarnished.
Bless you in your journey & may our shared gratitude & belief in the truth give us solace & hope!
Mon Dieu. This broke my heart. And while i have a daughter in this mess, I also find myself living in the memory of love and joy. Thank you for sharing.
Beautiful. I remember loving my sons too. xx
Grateful is the gift we get to hold onto as we walk this journey. It is an act of empowerment to stand on the side of gratefulness, even in the midst of separation and loss. It is a fight against the oppressiveness that the enemy WANTS us to embrace. Gratefulness keeps us close to Jesus and lets HIM fight our battles for us. With gratefulness there is hope, even when we can't see the end result of the loss we have suffered. Gratefulness is a decision to stand in our faith...in the middle of the battle...and wait. on. Jesus.
Wow God bless. I’m starting over at 60-not easy.
My heart grieves for you in the midst of profound loss. You have chosen truth over lies and are suffering greatly for it. One of Jesus’ beatitudes says “blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven”. Matt 5:10. I’m sure your situation doesn’t feel like heaven, but to live agreeing with the truth is at least on the road to it and not to the hellscape of trying to create “reality” and “identity” via changing feelings and the deception that we can create our own world. It’s hard to imagine a worse state of mind than centering your life on a lie and demanding others comply or get cast out of that imaginary world.
It’s hard to imagine a worse state of mind than centering your life on a lie and demanding others comply or get cast out of that imaginary world.
So true.
To have lost both sons and your husband-I am so very sorry. No one can understand who has not lived it— you never feel so alone as when you are in this.
This story is so sad and I'm sorry you are living it. Sending a virtual hug from a virtual stranger who doesn't know you, but who does care. Also sending special love to your father at this precious time in both of your lives.