I too was given this ultimatum. I visited my son last Thanksgiving in Baltimore. He introduced me to his "glitter mom" two doors down. She proceeded to praise him, throwing in the she pronouns and purposely baited me by saying I must be proud of my daughter. I stayed silent and smiled, sharing the baked goods he and I picked out for her.
I too was given this ultimatum. I visited my son last Thanksgiving in Baltimore. He introduced me to his "glitter mom" two doors down. She proceeded to praise him, throwing in the she pronouns and purposely baited me by saying I must be proud of my daughter. I stayed silent and smiled, sharing the baked goods he and I picked out for her.
Later that day, he was so mad at me, he said he didn't know if we could remain in relationship if I didn't call him daughter, use his female pronouns and his chosen name. I dropped him off for work. He didn't speak to me for the rest of the night.
I screamed, cried and pounded the steering wheel in a mall parking lot, and finally succumbed knowing that the preservation of the relationship was the goal.
We all make tough decisions. I don't say this lightly. I know the pain of this. The absolutely wrecking of your family, your self worth, your beliefs. I wish you weren't in this, or others. We don't deserve this... but these are our my sons, and we endure the pain, accusations and humility. I'm so sorry.
My son has since destransitioned since last month.. I hold that fact lightly... I don't trust he won't go back. When will this pain, this NIGHTMARE, end? Hold on to hope. Take care of yourself, focus on improving yourself. He has to walk this road himself. Hopefully he will be able to see the light through the darkness one day. That is our prayer. Sending love and light.
You need to show him the origins of trans, you need to force him to watch what is a woman, you need to ask him why he's not okay being gay, you need to ask him who is going to be in a relationship with a deformed person, you need to say all the time, boys arent girls and girls cannot be boys, you need to tell him he will be dependent on big pharma the rest of his life. You need to mail him information on dangers and side effects of hormones and surgeries. Show him photos of inside out dick operation. Show him money "gender affirming care" is making. Show him that Tavistock is closed. You need to only address him by his real name and gender. You need to get a necklace made with his name on it and wear it. You need to go full bore...stop hiding and stop being nice. And if he cuts you off- so be it.
I too was given this ultimatum. I visited my son last Thanksgiving in Baltimore. He introduced me to his "glitter mom" two doors down. She proceeded to praise him, throwing in the she pronouns and purposely baited me by saying I must be proud of my daughter. I stayed silent and smiled, sharing the baked goods he and I picked out for her.
Later that day, he was so mad at me, he said he didn't know if we could remain in relationship if I didn't call him daughter, use his female pronouns and his chosen name. I dropped him off for work. He didn't speak to me for the rest of the night.
I screamed, cried and pounded the steering wheel in a mall parking lot, and finally succumbed knowing that the preservation of the relationship was the goal.
We all make tough decisions. I don't say this lightly. I know the pain of this. The absolutely wrecking of your family, your self worth, your beliefs. I wish you weren't in this, or others. We don't deserve this... but these are our my sons, and we endure the pain, accusations and humility. I'm so sorry.
My son has since destransitioned since last month.. I hold that fact lightly... I don't trust he won't go back. When will this pain, this NIGHTMARE, end? Hold on to hope. Take care of yourself, focus on improving yourself. He has to walk this road himself. Hopefully he will be able to see the light through the darkness one day. That is our prayer. Sending love and light.
You need to show him the origins of trans, you need to force him to watch what is a woman, you need to ask him why he's not okay being gay, you need to ask him who is going to be in a relationship with a deformed person, you need to say all the time, boys arent girls and girls cannot be boys, you need to tell him he will be dependent on big pharma the rest of his life. You need to mail him information on dangers and side effects of hormones and surgeries. Show him photos of inside out dick operation. Show him money "gender affirming care" is making. Show him that Tavistock is closed. You need to only address him by his real name and gender. You need to get a necklace made with his name on it and wear it. You need to go full bore...stop hiding and stop being nice. And if he cuts you off- so be it.
Have you done these things?
Oh yeah and make sure you tell him he wont be having orgasms anymore!!!
Wow. What a life we lead. How old is your son?