I loved this and especially how it ended, because I expected "we moved to a remote foreign country" type of thing. Which, let's face it, we've ALL considered every way of fixing this problem from big to small. When my daughter started medicalizing at age 19, about a year and a half ago, I went through a similar phase of self-reflection, going through my options of what I can control. And I, too, began to understand that I must surrender my daughter to God. His timing is perfect and his plan is not yet known to me. I struggle with actually living and embracing this understanding every day. It is a fight within myself. I think most of us PITT parents are movers, shakers, doers, organizers, and it's a rare situation that we can't solve a problem.
If anyone is interested, Father Mike Schmitz is doing an Advent series on "waiting well" which is touching a lot on themes of surrendering control, waiting for God's plan, etc. and I have found it very relevant to what we're all going through. It's on the Ascension app and maybe on the Ascencion YouTube channel.
Thanks for writing this and God bless you and your family.
Thank you so much. I get close to surrender but I feel in my heart I haven’t totally given him to God. I too have modeled self-sufficiency throughout my life with mistrust of male authority. I am learning humility now and how to trust God with everything. My father died when I was a baby and I had a sort of father figure but he didn’t marry my mom and she did not give him any authority. My kids’ dad was a passive personality and I took advantage of that to seize authority in the household. He passed away when my son was 21. I remarried five years ago and my son came out less than a year later. I still struggle with authority in the home but am learning to slowly give things to God and also to surrender authority to my new husband in the areas where I am directed by God.
WOW. I missed Part 1 of your story, but just finished reading Part 2. I just want to say that I'm humbled to read of your selfless and wise love for your son, your willingness to look at yourself and your journey, and finally and most stunningly, your surrender of it all to God, who is the only one who is truly in control of it all!! I give a lot of lip service to this, but underneath, I do my best to keep everything under control - it's a flaming lie that our American culture, ourselves and the enemy of our souls all help to continue!
What a GIFT to read your words and be reminded that somehow, I have to keep fighting to admit and release control to a loving, wise and powerful God, who will then be able to lead me in His way for myself and my family. THANK YOU for your beautiful example. I am inspired to follow it!
May God bless you richly and lead you perfectly in HIS plans for you and your precious son. May you feel His love and presence, especially right now when we remember Jesus is the reason for the season!
Well, I didn't see that coming, that's for sure! What a great series.
...thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven...
Thank you for these wonderful words and the powerful input.
God bless you and your family !
Love from Germany
Thank you for sharing this beautiful pieces. God bless your son and your soul.
I loved this and especially how it ended, because I expected "we moved to a remote foreign country" type of thing. Which, let's face it, we've ALL considered every way of fixing this problem from big to small. When my daughter started medicalizing at age 19, about a year and a half ago, I went through a similar phase of self-reflection, going through my options of what I can control. And I, too, began to understand that I must surrender my daughter to God. His timing is perfect and his plan is not yet known to me. I struggle with actually living and embracing this understanding every day. It is a fight within myself. I think most of us PITT parents are movers, shakers, doers, organizers, and it's a rare situation that we can't solve a problem.
If anyone is interested, Father Mike Schmitz is doing an Advent series on "waiting well" which is touching a lot on themes of surrendering control, waiting for God's plan, etc. and I have found it very relevant to what we're all going through. It's on the Ascension app and maybe on the Ascencion YouTube channel.
Thanks for writing this and God bless you and your family.
Great story! Can’t wait to read the ending.
Such internal (and maternal) wisdom and intention. I wait with baited breath to read your next installment. 🩷
Thank you so much. I get close to surrender but I feel in my heart I haven’t totally given him to God. I too have modeled self-sufficiency throughout my life with mistrust of male authority. I am learning humility now and how to trust God with everything. My father died when I was a baby and I had a sort of father figure but he didn’t marry my mom and she did not give him any authority. My kids’ dad was a passive personality and I took advantage of that to seize authority in the household. He passed away when my son was 21. I remarried five years ago and my son came out less than a year later. I still struggle with authority in the home but am learning to slowly give things to God and also to surrender authority to my new husband in the areas where I am directed by God.
Powerful.
Thank you so much for sharing your journey 🙏❤️
WOW. I missed Part 1 of your story, but just finished reading Part 2. I just want to say that I'm humbled to read of your selfless and wise love for your son, your willingness to look at yourself and your journey, and finally and most stunningly, your surrender of it all to God, who is the only one who is truly in control of it all!! I give a lot of lip service to this, but underneath, I do my best to keep everything under control - it's a flaming lie that our American culture, ourselves and the enemy of our souls all help to continue!
What a GIFT to read your words and be reminded that somehow, I have to keep fighting to admit and release control to a loving, wise and powerful God, who will then be able to lead me in His way for myself and my family. THANK YOU for your beautiful example. I am inspired to follow it!
May God bless you richly and lead you perfectly in HIS plans for you and your precious son. May you feel His love and presence, especially right now when we remember Jesus is the reason for the season!
Thank you for sharing your story with us.