Your series was a journey from darkness to light.The practical advice is excellent, and I will not forget it. God bless you and all families fighting this scourge.
What an excellent, uplifting essay. Thank you very much! So happy for your family! My only objection is to Lesson 1. I really don't think it's an absolute. I don't think everyone should stop trying to find the right argument. Every kid is different. What doesn't work for one, may work for another. I think talking logically may help with the kids in the very early stage of trans identity, with young teens and preteens, maybe with some other situations. Having said that, your essay is a real treasure and I believe it will help many parents. It reminds me of the Serenity prayer.
Lovely end to this series. We felt there was a lot in our environment that we were not able to change at the time my daughter was in HS. we wanted to move, but that would have punished our high achieving son who had built a good life for himself with his circle of friends and activities in high school. It's tough when there's an older sibling to think about. Now that ours is almost 21 and finishing her junior year, we're still figuring out how to navigate this relationship. As you said, trying to just stay connected. And in fact, if it weren't for blasted trans, we'd be a pretty happy family.
THIS is so so true. It's very sad that those of us who had kids get sucked into this as they were on the cusp of (legal) adulthood really can't do any of this because it's too late. Add this to the culture of parental blame, estrangement & alienation & we have almost no way to reach our kids. And it's heartbreaking, because we know, at 18, 20, even 25 they aren't really mature enough nor were they ever taught to think classically/critically. This boy is right, the entire educational system in this country is serving an AGENDA not our children & families & it should be torn down.
I’m happy that this worked out for you! For those of us who can no longer control what our adult children do and where they go, we need to keep letting our voices be heard, keep working on turning the page on this runaway train wreck. If we cannot pack up and move to a horse farm in Wyoming, we need to get politicians in our democratic states to start opening their eyes to the damage this whole thing has caused and continues to cause.
Thank you for sharing your story. Those of us with adult children need to get to the surrender stage sooner as there is not much we can influence or control. We have to trust that God that “in all things works for the good of those who love Him”. Praying for all parents of trans identified children and for our children.
This was an excellent essay. Thank you. I especially liked, "Rebuild trust first. Everything else comes after."
There is hope for your family and for families with minor kids. Not so much for parents of adult kids who no longer live at home. So if parents still have their kids at home, this is hopeful and inspiring advice.
Excellent advice. Raising kids with faith in God seems to also be protective. My kids’ friends are all believers and therefore rooted in truth. Granted, we live in Kentucky…but the social justice & gender nonsense was pushed here in public school too. Government education is failing our kids in so many ways.
This essay speaks wisdom, but makes me sad. I did try to educate my son about the trans insanity and found who I thought was a sane therapist when my son flirted with the trans nonsense during high school. But maybe I should have sat on the couch more next to my son while he played video games. Maybe I should have forbid him playing Dungeons and Dragons with a bunch of girls -- but I didn't want him lonely. Maybe, maybe, maybe. But my husband and I did exert substantial effort to help our confused son, and we thought he was in remission when he was thriving in high school. And then he fell deep into the trans abyss freshman year at an esteemed college. And now he is a collapsed person at 23 -- mentally and physically deteriorated. When we were in the thick of it, PITT had not started. Maybe if it had, I would have known how to try harder. I need to find a way to not drown in regret or sadness. Most days I'm doing okay now -- as one of my friends said, you can only sustain a crisis so long. But the ache is still there because the hope is less. Regret is a stubborn residue of this relentless sad horror in my culture that feeds children to a monster.
Oh I feel your pain. Hang in there. I was in a very very very bad dark place for about 3 years. I am still sad & heartbroken but I am not in that abyss any longer. Do not beat yourself up. This is what I was doing. This has taken a huge toll on my marriage because I wanted to do all the stuff-homeschool, get rid of the electronics & internet, spend more time together, etc but we weren't on the same page. It was like I could see what was coming but was told I was being dramatic. BUT I read something that clicked about self blame. Probably on here LOL. It was basically along the lines of this isn't on you, because could any of us imagine a society like the one we have now? Where ALL the "authority" experts are fighting parents, hurting children? Indoctrinating them? Leaving you nowhere to turn, because YOU MUST AFFIRM? I mean obviously that can make you spiral mentally too bc WTF is happening in the world! But there's a lost generation & it's going to change the human race forever.
Thanks. When my son was young child, he loved hot dogs, and I would be careful to cut them into small bites. I worried he could choke on too big a piece with his voracious appetite, which seemed a blessing, as he was thriving. It seemed impossible that later he would choke on such a callous, absurd, heinous ideology enabled by my insidious sick culture.
My girl was amazing. Fearless, smart, curious, outgoing, caring, talented. School broke her bc she would not sit still for 8 hours at 4 years old. Oh my heart. The woulda coulda shoudla is horrible. Now, she has completely embraced the victim/disabled/entitled attitude that's been ingrained in her generation yet she insists that she feels better than ever bc of the "T". Meanwhile she cannot make a doctor's appointment or sign up for her medical insurance at work bc "it's just too much". But she navigated going out of town to get a mastectomy. It's amazing the lies we are able to convince ourselves of.
Hopeful for those who don’t have hope. Thank you God bless you and boys with His very best. 🕊
Your series was a journey from darkness to light.The practical advice is excellent, and I will not forget it. God bless you and all families fighting this scourge.
What an excellent, uplifting essay. Thank you very much! So happy for your family! My only objection is to Lesson 1. I really don't think it's an absolute. I don't think everyone should stop trying to find the right argument. Every kid is different. What doesn't work for one, may work for another. I think talking logically may help with the kids in the very early stage of trans identity, with young teens and preteens, maybe with some other situations. Having said that, your essay is a real treasure and I believe it will help many parents. It reminds me of the Serenity prayer.
Lovely end to this series. We felt there was a lot in our environment that we were not able to change at the time my daughter was in HS. we wanted to move, but that would have punished our high achieving son who had built a good life for himself with his circle of friends and activities in high school. It's tough when there's an older sibling to think about. Now that ours is almost 21 and finishing her junior year, we're still figuring out how to navigate this relationship. As you said, trying to just stay connected. And in fact, if it weren't for blasted trans, we'd be a pretty happy family.
THIS is so so true. It's very sad that those of us who had kids get sucked into this as they were on the cusp of (legal) adulthood really can't do any of this because it's too late. Add this to the culture of parental blame, estrangement & alienation & we have almost no way to reach our kids. And it's heartbreaking, because we know, at 18, 20, even 25 they aren't really mature enough nor were they ever taught to think classically/critically. This boy is right, the entire educational system in this country is serving an AGENDA not our children & families & it should be torn down.
I’m happy that this worked out for you! For those of us who can no longer control what our adult children do and where they go, we need to keep letting our voices be heard, keep working on turning the page on this runaway train wreck. If we cannot pack up and move to a horse farm in Wyoming, we need to get politicians in our democratic states to start opening their eyes to the damage this whole thing has caused and continues to cause.
Thank you for sharing your story. Those of us with adult children need to get to the surrender stage sooner as there is not much we can influence or control. We have to trust that God that “in all things works for the good of those who love Him”. Praying for all parents of trans identified children and for our children.
Wow. Just wow. What an inspiring story.
This was an excellent essay. Thank you. I especially liked, "Rebuild trust first. Everything else comes after."
There is hope for your family and for families with minor kids. Not so much for parents of adult kids who no longer live at home. So if parents still have their kids at home, this is hopeful and inspiring advice.
Excellent advice. Raising kids with faith in God seems to also be protective. My kids’ friends are all believers and therefore rooted in truth. Granted, we live in Kentucky…but the social justice & gender nonsense was pushed here in public school too. Government education is failing our kids in so many ways.
This essay speaks wisdom, but makes me sad. I did try to educate my son about the trans insanity and found who I thought was a sane therapist when my son flirted with the trans nonsense during high school. But maybe I should have sat on the couch more next to my son while he played video games. Maybe I should have forbid him playing Dungeons and Dragons with a bunch of girls -- but I didn't want him lonely. Maybe, maybe, maybe. But my husband and I did exert substantial effort to help our confused son, and we thought he was in remission when he was thriving in high school. And then he fell deep into the trans abyss freshman year at an esteemed college. And now he is a collapsed person at 23 -- mentally and physically deteriorated. When we were in the thick of it, PITT had not started. Maybe if it had, I would have known how to try harder. I need to find a way to not drown in regret or sadness. Most days I'm doing okay now -- as one of my friends said, you can only sustain a crisis so long. But the ache is still there because the hope is less. Regret is a stubborn residue of this relentless sad horror in my culture that feeds children to a monster.
Oh I feel your pain. Hang in there. I was in a very very very bad dark place for about 3 years. I am still sad & heartbroken but I am not in that abyss any longer. Do not beat yourself up. This is what I was doing. This has taken a huge toll on my marriage because I wanted to do all the stuff-homeschool, get rid of the electronics & internet, spend more time together, etc but we weren't on the same page. It was like I could see what was coming but was told I was being dramatic. BUT I read something that clicked about self blame. Probably on here LOL. It was basically along the lines of this isn't on you, because could any of us imagine a society like the one we have now? Where ALL the "authority" experts are fighting parents, hurting children? Indoctrinating them? Leaving you nowhere to turn, because YOU MUST AFFIRM? I mean obviously that can make you spiral mentally too bc WTF is happening in the world! But there's a lost generation & it's going to change the human race forever.
Thanks. When my son was young child, he loved hot dogs, and I would be careful to cut them into small bites. I worried he could choke on too big a piece with his voracious appetite, which seemed a blessing, as he was thriving. It seemed impossible that later he would choke on such a callous, absurd, heinous ideology enabled by my insidious sick culture.
My girl was amazing. Fearless, smart, curious, outgoing, caring, talented. School broke her bc she would not sit still for 8 hours at 4 years old. Oh my heart. The woulda coulda shoudla is horrible. Now, she has completely embraced the victim/disabled/entitled attitude that's been ingrained in her generation yet she insists that she feels better than ever bc of the "T". Meanwhile she cannot make a doctor's appointment or sign up for her medical insurance at work bc "it's just too much". But she navigated going out of town to get a mastectomy. It's amazing the lies we are able to convince ourselves of.
Classical Education sounds awesome, I am looking into it for my 4 year old for sure. Classicalconversations.com is my start. Sounds like Heaven to me.
Thank you for sharing... You are definitely doing the right thing not only for your children but others will be lead out of that insanity!
Merry Christmas 🎁🌲