They Blame Us

Even as more is revealed almost daily about the dangers of gender ideology and the harm it causes to vulnerable gay and autistic teens and young adults, parents are still blamed. We are the parents who have done everything to protect our children from the harms of “gender affirming care”, from the drugs, surgeries and dangers of living a lie. We have written about it. We have spoken on podcasts. We have contacted officials. We have pleaded with anyone who would listen. Our pleas fell on deaf ears. But, while we were ignored, we were somehow also blamed. Only journalists or politicians are rewarded for their bravery in discussing and writing on this topic. Not the parents begging to be heard.

No one wants to touch the parents. They still put us in the same category as the parents who happily transitioned and affirmed their kids. Is it that no one believes us or do they think we may have caused it? No matter what is revealed about how the schools, therapists, internet, and doctors have pushed this ideology and indoctrinated our children, we are viewed with suspicion, as if we must have done something terribly wrong. It doesn’t matter that schools keep secrets from parents or that laws are passed to keep parents in the dark, we are still blamed.

We should have watched our kids 24-7 to prevent what has happened or we are just bad parents. It mostly comes from people who are not parents or who raised kids in a generation before 2015. My sister dismissed my trans concerns saying every generation has issues. Really? Her kids are ten years older. She claims their generation had to contend with heroin addictions and that several of her friends' kids overdosed. But were the schools saying it’s fine to identify as a heroin addict? Did our last President of the U.S., on his first day in office, proclaim that heroin use was the civil rights issue of this time? Did experts advise parents that the most loving thing they can do is affirm your children's heroin addiction? Did doctors and therapists say if you do not give them heroin, they will kill themselves? Did they blame the parents if the child got into heroin? Did they ignore parents calls for action? No, they listened and were sympathetic.

So why do they blame parents of trans-identified kids? It’s because they can’t see any other way. It didn’t happen to them, so it must be our fault.

Why else would the mainstream media not be curious enough to talk to us? Why else would we have to be incognito in parent groups with thousands of other parents, all saying the same thing, and all being ignored by society, left wing politicians, and journalists. Why is this epidemic of 5000% percent increase in trans-identified teens ignored? Why do people say stupid things like, there have always been trans people, they are now just more comfortable to come out. Do they believe this is NOT a social contagion? If it’s not where are the older trans people coming out? Is there a 5000% increase in those age groups too? Why are they ignoring the inconvenient narrative of desisters and detransitioners or push the false claim of a 1% regret rate?

Parents seem to be the untouchables. A reckoning is coming and I still think everyone will be praised and take credit for stopping the trans movement, except the parents. We will be blamed.