Excellent post. The hijacking of my son at college, who sounds similar to your daughter, has been devasting for me as his mother and his father. And no picnic for his older sister. I'm not religious, but the "trans" insanity feels evil. It's mind boggling that this heinous death cult ever propagated. Shame on all those enabling our vulnerable children to diminish themselves physically and mentally and reject the guidance the people who actually care about their well being.
"A suicide-inducing mindset where you reject your actual body is firmly held by these very same therapists to not be a mental illness." This is what I cannot wrap my head around. How is it not obvious to these people that their beliefs are illogical?
In any case, it's depressing to see how widespread this trans ideology has become. We can't solve it by banning gender affirming care in the USA. I wish it were that simple.
I think both fathers and mothers are equally profoundly impacted by trans, albeit in different ways or perhaps felt differently by each. But I am with you: it is not love to do what the culture asks us to do with our children. It is not love to lie, to promote self-harm, to encourage medicalizing a healthy body, to reward self-hatred. THank you for writing this - I hope someday all of our children awake from their ugly slumber.
I have such an issue with the whole “you better affirm your child or suicide will be the response “. The whole you will lose your child. Well I’m sorry, my son transitioned and I don’t know this person. What happened to my loving sensitive gifted beautiful boy, who is this angry, “girl” who replaced him. It’s a lose lose no matter what.
From parents who desperately miss their only wonderful and beautiful daughter.
And yes... we are also "transphobic" and "heteronormative"... and everything else they call us. Actually, we're just "normal." We were a perfectly "normal" family until the cult took our daughter.
I don't know how I, as a devastated mother , will react when I'll see the mutilated body for the first time....My beautiful girl...My angel...Gone forever.
The only question that keeps burning in my brain is WHY ALL THIS??? WHY...
May God comfort you and your entire family in these wretched afflictions caused by lies and confusion. I love how beautifully you honor your wife who chose to give her body, time, effort and best years to nurturing six beautiful image-bearers! I did the same with my four daughters and have often thought how heart breaking it would be to experience extreme rejection of God and/or parents in any of them. (I have with one but she seems to be turning back to God and her Christian faith). Don’t give up praying for your daughter and doing what you can to show her love based in truth. Especially the truth of forgiveness and restoration in Jesus Christ. My prayer for her: heavenly and gracious Father God, I pray that like the prodigal son in Luke, this wayward daughter would “come to her senses” and return to her father’s and mother’s house. Let no one who is harming her with lies “give her anything” that satisfies her, and let her feel the emptiness of her situation and the falseness of the liars around her. Give her the gift of true repentance for the harm she has caused herself and her family and for her sin against you ultimately, for all your creation is good and not to be rejected or despised. Show her your love for her as a unique and beautiful person made in your image. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Thanks for writing this! We understand! You are not trans phobic—You are a realist. How are so many people brainwashed to think this is okay?
My daughter was very much like your daughter. So I’m in the same nightmare and I just want it to stop NOW.
Never in a million years could I have seen this coming. After all, my daughter was highly intelligent. She could read at college level in 5th grade and comprehend it. She just didn’t fit in. She was diagnosed, at age 18, with something similar to Aspergers. I can relate with your story so much. I pray for all our children to see the Truth and for this madness to stop NOW.
To the author of this heartbreaking piece: suicide as an intrinsic threat to so-called gender dysphoric children is only one of the many pernicious lies embedded in the trans scam. You said it best: it’s bullshit.
The stats reveal high rates of suicide after transition, when the promised utopian magic trick is replaced with chronic and hideous side effects of barbaric surgeries and cross-sex hormones our sexed bodies can’t tolerate.
A crime inside a tragedy inside an abomination. We are a benighted species.
I hear you and I feel your pain because we are also going through this insanity with our son. This cult of transgenderism is slowly killing us. I’m staying honest and true to a son who is already lost to us. Although we still are communicating through text and FaceTime, it’s not enough to untangle the web that has led to this dishonest ideology. I think it starts with not liking the way they look or are developing and the idea of looking better as the opposite sex enters their thoughts and is then reinforced by others (peers, online “friends”, psychologists).
Me too: "My daughter whom I was very close to, has cut me off. She willingly rejects me because I will not “affirm” that she is a man. I will not “affirm” that as my daughter she is dead. I will not “affirm” that it is good for her to reject her female body, irreparably damage her reproductive integrity, and pretend to become a man."
"But if I did “affirm” these destructive lies (which I simply cannot), I would be putting my need not to be rejected by her above my fatherly commitment to her actual wellbeing."
Excellent post. The hijacking of my son at college, who sounds similar to your daughter, has been devasting for me as his mother and his father. And no picnic for his older sister. I'm not religious, but the "trans" insanity feels evil. It's mind boggling that this heinous death cult ever propagated. Shame on all those enabling our vulnerable children to diminish themselves physically and mentally and reject the guidance the people who actually care about their well being.
"A suicide-inducing mindset where you reject your actual body is firmly held by these very same therapists to not be a mental illness." This is what I cannot wrap my head around. How is it not obvious to these people that their beliefs are illogical?
In any case, it's depressing to see how widespread this trans ideology has become. We can't solve it by banning gender affirming care in the USA. I wish it were that simple.
I think both fathers and mothers are equally profoundly impacted by trans, albeit in different ways or perhaps felt differently by each. But I am with you: it is not love to do what the culture asks us to do with our children. It is not love to lie, to promote self-harm, to encourage medicalizing a healthy body, to reward self-hatred. THank you for writing this - I hope someday all of our children awake from their ugly slumber.
I have such an issue with the whole “you better affirm your child or suicide will be the response “. The whole you will lose your child. Well I’m sorry, my son transitioned and I don’t know this person. What happened to my loving sensitive gifted beautiful boy, who is this angry, “girl” who replaced him. It’s a lose lose no matter what.
THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!
From parents who desperately miss their only wonderful and beautiful daughter.
And yes... we are also "transphobic" and "heteronormative"... and everything else they call us. Actually, we're just "normal." We were a perfectly "normal" family until the cult took our daughter.
I don't know how I, as a devastated mother , will react when I'll see the mutilated body for the first time....My beautiful girl...My angel...Gone forever.
The only question that keeps burning in my brain is WHY ALL THIS??? WHY...
May God comfort you and your entire family in these wretched afflictions caused by lies and confusion. I love how beautifully you honor your wife who chose to give her body, time, effort and best years to nurturing six beautiful image-bearers! I did the same with my four daughters and have often thought how heart breaking it would be to experience extreme rejection of God and/or parents in any of them. (I have with one but she seems to be turning back to God and her Christian faith). Don’t give up praying for your daughter and doing what you can to show her love based in truth. Especially the truth of forgiveness and restoration in Jesus Christ. My prayer for her: heavenly and gracious Father God, I pray that like the prodigal son in Luke, this wayward daughter would “come to her senses” and return to her father’s and mother’s house. Let no one who is harming her with lies “give her anything” that satisfies her, and let her feel the emptiness of her situation and the falseness of the liars around her. Give her the gift of true repentance for the harm she has caused herself and her family and for her sin against you ultimately, for all your creation is good and not to be rejected or despised. Show her your love for her as a unique and beautiful person made in your image. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Thanks for writing this! We understand! You are not trans phobic—You are a realist. How are so many people brainwashed to think this is okay?
My daughter was very much like your daughter. So I’m in the same nightmare and I just want it to stop NOW.
Never in a million years could I have seen this coming. After all, my daughter was highly intelligent. She could read at college level in 5th grade and comprehend it. She just didn’t fit in. She was diagnosed, at age 18, with something similar to Aspergers. I can relate with your story so much. I pray for all our children to see the Truth and for this madness to stop NOW.
Thank you, from a suffering mother, for so eloquently expressing our shared horror and distress.
To the author of this heartbreaking piece: suicide as an intrinsic threat to so-called gender dysphoric children is only one of the many pernicious lies embedded in the trans scam. You said it best: it’s bullshit.
The stats reveal high rates of suicide after transition, when the promised utopian magic trick is replaced with chronic and hideous side effects of barbaric surgeries and cross-sex hormones our sexed bodies can’t tolerate.
A crime inside a tragedy inside an abomination. We are a benighted species.
This is the most tragically beautiful and true PITT I have ever read. Thank you for writing.
Absolutely - 100%
Loving Mother, you speak for me too
I hear you and I feel your pain because we are also going through this insanity with our son. This cult of transgenderism is slowly killing us. I’m staying honest and true to a son who is already lost to us. Although we still are communicating through text and FaceTime, it’s not enough to untangle the web that has led to this dishonest ideology. I think it starts with not liking the way they look or are developing and the idea of looking better as the opposite sex enters their thoughts and is then reinforced by others (peers, online “friends”, psychologists).
My prayers to you and your family.
Me too: "My daughter whom I was very close to, has cut me off. She willingly rejects me because I will not “affirm” that she is a man. I will not “affirm” that as my daughter she is dead. I will not “affirm” that it is good for her to reject her female body, irreparably damage her reproductive integrity, and pretend to become a man."
Very well written. Thank you.
"But if I did “affirm” these destructive lies (which I simply cannot), I would be putting my need not to be rejected by her above my fatherly commitment to her actual wellbeing."